Emotional stability should no longer elude you. If you are trying to ground yourself and find balance in your approach to life, problems and even your daily happiness, you have come to the right place.
Emotional stability does not mean that you never get angry or angry, but it does mean that you have what it takes to process those emotions and see them for what they are: responses to your thoughts about a situation or circumstance.
According to Science Direct, emotionally stable people "react less to negative stimuli and are therefore less frustrated, less distracted, and more confident in their abilities."
You recognize that things are happening for you, not to you, and you want to continue to improve your ability to cope and manage life in a way that serves you rather than takes from you.
If you want to improve your emotional stability, start with these 7 things.
1) Stop saying yes to everything.
Do you always say “yes” to everything, even if you know when you really want to say “no”?
According to Dr. John Belford, the desire to say yes to everything "can wear down the distorted, irrational worry of abandonment."
To ground your life and focus, you need to stop running around like a chicken with its head cut off.
To find more balance, you need to stop saying yes to everything and feeling like you owe all your time to other people.
Start by eliminating things that drain your energy and awareness, and try to say “no” when a moment, an opportunity, or even a person is not serving you.
It's okay to be selfish with your time and energy—it's what you need for emotional awareness.
When you're tired and exhausted, it's easy to get swayed and find yourself doing things you don't want to do.
When you say no to nothing, you say yes to everything.
This can drain your energy and resources to take care of yourself. We often don't realize how much we give to others around us, especially children and spouses, extended family and friends.
If you want to be more emotionally stable, you need to be aware of yourself and the energy to understand what is happening and when.
Delayed reactions can make you feel overwhelmed and make things worse than they really are.
By saying no to more things, including people, expectations, and responsibilities, you make room for the things that really matter in your life.
Stability
Doctor! I have a chair. Regularly. At 6:00. For five years. - Yes? I congratulate you! Enviable stability of the stomach! - Doctor! But I wake up at seven.
Stability as a personality quality is the ability to maintain significant, future development; the ability to behave in a consistent, recognizable, predictable manner in a wide range of situations.
One day the Teacher was invited to dinner by the ruler of the country in which the School of the Way was then located. They talked about general topics, but the Teacher could see that the ruler wanted to ask about something that worried him very much. Then the Teacher said: “Ask!” Otherwise, I’m afraid that etiquette and your good manners will never give up. The ruler (and it should be noted that he was very wise, and he was respected not only by the rulers of neighboring states, but also by the inhabitants of his country, which happened rarely at all times) smiled gratefully and said: “Teacher!” I wanted to ask you this. What do you think is most important for entrepreneurs in my country that depends on me? In other words: what can I do to help business people in my country prosper? “The most important thing,” answered the Teacher, “is to create rules and promise that you will not change them for a long time.” - How so? — the Ruler was surprised. — Entrepreneurs constantly tell me about reducing taxes and improving legislation?! “Don’t tell me you’re listening to them!” - exclaimed the Teacher.
Stability is the ability to preserve what is important to you. There is no point in fighting the most powerful force - Time. Everything flows, everything changes. Nothing is eternal under the Moon. It is absurd to talk about some kind of absolute eternal stability. It cannot be found either in personal relationships or in society. French diplomat Jean Giraudoux generally stated: “Peace is the interval between two wars.” And, nevertheless, there is every reason to assert that some people, under the influence of whatever force they are, tend to strive for stability.
A person in goodness strives to achieve stability in personal growth and self-improvement. He sets himself an impossible goal in life - to achieve perfection and steadily moves towards it. This is a kind of desire for infinity, but there is so much of a specific taste of happiness in it, incomprehensible to people in passion and people in ignorance. A person in goodness, as a dynamic system, is constantly evolving. For him, stability is the development and growth of personality. In the ability to maintain a daily routine - to work properly, rest, eat, fulfill one’s duties, satisfy one’s intellectual and spiritual needs, a good person finds his stability. It may not be able to compete with His Majesty Time, but it provides relative stationarity, strength and stability. Such stability gives ideal health, joy and success in self-awareness. By demonstrating this personality quality, a person becomes resistant to the difficulties of life, cultivates determination and strengthens the mind. A person’s stability in goodness is also manifested in respect, decency and loyalty to his loved ones. This type of stability is invaluable because it improves relationships between loved ones at any stage of their development.
A person in passion discovers relative stability in the ability to regularly and consistently perform some kind of work to realize his material goals. What is stable for him is only the attachment of insatiable feelings to pleasures, delights, in a word, to some material objects. In general, stability is unknown to a person in passion. As A.A. wrote Blok: “And eternal battle - we only dream of peace.” In the asceticism of a lifelong race for material wealth, he acquires illness, fatigue and disappointment. It is not for nothing that ancient wisdom says: “Asceticism performed out of pride, for the sake of gaining respect, honor, and worship is considered to be in passion. It can be neither solid nor permanent.” The pursuit of material well-being does not add stability. On the contrary, it exhausts a person, undermining his mental stability. The body's immune system suffers, the vascular and nervous systems are disrupted.
A man in passion says: “It seems to me that I have achieved financial stability.” - How do you express this? - The fact is that there was no money, no and, it seems, there won’t be any.
The formula for stability of people in ignorance is white vodka, blue sky, red face, wonderful life. That is, a person finds stability in the implementation of his vicious qualities day after day: drink, eat, fight and fall asleep. The day has passed, well, to hell with it. Stability in ignorance means staying true to your addictions and bad habits. A persistent attachment to the search for pleasure, perversion and a burning desire to satisfy one's animal needs for food, sleep, sex and comfort leads to stability in ignorance. Dr. O.G. Torsunov writes: “It is expressed in dullness of consciousness, in which, despite numerous sufferings, not the slightest desire to change appears. Stability in ignorance causes all sorts of bad habits that last for years and mainly lead to severe chronic diseases and tumor processes. However, the biggest trouble is that a person’s deep mental functions suffer from an ignorant life. This always leads to degradation of consciousness. There is only one way to get rid of bad habits - you need to change your communication from ignorant to blissful. This is how you can begin to strengthen the power of your mind.”
A person can be called stable if he is oriented toward moderation and justice. Plato also noted: “This seems to me to be a goal that one must see before oneself throughout one’s life, and for the sake of it one should not spare one’s strength—neither one’s own nor one’s city—so that justice and temperance become the companions of everyone who seeks happiness; yes, this is what we must do, and not give free rein to unbridled desires, do not rush to gratify them, because this is endless evil, this means leading the life of a robber.”
Stability is realizing what has a future in life, what has development, what is really able to stay with us, despite the fact that we are aging and changing, and constantly investing physical and spiritual strength into it. For example, in wisdom. Psychologist V.O. Ruzov said in one of his lectures: “... I need to understand what is really valuable in my life. That is, why am I refusing, for what? I need to put everything in its place. Otherwise we may lose our lives. Because if we do everything to just stay healthy, it will not help us in any way, we will lose this battle. This is a fact, it won't work. If we are all about being smart, we will lose this battle. The brains will still fail. If we do everything to stay young, we will lose this battle. Youth will still leave. If we do everything to keep our friends and loved ones, we will lose this battle. And we won’t save them, it won’t work. If we do everything to become rich, we will lose this battle. Other rich people will come and take everything away. And we begin to realize that, in general, we need to invest in what has a future, what has development, in what is really able to stay with us, despite the fact that we change. If we change, it remains with us, then this is something that deserves attention. What it is? Well, at least it’s wisdom.”
Wisdom tends to increase with age. True, sometimes age comes alone. Wisdom directly implies stability. When one “wipes one’s feet” on wisdom, stability comes to an end. Let us remember the times of the Nazis in Germany: “Where books are burned, people are eventually burned,” noted the German writer Heinrich Heine long before his books were burned by the Nazis. His prophecy was confirmed. There is no respect for wisdom, stability is outlawed. Everything is falling apart. Why did the Soviet Union collapse? They lost their wisdom, began to thoughtlessly criticize everything that was before, and stability disappeared.
Petr Kovalev 2013 Other articles by the author: https://www.podskazki.info/karta-statej/
2) Stop hiding your shortcomings.
If you want to become more emotionally stable, you need to start accepting who you are now and stop trying to fix everything you think is wrong with yourself.
According to Susan Krauss Whitbourne, professor emeritus of psychological and brain sciences, the need to mask is a form of “emotional labor.”
This can cause you to engage in “superficial acting” so that you can fit in with those around you.
Are you all right. The sooner you realize that you are perfect just the way you are, the sooner you will be more able to focus on the things that really matter in your life.
What size pants you are or the length of your hair does not define you. Only you can define you. So why not start by finding a new definition for your life and stop focusing on what you can't do.
If you want to be more emotionally stable, you need to stop criticizing yourself. Of course, everyone has shortcomings, but not everyone pays attention to them.
Instead, it's easier to just admit that you have flaws, big or small, and move on with your life.
Instead of trying to fix them, which can cause you a lot of anxiety, focus on the things that are going right in your life and that you enjoy.
Emotionally stable people do not allow themselves to be destroyed by what they cannot control, and we cannot control our shortcomings.
It's better to just look forward and find something to celebrate in your life.
3) Stand up and stand out.
In this life it is important to be yourself. We run into problems when we try to be different people or meet others' expectations.
When you stand up proud of yourself, you gain a level of balance that many can only dream of.
Emotional stability improves because you don't allow drama about yourself or your body, your thoughts or feelings to cloud your judgment of your abilities and abilities to live the life you want.
According to Whitbourne, when you take off your disguise and become proud of who you really are, a number of positive benefits await you:
“You will feel more satisfied with yourself, more satisfied with your job (if it is related to the workplace), more engaged in your relationships, less anxious and depressed, more socially supported and higher self-esteem.”
When you feel small because of who you are, you deny the world the opportunity to know the real you.
The ability to say “no”
In modern society there is a complex associated with refusal. Emotionally strong people can easily say “no” and can set boundaries to make an informed decision.
Such people are not stopped by the disappointment of others; they put their well-being first and can refuse things that, in their opinion, will negatively affect the achievement of their goals. This habit is difficult to develop, but persistence will help you overcome difficulties.
You should start small. You need to say no to five things that are harmful or create problems in your daily life. Gradually the range of answers needs to be expanded. This will help in creating your own comfort zone and expanding it.
4) Ask for help when you need it.
People with a high degree of emotional stability are people who are not afraid to ask for help.
This is because they accept that they don't know everything and can find their way to answers if they are willing to look and ask for directions.
Emotional stability increases when you approach life from a learning perspective. It also gives you the opportunity to make mistakes and experiment with things that interest you.
Instead of believing that your life is all it could be, you want to reach out to those who can help make your dreams come true.
This approach will also help you realize that you are not weak enough to need help, which is a key element of emotional stability. No one goes through this life on their own.
5) Listen to what you like.
Emotional stability is enhanced when we pay attention to that little voice in our head or that feeling in our gut that tells us to move in a certain direction.
Instead of being dramatic about making difficult decisions, you can use your intuition to guide your choices and help you learn as you go.
Leon F. Seltzer Ph.D. speaks to the importance of being able to differentiate between irrational emotions—such as anxiety, when our emotions mistake a situation for danger—and “true gut feelings.”
He calls this “authentic intuition,” which is a survival mechanism built into each of us and is inherently trustworthy where our emotions need to be handled more carefully.
People with strong emotional stability trust themselves and their intuition and do not need the approval of others to move forward in their lives.
While this can be one of the hardest parts of letting go of old ways of doing things, it's worth learning what you can do if you put some thought into it and allow yourself to discover what your life could be like.
Emotional stability doesn't make life better on its own, but it does contribute to a more fulfilling and understandable lifestyle that makes life more enjoyable and makes it easier to manage the ups and downs of a person's emotional train.
Synonyms
If someone still can't formulate a definition of stability, then there are two ways: first, look in the meaning section; secondly, pay attention to the list of synonyms given below:
- strength;
- sustainability;
- reliability;
- constancy;
- immutability.
Almost complete list of replacements. Synonyms for stability, like the object of study itself, carry a positive charge. Of course, immutability can be interpreted either way, but, as a rule, this characteristic also has a “plus” sign.
6) Learn from your mistakes.
When it comes to emotional stability, you need to keep an open mind when it comes to learning.
When you are open to learning, you realize that you don't know everything, and this leaves you with a lot of room to improve your outlook and experience.
You also understand that you have biases and prejudices that you are willing to understand and correct.
According to psychotherapist Megan Bruno, MS Mind Body Green, a key sign of emotional maturity is "learning to be actively aware of these biases and biases and learning how they can influence our decisions and actions."
If you are willing to learn from your mistakes and make it a point to work on what you don't know, you will be in a better position to develop and stabilize your emotions.
If you think you know what you need to know and are closed off to life, you will feel trapped emotionally and perhaps even physically.
