One of the popular topics of many trainings is the issue of inspiring men and the role of women in this. Moreover, a variety of aspects are considered here, and not just how to inspire a man to take action. The key point remains the role of the woman, since all the activities of men are concentrated in the external world, requiring strength and motivation, emotional involvement and their own internal meanings of continuation or undertaking. A woman is initially more sensitive in the area of experiences; she deals with the internal aspects of relationships and interaction.
In fact, if a man is single, then he needs a minimum set of life’s goods, and he begins to set new goals only when some of the previous ones collapse. Women and family represent development factors that contribute to the desire to buy a large house instead of a one-room apartment, in order to ensure security and comfort for the family, to increase earnings, to provide development for their loved ones and to have the opportunity to please them. Even the majority of creative achievements were created thanks to women - from admiration or trampled love feelings remains in question, but their influence cannot be denied.
By focusing on how to inspire a man to earn money, many miss his inner state, because inspiration does not only mean actual material results. This is an attitude, fullness of life and the ability to feel and rejoice. Anyone who is depressed will not be able to produce high results either in work or in relationships, so the main point is not motivation in the style of coaches, by building the right life concept, timing and developing strategies. The male analytical mind will create all this on its own when the desire to move and the mood to overcome difficulties appear.
It is important to define your role in inspiring a man - not to be a mentor, but to be a muse. This is work aimed not only at interaction, saying the right phrases and appropriate thanks. For a woman, it becomes paramount to work on herself and her manifestations, both regarding appearance and character, the ability to show tact and understand, support or get angry.
Many have noticed that around some ladies, any man blossoms and, without the slightest hint or prompting, begins to perform necessary and amazing, sometimes unusual, actions. This situation especially infuriates wives, whose husbands instantly transform before their eyes when one of their friends appears. Unfortunately, jealousy so blinds the eyes and turns off common sense that most people stop communicating with such an inspiring person, instead of taking a closer look and learning something.
And you will have to learn to balance your own emotional manifestations and experiences, experienced states and dreams, because men are ready for any feat not for the sake of shoes from the latest fashion collection, but for the sake of their sense of self in the presence of a woman.
To be beautiful
It’s not for nothing that they say that beauty is a terrible force. A beautiful woman delights her man and inspires him to do great things. And it is appearance that creates the first impression of any person. If a woman has an attractive appearance that intrigues a man at the first meeting, then he will desire new dates and want a serious relationship. Being beautiful is the responsibility of a Great Woman. If you do not follow this rule, then you will not be able to truly be an inspiration for your man. Believe me, any man is very inspired by female beauty. It is with a beautiful goddess that he will not want to be lazy and will strive to match his delightful wife, who looks great always and everywhere. And next to a tired and sloppy lady in a gray tracksuit, no man will strive to become better.
To “inspire” someone, you need to be beautiful, friendly, in love with the one you inspire. You must believe in your man, giving him the opportunity to delight you. At the same time, you should be able to enjoy life. And this means that you need to learn to appreciate every minute of your life, to be able to find beauty in everything. When going out into nature, try to fill yourself with energy by looking at the foliage, inhaling the aroma of trees, flowers, and earth. Appreciate what you have at the moment, enjoy the little things. After all, this is so important! In this way, you will constantly fill yourself, absorb the beauty of the world through pleasure and contemplation.
Only such a beautiful, happy and energetic woman can turn her man into a hero. At the same time, such a woman does not do anything supernatural. She simply enjoys her life and is filled with this pleasure, giving her energy to the people around her, and in particular, her loved one. She is simply always there, giving him her love and sharing her beauty. And the man should do the rest.
Remember that tears, reproaches and insults are the road to nowhere. Because with such actions and actions you will not be able to inspire your man. The only thing this can lead to is a break in the relationship. Sometimes, of course, some girls get what they want in this way, but this is only an appearance. In fact, men do not tolerate women's tears, and are ready to do anything to avoid them. But believe me, you will not feel value from such heroic actions of a man. Because tears, quarrels and conflicts destroy female nature and devastate it. The benefits obtained in this way do not bring any pleasure. Only when you can inspire your man with your beauty, fullness and love, then it will bring you true pleasure and give you even more energy and strength.
The art of being a wife and muse
There is an excellent book on the topic of how to competently inspire a man. Its author is Olga Valyaeva, a happy wife, mother of four children, constellation psychologist, blogger and much more.
The book talks about simple female happiness in the family, about the possibility of changing any man through his complete acceptance and prayers, about how important it is to maintain a home, etc.
When I read it, I was, of course, delighted and recommended reading this book to every woman I met. Yes, to be honest, I still recommend it. But without fanaticism.
The fact is that, having cooled down from the first impression, I realized that you cannot change a person if he himself does not want to change. But you shouldn’t change an alcoholic and a tyrant at all; you need to leave such people as soon as possible, and then carry out deep psychological work with the help of specialists so that such situations do not recur. And, to be honest, constantly wearing skirts is an option that is not suitable for everyone.
In general, there are some distortions in this book, but overall it is an excellent guide to creating harmonious relationships in the family, based on the author’s life experience. I recommend reading it, but with some reasonable criticism. You can buy Olga Valyaeva’s book “The Art of Being a Wife and Muse” only on the official website valyaeva.ru. Caution: the book is infected with the pregnancy virus :)
Be inspired by yourself
A woman just needs to be inspired by herself. She must be self-sufficient, she must have some hobbies, hobbies that give her a unique thrill. This is when you are interested in being alone with yourself. When you are happy doing what you love. For example, these could be walks, meetings with friends, dancing, meditation, cosmetic procedures, etc. This is how you can replenish lost energy and become a source of inexhaustible inspiration for your husband.
Respect him
How to inspire a man? All his affairs, projects, goals and new beginnings require approval from a woman. We must constantly say and show with all our appearance that he is moving in the right direction.
Try to avoid insults and ridicule. Was there something you didn't like about his actions? Express your position correctly, explain exactly what he is wrong about. Do you not like some of his character traits? This also needs to be talked about carefully, without being overly emotional. If there is respect in the relationship, then an adequate man will understand what is required of him and will respond to your words.
Give a man pleasure
Everyone understands the word “pleasure” differently. However, in this case we can talk about two levels of pleasure: gross and subtle. As for the rough level of pleasure, this includes physical contact. This is touching, massage, making love. And subtle pleasure is positive emotions, coquetry, flirting, smiling, affectionate words, and so on. Men feed on feminine energy, so it is vital for them. However, this does not mean that they are concerned only with issues of sex. Not at all. They are filled with feminine energy in other ways. For example, through affectionate touches, compliments, kisses, etc. All this also fills a man with energy and charges him.
However, sometimes a woman is not inspired by herself, and therefore her feminine center is blocked. This leads to the fact that there is no return of pleasure. What to do in this case? It is very important to increase the amount of female hormones in your body. To do this, you will need to find something you like. These must be “women’s” activities or hobbies. Find joy for yourself, treat yourself to some goodies in the form of chocolate or cake. Wear feminine, beautiful clothes, look inside yourself, finding answers to the questions that concern you in the depths of your subconscious. Fill yourself with positive emotions. Only then will a man strive to communicate with you, finding in you the source of his inspiration.
Make him feel like he's in charge
In many ways, a man’s success depends on whether he feels needed in a relationship or not, whether his importance is high for his wife or girlfriend. If everything is good in this regard, then the desire to strive for more will not disappear. How to inspire a man to succeed? Just don't criticize his plans or ridicule his goals.
Constantly hearing from a woman that her dreams will not come true and her aspirations are too naive, a man will lose faith in his capabilities. Accordingly, one can only fantasize about success in such a situation. But over time, you won’t even want to dream. It is also not recommended to constantly double-check the results of your loved one’s work.
A woman inspires a man by praising and encouraging him, giving him the opportunity to have the final say in making joint, important decisions. If he feels like the head of the relationship, then achieving success will be much easier.
Give a man positive emotions, be a source of happiness
A woman for a man is a source of joy and good news. Only in this case will pleasant associations be formed in the young man’s subconscious. This means that he will always strive for you, since you are a source of positivity, warmth and light. Therefore, try not to tell him about bad news or show your mood swings. Of course, this does not mean that you need to always be secretive and not tell your spouse anything. You have the right to be listened to by your loved one, so that he can comfort you and take pity on you at the right time. However, don't go too far.
Keep in mind that a man already has a lot of difficulties that he has to face at work, in business, among colleagues and his environment. He should feel warm and comfortable at home. Let him hear only inspiring, pleasant words from your lips. Then you will become a very valuable person for him, who will be a source of beauty. It is very important for any man that after a hard day at work, a beautiful, friendly wife is waiting for him at home, who greets him with a smile. And this applies to any situation, even if he was late at work. Believe me, your gentle touches, kind look and kind words will give him peace and happiness. And then the man will subconsciously strive to return home, where he is loved and eagerly awaited, greeted with a smile and joy.
Expanding the area of responsibility
A woman can also invest in achieving a goal, but do it differently. To do this, you need to expand your area of responsibility . If you want to go on vacation abroad, you don’t have to work overtime at work to earn more yourself or take out a loan.
But you can prepare for the trip: learn about all the intricacies of organizational issues, think through the route as carefully as possible, and choose the best options for where to stay. This work also requires effort. Good preparation for any project helps save time, effort and money, and avoid unforeseen difficulties.
Fulfillment of assigned tasks
Do not do a man's work and do not show yourself as a man
Let the man do all the men's housework. It often happens that a woman asks a man several times to help her in some matters that require male intervention. But the husband does not respond to this request. For example, you need to nail a shelf in the kitchen. You asked your husband about this, but he continues to mind his own business. And in this case, women act differently. One will go and fill the shelf herself, after which she will throw a huge scandal at her man with hysterics and breaking dishes. At the same time, she will accuse her man of insolvency and inability to perform simple male duties. In other words, he will doubt his masculinity.
The second, wiser woman, will ask her husband to stock the shelf and calmly go about her business. In this case, the man will definitely fulfill his wife’s request after some time. And all because he needs a little more time to understand this request and make a decision. It is very important for men to find confirmation of their importance. And he wants to believe that he independently made the decision to go and nail a shelf in the kitchen. But a strong woman who demonstratively does a man’s work and always speaks out about it does not inspire respect from men.
Fulfilling male duties is contrary to female nature, therefore such actions do not inspire representatives of the stronger half of humanity. This is how you signal that you are coping well with all difficulties. In this case, you don’t need a man at all; you can do everything yourself. Nail a shelf, fix a vacuum cleaner, move a sofa and much more. Of course, sometimes it’s easier and faster for us to do something on our own, without waiting for our husband’s help. But you shouldn't do this. Remember, gentle and reverent feminine ladies need male protection and care. Believe me, it is very important for your husband to feel strong and necessary for his beloved woman. The more feminine and vulnerable a girl is, the more courageous and strong a man feels next to her.
By following these rules, you can be sure that your husband will do the most incredible things for you.
What to remember
- Accept a man for who he is. It is impossible to change a person, but learning to live with him and understand him is always possible. And this is the best and happiest way. It's nice to feel like someone loves the real you.
- Be weaker and don't beat yourself in the chest with your hands. Your strength lies precisely in your weakness, it is the peculiarity of any woman and the feat of any man. Allow someone to do something for you, be gentle and sensitive - this is your main advantage.
- Don't forget to be grateful for even small deeds. Your sincere smile and warm hugs are the best reason to repeat the surprise or action. You only want to create when you feel gratitude.
- Support him always and in everything. Rest assured: the end result is shaped by the environment. Your man will not achieve anything if the person closest to him does not believe in his endeavors.
- Don't solve problems yourself. Let the man feel his participation in everything. After all, if important issues are resolved without him, then why should he solve small ones? Maybe you can handle everything yourself? Why do you need such responsibility?
Learning to inspire a man is not difficult. Follow our advice, and your chosen one will certainly thank you in return!
Acknowledgments
A girl who inspires a man knows how to thank him for even the most insignificant actions. It helps you feel like a hero. And if you take his gifts and beautiful words for granted, then his desire to make you happy will disappear over time.
The same applies to the professional sphere. If a man boasts about his achievements and successes, in response you need to tell him how great he is, how lucky you are to have him. Otherwise, he will simply stop setting new goals for himself.
The intimate component of a good relationship
Don't think that good sex can only relax and give pleasure. In addition, it is also a way of communication between partners. With its help, you can demonstrate tenderness, love, and show how much a woman trusts her lover.
Relationships will be stronger if conversations about sexual desires do not make you blush and feel embarrassed. In addition, you should not be afraid to talk about any problems in this area. But this must be done correctly, without irony and sarcasm. And it’s even better to use hints and hints to ensure that the man independently comes to the desired result. Well, or at least thought that he figured it all out on his own.
How to inspire a man to give gifts? There is no need to blackmail with sex, forcing your partner to take any action or accustoming him to a certain behavior. Training of this kind can lead to excessive aggression or betrayal.
Another way
Be direct. We love it
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