How to Not Pay Attention to Negativity? (3 Main Rules)

Let's talk about how to react to negativity and what to do with the emotions that usually accompany it - anger, resentment and irritation.

Have you ever noticed this: if something really upsets you, then the rest of the day goes “wrong”? You were rude in the store, scolded at work, and now a chain of
negative events
: from a coat splashed with mud to the failure of a contract worth hundreds of thousands of dollars.

If you were offended by a loved one, you quarreled, or worse, broke up, don’t wait for time to heal the wounds and everything will return to normal on its own.

Find out what to do to fix everything >>>

Why does just one negative event cause a whole chain of negative reactions?

It’s simple: you became “infected” with someone else’s negativity and also allowed yourself to experience negative emotions, thereby starting a negative chain reaction.

How to properly respond to someone else’s anger, insults and nagging in order to live calmly and happily, we’ll talk in this article.

A small life hack awaits the most patient at the end
- how to communicate with people in order to be guaranteed to get infected from them... with positivity.

Speak calmly

The way we communicate is often much more important than what we say.
If the situation is heated, then it's time to talk about it. However, the dialogue should not be aggressive. It is better to use sentences that begin with the words “I”, “me”, “me”, for example: “It annoys me when you do this. Could you do things differently? Most likely, the interlocutor will listen to you and also express his opinion. Sometimes it is worth calling in a third party for help. Another person can objectively assess the situation. Maybe after the dialogue you will not become friends with the one with whom the conflict is brewing, but at least you will be able to communicate normally.

Working alongside people you find difficult to get along with is a rewarding experience that will show you how you can cope with problems.

How to raise a leader?

A leader is a person who has a personal goal. If he is told where to go, he is a follower.

The second rule of a leader is to take action. If he just wants and does not act, he is a dreamer. You always need to show, at least with small actions, that this goal is important.

Third is the ability to attract help. Leaders know how to recruit people into their team who help them, know what to do, and are experts.

Teach your child these three points and you will develop leadership qualities in him.

I highly recommend also reading “Geniuses and Outsiders”, Malcolm Gladwell and the Biographies of Great People - children's series. Read carefully yourself, let your children read, and apply your new knowledge in life.

It's hard to convince a teenager of anything, but if he sets a goal for himself and sees a pattern of success that works, you won't be able to stop him.

How to remove negative energy from yourself

If you were unable to avoid a traumatic situation, you can use some traditional ways to get rid of negative energy.

Water is a universal way to get rid of negative energy:

In nature, you can give negative energy to water. It is best to come to the river, sit comfortably on the bank and talk, looking at the flow of water, about what worries and worries you. You can imagine how streams of negative energy pass from you to the river and are carried away with the flow; at home, water from the shower is suitable (take a shower for at least 20-30 minutes), at work - tap water (put your hands under the running water and wash your face thoroughly)

It is important to use running water and not standing water (for example, a pond); In an apartment you can also take a bath with Thursday salts. It is important to carefully drain the water and take a shower at the end.

Other ways to get rid of negativity:

subject the body to intense physical activity: walk quickly for several kilometers, work out with dumbbells, clear snow near the house;
give negative energy to any solid object that can be thrown away. For example, pick up a stone, talk about your troubles and throw it far, imagining how it takes your troubles with it;
speak out, tell someone about your problems and experiences. The interlocutor can be not only a person, but also an animal, a doll, a painting, a tree;
transfer negative energy to the fire. For example, sit by the fire in nature or light a candle at home. Looking at the flame, imagine how your negative emotions are burned and disappear.

If you are removing negative energy from yourself at home, after the session you need to cleanse your home: light a candle and let it burn for about half an hour.

How to motivate yourself in a crisis?

The main thing is what the mood is inside. A crisis is a convention.

If you don't know what to do, start moving. The first is physical energy, a healthy body. Anyone who doesn't play sports simply has no chance. 30 minutes of sports will bring absolutely any person into a new state; you will be filled with endorphins and energy.

Make a list of your joys, what gives you pleasure, physical and mental. Analyze yourself, what personally gets you out of a state of personal crisis and motivates you. I advise you to do the Priming exercise by Tony Robbins.

Study The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. This is a kind of model that there is only the present, everything else is an illusion. This will reboot your thinking, after which you will need to open up into a new system. My book “10 Commandments of Success” will do. or training “ ACT! DOUBLE! X2 ”. There is nothing better than books and training to reach the next level.

Any work on yourself is better than watching TV series, scrolling through social networks, watching others. You need to create and realize yourself.

Among colleagues

Many people are faced with manipulation outside the home, which raises another question: “How not to succumb to provocations at work?”

The team is not always friendly and adequate. Sometimes, when a person comes to work, he encounters people who are not ready to tolerate the smile on their face and the fighting spirit of their co-worker. They are ready to disrupt his mental and emotional state in every way. How to prevent this?

Do not react to the words and actions of provocateur colleagues if their actions are limited only to endless questions and attempts to ruin your mood. Instead of a compliment, they may say that your hairstyle leaves much to be desired. Such people are able to put pressure on pity or feelings of inferiority, reminding you that it was you who were deprived of your bonus last month.
If such provocateur colleagues interfere with your work, then try to have a serious conversation. Prepare a “safety cushion” for yourself by discreetly turning on a voice recorder or asking a friend from work to witness the conversation. Explain that if the provocations do not stop, you will be forced to contact the company’s management.
Your friendly conversation went nowhere, but you still have notes or evidence that a manipulative colleague is interfering with work? Contact your superiors and ask them to influence this person.

Suggest switching to lighter topics

Some people become negative only regarding their sick topics. These topics may seem quite harmless to you. For example, if someone is dissatisfied with his job, he will mention it on any occasion, appropriately or inappropriately, and constantly complain about it. If you try to insert your own positive comment, an even larger dose of negativity will be thrown at you.

Do not try to change the interlocutor’s attitude towards a topic that is painful for him. Perhaps his problems with this topic are much deeper than they seem. The best way out would be to suggest changing the topic to a lighter and more positive one. Share funny stories, pleasant memories - anything that can distract your interlocutor from obsessive thoughts.

How to ignore the opinions of others

Accept a simple fact: you, and only you, can create your own happiness. Often those around him, especially close people, begin to impose their opinion, telling a person what he should work as, what to do in his free time, what education to choose. However, they themselves will not live according to the model prepared for you and will only shrug their shoulders if you are unhappy after following their recommendations.

Try to look at many things from a useful perspective. When someone pushes their opinion on you, ask yourself: “Is this helpful to me?” If there is no benefit even at 60%, you shouldn’t listen to someone else’s opinion.

Work on your self-esteem. This is a very important point. People often go to extremes: some consider themselves too inept and unworthy to make decisions, while others prefer not to pay attention to criticism at all, even if it comes from a more experienced person. Remember your positive qualities, or better yet, write them down on paper. If it is difficult to do this on your own, ask your loved ones to tell you why they value you, and you will learn a lot of pleasant things. Finally, develop the right attitude towards criticism. Remember that you are beyond judgment, so we can only talk about your words and actions. This means that if a more experienced person criticizes you, you need to take his words as a useful lesson, and not as an accusation.

A few more tips

Remember that you can approach many things with humor; fight off attacks with jokes and sarcasm. Laugh loudly in the face of the offender, this will discourage him, but for this you need to have excellent self-control; the slightest falsehood will bring all your efforts to naught.

Or dryly ask after the rude guy is silent: “Well, have you increased your self-esteem? Or should I still listen?”

Or harass the ill-wisher with responses like: “Yeah, and?”, “What’s next?”, “What else can you say?”, “Is that all?”, “Suggest me next?” You can shake your head sadly and say: “If I were your parents, I would burn with shame.”

For some, the consent method has a sobering effect. If someone tactlessly notices that you have gained a lot of weight, nod and say: “Yes, I know, I look in the mirror. Now I'm happy with myself." Rarely will an aggressor want to develop a dialogue.

There are no universal recipes, the choice of method depends on the character of the opponent, you need to find out how you can penetrate him, then a worthy answer will be found. The main thing is to keep a cool head yourself.

Control your imagination

Some “optimists” have a wonderful habit - they amuse themselves by making apocalyptic plans for the future. It must be very exciting to imagine what misfortunes can happen. If you also have similar fantasies, immediately start working on yourself. Be realistic: in movies, disasters happen at every turn, but are there many of them in real life? Has anything similar happened to you? Maybe your friends experienced a thriller story? It is possible that you have had to experience troubles, but hopefully they do not happen every month?

Doesn't this logic seem comforting to you? We urge you to calm down your imagination and come into balance: if life is really so cruel, draw pictures of harmony and prosperity in your imagination. Learn to write positive scenarios, practice writing until you begin to enjoy fantasy positivity. Someday your imagination, trained for virtual misfortunes, will give up and stop producing nightmares. If you continue to entertain yourself with horrors of your own making, a clinic of neuroses awaits you. But first you will become a subject, communication with whom is burdensome for others.

How to Succeed in Sales

I consider sales one of the main skills that brings money. Each of us has value that we create in the world. A person receives money for the value he creates. A sale is a fair exchange in which a person receives value and hands over money in return.

You need to really love the sales process itself and enjoy it.

Love the product you are selling. Study your product and its nuances, collect reviews. Know 100% what benefits your product brings and convey this to the client. Give the client more value than the client gives you money. If it’s the other way around, then the clients are not happy, and you are not engaged in charity, but in theft. The client feels it. Don't push, but want to help.

Love the client, even if he didn’t buy from you. He might come back.

This is the main psychology of sales, the rest is technique.

How to protect yourself from negativity at work

First, a simple truth: a person who radiates negativity will never achieve success in life. Just know that this is a loser who is pushing away opportunities and people.

Such a presentation will strengthen your self-confidence and allow you to be more calm about all his antics. Having turned on your inner core, you are already 70% ready to defend yourself. All that remains is to learn some tricks. Here they are:

As soon as you are rude, stop the frantic wave of thoughts! It seems that you are about to tear a person to shreds! And why not, it will become easier. Well, if you want to feed the negative, you can show your knowledge in a three-story mat. Otherwise, exhale, then inhale deeply and put on a mask of indifference. The first seconds are the most important. If you are able to hold back your reaction, then you are superior to your opponent. Why would you stoop to his level? Be taller!

Be prepared for negativity. Forewarned is forearmed. You already understand that an eruption can occur at any moment, so do not be surprised by human behavior. Take this for granted, and your rambunctious colleague will dry up from lack of reciprocal emotion.

Do not conduct the conversation in a “1 on 1” format. Involve the people around you in the conversation, and your colleague will instantly reduce the pressure. It will become uncomfortable for him to offend you when several people are watching and evaluating his behavior. Nature is at work here: everyone wants to show their best side. It's like a computer program aimed at survival in society, and you are a hacker who uses it for your own purposes.

Ignore Ignoring is the best way to deal with a negative colleague. The absence of your emotions is the most unpleasant punishment for this kind of people. Install a kind of filter that eliminates the person from your field of vision. Try to avoid communication as much as possible, and if you have to make contact, answer briefly and immediately switch your attention. Remember, ignoring does not mean playing silent

If a person suspects something, the situation may worsen. Try to do this carefully and unobtrusively.

Accept other points of view Yes, it is difficult. But sometimes it’s not about them at all, but about you

Maybe you are melancholic, taking everything to heart, or just lazy! Try to figure out what your colleague is pouring out on you: a bucket of slop, or constructive criticism. It may turn out that all you have to do is submit reports on time, and problems at work will disappear on their own.

How to respond to an insult with humor and sarcasm

Many people make the mistake of clearly showing the other person that their words have offended them in some way. Of course, when we are insulted, it is not easy to control ourselves and not show that we are offended and “touched to the quick.” And yet, if you fail to cope with this task, then your opponent will understand that he managed to achieve his goal and truly insult you. No matter how difficult it is for you, try to make it clear to the person that his words do not bother you at all. The best way to help you with this is humor, which often helps you react quickly in unforeseen situations.

If you stock up on a few witty phrases, then, for sure, they will later be able to help you out at the right time.

Examples of such remarks:

Your words do not surprise me at all. I'd be surprised if you said something really smart.
And nature really has a great sense of humor, since it creates specimens like you!

What does a negative person mean?

A negative person is primarily someone who affects self-esteem. If a person is not confident in himself, any passing remark can plunge him into the abyss of despair. Even an innocent person can act as a negative personality. For example, a teacher or boss who expresses his desires and orders in a demanding form looks like an accumulation of negativity to a touchy and vulnerable person.

There are also so-called “energy vampires” who specifically generate negative emotions in others, provoking scandals, physical discomfort and other unpleasant reactions. Such people have many psychological tools in their arsenal that are powerless against self-confidence and equanimity.

Everyone is familiar with elderly grandmothers who cause scandals in stores and clinics. These negative personalities became like this from a lack of emotion and attention. With age, many opportunities to receive bright emotions are lost, and by causing negativity in others, you can get a response, find yourself in the center of attention and get emotional release.

Another type of people are those who assert themselves at the expense of others. This could be a boss, any official, a friend, a classmate, a relative, or even a spouse. Such people do not know how to create something meaningful and the only way to raise self-esteem is to humiliate those who succumb to provocations.

Lifehack for gaining a positive charge for the whole day

Almost every day we get a chance to recharge ourselves with good emotions completely free of charge. All you need to do is exchange a few kind words with someone.

Give a compliment to a colleague, a saleswoman in a store or a courier from a delivery service. Call a friend to share your smile and good mood.

You already know how to react to negativity so as not to become infected with negative emotions. But a smile is transmitted from person to person using the same mechanism. Exchange smiles with someone - you will immediately feel how your soul has become warmer.

And if you can carry this feeling throughout the whole day, you are guaranteed many pleasant events today! And tomorrow... And always... Just try!

Emotions with a sign

People can approach the same situation differently. Some people replay unpleasant moments in their heads every now and then, thereby further strengthening the resulting negativity.

Others simply do not focus on the problem, which after some time ceases to be such

That is why it is so important to realize that the attitude towards a particular situation depends only on the person himself. To make it easier to drive away sad thoughts and not dwell on bad moments, you should concentrate as much as possible on the positive, remembering all the good things in life

To make it easier to drive away sad thoughts and not dwell on bad moments, you should concentrate as much as possible on the positive, remembering all the good things in life.

Don't let the other person make you angry

An emotional reaction shows that we cannot assess the situation objectively. Emotions can take over you for just a couple of seconds, or they can completely take control of your behavior. If a person radiating negativity manages to make you angry or unbalanced, this means that you were unable to maintain a sober view of the situation.

When you encounter negative behavior that hurts you, don't respond to insult with insult. Maintain your dignity and do not stoop to the level of your interlocutor. Try to get to the root.

Return to nature

Sometimes you really need a break from all the people around you. So take a weekend, a day or even an hour, and go somewhere for a walk in nature.

Let the sounds of nature replace the flow of chatter of the modern world

Notice the simplicity of the natural world and how harmoniously the plant and animal worlds coexist with each other

Breathe deeply, tune in to meditation. Focus on filling your body with fresh air and lifting your mood. And when you return to your daily life, you will feel refreshed and protected from absorbing the negative energy of those around you.

What skills does a person constantly need and what is currently valuable in the market?

Sales. The ability to sell is always necessary and valuable.

Ability to learn . In the modern world, only such a person will be at the peak, who keeps up with the changes. He has nothing to fear, he will always learn new things. Professional development is always welcome.

Communication with people. You need to learn to be friends and be on good terms, to help.
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How not to lose your individuality

...and stop depending on the opinions of others?

Our individuality evaporates under the onslaught. How we look, how we behave and what goals we set for ourselves, what we want from life - all this is our individuality. Freedom is the most important thing a person has. To take away freedom means to take away a person’s life. One should never lose one's self. The system is built in such a way that people who are different and different from each other are not always accepted by society

Of course, if we pay attention to the views and opinions of passers-by, we will not be liberated, we will not begin to truly live. Everyone sees themselves differently, therefore everyone wants to express themselves

Interesting and unique people get lost among thousands of passers-by because they are afraid of other people's opinions.

In order to stop depending on the opinion of society, it is worth understanding that:

The opinions of others are just opinions, no one forces you to listen to them and change anything. Often people, condemning someone's action, do not notice that they themselves have committed a similar thing. After all, it is always easier to condemn than to understand.
Sometimes people's opinions about the same thing are completely opposite, and it will not be possible to please the whole society as a whole. There will always be someone who will find something negative even in the most noble deed.
It is impossible to live constantly looking at others; your personal opinion should always come first.

The way others see us is not us

What others think about us never touches the truth. All ideas are illusions. A person will not be able to immerse himself in your state, probe your inner world and your vision of it.

The opinions of others are the complete opposite of our true knowledge and values. When you listen to others, agree and blame yourself for being different, it puts an end to your personality and its development. Remember: what others think about you is not who you are.

Surround yourself with the present

Our environment influences us - that's a fact. Among deceitful and hypocritical people we become spoiled. Try not to be around people you don't like. Look for people who are like you, non-judgmental and willing to listen.

Choose the right company, this is very important for the further formation of your personality

Your choice

You are your choice. The main thing is to do it without thinking. Don’t lie to yourself, talk to yourself, ask provocative questions, but answer them honestly. Know your weaknesses and strengths

Confidence in yourself and your abilities will not give anyone a chance to attract attention, and no one will be able to offend you and your views

Gossip

Gossip creates problems and can make mountains out of molehills like nothing else. Don't create gossip or listen to it. Understand: if they talk about you, you are always ahead. But who are these people who are so interested in other people's lives? It's simple: they have a surprisingly small world, and they have not seen anything beyond their stereotypical knowledge. When they come across an interesting and somewhat strange person who is trying to express himself, they condemn what they cannot understand. There will always be a herd in any society.

Immunity

Develop an immunity to strength and special indifference to the opinions of others. All this only complicates your path. Do and look the way you want. There will be no other chances and life for this.

Our negative emotions turn... into negative events!

One day I got sick and had to go to the doctors regularly. Probably everyone is familiar with the situation when you really just need to “ask”, and the entrance to the doctor’s office is guarded by a line of 15 grannies...

I then noticed an interesting pattern: if you get into an argument with the queue, then it will be difficult to wash yourself away from the rising wave of negativity. As a result, instead of half an hour, you will spend half a day in the clinic: the necessary offices will be closed, the specialists will be on vacation, the receptionist will definitely lose your card, and your gloves will be in the wardrobe.

For a while, I really went to the clinic as if I was going to work. And I had no idea how to protect myself from negativity. I was indignant, swore and spent almost the entire working day solving simple issues. And then I learned not to let the negativity inside myself, and then everything began to be resolved easily and quickly. There was even a card!

Life works like this: the outside world constantly tests our strength, trying to push us out of the resource state. And when he succeeds, another chain of negative events is launched.

On the subject: The power of human thought: how thoughts can become reality

When faced with a chain reaction of negativity, we think: “Okay, today I’m upset, I didn’t have a good day, but tomorrow everything will be different.” Right? It turns out not really...

How negative emotions ruin our lives

Negativity is like a virus: it is also contagious and destroys health - blood pressure rises, problems with the gastrointestinal tract arise, and depression can begin.

This is especially true for situations where the source of negative influence is constantly nearby - in the family or at work. Of course, emotional people, the so-called empaths, react the hardest to negativity.

It turns out that weakened “emotional immunity” can complicate our lives not only in one day, but also in the long term - cause illness, break-ups, career problems...

How to react to negativity to protect yourself from infection?

First, try to track and catch the moment of infection itself. This is not easy, because many people immediately turn on the instinctive “Flight or Fight” program, and they simply cannot react consciously. But if you pay attention, you will definitely learn over time.

And then you can completely change the setting of the current day with the help of thoughts.

I'll tell you another story...

About the smell of money and victory over negative emotions

Emperor Vespasian argued that money has no smell, and in ancient Rome this was probably true. But today money smells, and how!

In money magic, there are rituals during which banknotes are smeared with patchouli oil. Everything would be fine, but after a couple of days the weaker ethereal notes of patchouli disappear, and what remains is the most persistent base aroma - the smell of camphor.

As a rule, by this time the money magician has already gotten rid of the bill, and the paper “stink” with a face value of 1000 or 5000 rubles goes to an innocent visitor to a store or bank.

The smell of camphor is quite pungent. If a soiled bill is not noticed in time, the entire wallet along with the rest of its contents will smell.

How to protect yourself from negativity if you want to remember the money magician with his oil with an unkind word?

I know that many people react calmly to this scent. But personally, I don’t like camphor, and my husband is generally allergic to it.

And then one day I was picking up my change at the checkout in a supermarket and I felt that one of the bills smelled of this very camphor, and very strongly.

I ask the cashier to change the bill and receive a slightly rude refusal. I explain the situation, ask again - the cashier refuses with undisguised pleasure. It is clear that what is happening amuses her.

Formally, she is right, but her tone makes me angry. And suddenly the understanding comes that right now I am creating a negative event with my own hands and ruining my “karma” for the rest of the day. But it’s already difficult to slow down - as they say, “Ostap got carried away.” »…

In the end, the cashier and I through gritted teeth wish each other a good day and part: I with a fragrant bill in my wallet, she with a clear sense of superiority.

On the way to the car, I try to cool down and urgently figure out how to react to the negativity after the fact. I remember Zeeland’s pendulums (I’ll write about them later) and take a few deep breaths. This immediately reduces the degree of negative emotions.

That time my day was saved and no more negative events happened. And over time, I realized: in order to react correctly to negativity, you need to turn on awareness in time - that is, understand what is happening right now

. This is the most difficult thing, and the rest is just a matter of technique.

On topic: Mindfulness is the key to living in balance

How to remove negative energy from your home

Global cleansing of the house is carried out when they feel bad in this room, they often quarrel or after the previous owners:

First you need to do some general cleaning. Find and clean all hard-to-reach places from dirt, throw away all broken and non-functional items, give unnecessary clothes and other things to those in need. It is better to carry out wet cleaning using water with Thursday salt

After such cleansing, the house will be open to receiving positive energy; pay special attention to mirrors in the house. Mirror surfaces store all the negative information about past residents, about those who were sick and died in the apartment

To remove negative energy from them, you need to thoroughly wash them, first with salt, then with clean water; then you can cleanse the apartment with a regular paraffin or church candle. You need to walk around the entire apartment with a lit candle counterclockwise, stopping at each corner. If a candle smokes, the flame becomes black and uneven in a certain area, this indicates the presence of negative energy. You need to go around the entire apartment again until the flame becomes even everywhere, and then leave the candle to burn out.

And some more general tips:

Get indoor plants and care for them lovingly. They will neutralize negative energy from guests. If you live in a private house, you can plant trees and shrubs around the building, which will create a ring that protects from external negativity;
get a cat in the house. This animal has the unique gift of repelling negative energy;
Always clean your home after guests visit and ventilate the room well.

invisible wall

There are provocateurs who are just waiting for a response to the negativity sent into the world. And when they receive it, it’s as if they are swimming in the waves of other people’s emotions, fueled by energy. The most correct thing a person can do in the face of such attacks is to mentally build an invisible wall around himself. The first seconds in which the response is formed are the most important. That is why it is necessary to have time to take a deep breath, exhale and try with all your might to switch from perceiving the negative to “creating” that very wall.

You need to imagine the height of the wall, the color, the material from which it will be made and literally feel how all the unpleasant words sounding from the outside are shattered against its armor.

Focus not on the problem, but on the solution

What you focus your attention on affects your emotional state. If you focus on the problems you are facing, you only increase the negative impact of stressors. If you are looking for a way to improve your current situation, then you feel satisfied, which causes positive emotions and helps overcome anxiety.

The same principle should be used when dealing with negative people. Just stop thinking about how much the other person annoys you. Instead, ask yourself how you can influence this person's behavior so that it doesn't cause you discomfort. This way you will stop worrying and can take control of the situation.

How to stop depending on other people's opinions

Most of us are very dependent on the opinions of others, and this circumstance often ruins our lives. Someone tries to adapt, changing their opinion under the influence of the environment. Others silently endure negative statements, but suffer greatly and depend on other people’s opinions, self-esteem decreases and, as a result, neuroses and depression arise. How not to depend on other people's opinions? What do I need to do?

Divide all people according to their importance to you:

people whose opinions are very important to us and who are really worth listening to; people whose opinions are sometimes worth considering; people who mean nothing to you.

Life is such that we constantly hear opinions about any events. And there are a huge number of opinions, everyone has their own, it is impossible to simply physically listen to everyone, especially if these opinions are unpleasant for us and interfere with our lives

It is very important to be able to understand people in order to understand whether it is worth listening to them

Separate the wheat from the chaff

From each opinion you need to extract only the useful, and throw the rest of the garbage out of your head! The main thing is not to let others ruin your life with their opinions. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me,” English proverb.

Assess your perspective yourself

Many famous people in childhood or youth did not show much promise, studied very mediocrely, and were ridiculed because of their appearance.

For example, teachers considered Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, and Konstantin Tsiolkovsky to be mentally retarded.

Tom Cruise changed several schools, he couldn’t read, he couldn’t comprehend the text.

Winona Ryder switched to home schooling due to ridicule and bullying from classmates.

Examples can be given endlessly. Imagine if they had listened to everyone who judged them negatively, would they have turned out the way they did? Hardly. They calmly walked towards their goal, without listening to others.

When someone criticizes you, he is not thinking about you, but first of all about himself

As a rule, people criticize those shortcomings that they do not like in themselves, or those advantages that they themselves would like to have. At these moments, they, unwittingly, reveal their secrets. A person who angrily criticizes and tries to find your shortcomings and make you look like a weakling and a loser, in fact, most of all in life is afraid that this will happen to him, and perhaps it is already happening.

Don't trust first impressions

Many people tend to change their minds very quickly. Including about you. You yourself, most likely, have changed your opinion about a person more than once. It happens that at first glance you don’t like someone, but when you get to know him better, you evaluate him completely differently.

Don't pay attention to the rudeness

If you were told something unpleasant or hurtful by people who mean nothing to you, it will not affect your life in any way. They will forget about you in 15 minutes

Should I be upset and take into account the opinion of an outsider? Hardly

Accept that everyone has different tastes

There is always a negative opinion for any phenomenon in this world. On the best films, books, paintings that you like, there will always be opposing opinions

Is it worth paying attention to them, or will the fact that someone doesn’t like it make you immediately stop loving the book or movie?

Some people just assert themselves at your expense.

By expressing their opinion, people thereby want to rise in their own eyes

They feel important and significant only when someone is criticized or taught. Will the opinion of such a person be authoritative for you? After all, at its core, this is not aimed at you, but the purpose of criticism is the desire to rise above others

Causes of aggressive behavior

There are many reasons for aggression - shame, guilt, fear, or anger. Sometimes these feelings sit so deep in a person that it is impossible for him to see them in himself without outside help. And aggression is most often directed at the one who evokes these feelings in an aggressive person.

One way to survive

Aggressive behavior most often affects people who are less intellectually developed. But they, as a rule, adhere to an active life position and have great opportunities. With the help of aggression, people defend their principles and interests, try to survive in a cruel world if they do not see other, more humane and civilized means.

Inner experiences

If a person falls into a state of aggression, then the problem lies in his soul. Experiences accumulate inside a person, and it becomes increasingly difficult for him to control himself. At such moments, anything can become a reason for aggression. On the contrary, the more balanced and harmonious a person is, the less susceptible he is to an aggressive mood.

Miseducation

The causes of irritability and aggression must be sought from infancy.

Pressure, resentment and humiliation suffered in early childhood give rise to aggression. If a child has experienced negativity from his parents or been subjected to physical and moral violence, there is a high probability that, as he grows up, he will begin to take revenge, taking out aggression on others.

It is very easy to break a child's psyche. For example, some parents conduct such “educational” experiments: they do not approach the crib with a crying baby. If the child has a strong character, the parents will not stand it and will come up first; if a child has a weak character, prone to neuroticism, he will give up. Thus, even from the cradle, resentment is ingrained in the baby’s brain.

Sometimes parents unconsciously offend their child with words: “move away,” “don’t interfere,” “don’t disturb,” “don’t touch,” “go to another room.” At the same time, without explaining to the child why he cannot touch this or that thing, why he cannot help his parents do anything.

But even when introducing their child to joint work around the house, some parents scold their child if something doesn’t work out. Instead of helping and supporting, parents break down: “You can’t do it! What have you done! Go away!

From childhood, resentment accumulates, which then results in aggression. A person is so filled with resentment that even an outside glance can arouse anger in him. At this moment, the aggressor is driven by the desire for revenge.

Public bullying

Often society also inflicts mental trauma on a child: public humiliation, insults, and bullying embitter people.

Stop feeding the beast

The term “emotional vampires” was used above.

We are talking about parasitic individuals who literally feed on your attention and affection, leaving you emotionally devastated

Before you start investing your emotions in these people, think about the fact that you will end up losing all your energy. Because of this, you will not be able to take even a step towards solving their problems.

You will never be able to satisfy their thirst for your love if they are determined to feel and act like a victim.

You can offer your support to those who need it: a friend or even a stranger.

But try not to lose sight of the moment when your efforts begin to become unnecessary

Or when people calling for your help become more like rivals vying for your attention

You don't have to solve other people's problems, especially when they don't want to. They just want to be endlessly pitied. So you have to know when to leave!

When you feel that your internal resources are being depleted, just step aside and leave everything as it is. There is nothing wrong with refusing to take part in someone's contrived drama.

Get creative

When you are bombarded with negative thoughts, you can spend some time being creative. It works just like talking, except you don't have to bother anyone with your problems. You can do anything: write prose or poetry, draw with a pencil or paints. Finally, dance.

The release of emotions through creativity is a kind of art therapy that will not only provide relaxation, but also lift your spirits. Negative thoughts will pass through you, take shape and stay there, not in your head.