How to have a conversation with a girl on VKontakte: 100 example messages

Have you been thinking for ten minutes about what you can write to the girl you like on VKontakte?

Well, by visiting this page you have made the right choice!

In this guide, I will give you 100 practical examples of text messages that you can send to the girl of your dreams through VK or any other messaging platform.

First, let me start by saying that you shouldn't feel stupid for not knowing how to talk to a girl.

This is actually a very common problem, especially when you really like her.

It's normal to be afraid of making mistakes.

Unfortunately, in our digital age, knowing what to say to a girl in a chat is very important in the very early stages of dating.

Nowadays, most interactions happen through social media.

I will give practical examples of phrases and messages that will help you understand how to conduct a conversation with a girl on VKontakte.

I'll start with the very first message and then move on to more complex ones, for example, how to ask her out on a date.

I've simplified this guide by breaking it down into more manageable topics:

  1. First message (start of conversation).
  2. The best questions to ask.
  3. Questions to get to know her better.
  4. Flirting.
  5. Romantic messages.
  6. Friendly messages.
  7. Serious messages.

Ready to get started?


Feel free to copy and paste phrases from these lists that suit your situation.

What can you ask a girl to interest her?

Flirting is a complex science that should be based not only on sexual interest, but also on intellectual one. Prepare a list of questions in advance that could amuse the girl and present you to her as a sincere interlocutor.

Question options:

  1. How do you feel about me wanting to ask you out on a date?
  2. How long have you been on a date? Do you want to refresh your memories?
  3. I had a dream that I invited you for a walk. Do you think he is prophetic?
  4. Do you believe in destiny? I started believing after I met you.
  5. I read in the horoscope that romantic adventures await me today. Do you believe horoscopes?
  6. I would like to invite you for coffee, but I don't know how. Can you help?
  7. Tell me, how many digits are in your phone number? What are they?
  8. Do you have any hobbies or are you just looking for something interesting?
  9. Skinny become your hobby
  10. You know, I have always considered myself a worthy photographer, would you like to be my fashion model?
  11. Does your computer work well? I'm a master at reinstalling systems, didn't you know?
  12. What would you like to receive as a gift? What can I do to please you?
  13. How do you feel about active recreation? Let's relax together?
  14. Have you already thought about how to spend this evening? I can give you a couple of ideas.
  15. What are your plans for the next evening, week, life?
  16. Girl, don't you need a very interesting and gentle interlocutor?
  17. How long have I waited for you just to ask how you are doing? Forever!
  18. Have you got a dream? Do you want me to give it to you?
  19. Do you often do crazy things? Maybe we can have some fun?
  20. You are happy? Otherwise, I can give you happiness.

How to interest a girl in a conversation? What should I ask her?

Avatar cat breed

If you don’t know anything about a girl’s work, then you can always start the conversation with pets (if she has them). This is fertile ground for conversation.

If you decide to start a conversation with “hello_kagdil”, then you don’t have to write anything further. This is a deliberately disastrous start to a conversation, a rotten banality to which it is impossible to respond with anything adequate. It is better to always be sincere and not use someone else's templates and memorized models. Start with an anecdote, send a picture, ask her about the valence of aluminum. Or about the breed of cat from her avatar. To be bright and original, you just need to be yourself and not be false.

How to ask a girl you like about her age?

The question of age for a woman can be very delicate and therefore such questions should be asked very carefully, without wanting to offend her.

Question options:

  1. Are you old enough to kiss me back?
  2. You look so confident and beautiful that it seems to me that you are older than me, isn’t that true?
  3. Will you tell me how old you are in my ear?
  4. If you were brave, would you admit how old you are?
  5. You look so good, so fresh and young, that I can’t even tell how old you are. Will you confess?
  6. I know it's tactless, but you definitely don't have to worry about it. How old are you?
  7. How old are you? Don’t be shy, I just want to know how many more years we can spend together with you.
  8. I’m embarrassed to ask how old you are, but I want to know: are you ideal for me or should I deviate from the ideal?
  9. If you don’t tell me how old you are, I’ll have to torture you with caresses for a very long time. Do you want this?
  10. How old are you? If you don't want to talk, at least give me a hint. I believe your every word.

How to communicate with a girl correctly to interest her?

Don't forget about humor

Your sense of humor is your weapon. Women appreciate it when a guy wants to make us laugh.

You're kidding! Whether she's dying of laughter or having a good-natured chuckle on the other end as she reads your text, she'll be grateful that you don't take yourself seriously all the time.

Now I won’t dwell on how to learn to humor and be witty - I’ll just give you a little hint: watch more stand-ups, comedy programs, communicate with those who, in your opinion, know how to joke.

How to ask a girl you like if she has a boyfriend?

When starting a relationship, it is important to make sure that the woman is free and open to new relationships. You should ask such questions very delicately, so as not to offend your interlocutor, and most importantly, not to “scare her away.”

Question options:

  1. I'm wondering if this woman is lonely or if I have a chance to win your attention?
  2. Most likely you have a boyfriend, but maybe I'm wrong?
  3. Let me ask you if the heart of such a beautiful girl is occupied?
  4. Tell me, is your heart busy? By chance, not by me?
  5. Oh, how I would like to live in your heart and thoughts. This is wrong?
  6. You have a boyfriend? Otherwise, I have a feeling that there already is and it’s definitely me.
  7. Can I ask you one important and exciting thing: are you free? I am ready to fight for every second of my freedom.
  8. You have a boyfriend? Stop! Do not answer! I don't want to know, I just want to fight.
  9. You have a boyfriend? It’s just important for me to know, will I have a chance to fight for you?
  10. Tell me, do I have a chance to win you away from the guy?
  11. Girl, don’t you need a guy you love? Very loyal and gentle, by the way.
  12. Girl, I like you so much that I’m ready to forget that you’re married.
  13. You really want to become your soulmate that you don’t even care whether your heart is busy or not. I hope it's free?
  14. Girl, can you leave your boyfriend for me?
  15. Can I give you everything in this world and everything that your “ex” boyfriend couldn’t give you?

How to start communicating with a girl? Flirting rules

How do I ask a girl I like if she likes me?

If you decide to win a girl’s heart, you need to make sure that the girl is not indifferent to you. Asking this directly can be quite difficult, so it is important not to frighten a woman with your “direct pressure” and at the same time attract her to you.

Question options:

  1. Do you like me? After all, I really like you.
  2. I feel like I'm falling in love with you, do you like it?
  3. I can’t stop thinking about you, I hope you like me too?
  4. I hope you feel the same way I do?
  5. How I like you! Goosebumps! Does this happen to you?
  6. I can’t stop thinking about you, what do you think this is?
  7. You are stuck not only in my heart, but also in my head. Don't YOU feel the same?
  8. What do you think I want to hear most now? The answer is simple, I want to know that you like me.
  9. I tried so hard to please you, I hope I succeeded?
  10. What else do I need to do to please you?
  11. I'm ready to do anything to earn your sympathy, haven't I succeeded yet?
  12. I want to please you and be the object of your affection. Is this possible?
  13. How much I am attracted to you, I guess I am not so attracted to you?
  14. Who do you think you like more: you or me?
  15. Do you know what I dream about? - I like you!
  16. I want all your thoughts and desires to come down to me and I will achieve this, do you doubt it?
  17. I didn't want anyone as much as you. Have you ever felt this way?
  18. Baby, I like you and it excites me. Do you think this will last long?
  19. I can’t help it, you’ve taken up residence in my head. Do you want me to send you away? But, I wouldn't want to.
  20. I like you, but can I count on such reciprocity?

How to attract a girl's attention? Flirting rules

When is the best time to send your first message?

To increase your chances of a response, send your first message at a time when she is likely to be most comfortable responding. Weekday evenings tend to be best for this, with many women unwinding after a long day of work by opening a dating app and turning on Netflix.

According to online dating expert Tim Nielsen, activity on both OkCupid and Tinder peaks at 9 p.m., and usage of such apps begins to decline rapidly after 10 p.m. On Bumble it's a little different: there the peak of activity is at six o'clock in the evening.

By the way, fun fact: NBC News did some research and found that bad weather goes hand in hand with increased activity on dating sites and apps.

As you might guess, the coronavirus pandemic also increases your chances of getting a response. The most important thing is not to despair and continue to try new approaches - then the start of correspondence with an interesting girl will not take long!

  • Author: Maria Minaeva

How to ask a girl you like her phone number?

Some guys are embarrassed to ask for a girl's phone number, and thereby miss the opportunity to make a romantic acquaintance. Unobtrusive and positive questions, based on all the rules of “successful flirting,” can help with this.

Question options:

  1. Girl, I lost your phone number and it's the worst thing that ever happened to me. Can you help me remember it?
  2. Girl, if I had your phone number, I would probably be the happiest! Won't you make me happy?
  3. You know, today is my birthday and you can give me the best gift in life - your phone number.
  4. I know it's not original, but I'm so impressed by you that I don't want to miss the opportunity to meet you. Would you mind leaving me your phone number?
  5. Girl, I’m ready to agree that you give me the full phone number, forgetting to give one number. And then I will prove that I can reach you on the phone. Will you make me happy?
  6. To be happy, I only need two things: your name and phone number. Will you help me become happy?
  7. What a pity that we don’t have mutual friends. I would definitely get your phone number, but now I just have to beg you to give it to me.
  8. If I had one wish that could come true, it would be your phone number. Don't know where to find the nearest magic genie?

How to ask a girl for a phone number beautifully?

How to ask a girl you like how many boyfriends she's had?

Such questions are very intimate and not every girl will want to talk about this with a man, and if you have the opportunity not to ask about the number of guys, it’s better not to do it. However, if you want to test the sincerity of feelings or learn more about the person you are in a relationship with, ask the question in a humorous or sensitive manner.

Question options:

  • I understand that I’m not your first man, but, to be honest, I would like to know how many guys you had before me. Won't you share with me?
  • Let's talk to you about intimate topics? I’ll confess to you how many girls I’ve had, and you’ll tell me how many guys you’ve had.
  • I love you very much, but one obsessive question does not leave my head: how many boyfriends did you have before me? Believe me, I won't be angry or jealous. I just want to know more about you.
  • It seems to me that you are still such a heartbreaker! Admit it, how many men’s hearts have you already broken before me?
  • You are so charming that I have no doubt that men adore you. This is true? Have you enjoyed popularity and male attention? Have something to brag about?

How to ask a girl a question on an intimate topic?

How to ask a girl in an original way “how are you”, “how are you living”?

It can be quite difficult to interest the girl you like. To do this, you should use the entire arsenal of jokes, beautiful words and compliments.

Options for unusual questions to start a conversation:

  • How is my queen doing?
  • Beauty, how are you doing sweetly?
  • Hello! What does the queen of my heart do?
  • I miss you so much, it’s important for me to know how you are doing. Tell me soon!
  • What's new in your life, baby?
  • As soon as I saw you, my head immediately began to boil with a bunch of questions: how are you? Where are you? What's new? Tell me everything!
  • How are you Tell me immediately!
  • How are you, what's new? I'm listening to you carefully!

Serious questions

Besides being funny and cute, show her that you can be a very deep and serious person.

This will interest the girl.

I can help you with some interesting topics that you can use during longer conversations.

85. What unreal thing do you really want?

Some examples may be the most unexpected.

86. What smell brings back good memories for you?

Perfumes and other scents can take us back to the past.

What are your favorite scents from the past?

87. What do you do best?

Chances are she will have some special skills and will appreciate your interest in them.

88. What excites you?

For some it's crowds or absolute silence, but we all have something that makes us uncomfortable.

Ask her what you can do to help her feel more comfortable when she's feeling nervous.

89. Are there needs in your life that have not been met? Is there anything I can help you with?

Each of us has different needs.

Help her with something she really needs.

If she likes you, she will want to reciprocate your feelings.

Just don't be intrusive.

So far I've shown you questions to ask a girl you just like.

But what if you're already dating?

I've been thinking about this a lot too, so I decided to pick out a few questions you can ask to keep the conversation going with your girlfriend.

Well, as usual, you can copy and paste them into personal messages on VKontakte.

90. If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?

If she can change something about herself, offer your help in drawing up a plan and putting it into action.

91. When you were growing up, with whom did you have a closer relationship? with mom or dad?

Our parents always have a favorite child, so we can also have a favorite parent.

92. Who do you trust the most?

This could reveal who her best friend is.

93. Have you ever left a guy you still love?

In many cases, we have to leave a relationship because it is unhealthy.

Be as friendly as possible and hope she doesn't do the same to you.

94. When was the last time you were truly disappointed by something?

Have you been in a bad mood lately? Has the moment passed or is there anything else I can do to help?

95. When was the last time you couldn’t cope with something?

Be understanding and work hard to find the positive aspect of the story.

96. What always makes you smile?

Something constant that always brightens up your day.

97. If you could change jobs right now without worrying about money, what would you like to do?

It doesn't have to be some crazy change.

You can always stay at your job and devote some of your free time to your hobbies.

For example, I do this with my blog.

98. Which of your past relationships made you happiest? Why did they end?

Many argue that talking about exes. bad idea.

I disagree.

You can learn a lot from these guys that will help you avoid mistakes in the future.

99. Have you ever forgiven yourself for bad things you did?

Each of us has done something we regret.

We must forgive ourselves if we want to move on and lead a happier life.

100. What is your ideal intimate relationship? How often do you want to have sex?

Let her know your needs and you'll find a middle ground that you can both agree on.

What's a cool thing to ask a girl?

If you want to cheer up a girl you care about, try using your sense of humor and ask her a couple of “interesting” questions.

Question options:

  • Did you miss me? Answer truthfully, I know I missed you!
  • I was told that you missed me. This is true?
  • You know, I didn’t understand this, but now I thought: damn, I miss you! And you?
  • Hello! Tell me, how many times did you think about me until we saw each other?
  • Be honest, do I come to you in your dreams every night?
  • I was blessed with great happiness here. That's not you?
  • Did you know that your eyes can talk? I can clearly hear the words: “I’m glad to see you.”
  • Girl, aren't you missing me?
  • Girl, I’m sure that a meeting with you was written in my horoscope today. Do you believe horoscopes?
  • I’m going to buy flowers, but I don’t know for whom. Is this you, by any chance?
  • Girl, what flowers do you like? I want to meet you, but I’m afraid I won’t get the bouquet right.
  • Girl, do you like delicious chocolates? I want to buy a huge box in honor of our acquaintance and I’m worried that maybe you like marmalade.
  • Do you have a love song in your headphones? The thing is, I want to listen too. Will you give me one earphone?

How to start dating a girl with an unusual question?

Use the carrot and stick method

Young people also advise using their own weapons against girls. Show initiative, and then show that the light has not converged on a person like a wedge.

-Girls really like communication according to the “carrot and stick” scheme. The carrots in this scheme are various compliments towards the interlocutor, some pleasant words, interest in him, you know. While the whip is ignore, cold messages (indicative lack of interest). They often use such a “contrast shower”; it fuels your interest in them and makes you dependent on communication. Use this weapon to your advantage, it works just as gracefully against them.

What to ask a girl to get to know her better?

Some questions that a guy can ask a girl will allow you to learn better and more about your loved one.

Question options:

  • Can you tell us something interesting about yourself?
  • Tell me what kind of girl you were as a child: obedient or mischievous?
  • Try to surprise me with some fact from your personal life. Have something to brag about?
  • Admit it, you are still that girl, do you have any interesting stories from your life?
  • I’m sure you’ve had a lot of adventures in your life that you’re not ready to tell everyone about. But, to me, do you dare?
  • You are so interesting! What do other people say about you?
  • Do you think you have a funny personal story?

Find common interests

In general, the best way to start a conversation is to find some common topics. Take a quick look through your crush's communities and find areas that overlap.

It’s best to ask different questions (about studies, pets, hobbies, TV series, music, movies, games, anime, etc.), and then you’ll find common themes. After the girl answers your question, you can answer it yourself. It is very important not to turn the dialogue into an interrogation (that is, you only ask questions). If a girl answers in the same way (I see, uh-huh, mmm, yeah), then 90% of the time she doesn’t want to talk. In an amicable way, after 1-2 weeks of communication, you should invite him to go out somewhere (if they reciprocate).

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