How to understand that a girl wants you: 38 signs

Signals are false or meaningless

The girl put on a sexy dress - maybe she’s just used to looking good, it’s stupid to think that this is especially for you. And a large neckline is not a symbol of her availability; it is quite possible that she is aware of her beauty and has learned to command male behavior.

Do you know how to recognize signals of interest?

She talks about the breakup - either she’s just stupid, or she’s teasing, but she’s still stupid. This is a topic that is unpleasant for most men. She of course implies that she is free. But who likes to think about those who fucked her... loved her before.

A woman can look at you intently, and at that moment imagine how you fuck her...

She keeps her gaze on you for a long time - her interest is riveted on you, okay - she seems to like you! But the fact that she is ready to sleep with you, alas, does not mean.

Playing with hair - yes, these are very mediocre, but still sexual signals. At this time, the signal is outdated, as it is used simply as a technique to attract male attention by a girl. It's often just flirting.

Playing with jewelry used to be considered a sexual signal, but I don't take it into account. These fine motor skills are often used for calming. It is more likely that the girl is simply nervous or shy. maybe, of course, because he wants you. But it’s better not to take this signal into account.

Smile - some authors write that this is a sexual signal. WHOA! This is just the norm of etiquette, she tries to be cordial and nothing more. Look into your eyes, they will tell you more.

Accelerating the convergence process

Even if a man finds out that a girl wants him, it is important for him not to ruin everything after that. Here are some tips from psychologists:

It is necessary to realize that women love sex. Perhaps even stronger than men. They are able to get much more pleasure.
Don't be afraid to take the initiative. For a representative of the fair sex, it is extremely important that a man knows how to take responsibility for himself and for the situation. Even if the guy realized that the girl dreams of kissing him, she is still unlikely to take the first step.
Under no circumstances should you judge a woman or reproach her for her sexual fantasies. It must be remembered that girls often experience fear of not conforming to social stereotypes. They are afraid of ruining their reputation, so they often behave with restraint, hiding intimate desires.
If a man feels constrained and awkward when talking about frank topics, a woman will also not be able to open up and relax.

How to understand that a girl is excited and wants a man?

TOP 20 clear signs that a woman is ready:

Neck Showing - Baring the neck is an almost instinctive sexual signal that symbolizes trust and submission. In the animal world, the neck is a weak point; wolves bite into the neck of their enemies to kill. This gesture indirectly means that the girl is putting herself in your hands.
Stroking is sexual stimulation. Pleasant sensations from tactile touches. And it doesn’t matter if she’s stroking you or herself when you see it.
Invasion of your personal space - she goes for rapprochement. a direct and obvious signal of approach. But it may not mean lust.
Random touches are random only for you.
Tilt of the body - reaches towards the object of interest.
Provocative questions - tilt your thinking, make you sexually daring. Congratulations, you are rocking emotionally. Maybe they're just teasing.
Sexual themes - you are teased and tempted to think about sex in obvious ways.
A girl's sexually aggressive behavior means that you missed all the previous signals and she does not intend to waste time. Knows what he wants.
Licking lips is a symbol of swollen (excited) labia. Most girls are not aware of this, but use this technique.
She sits on you, presses herself, rubs against you - she’s almost trying to fuck you... show some activity already.
She is not embarrassed to be alone with you - this means that the girl trusts you and does not exclude the fact of sexual intimacy.
The girl puts her hands between her legs - a gesture of restraining sexual tension. The gesture is indecent for women, which means it is often done unconsciously. Trying to control himself. This is a very powerful signal that the girl wants you, the ship has probably already leaked, well, you understand.
Playing with hair - yes, these are very mediocre, but still sexual signals. The girl is a coquette, the gesture is as outdated as this concept.
Showing your wrists - for example when smoking.
Demonstration of armpits is as old as playing with hair, but these gestures (13,14,15) retain their relevance as sexual signals, since they are less often reproduced by girls consciously.
Eyes - a playful, lively look, slightly closed eyes, brilliant fucking... Well, that's what I was often told. It is difficult at first to understand that a girl wants you by looking at you. Understanding what the eyes are saying comes only with experience of communication and with the development of the “Calibration” skill. One sage of seduction said: “Look for the devil in her eyes.”
Trying to look after you - helpfulness is not flirting, it means that the girl really wants to please you in many ways. She cooks for you, gives you a massage, puts things in order, gives you something, even if it’s insignificant. This also includes the fact that the girl respects you. This is a good prerequisite for sex. Of course, there are exceptions, as with any rule, and maybe your home is just unbearably dirty, so you need to clean it up.
I came to meet you in stockings - my favorite signal, I love stockings. This is their weapon of seduction, a good signal.
Steals food from your plate - girls are happy to share food with a man they like. And they are more likely to refuse the offer of a person who is unattractive in her opinion.
She is embarrassed by you and blushes when communicating - “if you can make her feel embarrassed, you can sleep with her today” is an old saying in seduction circles. A blush on the cheeks is a great signal.
Gives you compliments - as we know, this is not quite the norm for a girl, she shows open interest in you and admiration.

Well, I wanted 20, but I got carried away, there are a lot more of them.

There are exceptions to any rule, and signals must be considered in context, and it’s good if they are groups of sexual signals. 1 or 2 sexual signals alone may not mean anything at all.

What determines the desire for sex in women?i

The first place was always given to everyday life, the availability of work and children. All these factors influence female psychology, which, in turn, affects libido. WHO psychologists consider these factors insufficient.

After all, a woman can endure dirty laundry, copious amounts of laundry, and cooking while on a diet. And all because her man gives her pleasure. But as soon as he stops qualitatively pleasing her, she will stop making heaven for him, since hellish patience will be required.

A woman is capable of wanting even if there are problems in the family, when a child, relative or loved one is sick. But as soon as her psychological state is undermined, she will direct all her strength to achieve the result herself. The man who supports her will always take second place. You can’t cope with all the problems when you have both work and home.

Important! A man needs verbal support. A woman experiences ease and confidence when a man gives her protection and a sense of importance. This feeling cannot be expressed in words.

Do girls want sex and how often?

Believe me, they want it more than we do.

As I like to say, the phrase is absolutely justified and verified.

Girls are just as horny animals as we men.

Everything is equal. Social norms, of course, restrain women's behavior, but in their heads there is the same lust. One of my friends said:

If I woke up in the morning and didn’t masturbate, the day was ruined.

Other

2 weeks without sex and a lamppost turns me on.

Another quote from a woman’s mouth:

Yes, I want it every day, several times a day

Here I want to note, and this is important, these phrases do not apply to those guys who look mediocre, unkempt, fat, insecure, the reality is that you extremely rarely become the embodiment of women’s sexual fantasies. Therefore, sports will help you, a good hairstyle, style and tan. And yes, drive away any losers who will say that appearance is not important for a man. All the handsome guys, the freaks laugh at you.

She doesn’t necessarily become a world-class model, but she should have basic care and her own style.

Sorry if I overdid it, but I don’t care. I just want to touch some of the characters to motivate them. My intentions are pure and noble. There are no criteria that describe the correct facial features of a man, other than the usual proportions and symmetry, but the criteria that describe the number of abs are obvious.

In general, whoever does not strive for beauty loses most of the women in life. They have to be cunning, talk things down, cajole, but the handsome guys just take it and that’s it. Anything they want. Handsome people are believed more, listened to better, and many more bonuses. Being beautiful doesn't mean being stupid. Choose the path of development, your life, it’s up to you to decide.

Test the passage above through a woman's opinion, so you will know its truthfulness through their eyes.

Physiological reasons

Long-term abstinence also affects a woman’s desire. Many girls who do not have a permanent partner refuse casual relationships. But the longer a lady doesn’t have intimacy, the more she wants release. The female body needs this even for normal functioning. Experts have proven that without intimacy, a woman becomes hot-tempered and irritable.

Physiologically, the peak of a girl’s desire occurs at the time of ovulation - this is the period when the concentration of the hormones estrogen and progesterone in the blood of the weaker sex increases, and this time is the highest chance of conception.

How to understand that a girl wants to kiss you?

She lingers close to your face and looks into your eyes. The distance is sufficient to lean in and kiss. You did not understand? She expects this from you, kiss her already! In general, stop looking for the right moment, just kiss already.

How to understand that an older woman wants you?

Everything is the same, only they have even fewer problems. Libido in girls only increases with age, and so on until menopause. At 40, if a woman wants sex, she behaves much like a 17-year-old boy, only much more confident and wiser.

Social pressure on girls

Girls are vulgar, but not in men's societies. remember this

Girls are always afraid of male judgment. And therefore, even if a girl really wants sex, she hides it. Standards of behavior, such labels in society as chastity, slut, whore, slut, nymphomaniac.

What good girl would like such labels, even chastity now sounds unpleasant “Virgin” as if there was something wrong with her. That’s why girls don’t discuss vulgarity in the company of men, but they don’t choose words among themselves. And of course, depending on what kind of company it is, it’s a group of men.

Where to invite a girl if it's your first time

When a couple is about to experience the joy of intimacy, preparing favorable conditions becomes an important aspect. Often, the further development of relationships directly depends on how the partners’ first sex went. A lady also needs to know how to understand what you want, so you need to make every effort to make the night as good as possible. For this it is important to find a place:

At the guy's house. This option is appropriate if the man lives separately and the couple does not have to be embarrassed by relatives or friends sleeping in the next room. Such a situation can disappoint a lady and completely discourage her from continuing meetings. But if a guy organizes his life on his own, his apartment is tidy, it does not cause unpleasant emotions, then nothing prevents partners from settling in at his home. On his own territory, the young man will be more confident in his own abilities, and this will undoubtedly have a positive effect on the outcome of the date.
Visiting a girl. If you have to actively ask to come to her house, then it is better to exclude it immediately. Such tactics can lead to cooling on the part of the young lady. When a woman does not want to spend the night at her place, the most a man can do is offer to buy something tasty and sit with her. If the lady hasn’t shown much enthusiasm, then you shouldn’t put pressure on her or force her to make excuses. Most likely, she has a completely objective reason for not inviting the guy to her home, but asking about this would be a manifestation of tactlessness.
Rented apartment or hotel room. Neutral territory will be the most suitable option. If you have the financial opportunity, it is better to choose a good hotel or a comfortable apartment. At the same time, you can book a room for a few hours or for the whole day. If we are talking about an apartment, then it is worth thinking through all the details in advance. A good area, a good cafe nearby, a beautiful view from the windows - all this will allow the couple to spend time in comfort.

On the street. When choosing this option, you should be guided by the opinion of your partner and your own considerations. If a guy and a girl are adventurous and love extreme sensations, then sex on the street will be a great way to spend time together. An adventure like this will leave memories that will last a lifetime. But if for a friend such a pastime is something beyond acceptable or the young man himself does not approve of such walks, then it is better to choose something else, since there is a high probability of not only experiencing stress, but also depriving one of the partners of pleasure. And it will be better if the couple’s first sex occurs in more comfortable conditions.

Nonverbal signs2

All women, young and old, want to look perfect in the eyes of the guy she likes. And if, next to a representative of the opposite sex, a lady makes any attempts to preen herself, then it is important for her to leave a pleasant impression of herself. Which indirectly may mean her desire to continue communication.

She straightens her hair, touches her hair, tugs at a strand of hair, or twirls it on her finger.
She opens her neck, throwing her hair back, or tilting her head back slightly.
The girl sits in an open position and shows her wrists to the guy with gestures.
She lets her hair down under the pretext of inconvenience or the need to straighten her hair.

A modest-looking lady, she laughs loudly enough to attract attention.
During the dialogue, the girl leans towards the interlocutor she likes.
She doesn't look away, and seems to be looking at the guy intently.
Her gaze moves quickly over the man's face and torso.
She shows off her body by taking off her jacket, exposing her shoulders, chest, and legs.

From a physiological point of view, non-verbal signs indicating sexual arousal can be:

The pupils, and possibly the girl’s eyes, are dilated.
Her chest rises high, and her breathing becomes heavier and more frequent.
She brings her knees together or crosses her legs.
A blush unfounded by the dialogue appears on her cheeks.
The voice becomes lower and speech becomes aspirated.

Wants to please you

Yes, yes, in every sense of the word. But for now she’s only trying to please you with something small - treat you, cook your favorite dish, give an easy gift, perfume yourself with your favorite scent, wear that dress in which you once praised her, buy tickets to the movie you were talking about.

A woman won’t just take care of a man and do nice things for him. This is her way of showing you that you are special to her. You are her man and she views you as a serious partner. Including for bed.

All mysteries have been solved!

Photographer Guy Aroch, model Camilla Rowe

It would seem that you have a thousand articles, advice, discussions with friends at the bar, and you are still not sure whether the girl wants you?

Even if you have almost achieved perfection in recognizing her hints, our advice will still be useful and will not seem obvious.

Verbal signs

First of all, men can consider compliments as verbal signs of a nice person’s positive attitude towards themselves. She will talk about strength, intelligence, a beautiful body, a sense of style. He will evaluate the voice, hairstyle, gait, and note the large size of the hand, if it is such.
She will be interested in having a wife or a permanent girlfriend.
Perhaps he will ask provocative questions. Is he cheating on his wife? Or how do you feel about cheating if you are not married? How does he feel about sex without commitment? Or intimacy on the first date?
She herself is looking for meetings and communication.
She always answers messages and calls.
She writes or calls at night.

Hints 3

A woman experiencing attraction will herself try to understand whether her partner is interested in her, and it will not be surprising if at some point, on a hot summer evening, she declares that she is cool. Naturally, in the summer it is difficult to meet a gentleman in a jacket, and the only way to warm the lady you like is a hug.
The girl invites you to visit her. He says his parents won't be home. Or, under a plausible pretext, he invites a young man into the house, for example, to fix a computer, or rearrange a heavy chair.
The opposite situation is also possible: she unobtrusively asks to visit a man. Possibly offering some kind of domestic help on the female side.
She asks to be escorted home, under the pretext of fear or fatigue, leaning on a strong man's shoulder, and imitating fear, grabs the hand of the person seeing him off.
She hints or directly says that she has not had a partner for a long time, or at least that she is not currently in a relationship.

She dresses up in something special

Of course, if vulgarity is your girl’s usual style, then you can skip this point. But most modern young women dress modestly and stylishly. It’s not difficult to see the subtle details of the “bait” if you know them. These may not be so familiar to her:

– clothes with lace details (skirt hem, blouse collar, dress); – special makeup, with an emphasis on the eyes or lips (a little brighter than usual); – loose hair with which she plays; – feminine silhouettes in clothes (flying, airy dresses a la a little girl, a narrow waist emphasized by a belt, tight-fitting clothes that show off your figure); – jewelry around the neck, including bright scarves (draw attention to the chest).