What does self-confidence mean?
Do you think a person who doesn’t trust anyone can be called pleasant? Hardly. Surely this is a gloomy subject with a suspicious look, capable of expecting tricks even from a baby. Distrust of people is a repulsive trait.
Meanwhile, according to psychologists, distrust of people stems from distrust of... oneself. What kind of quality is this and how can you learn to trust yourself and people?
Why is this necessary?
Every person needs love and sincere and real care. We all need attention. And not ostentatious, but real, and preferably permanent. What to do in such a situation? There is a way out of this situation - we must learn to trust.
Naturally, no one talks about childish naivety. Thoughtlessly opening up to everyone you meet is not recommended. This should be approached responsibly, “like an adult.” It is necessary to consider some advice from psychologists that will help you understand how to trust a person.
Give up high expectations: tip two
What does it mean to trust a person? Accept him as he is, with all his strengths and weaknesses. In most cases, our trust is not justified when we expect too much. Therefore, give up high expectations right now (a friend should always be there, a child should guess wishes, a partner should tolerate all antics, etc.) - and you will take an important step towards a new happy life.
What is the reason?
It is necessary to understand why distrust of people in general arose. Whose integrity do you doubt? Perhaps everyone you know is distrustful, or maybe only men or women. Or there is a certain group of people.
In most cases, a person closes down because of a sad experience, because of some event that he cannot forget about. Memories regularly make themselves felt, causing pain and causing mistrust of certain people. In this situation, it is worth understanding that unpleasant events are usually associated with one person, and not with all acquaintances as a whole. And, in principle, you shouldn’t expect any trick from them.
How can you regain trust?
After losing trust, depending on the damage done to the person, you can try to regain it. For many people this is an important moment in life. So let's look at options on how to regain lost trust. As we have already found out, in order to gain trust, you need to work hard and work on yourself, this can take months and even years of your life.
If for some reason you break a connection with a loved one, intentionally or accidentally undermine their trust in you, then be prepared to work hard if you want to regain that person's trust. To re-gain trust you need to completely change yourself and your attitude towards life. You need to make sure that the person never remembers the events that caused the erosion or loss of trust
Regaining trust that was thoughtlessly lost may require even more effort and time. The connection is very simple, after betrayal a person is left with mental wounds, deceived people can feel painful perceptions and various negative thoughts and feelings for many years, right up to the very end of their lives. In such a situation, the offender will be able to regain the partner’s trust only if he can completely rid the traumatized soul of pain and the consciousness of memories that lead a person to a state of fear.
Regaining trust does not mean saying: “I’m sorry!” or give flowers. This is a huge psychological work on relationships. No sacrifice must be made to restore mutual well-being in the relationship. All your efforts and attempts to regain trust may be unrequited and ineffective. In addition, you should feel no less pain than the person you offended or betrayed felt. Only strong and sincere intentions can regain the lost trust of a loved one. But any attempts may not be enough; the main task is to replace all negative emotions and feelings, such as fear and pain, with the opposite sensations.
The main task when trying to regain trust is not the number of these attempts, but their quality. If you have caused spiritual damage to a loved one, then you have made the biggest mistake of your life. Nothing hurts the soul more than betrayal or deception on the part of a loved one. After all, when we love, we completely entrust our destiny to our other half. Love makes us one. We cannot imagine ourselves without our loved one. Therefore, appreciate each other and do not hurt
I would like to remind you that you can find out what feelings are, and also study the table of feelings to understand yourself. This understanding will give you endless opportunities to improve relationships and trust between people.
It is worth understanding that positive emotions should be stronger than those that brought misfortune to a loved one. In addition, you need to try not to repeat previous, even the most insignificant mistakes that will remind you of the mental trauma that you inflicted on your sufferer.
The main task in such a situation is to completely make amends and regain trust. This is why many men who have made many mistakes and brought misfortune to their significant other begin to buy expensive jewelry or other valuable gifts. However, the price of “bribing feelings” does not matter to everyone.
In order not to have to correct the mistakes you have made, try not to do anything bad towards your loved one. It doesn’t matter at all if it’s a man or a woman, a boy or a girl. Of course, girls are more vulnerable, but our souls are the same, a man is stronger only externally, but the inner part of a person is an unprotected substance that is very vulnerable. You need to have great wisdom to cope with your feelings and not harm another person. Sometimes even one word is enough to lose a loved one forever.
Many women value more the actions that their men do. When a person begins to sacrifice his interests, hobbies or desires, this is much more valuable than any expensive gift. This is how a woman sees the true sincerity of her actions. But if you combine sacrifices and valuable gifts, the likelihood of regaining trust will increase several times. The main essence and task is to provide confidence that such actions will never happen again.
Interlocutor analysis
Take a closer look at who you communicate with. Before you open up, you need to understand what your interlocutor is like. This is especially true when you communicate with members of the opposite sex. Naturally, everyone needs great and sincere love. However, it is necessary to understand that ideal people do not exist. In life you can encounter any person who has not only positive, but also negative sides.
How to trust a person? When communicating, you need to be guided not only by your own feelings. Take a closer look at the character and actions of your interlocutor, study his manner of behavior. There should be no unjustified hopes. Try not to expect from a person what he is not able to give.
Such a position should be a priority not only in relationships, but also in business activities. Naturally, you need to trust people. But first you should collect information about them.
Summary information
So, now we have fully understood what trust is and what is the basis for building a trusting relationship. You can find different interpretations of the word trust, in Soviet or modern Russian dictionaries, but their meaning is the same.
Trust is complete confidence in the good intentions of one person towards another, his honesty and sincerity, as well as his conscientious attitude towards assigned tasks or requests inspire the greatest degree of trust. Failure to fulfill conditional obligations, betrayal or deception can lead to loss of trust for an indefinite period of time or for life.
However, it is worth remembering that there are several options for regaining trust. We are all human beings and can make mistakes, so be vigilant and try to avoid situations that could undermine your trust with a person or society.
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Good memories
Why doesn't a dog trust people? Because she was treated poorly in the past. This fully applies to people. Quite often, our trust is affected by memories, experiences and life lessons. Moreover, in our actions we strive to rely not on positive, but on negative events. In this situation, psychologists advise changing the vector of attention.
How to trust a person? Start remembering pleasant moments, think about acquaintances that caused positive emotions. Most likely, you will still have a few good acquaintances in your life.
Pleasant memories can set you on a positive wave. Over time, you will stop seeing only traitors and throw off the image of a victim. Can people be trusted? Of course you can. To do this, it is enough to get rid of unpleasant memories.
Is it good to be distrustful?
What does trust mean?
A short definition is that trust involves being able to open up to another person, to show them your weaknesses, based on the belief that this will not be used for harm. However, you can never get a guarantee that a loved one will not deceive or betray. Therefore, some people are sure that they should not trust anyone. There is some logic in this, because a feeling of trust always comes with some risk. But is it worth refusing to trust others? This will protect you from disappointments in the future, but at the same time it will not allow you to enter into close emotional relationships. How is trust expressed? In openness, the opportunity to be yourself, take off the mask and relax, show your true self. If a person tries not to do this, those around him will feel an invisible wall through which they are unlikely to want to “break through.” A distrustful person is incapable of close friendship; it is difficult for him to love and be loved. This is the price to pay for refusing the risk of being betrayed.
Often people lose their ability to trust after experiencing negative experiences in the past. Betrayal and betrayal make you lose trust and openness. This process can be compared to the formation of a conditioned reflex. Love and trust are associated with the subsequent pain of disappointment. And a person tries to avoid this emotion, refusing to love, get close to others, or trust them. Overcoming this obstacle is not easy: it may require many years of work with a psychologist or lengthy self-analysis.
A woman’s trust in a man: how to learn to trust?
There shouldn't be any shortcuts
You shouldn't label people. We are all different, we may be in a bad mood, and sometimes not the most pleasant events happen in life. As has already been said, no people are perfect. Therefore, you should not think that everyone around you wants to take advantage of you.
Why don't people trust? Perhaps they see only competitors and enemies around them, and in every smile they manage to find ridicule of themselves. This position must be abandoned. Try to get rid of prejudices, stop labeling everyone you meet. Give people opportunities to be their best selves.
Whose side is the government on? To trust or not to trust?
At first glance, it may seem that people who choose distrust are less vulnerable to society.
Nobody knows anything about them, they do not open up about their experiences and, in principle, do not tell anything about themselves. But there is a downside, such people do not have the power to approach people on their own initiative. It turns out that someone who trusts others can freely change the distance in a relationship - moving closer and further away. These people tend to have more power in relationships because they have more choices.
Control over feelings
Perhaps you have experienced betrayal in the past. And now you want to protect yourself from such events. That is why caution comes to the fore when meeting people. Naturally, negative emotions do not disappear. They are waiting for the right opportunity to prove themselves. And such an opportunity arises when we meet. Thoughts begin to appear that this person too will betray over time; you cannot trust him. In such a situation, you are controlled by past grievances.
Psychologists do not advise forgetting that it is you who should react to the events happening around you, and not those negative moments that once happened in your life. Therefore, you should not be led by your own feelings; decide for yourself exactly how events will develop.
Attempts to define the concept
Psychologists explain the concept of self-confidence in different ways. Some believe that this is the ability to perceive your needs and desires as the greatest value. Although, as for me, this is rather evidence of self-respect and self-love.
Others are sure that only an honest person who does not engage in self-deception can have confidence in himself. Still others believe that this character trait arises under one condition - when the conscience is clear. Fourth – when you manage to accept yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.
They can't be trusted!
Some people cannot be trusted under any circumstances. Otherwise, there will be more negative moments and betrayals in your life.
- It is not recommended to believe liars who have lied more than once and have been caught doing so. It is necessary to understand that slander is a form of lying.
- Does a person make promises and not strive to keep them? You shouldn't trust him either. Remember that attention should be paid not to beautiful words, but to the actions and behavior of a person.
- Psychopaths, emotionally unbalanced people, individuals who are unable to control themselves - you cannot trust them either. You can expect anything from such people, since they are not able to think rationally.
- A person is not worthy of trust if he has negative feelings towards you. It is difficult to identify such people. However, there are some signs. One of them is envy. If a person is jealous, he will be angry at your successes and achievements. In such a situation, trust can lead to dire consequences.
- You should not open up to a person if he has previously committed bad deeds and is not going to repent of it. For example, they cheated on you, but did not admit guilt. In such a situation, you can be sure that nothing will change. If you forgive such a person, he will begin to cheat again.
But still, what is trust for a person in society?
Each of us throughout our lives has been faced with the following question: “Can we trust?” Trust is one of the most important points in life's journey. I think that you have been deceived or put into an awkward position more than once when, having entrusted an important task to someone, you find out that the person could not fulfill your instructions. If such problems arise systematically with the same person, it means that in the future, you should not count on him in difficult moments.
Feeling reliable in another person is an extraordinary, wonderful feeling that relieves us of unnecessary fears and thoughts. If every person could be trusted with any task, then our world would be completely different.
Trust is the basic feeling of confidence between two people or groups of people who have complete confidence in each other. Such feelings are caused by complete confidence in the people who surround us. The main task of the owners of this feeling is to never betray, and always come to the aid of their comrade, partner or loved one
Trust is the basis of positive relationships between people, and is also an important part in achieving a certain success. Each participant in the trust process must be completely confident in the reality of the required assignment. It is necessary that the subject who is trusted has the following qualities:
- decency;
- punctuality;
- goodwill;
- honesty;
- sincerity, etc.
Without such a set of qualities, it is very difficult to trust a person or reveal some secrets to him. You can also say that trust is complete confidence in someone. Those we open up to and trust become part of the overall process. A person dedicated to your affairs is responsible for carrying out the assigned task in the same way as you yourself. Such a tandem of relationships between people strengthens common relationships and brings people closer together. When there is someone you can safely trust, it means that you have the opportunity to achieve great goals and results.
Who can you trust?
Naturally, there are people who should not be trusted. But quite often there are those who will not betray. You need to trust such people. What character traits do they have?
- You need to trust honest people who strive to tell the truth and do not lie in their own interests.
- There are people who only talk but don't act. However, if a person keeps his word, you can trust him. Naturally, it is not always possible to fulfill the promise perfectly. But if he does do what he promised, you can trust him. And you shouldn’t pay attention to small mistakes.
- Calm and correct individuals who know how to keep their emotions to themselves, think with their heads and show adequacy in difficult situations are worthy of trust. Such people will be reliable in any relationship, you can always rely on them.
- You can trust those who do not wish you harm, who sincerely rejoice at any achievements and appreciate you.
- What does a person you can trust look like? We all have our shortcomings and vices. But if a person wants to change for the better, cope with his negative character traits and constantly works on himself, he can be trusted.
What is the use of mutual trust?
If we talk about the usefulness of trust, there are many positive aspects. First of all, responsibility to each other is the foundation of strong relationships and friendly coexistence. By trusting each other in business, it is easier to conduct business and achieve effective results without spending a lot of effort and time on it.
When we trust someone, we rely entirely on the integrity and diligence of the person to whom we reveal our secrets or entrust an important task. Trust is the foundation on which strong relationships are built in various forms. This is friendship and family and business. Only by trusting people will our society move forward, but unfortunately not everyone understands this
When one person trusts another, it has a positive effect not only on your overall results, but also on the people around you, such relationships can be beneficial.
As for the life together of a man and a woman, trust plays an even greater role here. After all, it is impossible to live next to a person who cannot be trusted. You won't be able to make plans for the future together because you don't have a sense of commitment to each other, and that's what trust is all about. Joint efforts can multiply all your efforts, which will help you achieve enormous results in a short period of time, be it a business or a family relationship.
Mutual trust allows you to focus your thoughts and actions on important matters and actions, without thinking about the negative consequences that may arise from a lack of trust between people. If you know that no matter where you are, you will be treated fairly, no one will deceive you or let you down, then life will be much easier. Thus, our world can be made better and much more can be done through joint efforts. Such harmony is the key to a successful society, capable of great opportunities and great discoveries. Trust is the main link in the chain of positive events, which can greatly increase labor productivity and the effectiveness of actions performed.
Trust is one of the main emotional components that allows two people or groups of people to interact to achieve a positive result. Of course, in some cases the goal may be to achieve negative results, but that's a completely different story. The main thing is to understand that trust is a well-coordinated mechanism that works for the benefit of one and the other person. Without trust there can be no friendship, strong and close-knit family, or successful business.
What are the consequences of a lack of trust between people?
If we talk about absolute trust, then in addition to the positive features there are also negative aspects of such relationships. It is worth understanding that as soon as you begin to get used to decency and honesty, people can always appear who are capable of betraying and will set you up at any moment. Honest relationships between people directly simplify our lives, thereby relaxing us and making us less vigilant.
The high level of trust in society makes us weak when we encounter unscrupulous people. In fact, there are a lot of envious and aggressive individuals among us. There are always those who gloat at our failures, those who are ready to ruin all our efforts in an instant. That is why you must always be on alert to prevent an attempt to deceive or act dishonestly towards you.
We cannot know for sure what is on another person's mind, especially if it is a person we barely know. Such people often ingratiate themselves to take advantage of our position or status for personal gain. They don't care that you might fail or suffer significant damage from such actions and intentions.
Therefore, I strongly recommend not to let your guard down and always use critical thinking and question any joint actions. But, at the same time, do not do this to the detriment of your partner, so as not to spoil the relationship.
When trusting people, be extremely careful, because people can very skillfully pretend to be something they are not. In order to trust people, you need to carefully consider all the known actions and deeds of the person to whom you want to assign some responsibilities. Modern reality shows us a very low level of trust between people in society. Perhaps this is related to politics, since today they are the only ones deceiving their people in order to profit from the grief and misfortunes of their own citizens
We live in a world where everyone is for themselves, few are willing to lend a helping hand when you really need it. Here, deception and betrayal can overtake us at any moment. Such a life forces us to be in constant tension and fight for a successful outcome. This is due to the fact that today every person is ready to do anything for their own well-being, even to deceive or betray. Of course, such an attitude towards life is unlikely to lead to anything good, but, nevertheless, this is how this world works.
What do psychologists advise?
You shouldn’t constantly keep everything under control, you need to learn to trust other people. Yes, you can, you are used to being responsible for everything and feel responsible. However, as soon as you loosen control, great relief will immediately come, life will be filled with new colors, and time will appear that you can spend on yourself. And all this can be achieved by starting to trust people.
Allow those around you to make mistakes, because they are not perfect. Let them learn and take responsibility for their own misdeeds on their own. A person is capable of making mistakes, so he must be given a chance to improve.
Be selective: tip five
Pain, disappointment, one deception after another - and the question of whether to trust people becomes the main thing in your life. Trust, but verify - do not bring everyone who wants it closer to you. Opening up is great, but everyone deserves to see your soul laid bare. Selectivity is the key to successful relationships.
Trust risk can have varying degrees.
It can be useful to be aware of what you are actually risking, since unconsciously, in their fantasies, people often experience their risk as either greater or less than it actually is for them.
For example: My friend has been dreaming of seeing New York for many years. However, I was afraid to go apply for a visa (mistrust - what if they refuse?). When we began to find out what he was actually risking, it turned out that only 5 thousand rubles!!! When he realized that he was not going towards his dream because of the risk of losing 5 thousand rubles, he ran like a bullet to the consulate.
I trust you and share another, my story:
One day recently I discovered that I was walking down the street with my skirt half-lifted up (it accidentally rode up from the wind). This is an awkward situation for me, but I am quite resilient in it. I feel rather embarrassed—funny—than unbearably ashamed to tell you about this. I approve of my body and that piece of it that was involuntarily visible, and the fact that I unwittingly find myself periodically in ridiculous situations. I know that someone will sympathize with me, will remember themselves in such incidental situations, someone will be embarrassed, and someone will laugh at me.
To trust means to be prepared for both desired and undesirable reactions!
Since I have enough self-support within this story, the degree of risk for me to tell is small - it’s easy for me to entrust this story to you. However, if there was less support (unbearably embarrassing), it would be more difficult to tell, and I would choose as listeners those who would most likely support me (rather than write here for everyone). And if I wasn’t sure that this chosen someone would support me, I wouldn’t trust this story to anyone at all.
So, it turns out that trust can have different degrees of risk, and that the degree of risk:
- Determined by us from within
- It is determined by our readiness for an undesirable reaction - whether we can, if anything, withstand this undesirable reaction.
Example: if I am a rich person, then there is little risk for me to entrust another 7 thousand rubles in debt. Because 1) 7 thousand for me, a rich person, is a trifle. 2) I’m ready that (he) won’t return it – it’s not a big loss. However, if my monthly salary is 7 thousand rubles, then risking entrusting them to me, a poor person, is a big risk.
Psychology of Betrayal
Betrayal is the deliberate infliction of harm (material, moral or physical) on a person or group of people who has trusted you. Betrayal must be distinguished from apostasy. Apostasy is a refusal to associate with a previously close person or group of people. Let us remember that Peter denied Christ three times, but nevertheless still enjoys respect. Judas betrayed Christ only once, and this act is the standard of betrayal.
Traitors can be active or passive. What they have in common is that they do not have their own business, they live at the expense of creative individuals. Who would have known about Judas if there had not been Jesus Christ? Thus, the traitor is always secondary.
Evgeny Onegin can be considered a passive traitor. So, out of boredom, courting Olga, he provokes Lensky to a duel and kills him. The active traitor is Pechorin. He courts Princess Mary, an inexperienced girl, hiding his affair.
So, if you don’t want to become a victim of betrayal, don’t have loyal people, acquire immunity to admiration. Don't deliver, but don't persecute either. How can you avoid becoming a traitor yourself? After all, betrayal can be conscious or unconscious. But the payback in both cases is the same. After all, when Judas realized that he was a traitor, he hanged himself. Betrayal by a communication partner usually begins with doubts. “Doubt is equal to betrayal,” says Eastern wisdom.
I know one manager who never hires employees who doubt him. And this is an absolutely correct position. After all, if I doubt a person, then, therefore, I see or assume that he has traits that do not suit me. And what difference does it make whether they really exist or not, I behave with him as if they are in him, this is a constant source of unnecessary worries and worries. Isn't it better to immediately refuse communication?
Trust is a change in distance
When a person trusts something to another, he thus changes the distance - namely, he approaches. In fact, trust is the only way to get closer at the initial stage. If you want to get closer, trust, if you don’t trust, reap the fruits of the initiative of the more courageous.
Many people, especially those who have experienced a negative reaction in their parental family in response to their trust (they were criticized, humiliated, rejected, deceived, cold in response to their trust), find it very difficult to trust people. Even understanding that a given person is completely safe, it can be difficult to overcome some internal barrier and open up.
However, by repeating old patterns of behavior, we get the same result. By deciding to trust a new experience, we really change our lives (as in the movie “Always Say Yes”).
Scientists conducted an experiment with a shark that was placed in an aquarium.
Once in the aquarium, the shark studied its size from the inside, and then swam lengthwise and crosswise, without touching the glass walls. After some time, a glass partition was placed in the aquarium, dividing the aquarium into two halves, in one of which our shark remained. The shark hit this partition, trying, out of habit, to swim throughout the entire space of the aquarium; Time passed, and the scientists removed the partition. However! The shark continued to swim in the narrowed space of “its” half, and no longer made attempts to swim into the previously fenced, and now free for passage, half of the aquarium.
In people, we, psychologists, call this behavior a pattern of behavior. Having received the experience of rejection, criticism, deception, a person stops “probing” each new situation for safety - checking whether this very partition is there? And each time you decide anew: not to trust, because it is dangerous and unreasonable, or to allow yourself a new valuable experience of help, friendship and sincere communication.
How can you reduce your risk by trusting someone else?
Sometimes it’s sad - it’s funny to watch how two people look at each other with interest for a long time, and then nothing happens between them.
However, there are more constructive ways to help yourself trust another:
Method 1: Increase your self-support
To greatly simplify it, it means something like this:
- Give yourself the right to make mistakes - treat yourself with love, understanding and condescension in moments of weaknesses and imperfections, allow yourself to have them.
It sounds simple, but as a rule, in order to actually feel peace and acceptance of oneself by everyone, serious work with self-esteem is required.
- Believe that you, if anything, can withstand a negative reaction in response to your trust, and not crumble.
Something like this: “Yes, this person criticized me, let me down (such a scoundrel), but I’m still good, I love and respect myself, and there are other people who understand and support me.”
Method 2: Secure an agreement with another person whom you decide to trust
This agreement should be structured something like this:
- You tell the person that you want to trust him with something, but you have some doubts and concerns. And then you ask him, in response to your trust, not to do this and that and that (what you fear) or, on the contrary, to do something in response to your trust. Very often this works.
For example, ask not to criticize or interrupt you; sign a written agreement, etc. Or, like this: “if I say “stop,” stop asking me,” “promise that in response you will honestly tell me your opinion,” etc.
Remember also that it does not happen like this: I completely trust a person.
Naturally, deciding what and whom to trust is a personal choice. The correctness of this choice, in my opinion, is determined by how well a person lives in the consequences of the choice made.
Distrust is the absence of risky actions.
For example, hiding some information about ourselves, distrusting others help us in most matters. As a result, mistrust leads to an independent solution to a difficult issue for us (since we do not risk trusting another for the sake of receiving support/help). We do not trust because we are afraid of encountering an undesirable reaction - use, lack of help, understanding, support, interest in us.
Example: As one of the participants in my therapeutic group said, she does not want to burden good people - other group members with important and dramatic stories for her, because if they do not save and help her in response to her story, then she will be disappointed and angry on them, and then it will be difficult for everyone.
Ways to learn to trust people
Relationships between people are difficult to build without trust. Thanks to this feeling, relationships between loved ones and friends become harmonious. In the professional sphere, without trust it is impossible to conclude contracts and transactions.
5 ways to learn to trust people
To start trusting others, use the following methods:
- Forgive people who have offended you. Let go of the grudge and it will be easier. Experience with people who failed in a certain situation or acted ugly is just experience. You need to learn this lesson and be careful. You don’t need to assume that everyone will treat you badly. Each person is individual and has many good qualities.
- Don't expect from others what they cannot give. When we trust friends or loved ones, we want them to be completely immersed in our problem or life. They can, due to their character or temperament, advise and console. But in the future they will not remember our problem. By expecting more, we become disappointed and lose trust.
- Develop self-confidence. Confident and self-sufficient individuals are not afraid to trust people. They are not affected by criticism from others. They know how to properly divide people: who is worthy of trust and who is not. Individuals who are confident in themselves attract others like them.
- Trust trusted friends. Situations often arise that we trust unfamiliar friends. And this could turn against us. Therefore, you should trust only those in whom you are confident that they will not let you down or set you up. When meeting new people, do not rush to “open your soul.” You should be careful, look closely and check their integrity.
- Don't be afraid to trust your loved ones. Many people expect their partner to understand that we want to share our experiences. It's worth taking the first step yourself. The reaction on the part of the interlocutor can be anything, you need to be prepared for any development of events and react correctly.
Trust your feelings, thoughts and words to people in whom you are confident. When communicating with new acquaintances, do not “open your soul.” It is important to understand whether you can begin to trust this person.