How to develop masculinity in yourself: the successful experience of a brutal guy

Let me start with the fact that the need to make significant adjustments to my “I” arose after a natural, as I now believe, series of failures and another failed attempt to charm an attractive classmate. Closely studying my reflection in the mirror, I tried to understand: what’s wrong with me and how to become a real man?

It seems that the style of clothing is not at all similar to the attire of meterosexuals, the figure also does not resemble becoming a refined ballerina, and my views on life are not similar to the worldview of born housewives. However, it simply kills the opinion of me that I am a greenhouse plant and a mama's boy. So, after studying volumes of abstruse literature and studying expert advice on how to become a brave and brutal hero of women’s dreams, I compiled my own program on how to develop outstanding masculinity.

Prepare for war

Machiavelli says that the best ruler is the one who thinks through the war in advance.

You must model conflict situations and disputes in your head so that when you encounter them you will be prepared and not get into trouble.

Niccolo Machiavelli's thought once again confirms that you should strengthen your body through men's sports - martial arts and/or bodybuilding.

By engaging in these sports, you will be ready for any troubles and conflicts that come your way.

In simple terms, a man must be strong-willed and must be able to punch in the face.

Train your mind and your body, as Machiavelli bequeathed.

Courageous guys

People change along with eras. Today, men are gradually losing the dominant qualities characteristic of courage. Almost only women are involved in raising children.

But even among children and teenagers there are those who are courageous beyond their years. Here are some examples:

1. Evgeny Tabakov, a seven-year-old boy saved his sister from a rapist. She and Yana, 12 years old, were at home without their parents. The girl opened the door to an unfamiliar man who introduced himself as a postman. He grabbed the careless girl, put a knife to her throat, demanded money from Zhenya, and began to undress Yana. The boy took a knife from the kitchen, hit the criminal in the lower back with it, the girl managed to escape and ran to the neighbors for help. Zhenya did not escape: the man inflicted eight stab wounds on him, incompatible with life. The criminal was detained almost immediately; he was unable to escape due to his wound and blood loss. The boy was posthumously awarded the Order of Courage. And later, a monument in honor of Zhenya was unveiled in the school yard.
2. 2008, in New Zealand, 18-year-old Peter Hanne saved a truck driver. The car was balancing on the edge of a cliff, a young man climbed between the cab and the trailer, broke the rear window, and pulled out the injured driver. In 2011, Peter was awarded the medal "For Bravery".
3. 2013, in the city of Bryansk, 22-year-old Alexander Skvortsov saved a woman and seven children from a fire. The father of the family went to work early in the morning, locking the door. After some time, a fire suddenly started. Everyone hurried to the exit, the door was locked, and the spare keys were in the room, which was already on fire. The guy was not at a loss, broke out the window, helped the mother get out, and then began handing her the children. When he was getting out, a gas cylinder exploded and Alexander received minor burns to his head.

Despite such a young age, these guys had the strength to come to the rescue in difficult times. It's a shame that not everyone survived.

Be thrifty

Machiavelli says that it is better to gain the reputation of a stingy sovereign than to be known as generous and regularly waste your budget.

This idea is easily confirmed in everyday life.

Among my friends, I have always had the reputation of a stingy person who will not spend an extra penny in vain.

Yes, I'm stingy. But who did they come to in difficult situations to borrow money when they had nothing?

To me. I always have money because I'm stingy and don't allow myself to spend a lot.

You should apply the same principle in your relationships with women.

Women are known for splurging and buying things they don't need. And if you don’t sometimes say firmly “No!”, your wallet will be as thin as modern teenagers.

Be frugal and stand on your own two feet.

Why do men become weak?

A man of past centuries and a man of modern times are different representatives of the stronger sex. And you shouldn't worry too much about this? In past centuries, there were wars and strife, which required men to exhibit certain character traits and behavior. A modern man does not fight, so he does not need to be aggressive and rude. If you compare a medieval man with a representative of the stronger sex from ancient centuries, they will also be different. In primitive times, men had to survive, provide for themselves, fight not with each other, but with nature. This clearly required certain skills and character traits that are strikingly different from the qualities possessed by men in the Middle Ages.

Thus, a modern man should not be equal to the representatives of his sex who lived in the Middle Ages. Then men constantly fought and lived in limited conditions, fighting for their lives. A modern man should not fight and survive, but directs his energies to maintaining his own well-being and increasing his social status. By and large, no one survives, but rather simply tries not to fall in social status lower than they already are.

Modern men are not weak, their masculinity is simply expressed in other qualities and behavior. Now a man should not only be physically strong, cold-blooded and aggressive. Rather, these qualities are already becoming the reason that he is isolated from society. A modern man demonstrates his masculinity through the ability to make decisions, eliminate various life problems, earn money, provide for his family, protect his relatives from any dangers and only in rare cases use his strength.

Just because a modern man does not need to fight every day, take up arms and fight with someone, does not mean that he has become weak. A man continues to be courageous at all times. It’s just that the concept itself contains various qualities and behavior, which depends on the time and conditions in which society lives.

Fear is better than love

This idea is more suitable for government, but part of it can be applied in everyday life.

Machiavelli argues that people listen to a prince who inspires them with fear, but they do not always listen to one who inspires love in them.

Machiavelli notes that fear must be without hatred. It is very important.

They should fear you as the stronger one, but not hate you.

In everyday language, this idea is best translated as: don’t be afraid to be cruel.

You must learn to fight back and be cruel even with those closest to you when it requires it.

So a mother is cruel to her mischievous child; This is how a husband is cruel to a wife who does not show respect.

Respect is partly built on fear, and there is no escape from that.

Courage: examples from life

Every person, even a quiet and calm person, is capable of a feat. Many people, due to uncertainty or cowardice, do not commit it, but under certain life circumstances they can act boldly and decisively.

Crime is also a brave act, but it has nothing to do with courage. The latter are not done for the sake of material benefits, but for the protection and salvation of someone or oneself.

There are many life examples of courage. Here are some of them:

1. 1961 Antarctica. Dr. Leonid Rogozov had an attack of appendicitis while on duty and developed peritonitis. A surgeon capable of performing an operation had to travel 1 thousand km. Naturally, Leonid would not have survived; he decided to operate on his own. Using a mirror, novocaine, a scalpel, and with the help of two untrained assistants, he performed the operation and successfully removed his appendix.
2. Frank Folley, British intelligence officer. During the Great Patriotic War he was an employee of the British Embassy in Berlin. Thanks to him, 9 thousand Jews did not become victims of the Holocaust. Taking advantage of his official position, he forged passports, visas and travel documents. Frank sometimes managed not only to facilitate the departure of people from Berlin, but also to rescue people from concentration camps, providing them with an alibi by the presence of documents.
3. At the end of April 2003, a young man named Aaron Ralston went hiking in Utah's Blue John Canyon. As he descended the crevice, a collapse occurred and a boulder weighing more than 300 kg pinned Aaron's hand. At first he tried to move and crush the stone, but nothing worked. Mobile communications did not work, and there was very little food. The young man spent five days locked up, languishing from terrible pain, thirst, and hunger. Then he decided to amputate his arm. After he broke the bones, he had to cut off his hand with a penknife, which had become dull from trying to break the stone. Aaron went down to the bottom of the gorge and walked along the canyon for about 10 km until he met people. Afterwards, the guy wrote a book about what happened, on the basis of which the feature film “127 Hours” was shot.
4. Kimberly Dear was about to jump with a parachute for the first time in her life. The instructor was Robert Cook. But after the plane gained altitude, the engine stopped working. The man put the girl on his lap and tied her with belts. When the plane crashed, Robert was hit, which saved Kimberly.
5. In 1976, Shavarsh Karapetyan, the Armenian swimming champion, alone saved people from a sinking trolleybus. The transport, which contained 92 people, fell into cold water 24 m from the shore. Shavarsh jumped after him, the trolleybus sank 10 meters. According to eyewitnesses, it took the man about half a minute to save each person. He pulled out the victims until he himself lost consciousness from the cold. Afterwards, he suffered from pneumonia for a long time with complications, adhesions formed on his lungs, and every breath gave him severe pain. Shavarsh Karapetyan was awarded the Order of the USSR Badge of Honor.
6. Gino Strada, a world-famous surgeon, head of the Italian organization “Emergency”. Over 25 years, he performed 30,000 operations as a field surgeon in Iraq, Cambodia, Afghanistan, and Sudan. He opened more than 45 medical centers in front-line zones, where more than 100 thousand people were saved.
7. In New Mexico, a woman saved children. The school bus driver had a seizure, Rhonda Carlsen noticed this and caught up with the vehicle. She ran alongside, asked the children with gestures to unlock the doors and, once inside, stopped the bus. Everyone remained safe and sound.

The list of cases can be endless. Especially when you consider how many actions people committed during the Great Patriotic War. How many heroes received their awards, many posthumously.

"...never, never, never give up"

Winston Churchill

Make up your mind

And this is probably the best part of the entire work of Niccolo Machiavelli. You should apply this idea to many areas of your life.

First, in conflict situations, always choose to act. I was what Machiavelli described as “indecisive”: about eight years ago I saw my best friend being beaten, but I did nothing about it because I was indecisive. I often reproached myself for this, and therefore I tell you: do not make such a mistake and always clearly adhere to one side. Observers are weak and cowardly people.

Secondly, develop your own opinion and taste. Most people don't take life seriously. At most they can criticize something, but they cannot say what is awesome for them.

A person's personality consists not of what he criticizes, but of what he loves. So answer yourself what is awesome for you.

My “fucking” things: bodybuilding, kickboxing, books, rap, mathematics, loneliness, health and some other things.

Make your list and be defined by what you love.

Don't be that idiot who can only criticize everything but can't love anything with all your heart.

The earnings of a real man and his masculinity

How much should a man earn to feel good? Don't you think this question is strange? Why, for example, can’t a man feel great, regardless of the money he receives? A real man must work, and the amount of money is already a consequence of how well he has settled down. A man should not be depressed by the amount of money, but by his productivity. If it doesn't work, it can be a reason for poor health and self-esteem. But if a man works, then he should already feel good.

There are men who equate their masculinity with the amount of money they have. But it is not money that determines masculinity, but a man’s ability to work, lack of laziness, presence of stability, etc. A person who equates masculinity with money will never consider himself a man, especially if he has little money. You need to increase your self-esteem, and not think about the amount of money in your pocket. We should not forget that if a man equates himself with money, then the attitude of other people towards him will be monetary. He will be perceived as a "money purse" and not as an interesting person.

A real man should earn enough to cover necessary expenses, entertainment and any major purchases. The amount of money absolutely does not determine a man’s masculinity, unless the man himself is emotionally dependent on colorful pieces of paper. A man is courageous if he knows how to work and earn money for the necessary things. Therefore, do not equate yourself with money, since you and money are different phenomena in nature.

Criticism of Machiavellianism

As you can see, the book “The Prince” by Niccolo Machiavelli gives quality advice for the development of male character.

Machiavelli said nothing except that you must be persistent, firm in your decisions, a determined man of opinion.

It is these qualities that a man should develop in himself, and this is what I talk about on my website.

I will say more, if you completely eradicate from yourself the qualities that Machiavelli speaks of, you risk becoming that “man” whom a woman beats.

In the West, and already in Russia, stories appear in the media about how a poor man suffered violence from his wife and could not fight back.

Video taken from this article: Domestic violence against men: how the stronger sex becomes weaker

Watch this video. When a woman begins to behave rudely and harshly, they laugh at the man.

There is no tragedy in this. You shouldn't feel sorry for him. This should be a good lesson for you.

If you think that such a woman’s treatment of a man is normal, then, of course, do not read Machiavelli and do not listen to what I tell you.

For those who want to be a man, “The Sovereign” and its lessons are a must read and follow.

In an age where men in life do not have a worthy role model and feminists and other evil spirits await him at every step, you must cultivate the traits of a real man more than ever. Niccolo Machiavelli will help you.

Finally, let's turn to Wikipedia. Italics indicate text from Wikipedia, followed by my comments.

The meaning of the concept of Machiavellianism lies in three key psychological components:

Behavior

The use of manipulative techniques in the process of interpersonal interaction. It is important to note that a Machiavellian always manipulates consciously in order to achieve benefit for himself, using sophisticated techniques of flattery, deception, bribery, and forgery.

Machiavelli simply described in harsher and more direct language what ordinary politeness and pleasantness meant. When you turn to a person with a request to do something for you, you speak politely; in other situations, you can give a small gift.

When you go on a date with a girl and you like the way she looks, give her a nice sincere compliment - then she will be in the mood for a good evening.

These things are as common as a boiled egg and have been known for centuries. Machiavelli was just not afraid to say it out loud.

Attitude

A cynical view of other people as weak and dependent on social pressure. Machiavellians treat other people with suspicion, emotionally distant, focusing not on the partner, but on their own benefit, which they can get through him. That is, in the process of manipulation, the interaction partner is for the Machiavellian nothing more than a tool through which the desired result can be achieved.

Yes, at first glance it sounds so terrible that your panties will get wet. Yes, in a sincere relationship a person cannot be a tool for another person - this is low and deceitful.

But let's dig a little deeper. Every person is a tool for every other person, if you look closely.

For a child, a mother is a tool through which you can receive moral support, guidance, food and help on all life issues.

For a mother, a child is a tool for embodying the maternal instinct. The mother embodies her desire to create in the child, helping to shape the child’s personality. Yes, also a child is a tool to leave a legacy.

A man for a woman is an instrument of moral and physical support. A man is a counterbalance to female softness and a protection for a weak female body.

In turn, a woman is a mitigating factor for a man, so as not to go crazy with anger and sperm. A woman is the keeper of the hearth, the embodiment of beauty that a man loves so much.

Both are for each other a tool for satisfying sexual needs.

Each other is a tool for socialization, moral and physical support for each other. You're not friends with people who annoy you, infuriate you and are generally disgusting to you?

This is because in a friend you are looking for a tool to satisfy your inner needs. If he doesn’t satisfy you, he ceases to be your friend.

Thus, the teacher and the student are equally dependent on each other, and each is an instrument for the other.

For a student, a teacher is a tool for gaining knowledge, guidance, and, again, support.

For a teacher, a student is a tool for creation (a person, especially a teacher, has a need to teach others) and receiving money for his work.

I analyzed the first examples that came to mind, but I could continue this list indefinitely. The moral is the same - we are all tools for each other, it’s just that if you don’t dig deep, you won’t see it. But if you look at the root, everything is obvious. And there is, of course, nothing wrong with that.

Ignoring social morality when it interferes with achieving the desired result

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I will tell you the most striking example of social morality, which worsens life for all of us - both men and women.

I took apart Machiavelli's work piece by piece and saw practically nothing wrong with his teaching - only the wise thoughts of a wise man.

Machiavelli spoke about everything directly and this is his main advantage.

I hope you will carefully study Machiavelli's lessons in masculinity.

Read his book for yourself to get a sense of the atmosphere. I can talk about it for a long time, but it’s better to see everything with your own eyes.

If you are not very interested in historical calculations and descriptions and want to read only his lessons for the individual, start reading “The Sovereign” from the chapter “How a sovereign should act regarding military affairs.”

The Prince is one of the best books on how to become more courageous.

If you are interested in his personality a little more and want a deeper study, then read “The Sovereign” in its entirety, as well as his other works:

“On how to deal with the rebels of Valdichiana”

"Description of how Duke Valentino got rid of Vitellozzo Vitelli, Oliveretto Da Fermo, Signor Paolo and Duke Gravina Orsini"

The last two are interesting stories about the war that even interested me, although I hate war fiction. My only C grade in my school certificate was in literature, because I didn’t want to read Sholokhov, Solzhenitsyn and other military writers.

“Discourses on the first decade of Titus Livius” (there are good reviews about this, and I will read it soon).

Study Niccolo Machiavelli and become a stronger and wiser man.

See you later.

Vlad Makeevelli.

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What is courage

The concept is abstract, appeared in antiquity, and over time its meaning changed. There are two definitions of the word courage.

From a psychological point of view

Precise, concise definition. Personal quality, expressed by the ability to make appropriate decisions in a difficult or dangerous situation, to achieve set goals with all one’s strength. The ability to self-control and overcome probable fears and insecurities. The highest manifestation of courage is heroism.

From a philosophical point of view

This definition is broader and has been subject to changes more often. In ancient philosophy, courage is one of the four cardinal virtues (the others: moderation, wisdom, justice). Courage means self-control, courage in battle, self-confidence, even if the enemy is objectively stronger.

According to Aristotle, this is noble behavior on the battlefield, overcoming the fear of dying a dignified death (dying in battle). Courage is a cross between fear and reckless courage, the ability to unflinchingly endure pain, especially physical injury.

In Ancient Rome, courage was valor, a virtue associated with the definition of honor. Kant defined it as the ability to decide to commit an act at the behest of duty. He believed that there were difficulties that required courage more than fighting (poverty, ridicule, ill will of society).

In the history of moral consciousness, courage has been associated with a certain level of society. In a class-antagonistic situation, it was considered the dignity of warriors. Later, under feudal rule, by the virtue of chivalry. This definition was given true social meaning by communist morality: the assessment of a person’s actions in any sphere of life, regardless of his social status.

Today, courage is moral firmness, decency, courage, perseverance. Dedication, confidence and a disruptive, strict character. A universal, moral quality that has lost the definition of “male virtue” that is sometimes inherent in women. Changes in the meaning of the concept are based on theories and practical experiences of nonviolence. Fighting evil, dishonesty, lack of justice without using force is the same as courage.

Consequences of cowardice

Cowardice seems like a relatively “harmless” character trait, but in fact it has a lot of serious consequences:

• people who lack courage often have mental disorders. They may suffer from increased anxiety, and this condition can develop into an anxiety disorder. In addition, cowardice is almost always associated with low self-esteem, and, alas, it is not far from apathy, serious depression and even thoughts of suicide;
• the inability to overcome the fear of communication leads to loneliness and even social isolation. Such people cannot build a strong family because they are afraid of close relationships; they rarely have children - after all, this is a huge responsibility;
• timidity and fearfulness are considered negative personality traits, and therefore are often subject to public condemnation;
• Cowardly people are often prone to cowardice: fear prevents them from being generous, sacrificial, and selfless. Other people may suffer because of this. And, of course, such a person has less chance of strong friendships and team relationships at work;
• the fear of taking responsibility at work, expressing oneself and being proactive often leads to the fact that cowardly people have a very low standard of living, and sometimes they lose their jobs completely;
• the fear of expressing oneself leads to a feeling of unfulfillment, loss, inferior and boring life;
• Cowardly people tend to be overly dependent on the opinions of others. Because of this, they can fall under the “bad” influence of others: join a sect, become addicted to drugs, start gambling, and so on. This is especially true for teenagers and young adults;
• fear of standing up for your rights can lead to financial losses, deterioration of your reputation, problems with the law and other unexpected consequences;
• finally, fear of self-development and reluctance to overcome it can lead to personality degradation.

Test: How courageous are you?

To determine masculinity, it is not necessary to seek help from a psychologist. Here you will find a simple test to determine your level of courage. You only need to answer “yes”, “no”, “I don’t know”.

1. Whenever possible, I like to be the center of attention.
2. In controversial and conflict situations, I need the support of a loved one.
3. I make decisions without difficulty.
4. I am emotional and sensitive.
5. Authority is important to me.
6. I like to take care of my appearance.
7. Basically I act according to circumstances, I practically do not rely on feelings.
8. Sometimes I allow myself to flirt with girls.
9. I have willpower and character in my actions.
10. I carry a mirror in my bag all the time.
11. I am characterized by rancor and vindictiveness.
12. I have difficulty controlling myself in difficult situations.
13. I'm romantic.
14. I inherited my father's character.

For each answer “yes” to odd-numbered questions and “no” to even-numbered questions, you receive 10 points. “I don’t know”—5 points.

100-150 points. Psychologically, you are a model man. Decisive, independent, independent. You are able to come to the rescue and set life goals. Many people like your lifestyle. You are characterized by a certain schematic action and stereotypical thinking regarding gender issues and personal masculinity.

50-99 points. You are capable of exhibiting both truly masculine qualities and typically feminine ones. You combine determination, sensitivity and common sense. Sometimes, due to life situations, you have to do things that are typical for women. But your ability to adapt and mental flexibility helps at any moment.

Less than 49 points. Psychologically, you are 100% female. In the modern world, this type of man is quite rare.

In life, it takes a lot of courage to be human and maintain your dignity.

V. Zubkov

Courageous girls

Women need masculinity for harmony and beauty. A woman’s inherent qualities help her cope with difficulties in everyday life and at work. But the level of development of masculine qualities in her should not exceed the level of a man. Otherwise, there is a chance of developing dissatisfaction with the relationship, because the woman will have to bear responsibility not only for herself and her children, but also for her husband. It is not for nothing that men are the stronger sex, and women are the weaker. Nature originally intended that the man is more important.

More than 9,000 people have gotten rid of their psychological problems using this technique.

There are many life examples of the manifestation of female masculinity. When fragile nurses saved the lives of soldiers under fire in the war. There are many known female soldiers in the world wars. In everyday life, representatives of the fair sex, by the will of fate, also face situations where they need to show their perseverance, confidence, and strength.

1. The woman lifted the car that had crushed her son. The guy was repairing the car, the jack slipped, and the car weighing 1350 kg crushed the man. The woman lifted the car on her own and held it until neighbors came to the rescue and pulled the young man out.
2. Malala Yousafzai, 12-year-old Pakistani girl. She asked the world to change the existing laws of her home country. Girls were prohibited from going to school, and Malala campaigned in Pakistan for women's right to education. In 2012, she was injured during a trip to school: one of the Taliban militants shot her in the head and neck. The girl managed to survive, fully recover and continue her endeavors.
3. 1941, by order of Joseph Stalin, three women's squadrons were formed. The German invaders nicknamed them “Night Witches.” Pilots, under cover of darkness, took to the air in lightweight aircraft intended for harvesting crops. Having turned off the engines, they silently approached the target and dropped bombs.

Every woman has courage, the main thing is not to confuse it with being like a man. A girl who looks like a guy is not necessarily courageous.