Today, more and more women are interested in the question of how to understand that a man does not love you and he does not need you . After all, they often notice that their other halves have begun to treat the union with disdain, and to themselves as a commodity. Therefore, every girl should make sure of the sincerity of her feelings and loyalty of her partner. To do this, you don’t need to do anything supernatural, just resort to using several techniques from leading psychologists. They will tell you the true intentions of your chosen one.
Does a man love you?
Growing up, a girl meets a man and thinks: “This is HIM, the one and only.” In their minds, even on the first date, many try on a wedding dress and name their common children. However, time passes, and the relationship does not move into a more serious stage...
Or the situation is the other way around - a seemingly happy family: husband, wife, children. But something is wrong - the woman’s sparkle in her eyes disappeared, she stopped taking care of herself. And it’s not even a matter of the everyday burden that most women expect after marriage and having children. The relationship between partners is very important. A man doesn’t love a woman, what signs of this could there be? The answer is simple - a woman, not receiving love from her beloved, begins to waste away. A woman is like a flower - if you “feed” her with love and protect her, then the man will receive much more attention and feedback in return.
See also: A man doesn’t love you - 6 signs
Is it necessary to save the family?
If a husband doesn't love his wife, what should she do? This is the first question that a woman must answer for herself. To make it easier to make a decision, you need to evaluate all the pros and cons of your man and understand whether you need to fight for him. Divorce is never easy, but living with a husband who has no feelings left is also difficult. Not every woman is ready to live in the hope that her husband will love her again.
If a man doesn't love a woman - what are the signs?
Any woman can get involved in a destructive relationship. Even the one who has high self-esteem. And then her actions, or, conversely, inaction, will only fuel the further development of non-ideal relationships.
How to recognize all the signs of a man’s dislike? What should you pay attention to first? And what to do if he stopped loving her?
It can be difficult to understand and admit to yourself that a man’s love for a woman is gone. But, unfortunately, this happens and it is not uncommon. In such cases, a woman may withdraw into herself and become depressed.
Let's try to list the main signs that a man does not love a woman:
- he directly states this to your face;
- cheats on you (openly showing it or, on the contrary, hiding it);
- relationships without obligations have lasted for a long period;
- treats you or your children or loved ones without due respect;
- does not call or call you back. Always “busy” with his own affairs;
- you feel lonely. You seem to be together, but always apart. It would seem that you are in a cafe, you have a date - but everyone is busy with their own business: checking social networks, corresponding with friends, etc.;
- promises a lot, but does nothing of what he promises;
- Instead of making your life easier, it complicates it. There is no help from him, only requests and obligations for you;
- knowing that you want to marry him, he does not propose to you. We are not talking about running down the aisle with him on the second date, but if you have already been dating for several years, and he has never dared to propose to you, think about it;
- having sex became very rare. A man does not want intimacy, blaming everything on fatigue and his other problems;
- he is married and your relationship has lasted long enough. In this case, you need to understand that he does not want to leave his comfort zone.
As soon as you realize that you are uncomfortable with this man, it’s hard for you to accept him for who he is - leave! Don't try to change or rebuild a person. An adult man will resist this in every possible way.
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Can a husband love his wife again?
It is possible to arouse romantic feelings in your spouse.
There are psychological tricks that cause the release of hormones into a man’s blood:
- prolonged eye contact;
- date;
- attractive appearance, beautiful clothes, hairstyle;
- frequent use of a man's name;
- constant praise;
- demonstration of desire in sexual terms.
Important! If there is hostility, being too persistent will push the man away. A woman’s actions should be unobtrusive.
If a man doesn’t truly love you, what should you do?
Surely each of the women has thought about what are the signs that a man does not truly love and your relationship is becoming destructive? Unfortunately, at the beginning of a relationship, love obscures the eyes and girls simply do not pay attention to many “bells” in the behavior and attitude of a man. Subsequently, women often sit on psychologists’ couches and wonder: if a man doesn’t truly love, how does he behave? Why couldn’t I recognize in time all the signs of his dislike? Where was my intuition?
What to do if a man doesn't love a woman:
- accept this;
- don't try to get him back if he's gone. Leave on your own if you're still together. Happiness cannot be built if you do not strive for mutual understanding, or if one partner loves and the other allows himself to be loved;
- accept yourself as you are. If you want changes, you can sign up for a gym, take courses that you didn’t have time for before, get a second higher education, get a new hairstyle. Don't get into a bad mood just because this particular man doesn't love you. Perhaps you are simply not suitable for each other, but at the same time another man may fall in love with you, for whom you will seem like an ideal woman.
See also: What to do if a man falls out of love
He doesn't answer your calls or messages
A classic sign that your boyfriend is losing interest in your relationship is ignoring him. He may be busy all day or his phone is dying too quickly, but his reluctance to answer your inboxes means that he is avoiding contact with you and communication has ceased to bring him pleasure. The best decision is to talk to your boyfriend in person, and in the meantime stop imposing your attention on him, because if he didn’t find a couple of minutes to answer you or write to you first, then it’s time for eloquent silence on your part.
Signs of a destructive relationship
First of all, you need to understand that relationships between a man and a woman should be built on acceptance, mutual respect and proper communication with each other. Even the strongest love will end if in a relationship one of the partners constantly provokes quarrels, conflicts and showdowns.
So, the signs of a destructive relationship can be safely named as follows:
- your man has established strict control over you;
- criticizes you in public;
- lies to you and evades answers;
- avoids communicating with you (trying to spend less time with you);
- devalues your efforts (for example, you prepared his favorite dish - in response you hear only unpleasant criticism), and so on.
Needless to say, in destructive relationships there is no chance of building a strong and harmonious family. If your partner is already behaving this way, then when you have children, things can only get worse. Therefore, you should think about the future prospects of such an alliance while still “on the shore.”
Don’t lose sight of small details - if you don’t pay attention now to the fact that he periodically criticizes you with or without reason, then in the future this may turn into an avalanche of criticism for any reason. But you can realize this in advance and take appropriate measures (from talking about how to communicate with each other to breaking up and finding another man).
See also: 9 signs of a tyrant and abuser, and What to do if your husband is a tyrant?
Signs of a happy relationship
Often, being inside a negative situation, it can be difficult to correctly assess a partner’s behavior and the relationship as a whole. To do this, you can seek the help of a psychologist. You can also focus on signs of harmonious relationships. Here is a small list that you can use to check how happy your relationship is at the moment. This is not an exhaustive list, but nevertheless, it will help identify some problems.
A happy family is characterized by the following characteristics:
- partners are equally involved in family life - you no longer have a question about who will wash the dishes or clean the apartment if he came home late from work or returned from a business trip;
- mutual respect. Even during a small quarrel, reproaches and insults should not be heard. Over time, you will forget about this quarrel, which started it. But it will be difficult to forget the reproaches spoken;
- There is no mockery or jokes in your relationship. You approach different situations with humor, but at the same time do not infringe on your partner’s feelings;
- you consult with your partner. This is not about asking for advice on trifles - what bread to buy for dinner today or how to water the flowers correctly;
- you know how to sympathize with each other, empathize with the problems that your partner has;
- lack of jealousy. No, of course, slight jealousy is not prohibited, but this does not mean that you should completely control your partner - where he is, what he is doing, and what is the name of the girl or man who smiled at you?
- you easily find a common language with your partner’s relatives. If suddenly you are unable to do this, you find an opportunity to communicate in such a way as not to hurt each other’s feelings;
- absence of common cliches - “a woman’s place is in the kitchen”, “a man is obliged to support his family” and others. It’s good, of course, when a man is the main breadwinner in the family, but if it so happens that he is a wonderful dad, and mom is a born business leader, it won’t be a big deal if dad is on maternity leave with the child and mom goes to work;
- You always return home with a feeling of security and confidence.
Of course, there are situations when a man is very busy at work, and there may be some internal worries due to situations in the family. It's not scary if such a period does not last long. It is worth considering if the cold attitude and moral bullying last more than several months. And of course, you shouldn’t turn a blind eye to betrayal. Remember that cheating is a betrayal of you!
See also: Cheating - what it is and how to deal with it
