- September 20, 2018
- Psychology of Personality
- Yulia Shishkina
A good job, wealth and prosperity are undoubtedly an important part of life. But in the pursuit of well-being, people sometimes forget about what it is for. Time is running out, but you still haven’t learned how to spend it enjoying life? In such a situation, it is worth reconsidering your views and trying out a few simple ways to help maintain positive thinking and the right attitude every day.
Optimism is a must!
The most important organ in a person is his brain. The ability to think and make a correct assessment of events allows people to radically change their lives. Believe me, in order to catch moments of happiness more often, you don’t need special conditions or a lot of money. A billionaire on a luxury yacht may feel less satisfied than a poor shoemaker who has just seen his newborn son. Happiness and satisfaction are momentary states, but these are the moments our lives consist of. Direct your thoughts along this path. Put the negative in a distant drawer. Remember Scarlett O'Hara's catchphrase: “I'll think about it tomorrow!”
Look at your situation and always say to yourself the word “but”: it’s a gloomy cold day, but the sweltering heat is over, you can dress warmly and take a walk, breathing fresh and moist air. Family problems? But you have a family and children, and someone dreams of this all their life. Didn't work out with the contract? This is a chance to think about new strategies and perspectives. Live and enjoy this particular day, this moment, this weather and yourself! Literally from tomorrow, start living as if all your dreams have already begun to come true! You'll see what happens soon.
Control your stress levels
Experiences and emotional turmoil are not only unpleasant, but also harmful to health. Therefore, it is very important to ensure that you do not have too much stress in your life.
Avoid communicating with conflicting people and try in every possible way to isolate yourself from negativity. Don't watch TV programs that make you emotional. Replace stress with positive emotions and relaxation. To do this, you can try meditation or, for example, aromatherapy.
Pay close attention to your health and emotional state. If you feel stressed, talk to your loved ones about it or seek help from a psychologist. Take care of yourself as you would the person you love most.
You are the one and only
And this is the true truth! A bunch of complexes and the belief in one’s own inadequacy are formed differently for everyone: some are inspired by their parents, some reach out to a respected friend and blame themselves for their failure, some feel like a gray mouse against the backdrop of a bright, beautiful friend. Why do you love me? If you ask yourself this question sincerely, think: who will appreciate you if you yourself do not know your strengths? How can you enjoy life without self-esteem? If a person has too much self-criticism, self-flagellation and underestimation, it is difficult for him to be happy. There are no people in the world whom nature has not endowed with something that would distinguish them from others. And don’t be afraid to sometimes reward yourself, your loved one, with an unplanned vacation or a delicious dessert. Every day, looking in the mirror, smile at yourself and say: “Life is great! And this day is for me!”
Don't put it off until later
The habit of constantly rescheduling starts with little things, such as the alarm clock when you set the time five minutes later in the morning with a sleepy hand, or with a dirty plate lying in the sink since the morning. It will be difficult at first, but once you learn to do everything at once, you will realize how much time and effort you wasted.
Instead of spending a whole weekend cleaning an apartment that was started on weekdays, take five minutes of time right now. Wash dishes immediately after eating or vacuum as soon as you feel the floor needs cleaning. Then things will not accumulate, and you can do something more interesting and enjoyable.
If you can’t complete all your responsibilities at once, make a to-do list for yourself. When you notice that it contains many unfulfilled items, get down to business. You don't have to live exactly on a schedule, but unnecessary chaos only draws too much attention to itself and you waste valuable time.
Tell me who is your friend
Sometimes a person’s surroundings hinder him from living happily now and here. This does not mean at all that you need to leave your family or stop helping your sick friend. The point is different: soberly evaluate your social circle. If you spend a lot of time in the company of whiners, whose conversations all boil down to criticism, gossip and cursing of an imperfect world, it is unlikely that your perception will be different. Take as an example a person who has everything going well, who is always cheerful and pleased with himself. Watch him, talk, find out his attitude to life, ask about his ability to overcome troubles. Moreover, the age of such a friend is completely unimportant - sometimes the measure of life’s values becomes an old man, wise with experience, and sometimes a very young, life-loving person.
You should always try to communicate with people who are equal to you in terms of moral values, degree of education, and range of interests. Watch TV shows selectively, eliminate negativity completely. An entire industry makes money from this - and you have nothing to do with it.
It’s not customary for us to run to a personal psychologist for advice, like the Americans. Whether this is good or bad is a separate question, but the fact that you need to learn to feel comfortable in the world around you is a fact. Learn to be cheerful from people who call themselves happy.
Find your hobby
Sometimes adults spend too much time working. They are successfully moving up the career ladder, have a good income, but at the same time they still wonder how to learn to enjoy life. But because while carrying out everyday errands, a person forgets to devote time to his hobbies.
Find something you like. Remember how you attended school clubs as a child, and how interesting they were. Bring these feelings back into your life. This could be handicrafts, drawing, singing or just anything that is interesting. You shouldn’t be ashamed of the fact that you want to live, just as you shouldn’t be ashamed of life and do what you like. There are associations of interests in which adults can belong. There you can not only master your hobby in comfortable conditions, but also find new like-minded people or friends.
Can money buy happiness?
How to enjoy life in poverty? Is happiness possible without money? Or is happiness not in money, but in its quantity? This question is discussed by everyone and everywhere. Everyone agrees: money is an opportunity to satisfy your needs. The difference is that everyone's needs are different. Some people want to be rich to ensure their importance and gain power; others want freedom of action and movement. Here lies the answer: money itself, in any form, does not mean anything; pleasure comes from what you spend it on.
Envy is the enemy of happiness
The ability to enjoy your life without comparing it with others and without envying anyone is not given to everyone. Envy kills friendship and love. This feeling destroys family ties and becomes the cause of enmity and crime. For oneself, envy is a bad mood, dissatisfaction and nerve diseases. You can completely get rid of this nasty feeling if you learn:
a) love yourself;
b) love people;
c) find a balance between your needs and capabilities.
There are people who don't like to show their failures. Behind every successful career and happy family there is long and painstaking work, and sometimes great losses that no one wants to wish for themselves. Realize this and try to understand what qualities helped another achieve what you would like. Don’t waste your energy on envy, tell yourself: “Just live and enjoy life.” And remember: at this moment thousands of people dream of what you have! For example, at least the ability to see and read on the Internet.
Make a wish list
Tell me: why is it only when we are faced with something terrible that we realize how limited our life is?
Why do we always think “someday” when we make plans?
Why is the future always better for our desires, but the present is only good for our daily tasks and responsibilities? You know: cleaning the house, grocery shopping, laundry.
If you've never written a Bucket List, don't worry. It doesn't have to be filled with only life-changing extreme events or expensive things. Instead, start small.
Make a Summer Wish List: drinks in the park, free outdoor concert. Write a Winter Wish List: sledding, building a snowman.
The idea behind this tip is to create a Wish List. Read it every day and take the opportunity, when any desire comes true, to mark it as fulfilled on the list. In the future, you will smile every time you do it. And this is how you turn your everyday life into something exciting and interesting.
What does it mean to love people?
This means accepting them as they are. The always dissatisfied and grumpy neighbor may have become like this from loneliness, or maybe her childhood did not work out. Not everyone in the world is kind and fluffy. The world is generally imperfect. Loving life and not trying to educate everyone in your own way does not mean pleasing everyone. Some individuals cannot be educated in adulthood, and neither your kindness nor pity will re-educate them. Build your existence in such a way that you cross paths with those you dislike as little as possible. Live healthy! Don't waste time arguing! The best way to win a conflict is to remove yourself from it.
Sleep
Now this sounds a little counterintuitive, doesn't it? Yes and no.
There are countless studies that say the same thing. Without enough sleep, we are more prone to making mistakes, and we fail to recall memories or complete basic tasks, even our thoughts. But every person is different from another.
I need on average 6+ hours at night and 2+ hours during the day. I stopped trying to change and feeling guilty about it, I just focused my life on the fact that I sleep like this. Otherwise, I won't be working at full capacity and it will prevent me from enjoying the hours I'm awake.
Expectations and reality
Don’t expect too much from life, then there will be fewer disappointments, and each achievement will be more enjoyable. This does not mean that you don’t need to plan anything and set goals. Goals just need to be realistic. Psychologists advise using this tactic. First, learn to live in harmony with yourself now and identify one step in your development (career, relationships) that you can practically implement. After that, raise the bar higher and higher. Never stop there and praise yourself for every success.
Slow down by doing less
Regardless, the first thing you need to do is slow down by doing less. Focus on what's really important and leave the rest for later.
You also need to eat more slowly and not swallow after chewing your food, because this way you won't enjoy your food and experience the taste and texture. You don't enjoy food when you eat quickly.
Likewise, drive slower and appreciate nature and your surroundings rather than constantly rushing.
Spend more family time rather than just talking to your kids and family.
Simply put, just put your heart and mind into action when you do something. Feel the difference between automatic life and slow, conscious life!
Magic words of gratitude
Make it a rule to mentally and out loud thank the Universe for every day of your life, for everything that you have. There seems to be nothing to thank for? Not true! You have life, a roof over your head, water, food, sight. So every day, be grateful to God for this (the Universe, fate, in whom you believe). How it works? Our thought is material. That's for sure! Evil attracts evil, curses return like a boomerang, gratitude is perceived by the Universe and returns with an addition. Sincerely thank the people who helped you.
Do good
No matter how bad you feel at the moment, always remember that there is someone who is even worse. Help someone else around you enjoy every day. You don't need to have a lot of money to do this, just desire is enough. Sometimes a person in trouble needs simple friendly assistance. Just don’t demand praise and brag about your good deeds on every occasion. Sincere goodness should be quiet, and your life, even without embellishment, will be filled with inner light and joy.
Do not hurry
In the modern world, life has a very fast pace, especially in large and noisy cities. People are constantly in a hurry, they want to do everything and try it as quickly as possible. Instead of constantly running towards achieving big goals, think about how to learn to enjoy life here and now.
If you want to get a beautiful, toned body, you don’t need to torture yourself with hours of training. Take your time and exercise for your own pleasure, and the result will come, although it may not happen immediately, but you will not feel tired every day. Enjoy life at any moment, even if you have great difficulty achieving your goal.
The same principle works with other things. Break the task into several parts. Let them do them a little slower, but this will not affect your well-being. Be happy every moment and don't waste your time chasing quick results.
This hateful job
What does it mean to enjoy life? Enjoy every day you live! Wake up expecting something new and go to sleep satisfied with past events. And here’s the hitch: when a person is doing a job he hates, he doesn’t want to wake up in the morning, and restless thoughts keep him from sleeping at night. It is good for those who have the opportunity to earn money with pleasure. What if a well-paid position leads to frenzy and neurosis? There is always a way out.
1. Change your job, profession, leave your current position.
2. Analyze what is more important to you at the moment: a healthy nervous system or the income that gives you the opportunity to support your family? In that case, be grateful that you have such a job.
3. Try turning your favorite hobby into an income source - this has worked for many people. There is income and everyday pleasure.
Set your priorities
When a person pays too much attention to one aspect of life, he may miss other equally important things. And, perhaps, do something all the time that does not bring moral satisfaction. Therefore, you need to set your priorities correctly and decide for yourself what brings maximum benefit and enjoyment to life.
Make a list of the things that make you happy and the things you need to do to ensure a happy life. Anything not included on this list should be carefully considered. Honestly admit to yourself whether you need to waste time on things that deprive you of pleasure, and boldly delete everything unnecessary from your life. This way you will become more free, you will have more time for yourself and the fulfillment of your desires.
The next step is to identify the highest priority items on the list. Leave two to five points and write them separately. They are what you need to become even happier. Go towards your goals while enjoying life every day.
Be persistent
Very often, stereotypes imposed on us by family, society, and environment penetrate so deeply into our consciousness and take root there that we are afraid to be happy if this requires retreating from them. Which university to enter, with whom to start a family, how to communicate with friends, how to spend a day off - it’s up to you to decide. And if you like baking pies, then don’t try to convince yourself that you need a career as a doctor of some kind of science in the name of continuing the family tradition. As a result, both you and those around you will be happy, because communicating with a person who knows how to enjoy life is a pleasure. Don't be afraid of drastic changes. If such a thought has matured, act.
Know how to choose your friends
It's hard not to lose heart when you're surrounded by whiners. If your friends constantly complain about life and see problems in everything, spend less time with them.
Try to communicate with positive, successful, self-confident people. By communicating with them, you can learn a lot and feel much better about yourself.
Communication with positive and self-confident people as an opportunity to adopt their energy and learn a lot
In a healthy body healthy mind
Among people who maintain a healthy lifestyle and a nutritious diet, there are very few gloomy pessimists. Sports, yoga, and dancing increase the level of satisfaction. In addition, group activities allow you to find friends among like-minded people. Spend more time in nature. Try to start by simply walking at least part of the way home from work, preferably through a square or park. A person always finds time for what he really wants. Sometimes you, your loved one, just need to be lifted and pushed into the light.
A person who has health problems cannot enjoy life. Constant dissatisfaction with one's place in society leads to problems with this important component. This is such a vicious circle. Only a personal desire to be healthy and happy can break it.
The same applies to the power system. No debilitating diet brought anyone joy. Constantly hungry eyes cannot look happy. Food brings joy when it is tasty, beautiful and healthy. Individual needs and a sense of proportion are important in everything.
Life is Beautiful! Love her, yourself and your loved ones! And be happy!
