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In continuation of our conversation about life without haste (see the article What is slow life or How to get out of the matrix ) - a new trend of our era, a new look at your life, I want to say this.
The idea of “slow living” does not mean “doing nothing” while lying on the lawn. Against. Adherents of this lifestyle specifically choose a job that will NOT “take away” all of their time , but only a small part of it. For what?
Yes, just in order to have time to do and try the most in your life. To have a balance in life between work (business), personal life .
To have more free time to communicate with family, to achieve your goals, to fulfill your desires. To make your dreams come true. Other useful articles: Are you a humanitarian or a techie? * The most profitable and promising professions * All ways to make money on the Internet * How to create passive income from scratch?
John Goddard's Life Success
Successful people claim that 50 human life goals is not the maximum. The longer your list of goals, the better you will be able to understand your true desires.
On a note
For example, John Goddard, at the age of fifteen, set himself not even 50 vital, main goals that he sought to achieve, but 127! For the uninitiated, information: we are talking about a researcher, anthropologist, traveler, holder of scientific degrees, Member of the Society of French Explorers, the Royal Geographical Society and the Archaeological Society, multiple record holder of the Guinness Book of Records.
On his half-century anniversary, John celebrated 100 of the 127 goals he had set. One can only envy his rich life.
When and how is it formed?
The foundation of a life position is laid in early childhood. And as the child grows up, its walls either strengthen or weaken. The construction of this framework will depend on the parents and close environment in which the individual grew up. Namely: from heredity, upbringing, family traditions and other things.
But this does not mean that if a bad life experience has been received, the person will not have any or a passive life position, not at all, it can be consciously changed, just like character. So, let’s be clear: the formation of a life position begins from birth. Look at yourself from the outside, if you are not satisfied with life, rethink it, perhaps you are doing something wrong. Try to change yourself.
Goals to avoid shame and pain
A happy person is called accomplished and successful. No one will call a loser happy - success is a component of happiness. Almost everyone remembers Ostrovsky’s famous phrase from “How I Became Tempered” about how to live my life. The end of the quote is especially striking: “So that it doesn’t hurt excruciatingly...” So that at the end of your life you don’t feel pain and shame for wasted time, you need to set goals for yourself today.
To consider life successful, a person must achieve 50 of the most important life goals in old age. Summing up his life, a person compares what he dreamed of with what he achieved. But it happens that over the years it is difficult to remember many of your desires and goals, so it is difficult to make comparisons. This is why it is so important to write 50 most important goals in life on a piece of paper and periodically re-read the list.
Another important aspect is to try to write down SMART goals. This means that your goals must meet five important criteria: specific, measurable, relevant, achievable, and time-bound.
How to make a rough plan
It is convenient to draw up draft plans for the future in electronic format. It’s a hassle on paper; you’ll need to constantly edit the list of goals. I made over 50 edits to the last plan.
For clarity, we break down goals by , like in the wheel of life. We write down all the goals that come to mind for each source.
Use the templates:
Template with goals: open, , Google.docs, Evernote.
Life planning template: open, download, Google.docs, Evernote.
We take each source of goals, come up with and write goals based on it, without much analysis. First, let's just put everything together. There is a personal meaning to life - we wrote down goals to realize it. There is a purpose - they wrote it out. Old dreams are written out. We did the 100 desires exercise and wrote down the 10–15 most burning ones. We imagine ourselves in 10 years, where and with whom – we write it out.
We make a plan for the year - write down all the goals.
I draft it in a week. I spend three more weeks editing, agreeing on goals, and adjusting it to reality. I have all my goals and long-term plans written down in a notebook, more than 30 pages of different wants and dreams. I leaf through it and write down what I would like to implement now, repeat 4-5 times.
Within each sphere, create 3-4 goals. We leave only the most want-to-can-do, mentally imagine how you will fulfill the goal, if you don’t imagine it, cross it out.
I recommend creating a backup plan: moving there all the goals that do not fit into the annual plan. When you manage and have nothing to do, the goals are already ready.
If you are making a plan for the first time, it is better to plan simpler goals and 2-3 goals at a time. If you dream of running a marathon, set a goal of running 5 km to start. You will have time to complicate the goal. Initially, everyone overestimates their abilities. If after six months you close the plan, make a plan for the remaining year, with the joyful feeling that everything you planned has worked out.
Future plans should take into account your experience.
If you look at the draft and anxiety appears, “How will I manage to do all this?” – lighten it up so it’s rich but not overwhelming. The more experienced you are, the more you will plan your own way.
Human needs
Before making a list, you should understand what is priority and vital for a person. Air, drink, food, sleep - the 4 most important needs of organic life. The second row comes health, housing, clothing, sex, recreation - necessary attributes of life, but secondary. Unlike animals, humans tend not only to satisfy the basic needs of life; they want to do this while receiving aesthetic pleasure.
It is impossible for a person to live without satisfying primary needs, and without satisfying secondary needs it is difficult. Therefore, if at least one link in this chain is destroyed, the person suffers physically, firstly, morally, secondly. He's unhappy. But even if all the vital needs of an individual are satisfied, his life cannot be called happy. This is such a paradox.
Therefore, the 50 vitally important, priority goals of a person must necessarily include points, through the implementation of which the primary and secondary needs of a person would be satisfied.
Adding to the list such goals as “buying your own house” or “relaxing at sea”, “doing the necessary medical operation” or “getting your teeth treated and inserted”, “buying a fur coat” and “buying a car” may not be so important for complete happiness ( why - will be discussed below), but achieving them makes living on earth more comfortable for people. To satisfy these needs and achieve the goals listed above, an individual needs money. And, when selecting the 50 most important goals of a person, the list must include an item regarding the financial condition of the individual. Examples of such goals:
- find a high-paying job;
- open your own business;
- ensure that the business generates a net income of more than $10,000 per month, and the like.
Sample list of 50 goals
Spiritual self-improvement:
- Read the collected works of J. London.
- Complete English courses.
- Forgive grievances against parents and friends.
- Stop being jealous.
- Increase personal efficiency by 1.5 times.
- Get rid of laziness and procrastination.
- Write at least 1000 characters daily for your unfinished novel (personal blog).
- Make peace with your sister (husband, mother, father).
- Start writing a personal diary every day.
- Attend church at least once a month.
Physical self-improvement:
- Go to the gym 3 times a week.
- Go to the sauna and pool weekly.
- Do a set of exercises every morning;
- Every evening, take a walk for at least half an hour at a brisk pace.
- Completely abandon the list of harmful products.
- Once a quarter, go on a three-day cleansing fast.
- In three months I will learn to do the splits.
- In winter, go on a ski trip to the forest with your grandson (son, daughter, nephew).
- Lose 4 kilograms.
- Douse yourself with cold water in the morning.
Financial goals:
- Increase your monthly income to 100,000 rubles.
- Raise the TIC of your website (blog) to 30 by the end of this year.
- Go to the level of receiving passive income.
- Learn to play on the stock exchange.
- Learn to make custom websites yourself.
- Repay your bank loan early.
- Entrust all housework to automatic machines in order to save time for earning money.
- Save on pointless and harmful things: cigarettes, alcohol, sweets, chips, crackers.
- Purchase all products from wholesale stores, except perishable ones.
- Buy a summer house for growing fresh organic products.
Comfort and pleasure:
- Buy a four-room apartment with all amenities.
- Buy a Mazda RX-8 car.
- Visit Italy and Spain.
- Take a massage course.
- Go on vacation at least 2 times a year.
- Buy a fur coat made of ermine to the very toes.
- Ride a live Indian elephant.
- Jump with a parachute.
- Go to a live concert of your favorite artist.
- Meet with friends at least once a week.
Charity:
- Contribute 10% of profits to the orphanage every month for gifts for children.
- Organize a New Year's performance with gifts for orphans using the efforts of a local theater - finance it.
- Do not pass by those asking for alms - be sure to give alms.
- Help a homeless animal shelter by donating money to feed the dogs.
- For the New Year, give all the kids at the entrance a small present.
- On Elderly Day, give all pensioners a set of groceries.
- Buy a computer for a large family.
- Give unnecessary things to those in need.
- Build a children's playground in the yard.
- Help the financially talented girl Tanya go to the “Light Up Your Star” competition in Moscow.
How to decide on the best life position?
You need to analyze your life. Start with habits, reconsider values and priorities. Change your thinking. Here are examples of life positions:
- Helping people. By helping, a person benefits not only others, but also himself, because he will certainly be thanked with a kind word and rewarded with a blessing. And this is the highest reward.
- Self improvement. Also, one of the best positions in life will bring stunning success, lead to achieving your goal, and the result of your work will be appreciated by others. Don’t be idle, read books, articles, attend trainings, development courses, play sports, go to the theater and exhibitions. It is necessary to constantly develop.
- Family and children. If you have chosen this life position for yourself, then you are wise and smart. After all, this is our main reassignment in life. Work hard, surround your children with love and care, help them realize themselves, make family members happy. This is the highest achievement.
Only you can decide your best position in life. The main thing is to never give up, move forward, and don’t lose heart. Understand that worries, depression, fears and bad mood will not correct the situation, but will only worsen it. Spread your wings, take off, dream and strive to achieve your goals.
Demand as the main component of happiness
In addition, for complete happiness of an individual, something else is necessary. And this “something” is called recognition. Only when in demand does a person feel his importance, pleasure, and happiness. Each person has their own criteria for recognition. For some, a simple “thank you” for preparing dinner is enough. Others feel a feeling of complete happiness from the manifestations of tenderness of a sexual partner - this is recognition, the identification of an individual among all others.
For some, it is enough to bring sterile cleanliness to the house and hear words of admiration from their neighbors, while others need to see delight in the eyes of those they meet when they see their appearance, figure, outfit, hairstyle. For others, it is important to recognize them as excellent parents. For the fourth, recognition on a broader level is necessary. These fourth people do not limit the circle of people with whom they want to be recognized: relatives, loved ones, neighbors, fellow travelers, passers-by.
These are scientists, pioneers, major businessmen, creative people and a number of other professions. The most successful are people who receive recognition both from their loved ones, friends, children, neighbors, and from colleagues, fans, viewers, readers - a wider range of people. It is important to add the appropriate items to the list of “50 goals in my life.” Examples of such goals could be:
- find your soul mate to create a family, who (who) will be such and such, for whom I will feel respect, love (passion), feelings must be reciprocated;
- help my son successfully finish school;
- give children higher education;
- defend a thesis;
- release your own collection of stories (disc of songs) or organize an exhibition of paintings.
What are your life goals
Set the right goals in life and confidently move in the direction of your plans. Part of the meaning of a person’s life is goals, the search for one’s place in this world.
When there are no plans and prospects, a person gets the impression of uselessness and uselessness. And when there are goals, they are clear and defined, a person knows where to move, and clearly understands the meaning of his life.
When you're not sure how you want to plan your life, look at your values.
Every person is brought up in some traditions. Think about those people and ideas that impressed you, made you happy, and inspired you. These memories will provide ideas for writing goals.
Your task is to be able to accept your values and build a future life in harmony with them. The ability to live up to your values and live with them means prioritizing experiences and people who share these life priorities.
For example, general goals: meeting and communicating with old friends more often or spending more time reading. It is important to find out for yourself what you are most passionate about and form plans around this passion.
You should not think that the plan cannot be changed. The plan should be a living document. Everything changes in the world, things, people, circumstances in life.
It happens that some points in the plan have become irrelevant and there is no point in implementing them. Therefore, a list of goals can be used as inspiration. As a scheme for implementing tasks, so as not to forget what we want from life.
Intermediate goals
Achieving global goals requires actions to help move forward. Therefore, it is necessary to write intermediate goals related to advanced training, education, and acquisition of skills. And in the list of “50 human life goals,” examples of these could be:
- read the collected works of Dostoevsky;
- reading manuals for businessmen, authored by John Rockefeller (for example, “12 golden rules” for success;
- studying the life stories and paths to success of major figures of science and culture;
- studying of foreign language;
- obtaining a second education.
This list can be continued at your own discretion, based on the main goals.
Developing self-discipline
A complex goal differs from a simple one in the number of steps required and whether you have the necessary abilities.
If there are no abilities, the goal is supplemented with steps to develop them. How is the goal of becoming a programmer different from the goal of becoming a barista? To become a programmer, you need to read 5 books and practice for six months. To become a barista, you need to take a course and brew coffee for a week. The difference is in the strength of self-discipline and patience in pursuing the intended goal.
To begin with, I recommend choosing 1-2 goals from the example, modifying them to suit yourself and achieving them. Without a habit, it’s hard to move on 3-5 goals every day at once - it’s better to take 3 steps over six months than 5 steps over a week and give up.
Goals-motivators
To achieve the main goals, incentives are needed that occupy the position of intermediate goals. They are included in the list by designating; "50 intermediate life goals of a person." The list of these goals includes the following items:
- go on a trip around the world;
- buy a new laptop;
- make repairs in the apartment;
- update your wardrobe for the new season.
Some may write the items “to have facial plastic surgery” or “to perform abdominoplasty.” After all, for many, improving their appearance is a hidden desire, which they are sometimes ashamed of. But when compiling a list of motivating goals, you must definitely write down those that will give a person pleasure in life. These goals do not have important life needs, but without joy and pleasure a person languishes, he is bored with life, and the meaning of achieving his main goals is lost.
Recommendations for setting goals for the year
- Check each goal using the algorithm for setting an individual goal. Read: How to correctly create a SMART goal.
- Create goals that are independent of each other.
Last year, I set as many as 3 dependent goals. 1. Promote the site. ↳2. Earn money from it.↳3. Hire 4 people for the team. The first goal was not achieved, and automatically dependent goals were not completed. - Distribute the load.
Last year, I wrote sports goals that were difficult for me - all with a load on my arms. - Do 200 push-ups.
- Learn to play tennis.
- Get used to walking on your hands
Iron cross on rings.
I just learned to play tennis. The rest were not completed.
Goal: do 200 push-ups. My old record is 108, but I reached 101 times. If I bet 120 times, I would have achieved it. I was afraid of complexity and put it off. And if it worked, I would finish it up to 150-200 times.
Three years ago I returned from training. In a wave of delight, without thinking, I entered as many as 7 goals - all difficult. He didn’t even take a step towards them.
Charity is the most important human goal
Studying the path to success of John Rockefeller, everyone sees: he is a philanthropist. Donating a tenth of profits to charity is the main rule of his life. According to psychologists, helping people is useful and extremely pleasant. Therefore, in the “50 vital goals”, when compiling a list, you should include points relating to this aspect of life. By doing charity, a person enjoys receiving recognition.
Even doing good incognito, he is satisfied by seeing the fruits of his good deeds. Performing charitable acts should be on the list of vital goals. “50 charitable goals in life” in the general list may include the items “build a shelter for abandoned animals”, “open a kindergarten for disabled children”, “regularly provide financial assistance to an orphanage” and others.
Here you can also write smaller specific goals, for example, “donate 100 flannel diapers to the Baby House” or “bring your old neighbor a free weekly ration, supposedly from social security.” Having compiled a list of 50 life goals, a person receives a plan of action in life, sees what he needs to achieve, what to strive for.