I'm an introvert and spent a few days pretending to be an extrovert. I'll tell you why it's difficult but useful

Are there ways for an introvert to become an extrovert? If you prefer to stay inside your world, not leave your comfort zone, prefer to do your favorite hobby at home alone rather than have fun in a noisy company, you can rise to another level of socialization and train the qualities of an extrovert in yourself.

Know yourself

Well, after reading this article, you have probably already determined which type you are.
If everything suits you, there are no problems, you are a happy person whose inclinations meet the world around you and the needs. But what to do if not everything in life suits you and you need to adapt to uncomfortable life tasks?

Here I will console you: extroverts do not always need constant communication, and introverts do not always need solitude. Very often we are pushed deeper into a psychotype by a simple inability to behave. And if you master communication skills or learn to occupy yourself without communication, then such a pastime may not be so unpleasant.

Sometimes it is very useful to expand your boundaries by immersing yourself in an unusual atmosphere. This way we will be able to understand other people better, and we will also learn a lot of interesting things about ourselves. So, determining your psychotype is only the first step. Next: master something new - this will expand your own capabilities. This is what those who achieve success do. But we all want to achieve success, right?

So I wish you pleasant communication and comfortable solitude!

Why the world is made for extroverts

The need to gather in large groups and interact with each other has been inherent since the time of the first people.
Individuals had very low chances of survival. Much later, when life became calmer and safer, introverts got the chance to exist in comfort and without obvious threats. However, the majority are extroverts. They more often achieve high goals, their ambitions are much higher, and their energy comes in waves. They are the ones we see every day on the streets, in offices and on television. They make up the bulk of humanity. Extra-humans practically require mutual communication and close connections. Therefore, the question of how to live as an introvert in the modern world often arises.

One communication. Other analysis

Let's start with the fact that there are no pure psychotypes described by Jung among us. Most people are ambiverts, meaning they have average scores on the introversion/extroversion scale.

“In addition, an effective leader can be both an extrovert and an introvert,” notes Victoria Filippova, partner at the headhunting company Cornerstone. — People change as their personality develops

Even a natural introvert develops communication skills over time, and from the outside, few will see him as a representative of a non-communicative psychotype.” However, while they caution against oversimplifying human nature, experts agree that certain business functions are best suited to outgoing extroverts, while others are better handled by focused introverts.

It is better to use extroverts in the field of communications, as well as for solving problems where you need to negotiate or simplify complex situations. This could be a job that involves training other people or sales. People with pronounced extroverted tendencies are strong in developing client relationships and establishing contacts in HR and GR. Their activity helps to achieve success in launching new projects and bringing the company to new markets.

It is useful to involve introverts (and among world-famous leaders there are 40% of them) in serious analytical work and in-depth study of issues. Such a person is good at scrupulous work: budgeting, planning, writing regulations and developing business processes.

“To put it roughly, we can formulate the following idea: introverts are more effective at planning and control, and in organizing work and motivating employees, which is associated with a large volume of communication, extroverts win,” sums up managing director of Rational Grain Recruitment Agency Olga Stepanova. But both functions are important for successful management. What to do if one person does not combine all the necessary qualities? Stepanova gives the example of a large company that was headed by a director with pronounced introvert qualities. Then they hired a HR director to help him, a strong extrovert whose tasks included compensating for the shortcomings of his unsmiling boss. And overall, the HR director did a good job.

Another company that Stepanova observed while selecting a director for working with key accounts chose two final candidates. Each had impressive experience, but in character they were two typical opposites. As a result, both were invited to work. A bright extroverted communicator became the director of the department. And his deputy was appointed an introverted analyst, an expert with good intuition, reliable and without a love of publicity. The tandem turned out just great!

At the same time, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert lies not only in external behavior, but in how he receives “recharge,” adds Victoria Filippova

For an introvert, it is important to be alone and get your thoughts in order. For an extrovert this is not necessary; he rests when there are a lot of people around

“When communicating with representatives of the sociable psychotype, we try to call more often, find informational topics to discuss, and, of course, get more feedback from them,” says headhunting consultant Anna Grebenkova. — And our introverted customers prefer to communicate by mail: briefly, concisely, to the point. When working with them, we focus on a clear interaction scheme.”

Do we choose?

For a long time the question was: “Can an extrovert become an introvert?” was rhetorical, and this was the correct state of affairs. The fact is that our psychological type according to this category is formed in the first years of life. It does not depend on the environment, communication with parents and other external factors. We can say that this is a lottery in which each child draws his own barrel, and then depending on his luck. In most cases, this type of temperament is assigned to a person for life, as is the color of eyes, skin, hair and other characteristics. It is extremely rare that an extrovert can become an introvert and vice versa, but this will not be your will at all, but some sudden change in your environment - moving, psychological trauma, family vicissitudes, etc.

Sources of Introvert Energy

An introvert's energy source is, firstly, time alone. If there is an introvert in the family, the zone into which the person has entered should be highlighted - and this becomes a marker: “don’t pester me.” It’s good if “legislation” is being formed that people should not be touched in this zone.

The next source of an introvert is free space. Very often, even in large apartments, no one has their own place. An introvert needs it. Often such places of solitude become the bathroom or toilet, the only rooms that are closed...

The next source of energy for an introvert is time to think. For example, you need to take an introverted child to the theater, but he doesn’t really like going somewhere. In order to avoid difficulties, you can use a system of step notifications: “You know, there is such an interesting theater in Moscow. In general, the theater is such an interesting place.” Don’t immediately suggest it, but go around in circles, give time to get used to the fact that theater exists, that it has something to do with people, and it can also have something to do with them. Time to comprehend the fact, especially if it is associated with an increase in the number of people or an external event.

By demanding an immediate response from an introvert, you seem to take away his energy. Demanding immediate stories about impressions - too. Very often, failure to take this feature into account in communication is the beginning of a crack and an increase in distance in a marital relationship. An introverted husband comes home from work, his wife: “How are you?” Husband: “Fine.” At 1001 “normal” no more questions arise.

The main thing is that one has the impression that they don’t want to share with him, and the second has the impression that they are shaking him like a stick and want to get something out of him. We need to give our husband time. 40 minutes at the entrance is the golden rule. You can explain to children, even small ones, that dad or mom come home from work tired, they can’t communicate now, you can kiss dad and let him “soak.”

And the last source of energy for an introvert is the ability not to be distracted. Usually, when you have a family and a household, you have to do a lot of things at the same time. And only introverted women understand that it is very tiring to stir soup with one hand, sweep the floor with the other, hold the child with the third, and pick up the telephone with the fourth.

Try saying to an introvert of any gender who is immersed in some activity: “Listen, go turn off the rice!” A normal request, nothing special, but it can lead to disastrous consequences because this interruption returns the introvert to level zero in the activity from which he was torn.

You can give a classic example from school life: high school, the person at the blackboard answers: “This problem can be solved in 6 ways. The first method is like this. The second method, it may be better in this situation - such and such.” “Okay, Ivanov, hurry up already.” Ivanov interrupts. “This problem can be solved in 6 ways. The first method is such and such...” He returned to the zero point. His thoughts are structured, he cannot jump. This is not harmfulness, not pathology, not a mental defect, but a feature of the thinking of a person of this type.

If an introvert speaks, it means he has already built a scheme in his head.

Both the child and the adult need, having realized the typology, to learn to recharge. Learn to see when your strength is running out, and learn, based on the resources that you currently have, to look for new strength. You need to know which situations are most draining of one or another type.

Professions for introverts

Since introverts love solitude, internal reflections and experiences, are passionate about creativity and observe the process, they choose professions accordingly. Despite his characteristics, an introvert may well become a boss, a popular blogger or a teacher. Many famous scientists and researchers are introverts.

Thanks to their qualities, introverts can be called indispensable workers. They know how to concentrate entirely on the task at hand, without being distracted by trifles. They do not need prodding from their superiors; they are accustomed to controlling themselves. They do not need a team, they are more comfortable working alone, this is how they fully open up. Introverted individuals are valued by employers for their creative, non-standard approach to a problem.

Although, according to statistics, there are fewer introverts in the world than extroverts, among them there are a lot of people who have achieved success and become famous. This psychotype includes Charles Darwin, Franz Kafka, Bill Gates, Elon Musk.

The following professions are best suited for a person belonging to this type:

1. Writer. This is literally an introvert's paradise, since writing books represents immersion in the inner world and evaluation of one's experiences. A writer can communicate with people to a minimum. And in our age of modern technology, you don’t have to leave your apartment at all if you don’t want to. You can simply send your work over the Internet.
2. Translator. Ideal for an introverted personality. After all, representatives of this profession do not need to communicate with people. The main thing is concentration, which an introvert should not lack. In addition, you can set your own convenient mode.
3. Programmer. Almost all the time, a representative of this profession communicates only with a computer. Even if a programmer works in an office, he is so immersed in the work process that he does not notice anything around him. The perseverance necessary for drawing up programs is present in huge quantities in people of this type. On top of that, this job pays well.
4. Artist. This profession requires complete detachment from the outside world, the ability to fantasize and see beauty in everyday things. Most artists are introverts by nature.
5. Economist. Like a programmer, a representative of this profession is completely immersed in his work and must be able to concentrate in order to get results.
6. Laboratory assistant. There is no need to communicate with people here. Test tubes, beakers and chemical reagents will keep a true introvert company. It’s always interesting to know the results of a study.
7. Vet. Animals are not afraid of introverts, as they understand and sympathize with them.
8. Supervisor. It may seem that an extrovert feels most comfortable in a boss’s chair. But often people of this type suppress their subordinates too much due to their active nature. The sensitivity and good manners of introverts allow them to treat employees with care.

Choose what you like

You need to learn to live the way you yourself want, and not the way it is accepted in society. Don't be afraid to turn down meetings if you're not interested. Do you like spending holidays at home more than going to a restaurant with a crowd? So celebrate them at home. You need to be able to live for yourself, and not for the world around you, so that you don’t have to look for how to recover after a noisy company. Choose a job where you don't need to interact with other people often, this will give you more strength to develop.

Introvert in relationships

Despite their need to be alone, introverts are not hermits.
They willingly arrange their personal lives, fall in love, and start families. What is it like living with an introvert? No more difficult than with any person of a different character. In any relationship, we find common ground with our soulmate. Somewhere they are meeting us halfway, and somewhere we are. Interaction in a couple is always based on the postulates of mutual understanding and compromise. It is these moments that will be the key to a long and truly close relationship.

Important

Remember that an introvert sometimes needs to be alone. Learn to respect his personal space!. When paired with different types of character, disputes may arise about how to spend your leisure time.

An extrovert will prefer going to a concert or a noisy party, an introvert will suggest staying at home and watching a movie. To ensure that no one feels left out, you can kill two birds with one stone: invite your friends for a picnic. Being in nature has a beneficial effect on calm and contemplative people, and an extrovert will enjoy company and fiddling with the grill

When paired with different types of character, disputes may arise about how to spend your leisure time. An extrovert will prefer going to a concert or a noisy party, an introvert will suggest staying at home and watching a movie. To ensure that no one feels left out, you can kill two birds with one stone: invite your friends for a picnic. Being in nature has a beneficial effect on calm and contemplative people, and an extrovert will enjoy company and fiddling with the grill.

Happiness in a couple is based not on character types, but on the attitude of people towards each other. If love and mutual understanding reign between them, then no differences will become an obstacle.

Know how to come to an agreement with yourself

Once you have set a goal, set certain rules for yourself. For example, if you are planning to organize a personal business, once a week or two, attend various seminars or other events where you make useful contacts. This will not only help you achieve your goal faster, but will also completely remove the feeling of guilt that may arise when you stay at home. The main thing is not to violate your own conditions and strictly follow your plans.

Cons of being an extrovert

Recklessness

People with an extroverted psychotype do not tend to think about their actions for a long time. They do not like to plan and try to do everything at once, they live for today. As a rule, extroverts are decisive and proactive, so they take on any task without thinking about the consequences. This is due to reasons such as:

• fear of missing out on a good moment;
• fear of appearing useless;
• escape from boredom and routine;
• the desire to be the best, to achieve success and approval.

Sometimes impulsiveness brings benefits to an extrovert, but more often it pushes him to rash actions with undesirable consequences. Due to his innate gambling, he always takes risks, overestimating his own chances, and can get into a fight and drag his company into it. He also often spends money thoughtlessly, in seconds he uses up resources that he has been accumulating for a long time.

Poor self-control

To understand who an extrovert is, you can imagine a chatty cartoon character from whom emotions are in full swing (the horse Julius from “Three Knights” or Donkey from “Shrek” will do). He rejoices even in small successes and does not hide his anger, fear, jealousy and other emotions. When angry, he can break or break something, without thinking about the consequences and the fact that he will scare others.

In a fit of joy, an extrovert can hug a stranger, which not everyone will like either.

It is important to him that everyone knows how he feels now. Therefore, he will try to make this information publicly available (for example, by playing loud music to suit his mood)

Impermanence

An extrovert strives for change all the time. It’s as if he is constantly in search of an ideal, changing such elements as:

• appearance and style
  (dyes hair, changes hairstyle, tries new styles of clothing, experiments with tattoos and piercings);
• furnishings
  (often rearranges furniture, refreshes the design, makes minor repairs, reorganizes the workspace);
• favorite activity
  (often changes hobbies and jobs, quits halfway through);
• people
  (continuously expands his social circle, loses interest in old friends, finds new ones).

The fickleness of an extrovert negatively affects his relationships with loved ones. He always has a lot of friends, he often becomes the “soul” of the company, but he usually does not have truly close friends.

It was natural! A little about chemistry!

Everything here is both simple and complex: psychostimulants. Moreover, true introverts need small dosages. After all, they react more sharply to norepinephrine. And if an extrovert easily dances in a club, but rather jumps with his arms and legs, then a true introvert will get a blood pressure of 170 and a pulse of 120, first blush and then turn pale, not to mention in parachutes or other extreme sports.

To better understand what psychostimulants are, we recommend the issue “Legal Amphetamine Replacements” and “Doping in E-Sports”. Adaptogens that may also work include Leuzea, Eleutherococcus, and Schisandra. Of course, you need to read the contraindications.

Acceptance of child typology

The typology should be taken as the child's appearance. It's not always easy to accept a child for who he is.

It is very important to understand your child's temperament in non-negative terms. Each temperament has both strengths and weaknesses

It cannot be said that one type is better than another, that an introvert is better than an extrovert. These are different people, they perceive the world differently, and they have different driving advantages.

For example, a child gets up early in the morning, excitable - in other words, a lark. A label is attached to him - “fascist”, because... does not allow parents to sleep. Often some inconvenient or poorly understood character quality receives a negative name, while a normal neutral quality receives a specific negative coloring. And the self-awareness and self-esteem of a small child is built from the outside in. “Mom says I’m a fool, so I’m a fool. A smart boy means I’m a smart boy.”

The child thinks about himself the way we talk about him: us, Marya Ivanovna in kindergarten and a couple of friends. And only at a later age can he come to his senses and say: “She’s a fool herself.” The little one will listen to everything, absorb everything, and build his self-esteem.

Temperament can be accepted, and everyone will benefit from it, because you will understand what it is and how you can use it, where your strengths are.

Or you may not accept it. And since it cannot be put anywhere, the child or adult will become neurotic, and the efficiency will be less. It's like spitting against the wind, swimming against the current. The quality of temperament can be used as a driving force. And fighting this is as useless as fighting the wind.

At my command!

It turns out that on your own and just like that, at will, you cannot change your type of temperament. You are designed to receive energy in one way or another, and if you try to break these rules, you will immediately begin to feel out of place. The answer from psychologists to the question of whether it is possible to become an extrovert from an introvert is negative. This is unnatural, abnormal and not at all necessary. After all, every person, whether he is a jester or a recluse, is beautiful, unique, individual and interesting in his own way.

Back to Basics

Now you can find a wide variety of tests that allow you to determine what type of personality you are.

In fact, such psychological concepts as extraversion and introversion in the generally accepted variation have been simplified: the extrovert is sociable and active, the introvert is closed and thoughtful. However, everything is not so simple. In regaining lost meaning, these two personality types predominantly manifest themselves as follows:

Extrovert Introvert In communication: easily finds a common language with others; loves noisy events; tries to take a leading position; is interested in the lives of celebrities; knows a lot of jokes; depends on other people's opinions. selective; shy; silent; prefers quiet places; observes more than attracts attention; may have his own view of things, sometimes going against the generally accepted. In emotions: emotional; impulsive; expressive. restrained; controls emotions; compromise. In the worldview: practitioner; recognizes socially accepted trends; actively promotes what he believes in. philosopher; interested in spiritual issues and practices; does not impose his views on others. In the type of occupation he chooses the following areas: social; practical. scientific; technical;

It should be noted that not all of the listed characteristics are characteristic of every extrovert or introvert, especially since each of them has its own scale of manifestation. Depending on your upbringing, an extrovert can be either pleasant or unbearable.

The same is true for an introvert. However, a single characteristic of these psychotypes can be summarized as follows: a person who wants to communicate and is oriented towards socially accepted norms is an extrovert. A person who carefully chooses his friends and for whom his inner feelings are more important than external values ​​is an introvert.

Hobbies

Since extroverts vitally need social interaction, their hobbies are social and sociable: going to a cafe, team sports, going to a bowling alley or club, etc. The more people there are, the better the extrovert feels. Another feature regarding hobbies and hobbies is that an extrovert often changes them and is superficially interested in something.

For an introvert, the best time to relax alone is reading a book, drawing, walking, playing a musical instrument. Introverts are deeply interested in something, try to get to the bottom of it, and study the issue comprehensively. They are not fans of noisy parties and companies.

More sincerity

Be sincere with other people. Tell them directly that you are a little shy and indecisive, which is why it is difficult for you to carry on a conversation with a stranger. This will relieve tension; sincerity can be adequately appreciated by another person. Ask other people to talk about themselves more when talking, this will increase loyalty to you. Visit places where you can meet interesting people. Locations similar to your interests are perfect. When meeting a new person, there will be even more topics to talk about.

Before going out with friends, you can ask them to bring strangers with them. This will increase the chance of meeting new people and overcoming self-doubt.

Is it difficult to be an introvert?

In medicine and psychiatry, the diagnosis “introvert” does not exist. This is not a disease or a deviation. These are individual character traits that can become the key to the world of success.

By correctly using their characteristics, an introvert can achieve a lot. While fussy extroverted colleagues are busy drinking tea, an introvert clearly formulates his goal and confidently moves towards it.

Failures will cause an extrovert a whole emotional storm, powerlessness and a desire to retreat. An introvert in such a situation will retreat, analyze the reasons for failure, adjust tactics and persistently make the next attempt.

The secret of any success is a detailed study of your strengths and weaknesses and the ability to use them. Choose a job that suits your liking, using knowledge about the characteristics of your character type. Spend your leisure time in such a way that it helps you to switch over after work as much as possible and fills you with energy.

Pros and strengths

If we talk about the benefits of introversion, there are quite a lot of them to get the most out of life and achieve what you want.
Calmness and the ability to think more deeply is a distinctive character trait that helps an introvert survive in any environment. The strengths of this type include: • Listening and hearing skills. Paying attention to what is being said allows you to highlight the most important things in the flow of information. Thanks to this, passive people understand oral tasks faster. • Attention to detail. Some people consider introverts to be meticulous. In some moments this is indeed true. But, on the other hand, a thorough study of all the nuances of a certain issue helps to solve it faster and not return to it again. • The absence of impulsive temper inherent in extroverts makes it possible to make more balanced and correct decisions. • Thanks to developed empathy, an introvert makes an excellent friend and partner. They are capable of deep and sincere feelings and empathy.

How to make friends with an introvert: communication features

As stated above, introverts do not like inattentive and at the same time overly curious interlocutors. Therefore, before you start communicating with them, you need to get to know their character better.

Beginning Friendships with Introverts: Find Out Who He Is

Introverted people are divided into four groups:

1. Thinking type. The phrases “I think” or “It seems to me” are often used in conversation. Answer questions after careful consideration. They can conduct a conversation on absolutely any topic. But they prefer something deep and intellectual. An introvert is not interested in discussing who came to work and in what clothes today. They find such conversations boring.
2. Feeling type. In a conversation, they often mention feelings and sensations, thereby connecting their words and emotions. Such people are able to show compassion, worry and sympathize. They can talk about their experiences, but they will do this only after they see that the interlocutor is not callous.
3. Sensing introverts. They are also called human detectors. Introverts with this type of personality notice everything around them, including smells, colors, light breezes, touch and much more. Bad taste, lack of style, bright colors and unpleasant odors are alien to them. Therefore, a person of this type is unlikely to meet untidy people halfway.
4. Intuitive introvert. Loves mysticism and everything connected with it. What is happening around connects with fate and predestination. For such people, spiritual needs often come before physical ones. Therefore, they forget to eat or do not sleep for a long time. The main requirement of intuitive introverts for their interlocutor is not to deceive. This is especially true for those who do not accept their views.

Interestingly, psychologists have now identified another type of people - ambiverts. They combine the qualities of introverts and extroverts. To communicate with them, you need to find out which character type comes first.

Comfort zone

First you need to understand that their life is some kind of large comfort zone. No unnecessary acquaintances, new adventures, no spontaneity. You need to understand that some things in life cannot be familiar and it is worth, for example, making new friends or finding a new hobby that can help you develop.

The main thing is not to overdo it. It's important to start small. If, for example, in the morning an introvert likes to drink coffee and read a book alone, you should not immediately go to work in the morning and start meeting people passing by. It is better to replace morning reading with a run and say hello to your neighbor when you meet. You can read a book in the evening.

Types of introverts

Introverts are different too. Modern psychology divides them into two types:

1. Sensory. The main thing for such an introvert is achieving results. Values ​​accuracy and order, is neat, collected, operates with numbers and facts, and strictly follows the rules. Despite his introversion, he is not a dreamer. He copes with problems on his own, without anyone’s help.
2. Intuitive. The main thing for a person of this type is events, dreams about the future. He is inquisitive, can regularly change areas of activity, and is torn by contradictions. This introvert is easy to talk to. He's bored of fiddling around with little things, he'd rather take on something global.

Each type, in turn, can be divided into subtypes:

1. Logical-sensory. Such a person is used to thinking logically and looks at things soberly. Prefers professions where discipline is required, for example in law enforcement agencies. A careerist and a fan of order.
2. Logical-intuitive. This introvert has the ability to analyze and systematize knowledge. I am used to defending my opinion to the end. He is friendly, responsive and trusting. At first he appears unemotional and withdrawn, but he is simply conserving energy. Will not do work if he is not interested. Such a person is not recommended to work under an authoritarian boss.
3. Ethical-sensory. An introvert of this type is very emotional, accustomed to experiencing the world through beauty. He is a contemplator, a dreamer and an idealist. Appreciates beauty in art, music, loves beautiful clothes, delicious food. Such a person is sociable and loves to be in the thick of things, capable of becoming the life of the party. He easily senses the mood of his interlocutor, reacts sharply to hostility, suspicion and mistrust. Regularly improves his skills and knowledge.
4. Ethical-intuitive. Such a person is prone to emotional outbursts and tries to make the world a better place. Has a habit of acting impulsively, guided only by feelings. This person attracts you with his charm. He is drawn to art, is not deprived of a sense of beauty, and understands jokes. But after any activity, he needs long-term solitude to replenish the expended energy and mental strength.

How to recognize an extrovert

The first thing that catches your eye is that an extrovert always strives to attract maximum attention to himself. He is active and mobile, constantly gestures, speaks confidently, laughs often, and communicates with unfamiliar people as if he has known them for many years. He is also quite hasty, but from the outside he looks energetic and cheerful. Despite the desire to please everyone, an extrovert can appear careless because he often gets ready in a hurry.

You can recognize an extrovert by such characteristic features as:

• active facial expressions and gestures;
• loud and emotional speech;
• the desire to joke and flirt with unfamiliar people;
• constant need for communication;
• ambition, activity, initiative;
• the need to feel indispensable;
• straightforwardness, sincerity, naivety;
• emotionality, expressiveness;
• love of improvisation, inability to plan time.

Dynamics is important for an extrovert, so he constantly strives for change. He constantly generates innovative ideas, which he immediately tries to bring to life, despite the frequent lack of logic and meaning in them. The ability to go ahead usually bears fruit, and the lives of extroverts are almost always successful in all areas.

What is extraversion in psychology?

Let's start with the main thing. Extraversion is an outward movement in psychology. This type of person constantly seeks contact with the universe around him, which includes colleagues, relatives, friends, strangers and random people. This kind of behavior is dictated by the physiological characteristics of extroverts. If earlier the motives for their behavior remained a mystery, then with the development of technology, scientists have figured out why some need privacy, while others require constant contact.

The concepts of extraversion and introversion were introduced into psychology by the founder of scientific psychology, C. Jung. But modern science increasingly correlates this term with the personality of G. Eysenck and his theory of psychotypes.

Eysenck, Hans Jurgen (more on Wikipedia)
In his opinion, extroverts need additional stimulation of the cerebral cortex due to the characteristics of physiological development. These features of division into psychotypes are laid down even before birth.

Extroversion is the need to develop with the help of external stimuli. This effect can only be achieved by coming into contact with other people. Research shows that extroverts have more blood flowing to the parts of the brain that deal with sensory and emotional experiences, and less blood to the parts that control planning and decision-making.

If you still don’t understand the difference, here’s a clear example. In a state of extroversion, a person is more assertive and talkative.

⚠️ Why did I say able?

Because this trait is inherent not only to pure extroverts, but also to ambiverts, who are a borderline variety of people. This is another type of psyche.

Let's return to “pure”, pronounced extroverts. They are excellent at interacting with a group, enjoy the time they spend in a large company and sometimes suffer from loneliness. We can say that they are excited and tense around someone and they need this stimulus for the fullness of life. Being in forced solitude, such a person will suffer from boredom.

How to communicate with an introvert

Due to their special type of thinking, it is necessary to find your own approach to introverts. First of all, it should be remembered that an introvert is extremely jealous of his personal space. He is not ready to let everyone in there. Earning the trust of an introvert is a long and thorny path. But the result of such efforts will exceed all expectations, because introverts are faithful and reliable life partners.

Secondly, it is advisable to choose words and respect the inner world of an introvert. They remember grievances for a long time, and if they are “touched to the quick,” then the matter will not end with just “I’m sorry.”

Thirdly, introverts do not like turmoil and crowds of people; it makes no sense to drag them to noisy parties, rallies and mass celebrations. If you are planning a meeting with an introvert, it is better to invite him to nature, to a visit or a quiet secluded place, somewhere in a cozy establishment.

These are tips for communicating with introverts. What to do if you yourself are prone to introversion?

What to do at work

If you want to avoid unnecessary intrusiveness from your colleagues, it is better to immediately explain that you are an introvert and you are tired of too much communication.
In most cases, such honesty leads to understanding, and you will not be persistently invited to join the company. But nevertheless, you should not spend all your working time only on the computer or papers. Spend about half an hour a day talking to other people. This will support your productivity without causing discomfort. Don't forget also the importance of promoting your own ideas. If you find it difficult to express your thoughts in general meetings, do so electronically directly to your manager or partners. This way you can show off your strengths without making yourself feel constrained and awkward.