The realities of modern life are such that we have to communicate a lot and constantly. We communicate with family members and work colleagues, with random passers-by on the street or in transport, with friends and acquaintances, with neighbors and representatives of various spheres.
But those who directly work with people, who lead clients and provide various services, such as consulting, have the most contacts. Such specialists regularly get tired of constant communication and need recovery.
Today we will talk about what contributes to the onset of fatigue from contact with people, how it manifests itself, and how you can get rid of it...
Psychological fatigue
However, there is another type of fatigue - psychological or moral. Academician Pavlov mentioned psychological fatigue in his writings and characterized it as causing irritation, apathy, heaviness, an unpleasant feeling that is not eliminated through simple rest and intensifies over time. Modern psychologists often define psychological fatigue with a term such as emotional burnout.
That is, we can say that a person is simply tired of life.
They also note that this condition has recently become widespread. So much so that it periodically affects almost any person.
Psychological fatigue from other people has some signs by which it can be distinguished from other types of fatigue.
New impressions
Some advise those who are mentally tired to go on a trip. This method can really help you relax physically and mentally.
However, it does not always work, because even at the resort a person can be overcome by negative thoughts about a failed career, problems in the family and personal life, and so on. This method will help you physically relax. For it to become effective mentally, you need to choose a place for travel where you will receive a lot of interesting and unique information that will displace all heavy thoughts from your brain. We are talking about excursions, meeting new positive-minded people, a trip to some unusually beautiful place.
How does it all begin?
At first, a morally tired person begins to experience indifference and disgust from what he previously enjoyed doing with the people around him. After this, the state of indifference transforms into pronounced irritation if you have to interact with people. Moreover, irritation concerns not only activities that provoke fatigue, but also begins to transfer to everything that is around, including close people. Suddenly a person discovers that his child cries too often, his spouse spends too much time at the computer. At the same time, it seems as if the whole world is in a militia and its only goal is to annoy us. What brought joy and pleasure yesterday turns out to be completely unnecessary and unpleasant today. The eyes of a tired man are dull.
Most often, this condition haunts people in their professional activities, that is, at work.
Get checked for infections
The following infections can cause chronic fatigue:
- Cytomegalovirus;
- Herpetic infection (type 6);
- Measles;
- Coxsackie viruses;
- Parvovirus;
- Epstein-Barr virus;
- Fungal diseases, Candida;
- Parasites;
For each of them, you can write a whole article separately, which is what I will probably do in the near future. The main thing to remember is that any infection, even after treatment, can return. To prevent this from happening, you should strengthen your immunity, improve your diet and the functioning of your internal organs.
The first signs of emotional burnout
Interacting with others is both responsible, hard work and great joy. Therefore, the inability to cope with the emerging moral fatigue from communicating with friends and colleagues can lead to general irritation. This means that at the first signs of emotional burnout, it is important to immediately begin actions aimed at restoring mental strength. Otherwise, the resulting condition will begin to affect colleagues and loved ones, which will cause them to respond with irritation. As a result, the situation will only become more complicated.
It is important to note that the process does not stop there. If urgent measures are not taken, a mentally tired person begins to suffer from a decrease in the overall level of awareness. A person does not understand what is happening to him: all positive emotions from the surrounding society disappear, and they are replaced by either disgust or complete indifference.
He constantly gets tired of people.
Feeling weak after eating
Food is a source of energy and it is logical that after eating we should feel full of energy and strength. However, weakness after eating is not uncommon. Why is this happening?
Most often, weakness after lunch is manifested by the desire to take a nap for about 20 minutes. Do you agree that this feeling is familiar to many?
Causes of afternoon fatigue
- heavy food and overeating,
- increased blood glucose,
- gastrointestinal diseases,
- diabetes,
- pregnancy,
- wrong diet
- unhealthy food,
- violation of the daily routine.
Some experts believe that sleepiness after eating is nothing more than a natural manifestation that depends on our circadian rhythms. However, there is no scientific confirmation of this fact.
Methods to combat burnout
It may seem that dealing with this condition is quite simple. If the condition that arises is a type of fatigue, then it is necessary to take a break from the surrounding society. Because of this erroneous belief, a person begins to isolate himself from communication with people, goes out for walks alone, and sleeps more. But this approach does not improve the situation; moreover, the rest itself becomes painful for a person. From this we can conclude that the chosen tactics turned out to be wrong.
Experts in the field of psychology recommend that when a person is tired of life, first get rid of negative emotions caused by psychological fatigue. After this, you can already resort to a variety of restoration techniques, of which a lot is known today.
Meditation
This method is most necessary for those who suffer from underestimation by their superiors and worry that they cannot climb the career ladder. If you constantly see yourself in the manager's chair, then you are in the clouds. Try to descend from heaven to our sinful earth and see the world as it is. Discard thoughts about what will happen if you become, for example, the president of a company. Focus on the present. This way you can direct the flow of your thoughts in the right direction, focus, and concentrate on current problems.
Who knows, perhaps the changes that will happen to you thanks to meditation will help you achieve what you want. Plus, managing your thoughts will definitely help your soul rest.
You must meditate alone. This can be done at home or outdoors, the main thing is that no one interferes.
Get rid of negativity
So, if a girl has become separated from a young man, from her friends, and in general from all her loved ones, she first needs to get rid of the negativity. You can try to analyze the situation that has arisen and try to figure out what exactly is taking away your strength.
You need to look for exactly those emotions that cause serious fatigue. It is important to understand that they are often hidden in the deepest place of the subconscious, but sometimes they lie on the surface. Most often, negativity is caused by:
- Situations in which a person cannot forgive someone for a certain action.
- The feeling that some duty has not been fulfilled.
- Pride, and in some cases even arrogance.
- Perfectionism. The desire to do everything perfectly, without the right to make mistakes.
When a patient complains that he is tired of people, is there anything I can advise?
Psychophysiological
In this case, fatigue occurs due to biochemical or hormonal changes in the human body. For example, if there is a lack of some vitamins and minerals, which causes increased irritability and excitability, or hormonal changes during pregnancy, breastfeeding, menopause, etc.
This condition may go away on its own, or may require taking certain medications (sedatives, vitamin complexes, hormone replacement therapy).
Psychological skills
Improving the following skills is also effective:
- Learn to refuse and say “no” to the people who make you the most tired. This is the first thing a tired person should be able to say.
- Don’t be afraid to ask other people for help and admit to yourself your inability to complete things efficiently and on time.
- It is faster to get from people what is needed, or at least to receive information from them about why it was not possible to accomplish this or that.
- Stop expecting more from others than they can actually give.
Unfortunately, it is not always possible to find the cause of emotional burnout, and in some cases there may be several such causes. In this case, you will need to unravel a whole tangle of reasons, which is not always possible to do easily and quickly.
There is another way to get rid of negative emotions. It is called the path of generosity, since this path lies through the gift of positive energy to the people around us. In this case, a natural question always arises about what a person can share if he himself does not have enough strength for anything, and he is in an irritated and apathetic state.
Here, in fact, everything is quite simple, and the method in question is time-tested. You just need to want to share any daily activities, making it something of a generosity ritual. Generosity can color absolutely any task, for example, cooking. You can also gratefully accept something given by others. Thus, by giving something away on our own initiative, we do not lose it. In addition, this approach allows you to take a break from your own actions, stereotypical and habitual reactions.
If a person is tired of communicating with people, he can use special recovery techniques.
What to do if everything quickly gets boring
With the help of irritability, our body often calls us to action; it hints that we need to listen to ourselves. People are often forced to change jobs frequently, have various novels, move places of residence, and change hobbies five times a week. Sometimes a person enthusiastically takes on a new business, giving it the status of the most desirable, and immediately switches to something else, in a completely different direction. Such people say that they quickly get bored with everything, and they chase impressions and run away from everyday routine. Why does everything get boring so quickly, is it worth resisting? After all, many scientists say that by changing your job or place of residence, you can get rid of the feeling of irritability and still love life. But isn’t it a mistake to make such frequent changes in life?
Often everything gets boring for people who have lived an uncertain life since childhood. For example, a baby is sitting, playing, laying out blocks, and then they tell him that he needs to go get ready because he needs to go for a walk. When a child shows his creation (drawing, plasticine figurine, construction set) to his parents, he expects praise, but instead of deserved attention, not allowing the child to enjoy success, parents switch the child’s attention to the creativity of others. Or they often say that they need to try to do better next time. Imperceptibly, the baby gets used to situations where his achievement, in principle, has practically no meaning; say, if he has achieved something, he already needs to strive for another action. Growing up, all this worsens even more, and already in adulthood a person ceases to appreciate what he has. Under any conditions, he sees a catch, a flaw and begins to find fault with little things, this quickly gets boring and the person strives to start something bigger.
There are many examples of such behavior during the period of raising a child; often he simply does not know his daily routine, what his responsibilities are and what awaits him as a result of the task completed. From this time on, the subject develops the ability to do everything very quickly, grab everything on the fly and run, because he is aware in the depths of his soul that he can be interrupted at any moment. Instantly during this period, a huge amount of adrenaline enters the blood due to increased energy consumption. In the presence of adrenaline in the blood, the subject acts at an accelerated pace, over time there is a decrease, the previous balance in the body is restored and, accordingly, the person loses all interest and gets bored with everything. Since the individual’s body requires a new surge of adrenaline, he changes his actions and looks for something else to do.
Such people have problems with their personal lives. A person falls in love very quickly, builds a perspective for the future, and just as quickly becomes disappointed in his partner, as a result the couple quickly separates. According to the famous psychoanalyst Jean-David Nasio, a person does this unconsciously. This behavior is typical for individuals who were attached to one parent in childhood. When such an individual grows up, he unconsciously denies the feeling of love for a person who is able to take the place of his mother or father in his soul. Loneliness is the path of life to which such an individual condemns himself, without accepting an emotional attachment to the subject of his passion.
What to do if you're fed up and tired of everything? First, assess the current situation. Find out what exactly the problem is, if your friends, loved one, absolutely everything bother you, then maybe the root of the difficulties lies precisely in your actions. Determine the level of the problem, how much its consequences can be destructive or interfere with the lives of people around you. After this, you should decide whether you can cope on your own or whether you need to see a psychotherapist.
To solve the problem yourself, you need:
– learn to beware of anticipations and adventures;
– be able to, through awareness of the problem, continue to act contrary to one’s desires;
– whenever you want to start a new business, remember that it is human nature to idealize what you want; in fact, everything will end the same way;
– accustom yourself to set specific goals and not invest high hopes in them, realize from the beginning that the goals will be achieved, and you will need to create new tasks;
- noticing that everything around you is changing quickly, set an ultimatum, agree with yourself to stay at work for more than a year, finish the job you started and take on the next one, do not run away from a love relationship.
It is useless to be angry at the world and people around you or at yourself. After all, human life is interesting precisely because it has ups and downs, mistakes, failures and disappointments. Due to the strong expenditure of energy, the human nervous system is rapidly depleted, therefore, you need to learn to control your behavior. Psychologists recommend spending some period of your life playing, forgetting about time, defusing the situation, having a blast, like in childhood, looking at life from a different perspective. After this, reconsider your life position and goals. They will need to be adjusted and live without trying to please anyone.
Recovery techniques
One of the restorative types of recreation is tourism and treatment in sanatorium-resort conditions. The concept of recreational rest began to be used in the 60s of the 20th century in the literature of socio-economic, medical, physiological content, which covered the problems of health and recuperation of workers.
Recreational rest is usually understood as the process of replenishing psychological and emotional strength, ability to work and health, which consists of rest outside the home. This could be a tourist trip, outdoor recreation, etc. Specialized recreational enterprises are boarding houses, dispensaries, and sanatoriums. But not every person has the opportunity and is able to afford to give up everything at once and go on vacation. More often than not, you have to wait a long time for the desired vacation. What to do in this case?
Technique rating
The problem of emotional burnout and psychological fatigue from people was studied at the end of the last century. Research shows that there are quite a few techniques to relieve fatigue in people.
If we consider them taking into account their effectiveness and positive impact on a mentally tired person, we can make a certain rating:
- Reviewing your own diet, enriching it with fresh foods that are rich in active substances, herbs, and juices. You should carefully monitor the calorie content of the foods you consume and follow the drinking regime.
- Physical activity, walks in the fresh air, sports activities. You can also harmonize your state with the help of swimming, dancing, primarily oriental. Walking at a fast pace contributes to effective recovery. It is believed that almost all negative energy when walking goes into the ground.
- Creation. It is worth noting that creativity can be of any kind, the main rule is that the activity should bring pleasure.
- Meditative practices. Even a couple of minutes is often enough for meditation. You need to set a timer for a few minutes, turn on melodic music, sit comfortably, and close your eyes. In the allotted time, you should try to relax and pay attention to your breathing. You must try to make it smooth and calm. After the timer rings, you need to shift your focus to the floor, your feet, and only then slowly open your eyes.
- Tea rituals. All sorts of rituals allow many people to relax, so it makes sense to create them specifically. For example, once a day, take a break from all your activities and drink tea in a comfortable and calm environment, using beautiful dishes.
- Regularly engage in enjoyable activities. For one person it might be a visit to a beauty salon, and for another it might be a hike. Some would prefer to read a book, meet friends, go on a trip, or go to the theater.
- Dreams. It is simply necessary for every person to hope and dream. Even if these dreams are not destined to come true.
- You should also remember about simple but very effective relaxation methods: massage, SPA treatments, a bath with aromatic oils, communication with animals.
