12 ways to be a worthy woman from whom he will not want to leave

This article will cause a break in patterns. The Internet is replete with “decent girl” topics written as carbon copies. Reading them, one gets the impression that in order to have the status of “worthiness” you need to be born into a secular society with a golden spoon in your mouth. Automatically, Marusya from nearby Khatsapetovka has no right to claim the title of “worthy girl.” So the idea to protect and give hope to dear “Cinderellas” was not born by chance. And at the same time make a small contribution to the worldview of representatives of both camps.

Gold of the female form

The public unanimously asserts that a worthy girl is a combination of beauty, intelligence, education, sense of style and lifestyle. Stereotypes imposed by various media resources have broken more than one fate. But in pursuit of these images, people have forgotten about the very concept of dignity. But from time immemorial the meaning was completely different.

The main definition of human dignity was only three qualities: nobility, fidelity, honor. These characteristics were not gender specific. They belonged equally to both women and men. But since we are talking about the female half of humanity, then we should understand this direction.

Feminine nobility2

Nobility in women has the same essence as in men, but with a slightly different twist. This character trait is not inherent in everyone. It is absorbed from childhood. It is impossible to be born immediately with a ready-made trait. The environment always has a powerful influence on the formation of personality.

Nobility in a woman is determined by actions. It combines a lot of behavioral models, but the ones that stand out most clearly are: the absence of aggression, bitchiness, cruelty, capriciousness, the presence of delicacy and the ability to forgive. A noble girl will never allow herself to harm those who are initially weaker, not only physically, but also mentally. She knows how to forgive and does not try to make revenge the meaning of life. She recognizes the right of others to make mistakes, and in the event of a fatal mistake, she will simply let the culprit go and will not morally destroy him.

She knows how to delicately close the door to her life in front of those who do not belong in it. She knows how to create a confident atmosphere in everything related to relationships with any people who are in her environment. You can rely on her. A noble girl is selfless, she is capable of very powerful actions. Honesty, another axiom of a noble girl. But she understands perfectly well that honesty does not have the right to harm other people. And here comes another sign - golden silence.

Can nobility be present in an ordinary milkmaid from the nearest village? You don't even have to think about it. The answer is clear: it can! Moreover, among ordinary girls, from the middle social class, nobility has a more pronounced form than among ladies of an aristocratic society.

The point is that a person acquires compassion, generosity and other traits only where they may be needed most often. The pretentious delivery of a hot lunch to a homeless person is not yet a sign of compassion. This is PR, which will then appear on Instagram and collect likes. But volunteer work in a hospice is different. Moreover, this activity, as a rule, is not advertised. It’s simply impossible to realize the need to help others in any other way. This is, of course, an example, but the essence is clear.

Rules for a girl's behavior in a relationship

A girl’s individuality and ability to find a compromise solution are the basis of the image of a girl who is ideal for her boyfriend. However, there are a number of other tips for the fair half of humanity that will help make relationships more harmonious.

A girl should strive to look well-groomed: trimmed hair, manicure, neat clothes, etc. Today, natural beauty is in fashion, which involves discreet but skillful makeup that emphasizes the beauty of a girl’s facial features. A man should be admired by his beloved.
Every conflict can be resolved if, instead of hysteria, we sit down at the negotiating table. Men do not like hysterical ladies, so you should be restrained in showing negative emotions.
Smiling, sociable girls always attract the attention of the opposite sex, so try to maintain a cheerful mood and optimism, smile more often and make sure that the smile is sincere.
Showing attention and love should not be intrusive. It is important for every man to know that he is loved, but too many calls and text messages can be very annoying. Determine how many times a day you can call or text your boyfriend so that he doesn’t lose his temper when the phone rings.
Trust is a guarantee of peace in relationships. Where people trust each other, there is no room for unfounded suspicion and jealousy between them. Girls should not check the phones of their lovers and their pages on the Internet, or try to read personal correspondence. Trust, like compromise, can be learned over time.
It is important for all people, and guys too, to know that they are loved and simply necessary for their lovers. Don’t be afraid to show love, care and tenderness to your guy, create a warm atmosphere that he will want to return to again and again. But remember that you are also an individual, do not neglect your interests.
Listen to your boyfriend. The stronger sex also sometimes wants to relax. Become the person who will listen, understand and support in any situation.
Emphasize all his masculine traits in your loved one, develop them, and then he will become a support for you, a stone wall behind which you can so comfortably hide from any troubles in life.
Let the guy make decisions and be responsible for them, because only in this case can he feel 100% like a man. At the same time, if he made a mistake, you should not remind him of the mistake, much less reproach him for the wrong decision. Everyone learns from their mistakes, and your boyfriend has that right, next time he will do everything right.

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When trying to build an ideal relationship, it is important to remember that only 2 people know what they should be like - the girl and her boyfriend. Try to understand what your significant other needs and give exactly that. Strive for compromises, but don’t forget that you are also an individual and that’s what makes you interesting.

Loyalty3

Loyalty is the most essential sign of any worthy person. Moreover, it is present in all spheres of life: from friendship to principles. Loyalty does not necessarily have an exaggerated manifestation in a person. It is difficult to call a person an infidel if he violates some dogmas of society. This is especially true for betrayal.

Individual cases are not indicators of fidelity. Statements regarding betrayal are always based on selfish manifestations of a person’s character. That is why the concept of “treason”, in principle, has no right to exist. Of course, everyone has their own opinion on this matter, but if you start digging, you can destroy stereotypes without really straining yourself.

Loyalty must manifest itself in a deeper understanding of this word: fidelity to word, deed, life principles, and behavior patterns. Loyalty must be taught from childhood. And the main teachers, of course, should be parents. But society should also have a significant influence on the formation of this characteristic feature.

Does the concept of “loyalty” belong to any strata of human society? No! Loyalty embraces the entire hierarchy of human society.

Mistakes you should never make

If you want to become a good girl for a guy so that your relationship develops successfully and harmoniously, then you need to adhere to certain rules.

Don't force a guy to propose marriage;
Don't humiliate him or insult him;
Be realistic. Don't have too high expectations;
There is no need to be overly intrusive;
Try to avoid regular quarrels and discontent on your part;
Don't manipulate sex;
Don't control it;
Be open and honest;
Listen carefully to your man and his desires;
Be sure to take care of yourself.

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Honor4

Is the concept of “honor” alien to women? No way! Honor is closely intertwined with nobility. These two signs always go hand in hand and are impossible without each other. A girl's honor implies her moral stability. It’s not for nothing that they say: “Take care of your honor from a young age.” If we focus specifically on the feminine side, then it is not difficult to understand that the main quality will be the ability not to waste time on fleeting relationships.

In general, to think that a worthy girl should be chaste, that is, necessarily a virgin, is stupid. Having partners is not prohibited. But the history of the relationship can shed light on the girl’s honor. Chastity is too broad a concept to be limited solely to the presence of virginity.

But pride - yes, it is an obligatory attribute of honor. Women's pride allows one to keep oneself within the bounds of not only decency. It helps maintain moral purity. Just don’t confuse pride and arrogance. These are absolutely polar concepts. There is more sin in pride than in the absence of virginity. By the way, ladies from “high society” are more likely to be dominated by pride than pride.

Modesty is also one of the signs of maiden honor. Shyness is closely mixed with it. These phenomena of a feminine nature greatly develop the girl’s instinct of self-preservation. And accordingly, they protect her from rash actions. By the way, in “Cinderellas” these qualities are most developed. They are less influenced by modern society. This is understandable: life in the outback is much more different from life in big cities, where these qualities are more likely to destroy than help to survive.

Taboo

What every self-respecting girl won't do? The first is to use other people for your own selfish purposes. Manipulation is allowed in a decent person only if these actions bring benefit and benefit to everyone. You can't just use another person and throw them away. A worthy girl has a strong sense of respect for others and this sets her apart from the rest.

The second is to sit on someone’s neck, be it parents or fiance. Many young ladies believe that this is a very winning option: find yourself a rich man and enjoy his favor on a grand scale. A worthy young lady perfectly understands all the dangers of such a dependent position and therefore tries not to fall into it.

She can use help and even resorts to it often. After all, men love to help, they love to feel superior. But despite all this, the girl will remain independent. You can find out how to achieve this in the article “How to be self-sufficient.”

Third, she will always be confident in herself. Such a woman knows about her minuses and pluses and skillfully uses both sides of her character. She won’t become too self-confident, but she won’t let you wipe your feet all over her. Self-confidence is the key to success in many areas, both on the personal front and in your career. You can understand this issue thanks to the article “How to be confident in yourself.” After all, very often women confuse self-confidence and materialistic bitchiness.

It is important to understand that a worthy person has respect for others, their points of view, and knows that everyone has their own individual view of the situation. And at the same time, such a person boldly demands respect for himself in return.

Comparative analysis 5

Based on the main idea, a comparison can be made between the two layers of society. Imposed stereotypes are collapsing like a house of cards. If you turn to any man and put him before a choice, he is unlikely to want to have a socialite with an Oxford education next to him if she does not have the described qualities in her character. Any sane man would prefer a simple girl who has them. And he absolutely doesn’t care whether she knows “Eugene Onegin” by heart, even though this is a good bonus to her personality.

She supports you during difficult times.

Any normal man wants to have a female partner next to him.

Here it is necessary to clearly distinguish support from guardianship and education.

A man wants a girl to always be on his side, to defend his rightness in public. She can tell him about all her complaints at home, left alone.

The girl’s function is not to solve all problems, but to help find a solution.

Unfortunately, few people grasp this fine line. And instead of a partnership, you get a mother-son relationship that makes you want to hang yourself.

Housekeeping7

Of course, you don't have to know how to knit socks. You can buy them, but your culinary skills will be a great addition. Another plus for ordinary girls. Yes, you can’t label girls from higher social strata as “clueless,” but 99.9% of them are only able to distinguish a lobster from a lobster, but they can no longer meet a man with pies.

She is feminine.

Femininity is the defining quality of any self-respecting girl.

But lately many of them have become overplayed and have lost their charm and charm.

A boy's haircut, trousers instead of skirts and dresses, a bottle of beer in the evening and choice swearing are not at all what we dream of.

When you look at her, you should have a desire to protect her, protect her, hide her from the whole world. But who wants to protect a boy in a skirt? What kind of tenderness can such a person evoke?

Sensitivity10

Mood is a thing that can be transmitted to people around you. The girl's sensitivity allows her to feel as comfortable as possible in critical situations. Of course, by lashing out at his girlfriend, a man is unlikely to achieve mutual understanding, but adequate behavior, on the contrary, will give him the opportunity to relax in the girl’s arms and forget about troubles.

Sexuality12

Sometimes people confuse vulgarity and sexuality. And this is an unforgivable mistake. Modesty has already been mentioned above as a guarantee of a girl’s moral purity. But this in no way extends to the expression of sexuality within a couple. Sexuality is a very broad concept. It includes a lot of signs. And sometimes a sweet and gentle creature in a village meadow with a goat on a leash can look much sexier than a fifa in a red convertible.

She's not afraid to show you her love.

Modesty, of course, adorns a girl, but when there is too much of it, it can also become boring.

We like it when a girl is not afraid to show her feelings even in public. On the contrary, it warms us up even more. It is important for us to know that we are loved and appreciated. And small manifestations of this are direct proof of this.

It's great if your girlfriend understands this and doesn't look uptight when she does something like that.

The ideal girl will be happy to show feelings for you.

Healthy ambitions13

Even in Khatsapetovka you can achieve a certain position and authority. But in general, we are talking about both self-development and the desire to change your life. Of course, if the conversation is limited to new models of milking machines, then this is not funny. But the ability to maintain a conversation about higher matters suggests that the girl is far from stupid.

A pleasant bonus for ambition is also some independence and financial independence. You can earn money by doing anything. So, if a girl doesn’t just lie around in a chamomile field, but earns herself an income by collecting them and delivering them to collection points, we can safely consider her worthy.

She does not take on a man's responsibilities.

At least because it is unnatural. Nature took care of everything long ago.

The woman is the keeper of the home, and the man is the breadwinner and hunter. When a redistribution of roles occurs in a couple, the relationship is doomed.

Women who try to command and lead are only repulsive.

If you live together, a woman should not solve all problems, take responsibility for your financial situation and steer all processes. One morning you will wake up and realize that you have turned into a man without balls who does not solve anything.

A worthy girl is a muse of inspiration_8212

A girl who can inspire a man has a very high value in modern society. If a man develops next to her, strives for something new on a personal level, then it doesn’t matter what her pedigree is. A man can fade away next to a business woman, just as he can “bloom” next to the most ordinary girl.

Now we have reached the conclusions. Considering all of the above, we can safely be sure that a worthy girl is not only a lady with a diploma from Moscow State University, but also an ordinary girl next door. It turns out that dignity consists solely of the girl’s moral qualities, and not of her social class. It is on them that a man needs to rely when he is faced with choosing a worthy couple for himself.

Actually, life itself puts everything in its place. And the palm, undoubtedly, belongs only to those girls who have precisely these characteristics. This is how patterns break.

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Good afternoon, dear girls! Today we will talk to you about what a worthy girl is, what she is like, what manners and rules of behavior she follows, how she behaves with men and what she definitely will not do. It’s not enough just to know etiquette and good manners, it’s not enough to just look beautiful, it’s not enough to just read literature and watch good movies. A real woman is manifested in small things and details, which we will talk about with you.