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“Just accept yourself” is advice that can be heard from loved ones or good friends in not the most pleasant moments of life.
What does it mean to “accept yourself”? How to accept yourself? What will it give? What techniques exist for this and which ones really help?
You will find answers to these and other questions in this article.
Important note: working on yourself takes time and effort. Therefore, we recommend that you return to this article in 2-3 days, refresh your knowledge and take on equipment that you have not yet worked with.
Reason for own rejection
As a rule, a person strives to change himself in order to get closer to generally accepted standards of success and beauty. This leads to the fact that he ceases to notice his own merits, and self-esteem decreases. Even if you manage to lose excess weight or achieve a certain status, such a person will still not experience a feeling of joy and complete satisfaction. What often happens is that the emptiness inside only continues to grow.
All this happens only because we refuse to accept ourselves and our life, our reality. Although the main secret of positive change lies precisely in the ability to accept and love yourself for who you are. However, this may not be so easy to do, especially if someone or something reminds you of any shortcomings every day.
Where to begin
How to learn to accept yourself? Acceptance means stopping comparing and evaluating yourself. This means that a person simply accepts all his characteristics as facts. He accepts and knows all his strengths and weaknesses of character, desires and interests, true inner impulses, external characteristics, abilities, mentality and personality, temperament, etc. He allows himself to be himself, does not try to become like someone else or adapt to someone else's standards.
Self-acceptance also presupposes a person’s forgiveness of past mistakes, renunciation of self-flagellation, guilt or shame. And even mistakes in the present are accepted as a normal element of human life. A person allows himself to be wrong or in a bad mood, to doubt, make mistakes, be afraid, etc. He accepts any of his emotions, feelings and reactions.
Important! When you start working on self-acceptance, be prepared for the fact that it will be a long and difficult journey. Both characteristics depend on how much your self-esteem has dropped, how much you have been consumed by complexes. But, one way or another, you shouldn’t expect changes in a day or a week. The first results can be seen in about a month, and a sustainable improvement in life can be seen in at least a year.
When do we stop accepting our flaws?
To accept, understand and love yourself, you must first figure out why we stop accepting ourselves in the first place. During childhood, every child may encounter a situation when their parents no longer understand them. And this is not something out of the ordinary, since children are characterized by actions that do not always lend themselves to logic. For example, a child may be capricious and scream only to attract attention from peers. However, most loving parents can periodically break down and yell at their child even for the slightest reason. Such a reaction on the part of adults is perceived by the child as dislike or rejection. In some cases, he may begin to reject certain character traits that interfere with ordinary life, but are an integral part of his own self. What can we say about those people who happened to grow up without parental care at all?
Unfortunately, we live in a world where only two colors are perceived - black and white. Often people prefer not to understand the shades of gray, but simply label something as “good” or “bad.” Therefore, the world often turns a blind eye to the manifestation of individuality on the part of individuals. One’s own opinion is replaced by generally accepted cliches, and everything that goes beyond them is considered something wrong and is immediately rejected. Even if your family has always followed certain norms and rules, society may influence your own perceptions because other people have never followed these norms.
How to accept yourself. First, stop and realize
Dear girls, understand that you yourself are underestimating your self-esteem. No one, not your boyfriend or husband, not your girlfriends, not your enemies, and definitely not the beautiful girls from the Internet.
No one, only you yourself are underestimating your self-esteem.
You come up with your own limitations and label yourself as something different.
Looking up to the “girls on magazine covers,” we begin to forget what wonderful qualities and advantages we have.
And as a result, questions begin: How to accept yourself? How to love yourself?
Each of us has our own talents, our own uniqueness and beauty.
Every woman on this planet is unique. Each of them is beautiful and beautiful.
Therefore, girls are beautiful, stop right now. Drop the unrealistic ideals you have created that you are trying to live up to.
Stop labeling yourself as something you are not who you should be. Stop focusing on your shortcomings and disadvantages.
Pay attention to how many advantages and cool qualities you have.
At the end of this article, I will give you an effective exercise to help you work through these points.
But before that, I want to talk to you about self-love.
On the subject: How to love yourself: a lifelong novel
What is self-rejection expressed in?
Before learning to accept yourself (methods will be described below), you must first understand how the reflection of your personality is expressed, because the “treatment” method will depend on this.
As a rule, a person becomes too critical of himself because of some little thing. It seems to him that such a disadvantage is something terrible, that other people are better than him. However, it is so easy to speak only from the outside when you do not see the torment that is going on in the soul of such a person.
The main problem is the reluctance to perceive your best qualities and constantly compare yourself with others. At first, we only begin to notice the imperfection of our character or appearance in comparison with other people, after which this dissatisfaction begins to develop into depression and stress. In some cases, self-criticism can develop into judgment of others. We begin to look for flaws even in those close to us, and we experience irritation, anger, dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction.
Why can't a person accept himself?
It's all about the complexes that someone else instilled, and the habit of comparing oneself with other people, which was also instilled by the environment. Usually the problem goes back to childhood. Until the age of 7, a child has not developed critical thinking, so he perceives everything that his parents say as the ultimate truth. If parents tell a child that he is doing everything wrong, that he is bad and unworthy, that he has a disgusting appearance, etc., then the child grows up with these very beliefs. Gradually he adopts the attitude of his parents and becomes a tyrant for himself.
And it happens that the family treats the child well, but peers bully him for some characteristic, for example, for being overweight. Victims of bullying spend years recovering from the trauma. Even in adulthood, not all people can get rid of this shadow of the past.
Note! Non-acceptance of oneself is associated with ignorance of oneself. A person does not know what he is capable of and what he wants. He demands from himself the impossible and alien. He is attracted to the happy and successful lives of other people, but he does not understand that all people are different and everyone has their own path to happiness.
Why is it so difficult to accept your flaws?
Self-acceptance is a rather complex process, which is simply incomparable with the acceptance of others, because we are alone with ourselves every minute. We are more critical of ourselves and know ourselves better than anyone else. People who constantly live at the expense of the opinions of strangers and look at those around them with a cautious eye, experience a feeling of their own inferiority. You should ask yourself three important questions and try to find the most honest answer to each of them.
- What happened in your life that led to a decrease in self-esteem?
- Why did you one day stop believing in and trusting yourself?
- Why is other people's opinion so important to you?
Find the answers to these questions in the depths of your own subconscious. And then you will understand the true reason for your inferiority and will be able to fight it.
Overcoming Self-Hatred: Forgiveness, Self-Compassion, and Understanding
Unlike other dangers, self-hatred is not so easy to overcome. Self-hatred is often the result of cumulative, long-term negative experiences that push a person deeper into a hole of hatred and self-doubt.
Self-hatred is especially destructive precisely because it is eternal; people “caught in a storm” see nothing but their own failures and disappointments, and sink deeper and deeper into depression.
Overcoming self-hatred involves a three-pronged approach involving forgiveness, self-compassion, and understanding. To break self-hatred and overcome self-hatred, people must learn these three essential virtues to create a healthier relationship with themselves.
1) Forgiveness
The first step to overcoming self-hatred is not love. It's unrealistic to expect you or anyone you care about to immediately shift to a more positive relationship with yourself after years of self-hatred.
Self-hatred often stems from a person's inability to forgive themselves.
The crimes of the past, whether they have been forgiven by others or dealt with in one way or another, continue to haunt people and influence the way they see themselves.
Without self-forgiveness, you unnecessarily isolate parts of yourself due to past mistakes (real or imagined, serious or otherwise) and feed the narrative that you are undeserving of any affection or support.
Through forgiveness, you can cross the threshold that is stopping you from moving forward.
Forgiveness is a neutral zone that allows you to move forward; even when self-love is hard to imagine, forgiveness teaches you to come to terms with what you did and accept yourself for who you are.
2) Self-compassion
Dealing with self-hatred involves a certain type of reprogramming in which you train yourself to be more accepting of your flaws and shortcomings.
People who are prone to self-hatred tend to suppress themselves and engage in negative self-talk.
But self-compassion is the antidote to this. It teaches you that it's okay to be imperfect. Here are some exercises to help you practice self-compassion:
Talk to yourself the same way you would talk to a friend. Would you use insulting and derisive language towards someone close to you? Talk to yourself kindly, like you would to a loved one.
Stop striving for perfection. Emotions come and go, and from time to time you may feel angry, frustrated, tired or lazy.
Catch, check and change your thoughts. Be more careful when communicating with yourself to avoid reflexes and negative instincts.
3) Understanding
People who are prone to self-hatred often allow the self-critical voice that everyone has in their head to run the show.
While shame and guilt are normal reactions after doing something you regret, it is important to understand that there must be a line between self-admiration and self-hatred.
Don't mistake the critical voice in your head for your conscience. Your conscience guides you towards the best, while the critical voice is more concerned with punishing you in the worst way possible.
Feeling guilty about not being kind enough or patient enough is one thing, but allowing that inner voice to berate you and dictate how lonely you should be for the rest of your life is crossing the line into self-hatred.
That voice in your head telling you that you are not good enough or how disgusting or incapable you are is just a voice. Once you know this, you lose his ability to hold things over your head.
Where does the fight against inferiority begin?
To accept yourself, psychology recommends taking the path of spiritual development. To do this, you will need to communicate more with wise people, read psychological literature, watch educational videos on self-development. All these actions will help you sooner or later realize that your body or your character traits are not something disgusting - they are part of you!
Ask yourself, “How often do I do things for myself with love?” You can exercise as much as you like, eat only healthy foods, read scientific literature, but if you do not have a passion for this matter, then you will not experience pleasure from this process. This is why people are forced to set unattainable goals for themselves, and then become very disappointed. Therefore, the best way to accept yourself is to start loving what you do. Stop paying attention to the opinions of others about the fact that you are, for example, overweight, and take up painting or something else that you have a passion for.
Training exercises for self-acceptance: how to accept yourself and love your body
True self-acceptance is accepting who you are without any demands, conditions or exceptions. According to therapist Russell Grieger, unconditional self-acceptance is the understanding that you are separate from your actions and your qualities. Those. you admit that you made a mistake, that you did something bad, that you have flaws, but you don't let them define you as a person.
Self-perception of yourself, your body, appearance and attitude towards yourself is what affects our health, self-esteem, relationships with friends and strangers. This is an innovative methodological technique that can often surprise participants with its effectiveness. You can involve children in the method; it is much easier for them to draw their problems than to explain them.
Mapping as a method appeared in South Africa for the study of sick people, then it often underwent changes. But even before this, neuroscientists were interested in the brain's internal representation of the body, called the body map. The exercise is similar to a meditation practice. We move in accordance with our body map, which we think we structure, but we already have it. If there is a discrepancy between the map and reality, then the map will win. Therefore, cards are good at correcting incorrect movements in dancers and musicians. The map displays the processes occurring in you, your thoughts and sensations.
Body mapping is the process of consciously correcting and refining one's internal self-image to produce efficient, coordinated, effective movement through self-exploration. The exercise helps you understand your problem areas, feel changes in your condition and health, and measure your level of comfort/not comfort. This is a slightly simplified diagram of how to create a body map. It is intended for use at home alone or in a small group. Exercises like this make it easier to accept yourself.
Techniques for self-acceptance “Body Map” and “Color of Breath”
The purpose of the exercises: to explore techniques, understand and evaluate the attitude towards your body, understand and improve your emotional state. Help yourself accept the characteristics of your body, i.e. both good and bad (in your opinion). Help eliminate the causes of ailments and diseases.
Acceptance techniques are part of working on accepting yourself and your body. But even after doing these exercises several times, you will get good results and begin to love your body. Further, perhaps the tips from the techniques outlined in the article about increasing self-esteem and self-confidence will help you.
Prepare a rug or something comfortable, find some nice, calm music. Get out some paper, a set of colored pencils, markers or paints. Before starting the exercises, it is better to write your name on a piece of paper and draw a blank - a silhouette of your body. Find an empty room or a quiet area where no one can disturb you. You can do the exercise in a group, or alone. If you do it in a group, there must be a leader who will lead the process.
Duration about 30-40 minutes.
Let's start accepting ourselves
Turn on the music quietly. Now you need to lie down on the floor and take a comfortable position. Take several deep breaths and exhalations. After this, close your eyes and breathe as usual, try to relax. If you cannot do this at once, then address each part of the body. I relax my left hand, I relax my right hand, I relax my neck, I relax my body, ... I relax my forehead. Actually, the same practices that are used for relaxation in this exercise are used in meditation. After this, try to focus on the sensations in your body. Assess your emotional state and try to briefly describe how you feel. ⠀ Imagine how the breathing process happens - how the air enters your lungs and spreads throughout your body. Try to present this in as much detail as possible. Continue to relax and answer the following questions: ⠀ What kind of air do you breathe? Color, density, sensations. How intense is the color of inhaled and exhaled air?
How do you exhale air? What does it feel like to you? Color, taste, density, any other characteristics that you feel. Have they changed compared to what you inhaled?
What do these colors mean to you?
Is the air flowing, passing, or getting stuck somewhere? Where do you get stuck? Do you feel discomfort? And why? Now imagine that your body is a continent . It has the same things as other continents. Mountains, forests, fields, plains and depressions, rivers and seas, deserts and glaciers. There are well-groomed areas, but there are also those where there is desolation and chaos. First, let's pay attention to the valley of forests and clean lakes. Everything here breathes peace, joy, love. You like these places in your body, you accept them, and your body responds to love and acceptance.
Next we move into a zone of constant natural disasters, cataclysms and constant droughts. This is the area of pain. Find the areas in your body that bring you discomfort and pain. Visualize them in your imagination. Earthquakes can occur here, volcanoes can erupt, and floods and droughts constantly occur. How many such places do you have? How often do they cause you discomfort? Try to feel each zone.
Now find warm places with lush greenery and good weather where there is a cool breeze in the morning. These are areas of pleasure and joy. Find and feel these areas of your body. Outline them in your imagination. How many are there on your continent? Are these large areas or small corners? How often do they bring you joy? What is it connected with? What emotions do these places evoke now?
We travel further across our continent and find zones of change. These are the areas that respond when it comes to rapid change. How are changes happening on your continent? Do they happen on their own or are you involved in it? What can you compare them to? Constant care and watering, drainage of swamps, land regeneration, creation of parks. How does change make you feel? How many of them are there on your continent?
Now let's turn our attention to the glacier zones. What's the weather like there? Wind? Sun? Is it snowing? These are areas of your body that you reject or do not accept about yourself. What territory do these areas occupy? Have they always been located here or were there others? Or maybe there was none? How has this area changed? Reasons for the change? Why has this area become rejected?
Feel if there are areas on your continent that you are not paying attention to? Find them and move there. What do you see? These can be deserts or sun-scorched steppes. They seem to be on their own. These are zones of oblivion. How much area do they occupy on your continent? What do they look like?
Now imagine your body as a map. Remember where and how the zones you imagined were located. Take a few breaths and open your eyes. Take pencils/paints, prepared silhouettes and draw a map of your body.
After the exercise, be sure to sketch and write down everything you saw and understood.
▫️Color and size of breath, its change. The color of the air. Color associations. ▫️What feelings towards your own body are clearly expressed? ▫️In what parts of the body do these experiences live? ▫️What thoughts did you have about certain areas? ▫️How can you correct the discomfort?
It is better to repeat self-acceptance techniques several times, for example, 3-4 in a few days or once a week, this is necessary to improve the effect and track how your emotional state changes.
Don't forget to work with glacier and frost zones. Try warming them up a little, defrosting them, watering them and planting them with herbs. Everything happens according to the same method, you relax and start working with the zones, but you pay special attention to the glacier zones and oblivion zones.
This is a very good method of accepting yourself, but if you find it difficult to do everything at once, break it into 2: breath work and body map.
Track moments of rejection
To learn to accept yourself, you must constantly be in a state of full awareness. This will allow you to track those moments when you feel disgusted with yourself. Try to ask yourself questions more often: “What am I doing now?”, “Will this benefit me?” and so on. At one point, you yourself will find the answer to the question posed, after which all that remains is to overcome the reason that led to the feeling of rejection.
Acceptance as a source of health
That is why, having learned to accept the world, we not only improve our health, prevent diseases from appearing in the future, but even recover from many already acquired ailments. It seems like a miracle, but it is true. Many people do not understand how the power of thought can be cured of serious illnesses. And it’s right that they don’t understand. It is very difficult, almost impossible, by strengthening some positive thought or attitude towards recovery, to get rid of the disease. This is not really why recovery happens, and I will tell you this secret.
Healing will occur only if the negative manifestations of the psyche subside and stop draining our strength. This is where our energy goes, leading to illness, mental and physical exhaustion. The mind and body are closely interconnected. And uncontrolled thoughts and emotions consume the lion's share of vital energy, lead to muscle tension, energy blocks, and change the biochemistry of the body for the worse. Once they subside, the body will breathe a sigh of relief and begin the process of self-healing. He will do it himself, without your participation. It contains enormous reserve forces and the ability to self-heal. And our task is not to interfere with him in this, stopping to generate egoistic manifestations of the psyche.
It is precisely the attitude of acceptance that calms down this whole barrage of emotions devouring us. A healthy person is a calm person who shows wisdom and adequacy.
I would like to once again recall the main thesis, which has already been repeated several times in various articles on this blog.
Selfish thoughts and emotions distort our view of reality, take away vitality, and therefore lead to illness.
Reconsider your own beliefs
Constantly ask yourself the question: “How to accept yourself as you are?” Psychology will help you figure this out. Try to criticize yourself less for the slightest offenses, because it is self-criticism that leads to your own rejection. To do this, you need to deal with those beliefs that are inside you and force you to constantly criticize yourself. Perhaps the reason for this was someone’s opinion that hurt you, and now you have decided to change radically. In this case, it’s worth asking the question: “What role does this person play in your life?” If it is minimal, then is it worth taking his opinion into account at all?
What will self-acceptance give you?
Self-acceptance is the first step to personal change. When you accept yourself, you see the whole picture, not just your flaws. You know what strengths to rely on when you want to engage in self-flagellation. Every step we take leads to a chain of consequences. In the case of self-acceptance, it looks approximately like this:
- Internal tension will go away, which will affect your physical condition;
- Instead of wasting time reproaching yourself, you will begin to look for a way out of the current situation;
- New experience will appear : it turns out that problems can be solved in another way;
- Self-esteem and self-confidence will increase;
- Your attitude towards others will change. The skill of accepting yourself often leads to accepting others. Such a side effect. As a result: there will be fewer conflicts, there will be a clear understanding of who is worth communicating with and who is not;
- You will begin to take advantage of the opportunities that life gives.
All this does not happen overnight. Personal development is a long-term game. But right now you can lay the foundation for your happiness and well-being in the future.
Keep an acceptance journal
Journaling is not only one of the best ways to love and accept yourself, but also a good tool for self-control and self-development. Try to write down on paper all the situations when you did not accept yourself. Be sure to track changes and reward yourself for success. However, you should not hope that after several weeks of such self-control you will learn to accept yourself entirely, because such changes begin with little things. Write down all the changes within yourself and re-read evidence of your progress in moments of self-judgment and decline.
Acceptance as a source of happiness
Acceptance is a psychological attitude, a certain view of reality, when we accept reality, life as it really is. The opposite of it is rejection, when we do not agree with what happened, we make our egoistic demands on the world around us. As a result, we become angry, resentful, depressed, or experience other negative feelings. This is how suffering and illness appear. Often a person simply becomes depressed.
The world that surrounds us does not always correspond to the mental templates hanging in our heads. It is complex, diverse, and therefore can also be cruel and unfair. But people do not accept this state of affairs. We all want the world to revolve only around us, for other people to do what we like, for there to be no difficulties in life, for everything to go smoothly and beautifully. But this is an illusion. This is not a wise, childish view of the surrounding reality, which gives rise to all sorts of problems in life. But most people live like this, without even understanding why things aren’t working out for them and how to change it.
But once you learn the skill of acceptance, life will immediately begin to change for the better. This is how we come to happiness. After all, acceptance is not hanging your head in the face of difficulties, not giving up positions, but only an adequate view of things without dissatisfaction, in which we can also change and improve something. But we will do this much better, because we do not dwell in our illusions, but accept the truth of life. We do not run away from reality with the help of our fantasies and inflated demands. Rejection is an escape from reality.
Acceptance is a sober look at reality. Thanks to this, we begin to act more productively, make fewer mistakes, and therefore achieve more. But reality, I assure you, with this approach will only help you and improve your life. After all, you began to cooperate with her, and not run away from her, demand too much from her. You have yet to realize this paradox.
Remember the fairy tale about the goldfish. If you interact with the world with the help of your egoistic motives, demand from it the realization of your ego’s desires, you will get the opposite. So you fight the world, you want to squeeze everything out of it and only for yourself. The world will not forgive you for this. On the contrary, by cooperating with the world, understanding it, accepting any of its manifestations, whether they are not the best for you during this period of life, in the long run you improve your life. Therefore, it is very important to learn to accept any situation in life as it is.
Rejection is a manifestation of our ego, the lower consciousness of man. Acceptance is a manifestation of our soul, when the lower egoistic motives that generate a flurry of uncontrollable negative emotions subside. That is, having learned to accept, we mentally relax, we come to peace and tranquility. This mental work is much more productive. We do not make mistakes, we act confidently and clearly, listening to both our hearts and our minds. It’s just that now the ego will no longer rush around in its illusions and fetter and absorb our attention.
Remember the rule: the ego distorts the view of reality. We don't see the truth, we only see the distortion that the ego creates. We live in a kingdom of distorting mirrors. Imagine that we look in the mirror, but we see a distorted reflection there, like in a funhouse. It is our programs, settings, and templates that introduce this distortion. A pure view of the world is possible only with mental silence, when emotions and ego feelings subside. It is precisely acceptance that contributes to such silence.
Bright positive feelings will appear in the soul: joy, love, understanding, compassion. We begin to be content with what we have and feel the joy of life itself, from simply living. This is how we come to happiness. You see how everything is interconnected.
It would seem that such a simple mental attitude as acceptance radically changes everything in a person. It’s just time for us all to understand, and this has been repeatedly said on this blog, that our attention, the work of our consciousness is closely interconnected with the rest of the body. Certain programs and settings force our attention to work in a certain way, absorbing or, on the contrary, releasing energy into space. And emotions and feelings necessarily affect the body in different ways, change its biochemistry, cause muscles to contract or, on the contrary, relax them.
Negative emotions as a result of rejection poison the body, cause blocks, and lead to physical illness.
Understand who you really are
To learn to accept yourself, you need to perform a certain algorithm of actions every day. Start asking yourself questions like: “Who am I?”, “What is my name,” “Am I my body?” However, this is best done in a meditative state, when the mind is completely cleared of extraneous thoughts. Otherwise, you risk starting to ask yourself such questions in moments of self-criticism, which will only worsen your own condition.
Over time, you will come to realize that you are not just a person with a specific character, but something more. You have a global goal in this world and you are obliged to fulfill it. You are the spirit of the universe, a piece of the creator, something more than just flesh and blood. Learn to remember this every time you have a moment of self-rejection. After this, the realization will come that the body is just a tool that will sooner or later become unusable, but the spirit always remains immortal.
How your life will change when you start loving yourself
Overcoming self-hatred is more than just living a stable existence. Over the years, that sarcastic, judgmental, and ruthless voice in your head may have convinced you that self-hatred is the only way to protect yourself from the world and vice versa.
But what you don't realize is that self-hatred creates an insurmountable barrier between who you perceive yourself to be and who you really are.
By breaking down these barriers, you gain a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses and gain a healthier outlook on relationships.
Here's why you should overcome self-hatred:
- You will begin to emerge from the box.
- You will no longer feel the need to seek approval from others.
- You will know how to set healthy and respectable boundaries with other people.
- You will feel more in control of your happiness.
- You will become more independent.
- You will no longer need to fill the emptiness and silence with other people.
Work on overcoming self-hatred, not because it's what you should do, but because it's what you deserve. You live in a time when anything is possible with hard work and determination. Don't miss out on life and your full potential by listening to the voice telling you that you are wrong.
You are not your own enemy. Your flaws and shortcomings do not constitute your worth as a person.
Once you turn off the voice that is mentally holding you back, you will be surprised how far you can go.
Take an example from young children
This may sound a little ridiculous, but children behave much more correctly in the matter of self-perception than adults. They sincerely rejoice at even the slightest victories and try not to dwell on defeats. Will a baby really blame himself for falling when he was learning to walk? No. He will take it for granted and continue to move towards his intended goal.
Of course, all children need love and care. It is vital for the proper development and formation of personality. If you deprive a baby of its mother, it is the same as depriving a person of the sun. It is possible to live physically, but this significantly slows down the development process. With age, this need does not go away, but only intensifies. Therefore, try to find a soulmate who will accept you for who you are. Or get a portion of care and attention from friends.
Another striking feature of all babies is that they live “here and now.” They do not look to the future and do not live in the past. Remember the last time you felt happy? Yes, many of us want to get rich, find love, a worthy occupation, and then start living happily. However, why is it so necessary to wait for the future for this? Isn't it enough to be completely absorbed in the present moment and enjoy the new day like a child?
Movement as a way of life
By movement I mean movement on three levels simultaneously.
1. Movement of the spirit - the ability to quickly think, think, understand, realize, set goals and objectives.
2. Movement of the soul - the ability to use the memory library, feel, find and obtain the necessary knowledge from your subconscious and the information field of the Universe in order to understand how, in what way, to realize what the Spirit has planned.
3. Movement of the body - the ability to sense, direct, manifest in matter - in Reveal what the Spirit intended and in the ways that the Soul found.
You can move either in one direction or the other, forward or backward. It is impossible to move in two different directions at the same time. This is how our universe works.
So a person either moves forward along the road of his life, or moves backward. It develops, cognizing everything that exists through itself, or it collapses, taking the surroundings with it. And it depends only on the person himself where and how he moves.
Stopping is impossible. Stopping is death. There is no stop in nature, only the constant movement of life. The speed may be different, the conditions may change, but the movement always continues.
When there is self-acceptance, trust and faith, then movement forward is aimed at life and creation. Without accepting something in ourselves, we thereby take a step back, moving towards self-destruction.
Rebirth of unconditional love
Working with the inner world helps you accept yourself, but this process can only lead to a worsening of your condition if you do not know how to control yourself and your own thoughts.
First you need to enter a meditative state. To do this, you need to take a comfortable position, close your eyes and imagine that you are in a place in which you are comfortable and cozy, in which time literally stands still for you. This could be the edge of a forest, the ocean shore, the top of a mountain, and so on. Try to make sure that you don't care about anything except your surroundings. Throw out of your head all the thoughts that burden your consciousness.
In the first few weeks, meditation will be very difficult, but over time you will learn to remember the sensations of entering the meditation “mode”. During this process, you need to think only about the good. Try to make the rays of love and warmth warm your body, even if in fact you are sitting all alone in a cold apartment. You can try to remember moments of self-judgment and analyze them. However, it would be best to set your consciousness the attitude that you intend to heal from the state of your own rejection and regain that feeling of unconditional love for the whole world, as in childhood.
The purpose of this exercise
The goal of this exercise is not only to write down all your qualities, both positive and negative.
The goal is to accept yourself as you are and appreciate your qualities. Accept your shortcomings, your bad qualities. The fact that they exist, they exist.
But it’s not just that you accepted your shortcomings and that’s it, you don’t need to do anything else.
You should come to the realization that you value yourself for who you are and accept yourself for who you are. But you can be even better.
And you work on yourself, become better. But without forcing yourself, without reproaching or condemning yourself. But simply walking your own path and in the rhythm in which you go.
And if you want to compare yourself, then compare only with yourself yesterday. Celebrate every positive change, every little thing. Rejoice at these changes, praise yourself for every success.
You will notice how your self-esteem and self-confidence begin to grow every day. You will feel the energy and joy of being you. Notice your uniqueness and uniqueness.
And this is exactly the state of fullness in which any intentions are perfectly realized.
If you want your desires to be fulfilled easily and with pleasure, then the first thing you need to do is accept and love yourself.
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I wish you good luck with this exercise and I hope I answered your question: how to accept yourself.
