How to strengthen the nervous system and psyche, stop being nervous over trifles


Long-term stress is a threat to humans. Poor health, apathy, and pathologies of internal organs manifest themselves against the background of prolonged stress on the psyche.

After nervous tension, the body needs recovery

A correct daily routine, diet correction, and constant work on your body and your own thoughts will help you recover from a stressful situation.

When love leaves, the blues remain

  • During the time of the ancient Greeks and other Hippocrates and Galens, all human behavioral characteristics were explained by the presence of a predominance of one of the four bodily fluids, which determined the type of temperament. There is a lot of lymph in a person - he is slow and calm, bile predominates - he is aggressive and hysterical if it is yellow or gloomy and gloomy if it is black. And only blood makes its owner cheerful and active.
  • Later, everyone suffered from spleen and blues interspersed with hysterical fits. From them they went to the waters, shot themselves, went to the active army and drowned themselves. What serfs, European guild workers and American Indians did at this time in cases of life difficulties is not known for certain. It seems they drank bitters and smoked in their free time from back-breaking plowing.
  • A little later, enterprising psychiatrists Freud and Jung explained everything by the suppression of the ego by a ruthless environment and public opinion and took up the emancipation of the suffering Self, one at great expense, and the second at a very high cost, successfully covering the whole of Europe with their psychoanalysis.
  • The subsequent world wars, however, proved that in comparison with the world revolution, female hysteria was complete nonsense, and led scientists to a more detailed study of the theory of stress, since the representative sample of those who came from the war fields was very decent for a whole century.

How to calm down if your heart hurts

Sometimes my heart hurts after stress. The discomfort lasts until the person completely calms down. Therefore, you need to be able to pull yourself together.

To calm down, you should eliminate the source of irritation. If a person is faced with stress due to an argument with colleagues and his boss, he needs to immediately stop the dialogue, go to a spare room, open the window and take a few deep breaths and exhalations. This is difficult, but you need to forget about the topic that causes irritation and quickly get rid of stress. To do this, you need to distract yourself: turn on relaxing music, call a relative and calmly talk about abstract topics.

If the stress is severe and a person does not know how to calm down after stress, you need to take valerian tincture (20-25 drops) or dissolve 1 validol tablet.

The effects of stress on the heart

What kind of bitch nerves do they have, and why don’t we have these nerves?

The theory of stress tells us that the body defends itself from any external factor that we perceive as an irritant and a violator of the constancy of our internal environment by mobilizing all regulatory systems. Since it is vital, first of all, to avoid death, the system of catecholamines (adrenaline and norepinephrine) and cortisol is activated, working within the framework of the “fight-flight” paradigm. It is responsible for raising blood pressure, increasing heart rate and breathing.

The meaning of stress is to allow the body to adapt to the changed external world and maintain the constancy of the internal environment, even against the background of infection or injury, even against the background of negative emotional influence from the outside. Whether you're sick with the flu or your boss yelled at you at work, your body needs to mobilize some of its potential to restore balance. That is, stress is not just emotional excitement or irritation, but an adaptive mechanism.

Chronic stress leads to depletion of the body's adaptive capabilities. The system starts to glitch. Instead of an adequate prompt response, paradoxical reactions appear:

  • heartbeat at rest from bad thoughts
  • or shortness of breath from a heavy foreboding,
  • heart rhythm disturbances,
  • sweating,
  • fear of death,
  • pallor of the skin from habitual exercise,
  • muscle tension at rest,
  • dry mouth,
  • spasms in the stomach and intestines.

The main thing here is not to miss the signs of real diseases, which are practically indistinguishable from vegetative storms without additional diagnostic methods. But if everything has been checked more than once, and the suspicion of illness still persists, obsessive-compulsive neurosis is highly likely to occur.

Change of environment

In order to get rid of accumulated stress, it is not recommended to sit at home. In an apartment we always move little, and we are also prone to the habit of driving ourselves into big worries. Travel helps a lot. A change of environment helps to get rid of various conditions, including fears and depression. It is best to go somewhere outside the city, into nature. In this case, the individual will have significant peace of mind and will be able to let in new positive energy. It is recommended to meet new interesting people. Exciting communication will help cope with anxiety and despair.

Consequences of stress

  • subjective (anxiety, aggression, weakness, fatigue, low self-esteem, bad mood),
  • physiological (rising blood sugar, blood pressure, dilated pupils, feeling hot or cold),
  • behavioral (risk of accidents, alcoholism, emotional outbursts, substance abuse, smoking, overeating),
  • cognitive (weakened attention, decreased mental performance).

The mechanisms of stress development, adaptation to it, and failure of adaptive capabilities are almost identical for all people.

Only the threshold of perception is different. What is an ordinary trifle for one person is a whole tragedy for another.

Variants of group stress are also possible, when groups of people find themselves in unfavorable similar conditions. Moreover, the higher the load to achieve adaptation to difficult conditions, the more likely people react to it.

The study of stress resistance of different population groups and individuals allows for predictive diagnostics, identifying those who, under stress, are likely to react inappropriately or atypically and who are not shown types of work with high requirements for stress resistance.

More than half of the Russian population constantly live under stress. Up to 80% of them develop chronic fatigue syndrome and feel unwell in the morning, have problems falling asleep and sleeping at night, and have difficulty coping with physical and mental stress during the day


This point should be considered separately, since it differs from other sports activities. Cycling helps you achieve a state of thoughtful meditation. It is very valuable and helps to unlock inner potential. What does it mean? During such a useful activity, an individual has time to think through many thoughts and make a hundred constructive decisions. This uses the necessary muscles to help maintain physical fitness. Cycling can be limited only by the desire of the person himself or by weather conditions. It has been noted that regular exercise helps release huge amounts of positive energy. Later it can be used for any pressing matters. Making creative decisions is also not without inspiration.

Physical manifestations of stress

  • Decreased ability to concentrate.
  • Irritability, bad mood.
  • Sleep disorders.
  • Growing appetite.
  • Deterioration of organizational abilities (fussiness, absent-mindedness).
  • Lethargy, apathy, fatigue.
  • Sexual disorders.
  • Increased anxiety.
  • A feeling of an insurmountable obstacle or crisis.
  • Feeling out of control.
  • Poor health (muscle pain, headache, heartburn, increased blood pressure).

How can the experience of a relationship with an abuser affect the psyche?

Unhealthy relationships primarily affect your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem is greatly reduced, and feelings of worthlessness and helplessness arise. In such relationships, the victim of abuse may feel bad, unworthy of love and care. Against this background, negative psycho-emotional states develop - depression, anxiety or apathy. Psychosomatic disorders often appear, for example, an eating disorder or addiction to alcohol or drugs.

And now about panic

A panic attack is a rather painful complex of manifestations of autonomic disorders, which can be provoked by anything. That is, it is an unreasonable fear, triggered without objective signs of danger and in the absence of real pathologies of internal organs. The most popular triggers are: being in a cramped or stuffy room, climbing to a height, and indeed any discomfort in the body.

Predisposed to the following attacks:

  • genetics,
  • psychotype,
  • emotional stress,
  • chronic stress,
  • experience of using psychotropic drugs.

At the moment of panic, a person may experience a feeling of lack of air, palpitations, pressing pain in the chest without connection with the load, trembling, sweating, heat or cold, tingling of the skin or crawling goosebumps, dizziness, nausea, a feeling of the unreality of what is happening. The fear of death from heart problems or stroke comes first.

What to do

  • If chest pain, palpitations, sweat, shortness of breath occur for the first time, a call to the emergency room is indicated to rule out a life-threatening condition.
  • If episodes recur, it is wise to consult a physician to rule out chronic diseases of the heart, lungs, or endocrine system.
  • In the absence of such pathologies, do not neglect a visit to a psychotherapist or psychiatrist.
  • Stop waiting for an attack, since listening to yourself responds to any slightest irritant with a release of adrenaline into the blood, which triggers panic.
  • Taking sedatives or beta blockers that slow down the heart rate is a way to only temporarily eliminate symptoms. They do not fight the cause of panic, and besides, sedatives, for example, Corvalol, which contains the barbiturate phenobarbital, are easy to get used to.
  • In severe cases, specialists prescribe antidepressants. It is better not to start taking tranquilizers that can cause severe addiction after only 3 weeks of use.
  • Cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy and auto-training should be aimed at creating attitudes that a panic attack is not dangerous to physical health and it is quite difficult to die in the process. By supporting all this with breathing exercises, walking and meditation, you can achieve quite acceptable results.

How to get rid of the fear of stepping on the same rake?

Fear goes away after doing internal work. Stepping on a rake and getting hit in the forehead with it are not the same thing. There can be no guarantee that on the path of life you will not again meet a person who is prone to aggression. But after the experience, there is a knowledge of what to do in such cases, how to behave with an abuser. If we continue the analogy with a rake, you can be attentive enough to notice the handle of this rake flying from the grass in time, thereby protecting yourself from painful consequences.


If you look at a person from the point of view of primitivism and analyze him as a visual biological model, it will become obvious that the nervous and endocrine systems are simultaneously responsible for his full functioning in a changing external environment.

The nervous system is represented by:

  • Central part (brain and spinal cord). In the cerebral cortex, the neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin are responsible for emotionality and mood.
  • Periphery in the form of nerves and nerve ganglia. Here the reception of external irritations, their implementation, processing and issuance of a response occurs. The main types of response are the conduction of an electrical impulse along a nerve fiber and a chemical process in synapses with the participation of the neurotransmitter acetylcholine.
  • There is also a vegetative part - these are like automatic transmissions or autopilots for the heart, breathing, and digestion. Only yogis can control this with the power of thought, but an ordinary healthy citizen does not need this.

The endocrine system, with the help of hormones entering the blood, regulates body temperature, energy, plastic metabolism, the functioning of the cardiovascular, reproductive, and digestive systems, and also interferes well with the functioning of the brain. Emotions and nervous tension are most actively influenced by adrenal hormones (adrenaline, norepinephrine, which are also neurotransmitters, and cortisol), sex hormones, and thyroid hormones.

Therefore, if a person complains of excessive irritability, mood instability, especially in combination with fatigue, sweating, weight loss, he is checked for the level of thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH alone or in combination with T4-thyroxine) to exclude increased activity of the thyroid gland (hyperthyroidism).

For women, fluctuations in the background of sex hormones are a completely separate issue.

And this is not only the notorious PMS, which turns a quiet office woman, an easy-going girl or a respectable mother of a family into a fury, sobbing and screaming at the same time, but also the emotional instability of pregnant women and irritability, coupled with vegetative symptoms in women during menopause. By the way, not only women in menopause, but also men in a testosterone crisis are at risk of becoming characters in jokes. Their moods can also change ten times a day, and this is not at all a sign of their bad character.


Its peak, as all readers of women's magazines know, for women occurs in the middle of the cycle - this is generally a paradoxical thing. On the one hand, if a lot of it is produced in those parts of the cerebral cortex that are responsible for reward motivation, then the person is overwhelmed with inspiration and can work tirelessly. If in the insula, which covers part of the frontal and parietal lobes and is responsible for emotions, the person experiences an aversion to all types of physical or mental labor. That is, a low level of dopamine in general is a lack of anticipation of joy as such from any type of activity, from making money to sex. In other words, dopamine is the anticipation of a high and the engine of creative progress, interest in learning and conquering new frontiers.

Prolactin is responsible for the high itself, and oxytocin is responsible for attachment. Dopamine is the opposite of prolactin, and when there is a lot of it, a person begins to look for adventure and his brakes fail.

It’s interesting how neurotransmitters work in the process of emotional burnout, when an enthusiast who is literally burning at work or in any field of activity is left with only horns and legs emotionally, and he himself becomes first apathetic and then completely aggressive at the mere suggestion of doing something once a favorite activity.

  • First, at the stage of interest in a new business, a dopamine surge is formed, provoking enthusiasm.
  • Then, when the novelty has worn off, a smooth dopamine plateau allows you to plow without stopping and get everything done. When work consumes all our time, and there are no new impressions, positive emotions, and time for sleep, food, and communication with loved ones is saved, dopamine tells us “bye,” and first a slight, and then more and more confident irritation with the world around us appears. Adrenaline and cortisol levels are high here.
  • And then comes drowsiness, a sharp decrease in working capacity, and a feeling of anxiety due to loss of control over the situation.
  • Later, intolerance, aggression, and indiscipline are added to this. And these are already undoubted signs of exhaustion.


But the feeling of quiet happiness is already serotonin, this is prolonged satisfaction with life. It is serotonin that says that everything is fine and let it always last as it is. Serotonin is blocked by dopamine. And chronic stress blocks both mediators.

Therefore, after a breakup, the one who switched to a new object, impressions or interests is warmed by the rays of dopamine and on the rise, while the one who remained in the position of the sufferer has lost both serotonin well-being and dopamine short-term anticipation of pleasure.

Aromatherapy for nervous tension

Aromatherapy is one of the most effective ways to relieve tension. There are many scientific studies that have proven the direct influence of odors on the mental and physiological state of a person.

Fragrances can improve your mood. Table

Fragrances can improve your emotional state, strengthen your immune system, and improve brain performance. Essential oils can be added to cosmetics, baths, and aroma lamps.

Helps with nervous tension:

  • Citrus oils (bergamot, orange, tangerine, lemon, grapefruit). They strengthen the immune system and improve mood.
  • Floral oils (chamomile, jasmine, lavender, rose, geranium, lemon balm, juniper, lotus). They have a calming effect.
  • Wood oils (cedar, sandalwood, patchouli, incense, camphor). Relieves fatigue and helps you relax.
  • Herbal oils (tea tree, mint, eucalyptus). Helps improve physical condition.

Goals and objectives

We needed the entire previous dreary excursion into neurophysiology solely in order to clearly define the strategy and tactics in the fight for calm nerves and a balanced nervous system.

The goal is already clear to us: to calm down and stop being nervous over trifles. It remains to show persistence in achieving it.

Leaving outside the scope of all issues related to major psychiatry, let's talk about the hygiene of the nervous and endocrine systems, as well as practical skills for bringing your emotions and psychological status into a divine form.

Drug treatment

Complex therapy with medications will help restore nerves after suffering an emotional shock. It is necessary to treat the nervous system:

  • sedatives (in difficult cases, tranquilizers);
  • herbal medicines;
  • vitamins and mineral complexes.

The medicine prescribed by the doctor restores the nervous system and reduces the stress on the psyche. The action of tranquilizers is based on a decrease in the activity of the central nervous system. Sedative medications inhibit a person’s reactions: it is difficult for him to concentrate. Strong sedatives are prescribed to reduce anxiety (short-term use).

"Glycine" has a sedative effect, but does not affect human activity. Use the product for a month to reduce temporary stress. You can take natural herbal medications without a doctor's prescription.

"Glycine" - a sedative drug

How not to destroy the endocrine system ahead of time

Like other adherents of a healthy lifestyle, we strongly recommend not to test your body’s strength, but to wisely exploit the resources given at birth. Of course, if you inherited early menopause or a low level of production of endogenous opiates, the person is a victim of circumstances and is forced to make more efforts than others to live a full life. But, if initially everything with the hormones was in perfect order, there is no need to do everything to make the system fail.

Get enough sleep

Tales about Napoleon, who slept for four hours and was distinguished by his bright head and remarkable capacity for work, should not confuse you. Our hormones are produced in a certain daily regime and are quite dependent on the time of day. Focus on your own needs (see why it is so important to maintain a daily routine).

If your body is screaming that getting up at six in the morning is unrealistic, try to understand it: perhaps your adrenal glands produce cortisol not at 4-5 in the morning, like a person who easily gets up at half past six, but with a delay of couple of hours. This is very common for those receiving glucocorticosteroid therapy.

Lack of sleep of just one hour a day in the short term reduces the ability to concentrate and remember information. In the long term, it threatens problems with cerebral circulation, the cardiovascular system, diabetes mellitus, and immune disorders (see lack of sleep increases the risk of heart attack and stroke).

In 2007, a University of California study was published on the effects of lack of sleep on emotionality. The results were disappointing: the emotional centers of the brain of the sleep-deprived subjects reacted 60% more actively to the negative images shown. That is, lack of sleep leads to an irrational emotional response to the world around us.

Go to bed before 24 hours

It is known for certain that people suffering from neuroses (and especially neurasthenia) feel worse in the evening and at night. If you are accustomed to anxiety, suspiciousness without objective reasons, night terrors, episodes of self-pity and chronic resentment towards others, go to bed as early as possible. In addition, neuroscientists say that falling asleep before midnight allows the brain to rest better.

The habit of falling asleep early will also get rid of the addiction to eating your negativity at night with sweets and fatty foods.

Physical activity

  • Walk for at least an hour every day (see Nordic walking).
  • Sleep in a ventilated area. Oxygen starvation of the brain is a poor assistant in regulating emotions.
  • The paths of healthy lifestyle and sports diverge at a certain stage. Sport should be more like physical education with dosed exercise without stimulants, hormones and diuretics (see lazy people live longer).
  • Sex is a good option to relieve stress if it is not a long-distance race and does not give additional reasons to be nervous and worried.

Smoking is absolutely not recommended, as a potential culprit of a large number of somatic diseases and vegetative disorder.

About nutrition

  • Do not neglect iodized products (milk, salt) if you live in areas where there is little of this element in the water. Lack of iodine leads to decreased thyroid function. The result of this may be weakness, lethargy, decreased ability to work, fatigue, depressed emotional background, and bad mood.
  • Don't overeat. Control of eating behavior is not fasting or mono-diets, but balanced meals three to four times a day in small portions.
  • Products that strengthen the nerves are lean meats, beef liver, fish and seafood, unpolished cereals, cottage cheese, bananas, herbs, citrus fruits, asparagus.
  • Synthetic vitamins today have a very narrow range of use for laboratory-proven hypovitaminosis. In addition to vitamin D in northern latitudes, it is better not to use vitamins in preparations for preventive purposes. Vitamins that strengthen the nervous system are group B, ascorbic acid, PP and vitamin D3.

Preventive actions

Treatment of stress is a necessity, because human health depends on it. It is important to maintain a normal psychological state after treatment. To do this, you need to work hard on yourself, namely on your perception of life. Of course, in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it is impossible to completely avoid stressful situations. However, you need to try to perceive the world differently and find positive aspects in everything. You shouldn’t withdraw into yourself and silently endure all the hardships and hardships. There are always people nearby who can listen and support. Sometimes advice is not as important as the fact of revealing your soul to another person. Moderate physical activity, proper nutrition and periodic intake of sedatives will help you cope with stress more effectively.

Instead of sedative medications, you can use folk ones: herbal infusions and decoctions are excellent for preventing problems with the gastrointestinal tract and immune system.

Recovery from prolonged stress as a result of mental violence against a person is especially difficult. In such cases, a variety of treatment methods are practiced, including taking strong antidepressants, psychological training, relaxing massages and others. It is very important in such cases not to put pressure on the individual. People who have experienced mental violence do not know how to behave in society, constantly feel guilty about themselves, and sometimes may even attempt suicide.

Massage will help relieve the effects of severe stress

Physical anti-stress barrier

Water treatments

They are able to normalize the tone of the nervous system due to temperature and reflex mechanical effects. Even at home today it is quite possible to take advantage of a relaxing bath, hydromassage or contrast shower. It is traditionally believed that a bath relaxes, and a shower tones the nervous system.

  • In everyday life, baths with a water temperature of 35-37 degrees Celsius are shown. It makes sense to add solutions or decoctions of herbal sedatives (valerian, motherwort) to the water. The duration of the bath is from 15 minutes to half an hour.
  • Among the physiotherapeutic variations of baths, pearl ones are known (with hydromassage, creating the effect of many bubbles). The massage effect can be achieved through the flow of water or air, which allows you to eliminate muscle tightness and not worry about trifles.
  • For depressed states, chronic fatigue syndrome and a tendency to depressive disorders, starting with the French neurologist Charcot, contrast showers are used in different versions. Its purpose is to stimulate and relax certain areas of the skin with a water jet of different temperatures, training blood vessels and nerves to adequately respond to stressful needs.


This is not just an antediluvian variation of temperature stimulation of the skin, but also an entire ritual that allows a person to tune in to cleansing the soul and body and getting rid of everyday negative emotions (see the benefits and harms of baths and saunas). Combines physiotherapy and meditation.


This is a stressful variant of temperature exposure. Trains the body to respond adequately to cold stress. mobilizing all possibilities. With long-term practice, it leads to a paradoxical vascular response: instead of spasm, the vessels respond to cold by expanding their lumen. You need to start hardening yourself gradually, first by giving up indoor shoes. Gradually moving on to dousing with cool water and doing gymnastics in the fresh air. Terminal hardening options: dousing with ice water in the cold, swimming in an ice hole and walking barefoot in the snow.

How to restore nerves completely using folk remedies?

During this period, folk remedies will help you well; consider some recipes:

  • create a fragrant pillow by placing pine needles or lemon balm in a textile bag. You can replace them with chamomile, lavender, mint, St. John's wort and other herbs. You can place the pillow near you or on the bedside table; the aroma of herbs will help you fall asleep and strengthen your nerves;
  • weak sweet tea, to which you need to add up to 20 drops of pharmaceutical valerian, will help you recover quickly;
  • Prepare a hot water bath, add up to 10 drops of pine needle, grapefruit or lavender essential oil into it, then enjoy the procedure for 20 minutes, closing the doors so that no one will distract you.

Another good way to restore the nervous system is aroma lamps, which you can create yourself. To do this, take a cup of water, and then add 5-7 drops of essential oil of lavender, mint, citrus fruits, and then place it near a hot radiator or on a windowsill warmed by the sun's rays. Inhale the magical smells, because they will help you relax and fully enjoy the seconds of blissful calm.

Advice! Before going to bed, walk around the apartment for 20-30 minutes in light clothes or open the window to make the room cool. Put on your softest and warmest pajamas, cover yourself with a thick blanket, drink valerian tea and relax. This little secret will help you fall asleep quickly.

Physiological wrestling techniques

Breathing exercises

This is the simplest and most effective method of controlling autonomic reactions. Strelnikova’s breathing exercises give good results.

The most popular and well-known system of breathing exercises is the Buteyko method, whose adherents claim that they were able to get rid of even bronchial asthma and use forced breathing for any reason. In general, any exercise to prolong exhalation can reflexively reduce the heart rate due to inhibition of the sympathetic nervous system. Also, breathing more rarely or deeply can calm and strengthen the nerves. To do this, you need to alternate a short inhalation with an extended exhalation and pauses after it.

  • The formula for relaxing breathing, where the first number is the duration of inhalation in seconds, with the “+” sign is the length of exhalation, and in brackets is the pause between breaths: 2+2(2), 4+4(4), 4+6(2) , 4+7(2),4+8(2), 4+9(2), 5+9(2), 5+10(2), 6+10(2), 6+10(3), 7+10(3), 8+10(3), 9+10(4), 10+10(5).
  • It is useful to take several exhalations through tightly compressed lips or long exhalations with an open mouth for the combination: “ho” or “he”.
  • Rhythmic walking will also help establish a rhythm for proper breathing. For four steps you need to take a full breath, for the next two you need to hold your breath, for the next four you need to exhale completely.
  • You can also perform gymnastics while lying down or sitting against a wall with a straight back.
  • Lie on the floor, place your arms extended along your body, palms down. Breathe relaxedly for a minute, then take a maximum breath and hold your breath for 4 seconds, then exhale as much as possible, trying to push all the air out of your lungs. Do five approaches.


A relaxing massage is preferable, including stroking, rubbing, and very light kneading of the extensors of the limbs. Therapeutic massage for the spine and vibrating massage for the chest. In addition to professional general or therapeutic massage, self-massage is indicated. For muscle spasms, you can use shaking the limbs (with or without holding the fingers). The fine vibration allows the muscles to relax successfully.

Relaxation practices may include:

  • listening to your favorite music,
  • aromatherapy,
  • yoga practices,
  • swimming pool, etc.

Tips for preventing nervous disorders

Preventing nervousness is an important condition for psychological health.

Helps prevent stress:

  • regular rest (not only for the body, but also for the soul);
  • adequate sleep as the body’s protection from traumatic situations;
  • change of activity;
  • proper nutrition is the source of the body’s endurance;
  • giving up bad habits (drinking alcohol, tobacco)
  • physical activity (sports, walking, dancing);
  • presence of interests, hobbies, hobbies;
  • developing a sense of humor (laughter saves you in any situation);
  • increasing self-esteem and self-worth;
  • communication with people is an excellent resource for receiving positive emotions;
  • new experiences (attending events, meeting new people, traveling);
  • development of positive thinking, concentration on positive thoughts, finding advantages even in the most unpleasant situations;
  • dreams, fantasies as stimulation for personal development.

Emotional instability affects the quality of life of many people every day. The question of how to calm your nerves and relieve stress is becoming increasingly relevant every day. By following the advice of a psychologist, you can easily distance yourself from an unpleasant problem.

Psychological help

Since we have found out that anything can trigger anxiety and nervousness, and some of those suffering from neurasthenia even independently adapt external factors to their needs, then psychological training should move along two paths.

  • Take control of circumstances.
  • Soften the perception of traumatic factors and reduce their significance.

Thus, first you have to admit to yourself that the problem exists. And it’s not that as a child, dad used a belt, and mom was dissatisfied with her academic performance, that she wasn’t appreciated at work, and her loved one turned out to be a petty creature. There are many circumstances and they are everywhere, and a neurotic personality is ready to respond to any message from waiting for the end of the world to a rumbling stomach.

Since childhood is behind the horizon, you will have to take responsibility for your life without dumping it on your parents, spouses, loved ones, young offspring or random people around you. With such a perception, they cannot be to blame for all the misfortunes that happen to us. Maybe just a little bit, which we will also control.

  • If possible, we will immediately stop communicating with everyone who is unpleasant to us. Or let’s reduce this communication to the necessary minimum in the most correct and neutral form: “Yes. No. Thank you. Sorry". And this will be our spacesuit against unpleasant people, and they will not be able to break through it.
  • Assertive behavior is polite firmness. Allows you to correctly defend your interests and adhere to your line of behavior even under the pressure of external circumstances.
  • Solving problems as they arise. We will stop waiting for something to happen at any moment that will justify our hopes for some nasty gift of fate. And we will solve problems as they arise. Now and today. The past will have to wave its hand and stop delving into it. Plans for the future should be plans, and not an attempt to find another reason to get excited.
  • Imagine the worst possible outcome of the problem. If we are starting to worry, we should go all the way and think about the worst-case scenario. Then think about whether it is so scary and what can really be done to prevent this from happening.
  • Learn to set goals and objectives. "What I want?" and “How to get it?” - quite reasonable questions to ask yourself that will help you develop an action plan and reduce the degree of neuroticism from not understanding what to do in the future.
  • To stop worrying about your health, get a check-up and repeat the tests no sooner than your doctor recommends. By adhering to a healthy lifestyle, you will reduce the risk of developing serious pathologies, and non-serious pathologies can be treated or go away on their own.
  • Write down everything that worries you on paper and, for each item, make a plan of real actions that will help get rid of the problem. It will be immediately clear where it really exists, and where they have made a mountain out of a molehill.
  • Keep yourself busy with something interesting, something you love, something that brings you pleasure—a hobby. A passionate person has no time to delve into himself. He's just busy. Be aware of dopamine peaks, plateaus and declines. Give yourself a break and switch.
  • Try to evaluate things and events correctly. Try to approach your assessments objectively. Many values ​​cease to be so over time. Is it worth killing yourself and those around you for the sake of them?
  • Accept yourself. If only the smartest, most beautiful and successful people actually reproduced, the Earth would not face the problem of overpopulation. Nature came up with everything much more cunningly than we thought. We are controlled by hormones and transmitters that are triggered for any reason, almost like our anxiety.
  • Get rid of guilt. You do not have to be responsible for other adults and independent people. Let them solve their problems themselves.
  • Reduce the significance of episodes that bother you. Don't get hung up. Switch your attention.
  • Don't expect much from others and don't be afraid of their opinions.
  • If no self-administered measures work at all, contact a professional medical psychologist, psychotherapist or psychiatrist.

Setting goals

Until we know what we want to do, it can be difficult to figure out how to restore our psyche after severe stress. A person should be as clear as possible about his desires and capabilities. Without this understanding, it is impossible to move forward, remain satisfied with yourself and the accompanying achievements. Defining specific goals will help you stay on track and find the strength to radically change an unsatisfactory situation. The more clearly a person imagines the changes taking place, the easier it becomes to live.



One of the most effective calming techniques that anyone can learn would be desire. Meditation is focused thinking that comes from Hinduism. More often it is a spiritual or health practice with elements of self-immersion with the goal of achieving perfection or, at least, peace.

It involves detachment from external stimuli by adopting a certain body position, listening to relaxing sound stimulants or music that help control concentration on sensations or internal visual images. In general terms, this is detached contemplation, which allows you to reduce the significance of external stimuli, stop being nervous and become calm.


In difficult life situations, often turning to faith helps a person get support in a situation where secular methods do not work. The church provides an opportunity not only to find solace and an opportunity to cope with psychological trauma, but also offers socialization, which in a secular society is quite difficult for certain categories of people.


This is a set of exercises for developing positive attitudes. Self-hypnosis aimed at relieving mental and physical stress without outside help. Combines with muscle relaxation techniques. For example, with breathing exercises. At the initial stages, the patient is asked to learn the state of warmth in the limbs, heaviness in the legs, achieving them independently by repeating certain speech settings. In the future, it is proposed to learn how to evoke vivid visual images or a contemplative state with closed eyes. The technique is aimed at creating a supportive state or reducing the significance of irritating factors.

Cognitive behavioral therapy

This is a psychotherapeutic practice aimed at getting rid of stereotypical perceptions of reality and psycho-traumatic factors. It is important here that the work is carried out by the psychotherapist and the patient, whose active participation is mandatory. During therapy, it becomes clear what circumstances provoke the problem, which provokes uncontrollable thoughts. How this affects the patient in terms of beliefs, experiences and behavior. At the same time, situations and provocateurs that trigger the alarm are gradually recorded. The psychotherapist proposes a program of work on correction. Most often, it includes specific exercises that should be performed in a traumatic situation and are aimed at reinforcing new skills to combat anxiety. The goal of therapy is to change behavioral patterns and emotional states.


Do not neglect the advice to seek help from your pets. First of all, this applies to aquarium fish. Observing them works better than any psychorelaxation technique.

All methods presented in the article can be considered both in combination and separately, depending on existing contraindications or preferences. Humanity has accumulated vast experience in the fight against nervousness, which you can only use in your own particular case.


Postnova Maria Borisovna general practitioner

Sports activities

Surprisingly, movement helps in many ways to cope with the destructive effects of stress. That is why it is recommended that when you are experiencing strong feelings, do not sit in one place, but try to move as much as possible. You can immediately start exercising, running, or cleaning the house. The main thing is that you can feel better. Movement promotes the production of positive hormones. This is how new strength appears to move on with life and make responsible decisions. Playing sports is an ideal solution for those who are used to taking full responsibility for what is happening.

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