You can find a great many articles on the topic “joy in life”. In fact, the same truisms are reprinted in different words. But which of them will reach the soul and truly teach and help restore an optimistic attitude? Are there such words at all?
Perhaps there is. Both words and concrete actions. Only they are so closely woven into the fabric of everyday life that more effort needs to be made to simply notice them. And it is absolutely necessary to apply them.
Life is mostly a cakewalk. Barefoot. On broken glass. And one can only envy those who have never fallen into despair (you have to find them first, though). This is, firstly.
And secondly, everything is not so bad. Behind every crisis lies opportunity, behind every disappointment lies discovery. The trick is to see them, to master the ability to pick them up the way a hammerhead fish catches the faint electrical signals of stingrays hidden in the sand. This ability in common understanding is called optimism.
- Three enemies of a happy life
- 10 valuable tips from Osho
Remember only the good.
The ability to think correctly is the first step to a good mood and a fulfilling life. Try to remember all the good deeds and positive moments of the day, write down your happy thoughts in a notebook or publish them on social networks.
Remembering your positive moments in life can greatly lift your spirits. And as a result, negative memories and emotions will be replaced. Keep a diary of your positive moments in life, I am sure that you have something to remember. Remember that optimism is a life attitude, not a temporary state.
Be grateful for everything you have in life.
Before you get upset over minor setbacks, think about those who are now several times worse off. The world often experiences disasters, military operations and epidemics of dangerous diseases. Mentally thank fate for the opportunity to live and work in a calm environment. Surprisingly, many people don't notice how happy they are! I communicate with many people, and I know that many have problems in life. More precisely, they have constant problems. Not everyone has what they want or would like to have. There is always something to thank God, the universe, this whole world for. especially if everything is great with you.
Hope everything works out
Optimists always hope for success in any life situation. If plans don't work out for any reason, don't blame yourself for it. Just think about your desires. You should not give in to despondency, because thoughts are material. You need to work on yourself, and then all your dreams will certainly come true. You will succeed, you have to believe in it. And faith and self-confidence and your own strength will give you more energy and, as a result, you will experience positive emotions in anticipation of a quick and positive result.
Use affirmations
It is known that a person who is positive can achieve a lot. Our thoughts manifest themselves in real life, so constant complaints only make problems worse. How to properly set yourself up for positivity? A simple and understandable exercise is an affirmation that allows you to consolidate the desired attitude in a person’s mind. A short phrase, when repeated many times, stimulates positive changes in life and evokes corresponding emotions. For example, inspire yourself with the idea that life is filled with exclusively pleasant events. Start repeating the affirmation right now and the results will not take long to arrive. I have a whole series of settings that make my life easier. Whenever possible, I constantly say them to myself or out loud and everything works out.
Focus on the future
You should not live with past experiences and grievances. This is pointless, because the past cannot be changed, you can only extract useful knowledge from it. The mistake most people make is that they cannot plan for a happy future due to past grievances. Envy also brings nothing but harm to health. You need to learn to feel joy for another person and wish him well. Achieve your goals, focus on the future and your future achievements.
Think about your dream
How else can you set yourself up for positivity? Every person has a dream. This could be a new place of residence, a car, a trip to an exotic country. How to implement it? In your free moments, imagine yourself as the owner of a desired car or a satisfied tourist in interesting places in another country. So, thanks to the abundance of positive emotions, you can achieve your goal. Dreams Come True. Positivity and positive reality will speed up the realization of your dreams. This is how our universe works.
Listen to positive music
On the way to work and in transport, try to listen to pleasant music on headphones. Good music will help you get rid of negative thoughts and tune in to the positive. Recharge with positive energy from rhythmic music. When I clean the house, I often listen to my favorite music, which gives me a lot of energy.
Hang out with optimists.
A good environment is also very important for a person. Communication with cheerful and friendly people will certainly bring joy and help you set yourself up for success. It is better to exclude pessimists from your social circle. Under no circumstances should you pick up on someone else's bad mood! Also, you should not take criticism seriously, which is not always useful. Learn to take criticism correctly. I am also criticized, but I go step by step towards my goal and every day my life becomes even better.
Optimistic mood
The world of a person’s emotions inherently includes his mood. We all want to know how to increase it in situations of fear, sadness and crisis. There are many simple methods and techniques to improve the mood of yourself and others. A person’s mood is how the person himself relates to his external and internal life situation as a whole, his emotional process in this situation. Oh, how often do we all need optimism? Optimism
is a philosophical doctrine according to which the existing world, despite all its shortcomings, is the best; that is, the most perfect of all possible, and everything that happens in it is directed towards the realization of good. Small Encyclopedic Dictionary of Brockhaus and Efron
We almost all know that in order to improve your mood, you need to start moving. Our physical and mental state improves if we walk, dance, do what we love, take spa treatments, massage, etc. Our mood is influenced by smell, color, sound, shopping, clothes, shoes, funny jokes and jokes, etc. If we put on something beautiful, add our favorite smells, turn on our favorite movie, a joyful song, then this will also lift our mood. Each of us can choose a method and technique that will help create the right mood and great mood. And also try to surround yourself with pleasant, positive people who know how to “infect” those around you with the desire to live cheerfully, cheerfully and start the business that you have been putting off for so long. I. Atwater and K. Duffy in their book “Psychology for Life. The ordering of the way of thinking, the development and behavior of a person of our day” write: “Martin Seligman (Seligman, 1988), like other psychologists, believes that it is not the events of our lives themselves that have a destructive influence on us. It is our opinion and interpretation of these events, as well as the reactions resulting from them, that most influence our lives. If people emphasize continuity (“it will last forever”), universality (“everything gets worse”), and internal character (“it’s me”) in their explanations for adverse events, then such people tend to prematurely lose control of their lives and It is ineffective to respond to favorable events when they occur. This is a phenomenon of learned helplessness
representing unjustified passivity, which often occurs when a person is faced with uncontrollable events.
Learned helplessness is associated with a host of disorders, including depression, academic failure, bureaucratic apathy, and early death. At the other extreme, people believe they have more control over their lives than they actually do. This happens when they are doing well and they exaggerate the amount of control they have. They trust the positive results of events more than they deserve; perhaps this is a way to increase self-esteem. In other cases, there is an illusion of control
, that is, confidence.
that under control are those events that in reality are determined by chance, for example, winning the lottery. The method of learned optimism is needed as an acceptable way to achieve optimal but realistic experienced control. A sense of optimism not only allows you to cope with despondency - it is necessary to achieve serious goals. Optimism
is one of the personality characteristics associated with good adjustment. Optimism correlates with the ability to solve problems well under stress, with the strength of the “I”, good physical health, an active desire to overcome difficulties and seek support when necessary, with general mental performance.
Acquired optimism can be learned. The main thing is to learn optimistic thinking in explaining existing facts and the current situation. Everything depends on our perception and adaptation. All .
explanations of the current situation are built by a person on three main categories:
constancy, generalization and personalization .
However, within each category there are two poles that are selected depending on whether you are dealing with a favorable or unfavorable event. Positive events should be interpreted in terms of their continuity, their universality and the fact that they are connected by our own efforts and not by external circumstances. While there are obvious benefits to using learned optimism, there are also challenges associated with it. For example, shifting from attributing reasons for failure to internal factors to external ones (“it wasn’t my fault, just bad luck”) can lead to a decreased sense of responsibility. Therefore, Seligman is not a supporter of a complete transition from internal explanations to external ones, although there is one condition when it is better to do this - depression. When people are depressed, they have a tendency to take more responsibility, or to be more precise, blame themselves more for adverse events than they should. In addition, if a person needs to change his explanatory style, then he should pay more attention to the category of “consistency” rather than to the category of “personalization”. If you believe that the cause of your troubles is stable, such as a lack of intelligence or talent, you will do nothing to change it. However, if you think the reason is changeable, such as not putting in too much effort or being in a bad mood, you can make changes. The main rule for determining a situation when one should not use an optimistic approach is to ask the question of what the price of failure will be in this situation” [pp. 351-356].
Mood
Material https://www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/nastroenie Do not allow yourself to be in a bad mood, it is indecent and harmful to health If the movements of emotions become smoother and therefore long-lasting, lasting and almost static, they speak of states and moods.
The state is about the objective, about the body. The mood is about the inner, about the soul. The eyes flashed with joy - emotion. This morning is permeated with light for you, joy has come to you and does not go away, it lives in calm, alternating waves - this is a calm state and a joyful mood. Mood is an imaged state of the soul, a person’s feelings or something spiritual (for example, the mood of a painting, melody, performance). The image of the mood can be general (“elevated”, “depressed” mood), or understood as a clearly identifiable state (boredom, sadness, melancholy, fear or, on the contrary, enthusiasm, joy, jubilation, delight, etc.). Mood can be fleeting; more often mood is spoken of as something lasting. “Emotions and feelings are associated with some object and directed towards it: we are happy about something, upset about something, worried about something. But when a person is in a joyful mood, he is not just happy about something, but he is happy - everything in the world seems joyful and beautiful. The mood is not objective, but personal; it is not about something specific, but a diffuse and general state. It is not a special experience confined to some particular event, but an diffuse general state.” — S.L. Rubinstein. Our mood is influenced by many factors: weather, well-being, hormonal levels, but if we want to manage our (or someone else’s) mood, it is more important to pay attention to the habits and internal benefits behind the mood. A common situation: the husband cheated, the wife suffers, walks around with a dead face and unhappy eyes. There is no mood, no strength, everything is terrible and everything is annoying. A simple analysis shows that this is not really a program, not exactly something that a woman cannot influence - more often it is a subconscious revenge on her husband and a half-conscious intention to extract more bonuses from the current situation. Make your husband guilty - and then use it. When and if a woman realizes this, she is quite capable of pulling herself together and not playing the more unfortunate victim. A tendency to change moods, especially to frequent and deep changes, is a sign of a Person of Mood (according to N.I. Kozlov) or a Labile type (according to A.E. Lichko). What to do about mood swings? See PMS and Labile type: how to work on yourself Manage your mood
Adults, developed, responsible people know how to manage their mood. It's not very difficult. A.S. Makarenko wrote in “Education in the Family and School”: “Some parents and teachers allow themselves the “luxury” of having their voice reflect their mood. This is completely unacceptable. You can be in any mood, but your voice should be real, good, firm. Your mood has nothing to do with your voice. Why do you know what my mood is now? Maybe I'm in grief. Or maybe I have some great joy. But I have to speak so that everyone will listen to me. Every parent, every teacher, before talking to a child, must twist himself a little so that all moods disappear. And it's not that difficult. After we lived in the forest for three years and there were bandits around us, what kind of mood could there be? What freedom can I give to my moods? I got used to managing my mood and found it very easy. You need to make sure that your face, your eyes, your voice are, in some cases, autonomous. In your soul, perhaps, cats are scratching and all sorts of other nasty things, but on the outside everything should be in perfect order, in full dress. The teacher is obliged to have a “parade on his face.” It is advisable that parents also have a “parade” on their faces. If a certain mood does not suit you, it can usually be changed immediately or gradually. There are many ways. The simplest thing is to replace a bad mood with a good one. Indeed, being in a traffic jam, you don’t have to get angry. You can turn on music, resolve issues over the phone, do facial exercises and stretch your voice... There are always many options, if you wish!
Man of moods
- one of the psychotypes in N.I. Kozlov’s classification.
An analogue of the Labile type in the Lichko classification. Portrait of a psychotype Ah, Ivanushka, you made me laugh!
Princess Nesmeyana, through tears We all come from childhood.
A man of mood, however, differs from the rest in that he remained like that in childhood. His soul is the soul of a child, it is bright, sincere, spontaneous and naive. In childhood, these children often suffered from infectious diseases: constant sore throats, colds, chronic pneumonia, there could be rheumatism, cholecystitis and other not terrible, but unpleasant things. They were not seriously ill, but the protracted and repeated form meant that someone close to them was always with them. To be a little naughty, to play a little - it was nice to babysit such a child. The child was loved and responded in kind. He has been sweet since childhood: he ran to his mother, so soulfully buried himself in her, hiding his eyes, and pressed him, hugging her... He complained, even tears came to his eyes! But the best part is that I quickly felt comforted under my mother’s warm words. And he blossomed with a smile... They nursed him, caught the slightest change in his mood and well-being, and he began to do the same. And, having matured, he became an eternal nanny to himself, dearly loved. It seems that he liked to bask in the bright childhood, but did not go into an adult, independent and responsible life. And now, every time, every minute, this nice big child allows himself to feel what he wants: when to be happy, when to be capricious or sad. This is his lifestyle, and it’s so easy to find reasons for any mood if desired! Inopportunely, it began to rain, a trolleybus drove off in front of my nose, and then a button came off - the mood was ruined. A pretty girl stood next to her, the sun came out, I saw a stunning orange peel on the gray asphalt - my soul was singing, I wanted to love everyone. Everything is easy: because the next time he wants to be sad and feel sorry for himself, he will find reasons for this “just once.” Like a sincere child, he experiences everything for real, from the heart and to the whole body: he easily loses sleep and appetite, his ability to work and simply his state of health changes dramatically. The mood changes - the world changes. He is on the rise - life is wonderful, he loves everyone and admires everyone. He’s not in a good mood, which means everything is bad, people are bastards, and he himself is a fool. He lives not with his head, but with his heart, and his heart rarely lets him down. He is intuitive, and when meeting people, he instantly feels a real attitude towards himself. What’s worse is that he also instantly and sincerely reacts to him...
And yet, the people around him, and especially his loved ones, treat him with sincere sympathy: after all, at heart he is a kind and warm person, he is not envious, not arrogant, grateful , appreciates a kind attitude towards himself, is open and cordial in communication.
At work he is just as pleasant and sweet, but if you need to work there, then he is essentially useless. Smiling confusedly or changing sadly, he will guiltily talk about the latest circumstances, sincerely sigh and promise that this is the last time - but you know that the case he failed is not the first and will not be the last. Such people do not set themselves big goals in life and, as long as life protects them, they live easily, catching the sun and sometimes fluttering like a leaf in the wind. However, they endure real losses hard, and in difficulties they cannot rely on them: they are not used to fighting. They can only worry and cry. It seems that at any age they believe that if they cry for a long time and bitterly, someone Very Big and Kind will definitely come and will certainly console them... (man-child) What to do?
If you observe the traits of a person of mood and want to correct your characteristics, then see Labile type: how to work on yourself.
Labile type and mood
Material https://www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/labilnyy_tip_i_nastroenie The main feature of the labile type is extreme variability of mood... We can talk about the emerging formation of a labile type in cases where the mood changes too often and too abruptly, and the reasons for these fundamental changes are insignificant. An unflattering word spoken by someone, an unfriendly look from a random interlocutor, an inopportune rainfall, or a button torn from a suit can plunge you into a dull and gloomy mood in the absence of any serious troubles or failures. At the same time, some pleasant conversation, interesting news, a passing compliment, a well-dressed suit for the occasion, heard from someone, although unrealistic, but tempting prospects can lift the mood, even distract from real troubles, until they remind you again anything about yourself. During a psychiatric examination, during frank and exciting conversations, when you have to touch on various aspects of life, over the course of half an hour you can see more than once tears ready to well up and soon a joyful smile. Mood is characterized not only by frequent and sudden changes, but also by their significant depth. Well-being, appetite, sleep, ability to work, and the desire to be alone or only with a loved one, or to rush into a noisy society, in company, with people, depend on the mood of a given moment. According to the mood, the future is either painted with rainbow colors, or appears gray and dull, and the past appears either as a chain of pleasant memories, or seems entirely consisting of failures, mistakes and injustices. The same people, the same environment seem either sweet, interesting and attractive, or boring, boring and ugly, endowed with all sorts of shortcomings.
How to cheer yourself up when everything around you is “bad”
Author: Irina Belomaz. Source - School of Life The mood is at zero, I don’t want anything - loved ones are annoying, loneliness is oppressive... Everything is seen in shades of gray - the weather, passers-by, and yesterday’s plans. We got up on the wrong foot in the morning, our rose-colored glasses fell somewhere, we haven’t seen them for a long time... Fatigue, minor troubles (like mosquitoes - small, annoying and they come in numbers). A bad mood has different roots, but what’s offensive is that it often happens to us for no apparent reason, out of nowhere. And it’s good if it’s just for a minute - I made myself a cup of coffee or talked on the phone with a friend for ten minutes, and let it go. What if it’s protracted? Life goes on, but for you it stands still, “because everything around is bad and tomorrow it will be exactly the same.” Or maybe it’s time for you to wait for a visit from a very unpleasant lady whose name is depression? However, there are a lot of ways that are accessible and easy to implement so that your mood level skyrockets. It’s like in treatment – the main thing is to choose the right one. Some of the methods are available at any time, while others can become part of your daily routine and significantly enrich your supply of positive energy. Well, first of all, let's start with a question. Did you get enough sleep? Lack of sleep does terrible things to people. What kind of mood is there when, like Napoleon, you sleep three or four hours a day? I remember a young mother I knew, who, loaded with everyday responsibilities of raising, cleaning and cooking, went on a trip to Karlovy Vary as a gift from her relatives, but not in order to enjoy the contemplation of architectural monuments or drink plenty from the local healing springs. Sleeping in a hotel for two weeks is where happiness lies! Are you awake? For the hundredth time, but most importantly, don’t forget about physical activity, simply exercise. At first it’s lazy, but upon completion you feel such a surge of vivacity and energy that you wonder - maybe I’ll repeat it tomorrow? Cheers to your health! But if lost mood and apathy have resulted in invincible laziness, and you have no time for exercise at all, acupressure will help. Using your index finger, lightly press on the third eye area, massage the groove under the nose, earlobes and center of the chin, the first phalanx of the thumb and middle finger of each hand - clockwise and counterclockwise, nine times. Many people, especially women, like to take antidepressants. However, tablets are still tablets. It is better to resort to such measures when other methods have been tried and the situation is approaching a critical point. A momentary bad mood is not at all a reason to resort to medication. And if you have to choose, then take a closer look at homeopathic, herbal preparations - and do this only after consulting a doctor, and not succumb to advertising from the mouth of a friend - what she drinks, and what life is like for her now in “pink-green-blue”... And Music may be a much more successful “pill.” Just choose the “medicine” wisely. That’s how a person is made, if he is melancholic and closed in on his misfortunes, he is tempted to listen to something mournful and aching for his already exhausted heart. Problems get worse, the music makes you feel even more sorry for yourself, you feel so unhappy and lonely, you have no strength - what a good mood that can be. So, in defiance of your current state, charge yourself with a whole cocktail of major chords, more cheerful, more energetic... It’s somehow... completely uncomfortable to sit and be sad while listening to such music. Why should a bad mood create comfortable conditions? The next “tablet” is a diary of joyful events. Don’t be lazy, get yourself one - write down fragments of life that pleasantly surprised you, made you laugh, and brought you a lot of pleasure. Describe your feelings, experiences, convey colors! Let it be an extreme bungee flight in the fight against the fear of heights, or a fun vacation on the occasion of defending your diploma, or an amazing gift given to you on your birthday that you will never forget. Or maybe... some mind-bogglingly ridiculous and funny act of your best friend, at which you have been laughing for weeks. Remember, in difficult days for you, this book will become a real lifeline. Just open it and smile. By the way, have you tried to smile in the most difficult moments - just like that, even if there is absolutely no reason for it? In vain. After all, these muscles instinctively stretch in us thanks to certain positive information. This means that if you (try to imagine in reverse order) force yourself to smile, you will involuntarily begin to attract this positive information, memory will do its job. Tested - it works! Also, try to pour out your negative mood on paper - write a poem or draw a self-portrait, or... your future, as you would like to see it - whatever! A bad mood simply cannot stand creative concentration on anything. At first, you will have to force yourself, and then you will get involved and within half an hour you will look at the world differently - it turns out that it is not at all monochromatic! By the way, I found some rose-colored glasses, they’re cute! And how they got there - perhaps next time we should be more careful...
Bad mood
Material https://www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/plohoe_nastroenie The mood can be bad.
But then it gets better! You can’t show a bad mood, says Evelina Khromchenko, host of the “Fashionable Sentence” program and editor of L’Officiel magazine. “It’s my deep conviction that you should never let yourself go,” says Evelina in an interview with the website zn.by. - You must always be in shape. You can't appear in bad condition. Especially to family and friends. They get scared. And enemies, on the contrary, experience happiness. Therefore, no matter what happens, you definitely need to think about how you look. For the life of me, I don’t remember who gave me such advice, but I will be grateful to this smart man all my life. The advice is this: if you want to cry, fold your lips into a smile, the muscles will send a signal to the brain, it will release a dose of the joy hormone - and immediately let go. This is true. Try it! A bad mood is a negative reaction to what is happening. In a mild form - extinguishing one’s interest and vitality, in a sharp form - a demonstration of one’s dissatisfaction and attempts to ruin the mood of others. Essentially, a protest against what is happening. Reason for a bad mood
We ruin our mood (and present it in the passive voice as “our mood has spoiled”) when: · there is a lot in what is happening that does not suit us, · we have a tendency to be in a bad mood, · there is an interest (hidden benefit) in ruining your mood.
Psychoanalysis
1. The habit of spoiling one’s mood is a reflection of the negative nature of our Russian culture. The general spirit of our culture is such that, other things being equal, we tend to get upset rather than get together.
Even joy is often expressed in the form of “It’s terrible how I missed you!” 2. Display of bad manners. The habit of spoiling one's mood is formed in childhood as a desire to get more attention or to insist on one's interests. Children's logic: “If I feel bad, you, mom, should help me and stop demanding from me. Do you see how upset I was when you started scolding me? So, don’t scold.” With good upbringing, the habit of spoiling one's mood changes to the habit of being cheerful and caring. 3. Manifestation of poor health or laziness. We spoil our mood more often when we don’t feel like doing something. Consequences of a bad mood
The mood of those around you spoils (those around you in return spoil their own mood).
When to ruin your mood?
Only when it is justified pedagogically.
For example, using the “Psychotherapeutic Mirror” technique. Related concepts
Objection Material https://www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/vozrazhenie Objection is a negative reaction to what the interlocutor said. In a mild form - an expression of disagreement with the interlocutor, in a sharp form - crossing out the said meaning, protesting against what was said and expressing an opposing opinion. The usual direct objection (“You’re wrong, you’re wrong, that’s not true”) usually turns out to be a conflict generator. If the objection is also categorical and unreasonable (“You’re wrong, and why is none of your business.” “I said no!”), such an objection already sounds like rudeness. Empty objections are meaningless - objections that are not relevant and do not contain specifics. On the other hand, well-mannered people know how to object gently, politely (“Unfortunately, I cannot agree with you yet.” “Your point of view is interesting to me, but not very clear.” “Perhaps I misunderstood something”), and the like objections speak more about respect for another point of view and a desire to understand the person. Objection as disagreement with something that does not suit you is a natural reaction of a self-respecting person, but the tendency to object is rather a bad habit, a manifestation of bad manners and lack of psychological culture↑. Well-mannered people are not afraid to object; if necessary, they do it confidently and forcefully, but if possible, they try to understand their interlocutor and avoid objections. "Interesting. I have a different point of view, but I’ll be happy to listen to you.” How to object correctly? - If you don’t want disputes and quarrels, then do it as little as possible. It is better to first find points on which you can agree, and then correctly state your point of view. If you master the Total YES technique, you will not only maintain your relationships with people, but also become more effective. Before objecting, make sure that you understand the interlocutor correctly. Retell what he said in your own words and ask - did you understand him correctly? The next point, even before your objection, agree that his position is reasonable: “Yes, you are right - in this and that.” If you are talking with a reasonable person, there should be something reasonable in his position. This is reasonable - and mark it. Only after this can you object, or rather, express your point of view without categoricalness and emphasizing that this is only your point of view. Your emphasized respect for the position of your interlocutor, as a rule, causes him to have a similar attitude towards you. Justify your objection if you are interested in continuing the conversation. If you are not interested, thank your interlocutor and change the topic. In any case, keep the inner Good. What the other person thinks is his business, and you have every opportunity to live your own wonderful life. Yes? If you want to convince a person of something, it is more effective to start from his point of view and formulate your position - without disputes or objections. Pay attention to the technique Repeat, agree, add - an effective format for discussing controversial, difficult issues, both in the family and between employees at work. Criticism Plus-help-plus - this is not exactly about an objection, but sometimes it works even better. If the point of view of your interlocutor is not close to you, even if the person said something completely stupid (in your understanding), it is not at all necessary to voice it - why? Neutral “interesting!” or switching the conversation to another topic may be more appropriate solutions. Another thing is a situation of public confrontation, a situation of polemics. Strong objections in polemics are valued, but manipulation and distortion will reduce your status.
Work with objections
Experienced people do not work with objections, but try to get around them. And bypass not objections, but doubts. And to be completely precise, dispel doubts. Everyone has doubts. Doubt is an opportunity to build a dialogue, not a way of defense.
What is positive thinking?
Positive thinking is a set of habits and thinking patterns that make you see things in a more positive light. One common example is to see the failures you experience as lessons and opportunities for further growth.
Positive thinking includes many actions and has a great impact on our lives. It can contribute to the following changes:
- How do you communicate with people;
- You will begin to attract more people who want to get to know you better;
- How you inspire and encourage others, both directly and indirectly;
- Your productivity methods and work capabilities;
- Your stress level and how you cope with it.
From this description, you can conclude that positive thinking is very similar to a lifestyle. The more positive you are, the more good things will appear around you, even in situations where you face setbacks or difficulties.
Another way to look at positive thinking is to find opportunities to motivate yourself, thereby breaking the habit of giving in to challenges. For example, how many times have you told yourself “I can’t complete this task” or “I will never achieve my goal”?
By definition, this type of thinking ensures that you will avoid the task and put less effort into achieving that goal. On the other hand, by thinking, “I can accomplish this task” or “Someday I will achieve this goal,” you will be motivated to work toward those goals.
How to deal with negative thoughts
Another key aspect of positive thinking is that positive thinking is not about eliminating all negativity from your life. There are negative events in our lives, you will make mistakes and fail. However, it is important to strike a balance between being aware of reality, accepting your surroundings, and thinking optimistically.
To maintain this balance, try to adhere to the following recommendations:
- Follow the guide to developing positive thinking , which we'll talk about a little further.
- Learn about your thinking style . Do you think logically or emotionally? Are you focused on the short term or the long term? Do positive or negative thoughts predominate in your head? Identifying all of this will help you understand how your mind works before you start changing it.
- Watch out for negative thoughts . View negative thoughts as something interesting rather than something harmful. When a negative thought comes, try writing it down and thinking about it for a few minutes. Why did this idea arise? Why do you look at this thing negatively? How can you turn this thought into something positive?
