How to find your soulmate and where to meet your destiny - a psychologist will tell you

Each of us dreams of meeting our other half. The same person with whom it will be easy and comfortable. Someone who will complete us, share grief and happiness, experience ups and downs with us. After all, loneliness deprives life of bright colors and wonderful happy moments.

But how to do this? And why do some people meet a like-minded person literally at the very beginning of their life’s journey, while for others it takes almost their entire life?

It is quite difficult to give unambiguous answers to these questions. Therefore, each of us believes in that very happy occasion, which will certainly give a soul mate. What if you try to speed up this process a little and make an effort to fulfill your cherished dream?

Content

1. Where to begin
2. Advice from psychologist Daria Milai on how to find your soul mate for a girl
3. Steps
4. Practical advice for those who want to find a soul mate
5. What not to do
6. Where will the ideal meeting take place?
7. Advice for women
8. Recommendations for men
9. Warning

To help the desperate

Never resort to black magic so as not to spoil your destiny. You can use conspiracies to attract a free, unmarried person. Don’t tell anyone that you have performed the ritual of attracting love.

Before performing the ceremony, fast for 3 days. This is not only a refusal of meat, but also from intimacy, quarrels, bad thoughts, everything bad.

• After sunset, light a church candle, close all windows and doors.
• Look at the flame, imagine your betrothed.
• Imagine your meeting.
• Read the plot three times:

“God the Lord himself will gather me on the road. He will give me a blessing for a relationship, for a meeting with the servant of God (name), he will give me confidence, he will give me the opportunity, he will bestow his strength. The Lord God will save me from vain expenses, from unnecessary meetings, from evil eyes, my heart will not worry, there will be no fear in my thoughts, a love connection will arise between me, the servant of God (name) and the servant of God (name) and it will only grow , yes to multiply. I will pray to God so that the necessary meeting will take place. Let it be so. Amen. Amen. Amen".

Will white magic help? They say that when performing white magic rituals, light forces help. They do not destroy a person's will, as dark forces do.

So, in order not to destroy a person’s will, white magicians offer to cast love spells. Here is one of them:

• cut a ripe apple in half,
• cut out the core, put a note with the name of your loved one,
• say the spell: “As this apple dries in the sun, so let the servant of God (name) dry for me.”
• saying the last words, tie both halves with threads, leave them in the sun, but so that no one can see.

As soon as the fruit dries, your suitor will immediately be inflamed with love for you. Just think a hundred times, do you need it?

Where to begin

Regardless of gender, there is a necessary “minimum” - traits, behavior that attract opposites. You need to start with yourself - not with changes, changing your wardrobe or going to a manicurist, but with internal self-control and developing self-esteem.

You should understand: not every romance or fleeting relationship, marriage union is really the halves of a whole that come together. It happens that a woman has many suitors, 1 or 2 marriages behind her, but there is no feeling of integrity, fusion, or complementarity. Then you need to realize that you shouldn’t chase fleeting hobbies; in pursuit you can look for a truly sincere and suitable person.

The “ideal” life partner I’m going to talk about is not really ideal. It has disadvantages and advantages. Where similar disadvantages previously made you nervous, there is now complete reconciliation.

Let me present a list of what you need to do to find your soulmate:

• take care of your appearance;
• love your real self;
• start smiling at people, at the reflection in the mirror, at the world;
• become self-sufficient and understand that you can cope just fine without a man.

Neat appearance

The guy destined by fate will love you in every way - and just woken up, and in sports sweatpants, and with a sloppy bun on his head. In the opinion of others, an unkempt appearance may hide poor health, bad mood, and downright dirty behavior. It is precisely such expectations, often completely unjustified, that push strangers away. Therefore, if you are single and actively searching, we recommend that you follow simple rules:

• Never neglect personal hygiene. Brush your teeth twice or more a day, take a shower daily, and keep your hair fresh. Many men say that a clean female body smells much better than any perfume.
• Take care of your clothes. Even if there was heavy rain and slush yesterday, this is not a reason to go out in unclean shoes the next morning. The same applies to old stains on clothes, greasy sleeves and a torn button. Even if you do not have the financial ability to frequently update your wardrobe, it is worth monitoring its condition and freshness. By the way, this also applies to underwear.
• Find your style in clothing. We will not say that you need to follow fashion trends; on the contrary, all the girls dressed like a carbon copy cannot boast of individuality. Review your wardrobe and highlight those things that you like and combine with each other.
• Don't shy away from accessories, especially if they highlight your personality and can add some flair to your entire look.

By the way, many girls are sure that by changing their appearance, they will definitely change everything in life. That is why they radically cut off their long hair, dye it, and at the same time update their wardrobe. Perhaps this will help you too.

Self-love is the way to find your destiny

White body color? We need to go to the solarium. Lots of moles and freckles? They should be brought together. Blonde? I want to be dark. Brown? Lighten up urgently. This is just a small list of what girls constantly change about themselves. And they do this not because it looks better, but mainly because they are dissatisfied with themselves.

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In the course of such criticism, complexes are born. Their roots may go back to childhood, but we ourselves develop them at a conscious age. Complexity will never play into your hands in how to find your other half; on the contrary, it will lead to the opposite effect. Such girls generally have the habit of complaining and hiding their merits.

What we recommend doing:

• Eliminate obvious shortcomings that lead to complexes.
• Disguise minor defects or ignore them.
• Turn the nuances of your appearance into advantages.
• Attend psychological training.
• Sign up for a personal consultation with me.

Sincere smile

In this formulation there is no subtext at all to “smile in the American way,” that is, always, in any situation, hiding real emotions. On the contrary, we call for sincerity and optimism. These two skates will help attract a young man, because men want to see a real girl with truthful experiences, and not with a mask. Recommendations:

• Don't hide your laughter and smile, show off your charming white teeth.
• Look at the world optimistically, find the good in every day.
• If you like a guy passing by, smile at him.

Self-sufficiency

Self-esteem is inherent only in self-confident women who know that they do not need a spouse, but are only ready for marriage with respect and the awareness that each of the newlyweds is an accomplished person. That’s why it’s so important to cultivate individual traits and interests. Recommendations:

• Take up a hobby - it could be music, drawing, embroidery, dancing, horse riding, whatever.
• Improve your relationship with your family.
• Work for your own pleasure. You shouldn't sacrifice yourself just for money.
• Believe in yourself, set goals and achieve them.
• Organize your day with a planner and your life with a diary.

Ask the Almighty and the Saints

There are prayers that will help you create a family and have children. Are you tired of loneliness? Pray, believe that God will hear you. How to pray correctly:

• First, repent of your sins.
• Next, thank the Almighty for what you have, for the fact that he hears your prayer.
• Place a candle near the image, then say the prayer three times. If you don’t know it by heart, then ask in your own words. But the prayer must be sincere, coming from the heart.

Ask the Lord to grant family happiness based on love and respect. Your soul mate must be earned through good deeds and prayers coming from the heart. It happens that a person prays, but the Lord does not allow him to meet his loved one. So it's not time yet! Pray, wait in humility and faith.

Who should you pray to to find a family? Say prayers to the Savior for love, fidelity, and reciprocity at dawn and before bed. Write a prayer on a piece of paper and wear it as a talisman on your chest. You can even describe in your own words the spiritual qualities of your future soul mate.

Think about why you need married life. If only for status, the Higher powers may not send a soul mate. Even relatives of someone who dreams of finding a loved one can read prayers for marriage.

You need to ask not only for the gift of a spouse, but also for patience, wisdom, the ability to pacify your anger, selfishness for the good of the family.

Men can address St. Andrew the First-Called, St. Tatiana, Anna, Seraphim of Sarov, saints by name. Prayer requests instill hope for happiness in people's souls.

Advice from psychologist Daria Milai on how to find your soul mate for a girl

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Set a goal

Motivate yourself for marriage and relationships, rather than setting yourself up for celibacy and self-sufficiency alone. Very often what we think about materializes because on a subconscious level your behavior reflects your attitude.

Develop positive character traits

It's easy to do. First you should do some self-analysis. Write down your pros and cons on a large sheet of paper in two columns. To expand the list, turn to your loved ones for help, but choose them carefully - they should not envy you or deceive you, but want only the best. Now think about what shortcomings you can correct and advantages you can improve. Set a plan for improvement and stick to it.

Stop looking for the ideal

Each personality has its pros and cons, there is no prince on a white horse. It may very well be that a monster, like in a fairy tale, is endowed with a heart of gold, and only your love can turn him into a real handsome man. Or there are bad habits that you can help him get rid of. Or maybe at first the style of his clothing, which is unusual for you, then you will like it, and the imaginary flaw will become an individual trait, an advantage.

Talk to people more

Don't become a recluse, because this way you won't be able to increase your search radius. In addition, with constant communication, you improve yourself, your communication skills, charm, sense of humor, and also gain new knowledge. You can try:

• Sign up for a club, hobby club, dance hall.
• Become a volunteer at some event.
• Go on a trip with an unfamiliar team.

Agree to blind dates

Why not try it? Especially if this is the brother of your colleague or a friend of a good friend, that is, a person who is recommended to you. It is quite possible that pimping will lead to good results, the main thing is not to make too big plans for it.

Don't lie about yourself

You are who you are. Maybe not ideal, somewhere dissatisfied with herself, but on the other hand, unique. People are attracted, oddly enough, not only by their advantages, but also by their disadvantages. Maybe you will sing obscene ditties together at parties with a guitar. And deception about love for a symphony orchestra will only lead to constraint. Besides, any lie is revealed sooner or later.

Meet where the heart rate is higher

It is an interesting medical fact that people are more prone to feelings of love and euphoria when their heart beats faster. Therefore, it is not at all surprising that young men invite girls on their first date to the cinema to watch a horror film.

Work on your relationships

Another recommendation for those who have already found their soulmate, but doubt whether he is “the one.” Many people cannot answer this unequivocally even after 30 years of marriage. Doubts are a natural accompaniment of any relationship. I advise you to take a closer look at your partner, and not immediately dismiss him at the first difficulties. Remember that even the most ideal couple has quarrels and disagreements.

Enjoy your independence4

Perhaps for a person who, by hook or by crook, wants to find a life partner, this phrase sounds ridiculous. In fact, while you are fixated on one desire, according to the law of the Universe, or meanness, it is in no hurry to come true. Let go of the situation. At least for a certain period of time. Learn to live in harmony with yourself, feel the heady smell of freedom, instead of the suffocating aroma of loneliness. Feel the difference. As soon as this happens, a person will certainly appear in your life who wants to be around.

Steps

We offer two methods that will help answer the question of how people find their soulmate. To complete them, you must go through certain steps.

Method 1: Finding a loved one

To find a truly kindred soul, you need to look for it, and not just wait for a chance meeting. For this:

• Enjoy the state of freedom. Any girl should feel complete and happy even in moments of loneliness in life. To do this, you need to like yourself and learn not to get bored in your own company.
• Become your own ideal. Write on a piece of paper what you want in a partner. Then consider whether this applies to you. If so, develop these character traits, it is much more likely that a relationship will begin when two similar personalities meet.
• Don't get hung up on the image you've created. You may be looking for your athletic blue-eyed blond and not notice nearby a reliable, loving brunette whose soul is like you in a pod.
• Don't become a couple's breaker. If he left his wife for you, then he can leave you too.
• Expand your circle of acquaintances. What if you find him at this party?
• Flirt, but don't become outright vulgar.
• Become a riddle that is fun to solve, don't reveal all the cards at once.

Method 2: How to turn a potential partner into a soulmate

Now that you have already found the “victim” of your love, you need to make him a permanent lover, or even better, a groom. To do this you need:

• Constantly get to know each other, be interested in hobbies and interests, work, social circle, family.
• Listen to your heart and don’t contradict it.
• Accept its shortcomings and look primarily at its advantages.
• Try to become not only lovers, but also friends.
• Go on dates as a foursome. Communication only in private can get boring, besides, it is sometimes useful to look at other couples and see their “tricks” for maintaining relationships.
• Hug and kiss often. Intimacy is not the only way to show your tenderness and passion.
• There is no need to shout “we are breaking up” after every trivial quarrel. One day he might just answer “ok.”

Lead an active lifestyle9

Sitting at home and waiting for your soul mate to knock on your door is not the best option. To be more precise, this method does not work at all! Stop relying on fate. Instead, take matters into your own hands. Walk more often, go with friends to noisy parties, where the chances of meeting your love are quite high. Join a nearby gym.

Enjoy visiting and inviting guests. In any case, even if you cannot find your person among your new acquaintances, you will gain valuable experience in communicating with the opposite sex. And it will come in handy! Feel free to meet the person you like on the street. As a last resort, feel free to register on all kinds of dating sites. Now there are a huge number of them. It is there that thousands of people meet, communicate and find their soul mates every day. Passive behavior is definitely not your option!

Practical advice for those who want to find a soul mate

I will make several recommendations that require specific actions from you.

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We place an order into the Universe

Thoughts tend to materialize. This is not an esoteric fairy tale, but rather a psychological statement. The fact is that the more confident you are in the positive success of your “mantra,” the more subconscious movements and actions you make to make it come true. Therefore, we advise you to visualize the image of a handsome prince and often tell yourself and those around you that you will meet him soon, will be happily married, and will give birth to many children.

Wish poster

This technique works on a similar principle. You should take whatman paper, paints or magazine clippings. The point is to place on paper images of the man of your dreams, as well as all the attributes that will come with him, namely: your future home, children, an ideal wedding, romantic gifts, a car, etc. This poster must be hung in a visible place.

1. Visualize!1

Try to close your eyes and mentally imagine in detail what your other half is like. Try not to miss the slightest detail. What is her height, weight, eye and hair color. What style of clothing does she prefer? Is your person eloquent or taciturn? Thanks to this psychological trick, you will understand exactly what kind of person you want next to you. Which in itself is good.

Imagine your acquaintance, first date. Think through your future conversation in great detail. Try to feel the emotions that will overwhelm you. Having an idea of ​​what your other half should be like will make it much easier to look for her in the crowd.

Online dating

Many couples met through social networks or special websites. In addition, there are mobile applications that connect people based on their mutual interest, suitable age and sexual orientation. Don’t be afraid to try to find communication via the Internet; in the 21st century, many people use this.

Advice for women

• Do not show negative emotions - hysterics, screaming, lack of restraint.
• Smile more often.
• Don't try to seem overly smart, but don't make a fool of yourself either.
• There is no need to demand payment of all expenses.

Master the art of seduction7

The art of flirting is possible, and most importantly, you need to learn it. And it's not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. The ability to give compliments, speak in sign language, excite the imagination and arouse interest in the opposite sex is inherent in every person by nature. It’s just that sometimes you need to discover these skills within yourself, perhaps with outside help.

Today there are enough courses and trainings to hone the skill of seduction. All of them are aimed at combating internal fears and complexes. So feel free, without hesitation, sign up for one of them. If this is not possible, you can always get the necessary information from the Internet or topical books.

The paths that love finds

Ladies take failures on the love front especially close to their hearts. Which is not surprising, because in fact, they are created to give love, affection and warmth. What does the beautiful half of humanity not use to find love!

Some women sit on dating sites, turn to magic, runes, prayers - all in order to find a companion destined by fate. If only men knew what sacrifices their love is ready for.

Finding love is always difficult, no matter what age or marital status you are. Be it a twenty-year-old young girl or a middle-aged woman after one unsuccessful divorce, or even several marriages. People tend to make mistakes.

The number of partners or unsuccessful marriages only shows that a person completely surrenders to feelings, is always ready to give not only material values, such as gifts or dinners in restaurants, but all of himself, including his freedom.

After all, a stamp in a passport, even if it is a legal formality, this act of civil status still imposes certain responsibilities.

This also means being responsible to other people for your actions, because when you get married, you seem to become one, but this is only ideally. Sometimes fate decides differently.

So how do you find that same person? They say that everything has its time. In fact, this is the truest and simplest answer to the question. Many people are unlucky in love, but that's normal. After all, experience is designed to learn from your mistakes. But sitting idly by or banging your head against the wall is also wrong.

After all, life is a journey, and at one of the stops love awaits us, so as not to pass this stop, reading or worse, sleeping through our happiness...

How to make a runic stave

With the help of runes you can also attract a mate. And the right bets will enhance each other’s effects. Now figure out what you need and choose a combination.

Becoming Kano-Gebo-Laguz helps girls meet a worthy man.

Kano-Gebo-Inguz formula is suitable only for men who want to build a long-term relationship.

Turisaz-Gebo-Vunyo - becoming an accelerated search for a suitable partner with whom you can have a long, happy relationship.

The combination Evaz-Gebo-Odal will help you get your husband back from your rival .

Actions of a man

There is a stereotype in society according to which representatives of the stronger sex must have an unbending will and strong character. Most guys try to live up to these standards. But men also have periods when they need support and understanding.

If a guy does not learn to accept this in himself, then his other actions are doomed to failure. It is necessary to behave clearly, consistently, without fear of losing face. A lot depends on the psychological attitude: whether a young man will be able to realize his plans, dreams, and what he will focus on.

Usually young people adhere to a similar pattern of behavior. In society, to this day, it is believed that a guy should take the first step, take full responsibility for what is happening. Sometimes points may vary slightly:

1. Search for a suitable candidate. This is the time of meetings and the emergence of sympathy. The young man is in search of someone who will accept him with all his strengths and weaknesses, will be able to reciprocate, and share his life goals and dreams. A guy sometimes pays attention to many, but with his heart he searches for only one.
2. Courtship period. Lasts as long as the relationship between a couple develops before marriage. A man must show his best side, demonstrate the seriousness of his intentions. To this end, he takes care of the girl: giving flowers, taking her to restaurants, scattering compliments. This is a pleasant period that is pleasant to remember after many months and years.
3. Moment of proposal. Proposing marriage is an important step that every woman in love is waiting for. This indicates seriousness of intentions, a desire to take responsibility for the well-being of the woman he loves. The guy makes an offer with trepidation and bated breath, hoping to receive gratitude and respect in return.

READ How to understand that a man is flirting: types and signs of flirting

Expand your social circle

The more people you have around you, the better. However, you shouldn’t let everyone get close to you. Be selective. Communicate only with those who are interesting to you. It is desirable if it is a “teacher-student” format, that is:

When we are surrounded by strong and successful people, we:

• let's understand the world;
• learning to be stronger;
• we think differently;
• opening new horizons.

These people include those who have achieved significant success in their activities and in life. They can share their experience and help you.

When we communicate with a person a head shorter than us, we:

• reaching down;
• we stop developing;
• we lose faith in ourselves;
• we lose energy;
• Let's become like this man.

This category includes energy vampires, as well as pathological losers who have not achieved success in life and prevent others from achieving it. They constantly complain about the world around them and look pessimistic. They are also embittered and envious; they always blame those who live better. Communication with such people will only bring disappointment. Therefore, stay close only to those who have achieved success and are ready to share it.

Drawing up a wish map

This psychological technique helps to get closer to what you want, to turn your destiny in the desired direction. The point is to find a reason for joy every day, to share a positive mood with others. A wish map represents written goals and dreams. Seeing them, the individual learns the value of his own efforts.

Now it is clear how long it will take to implement the plan, and whether additional efforts will be required. You can notice how, while drawing up a wish map, your mood changes and more incentives for targeted actions appear. Here are the recommendations proposed for implementation.

1. Decide on plans for life. Without understanding what you want to achieve, it is impossible to get closer to what you want. To begin with, you should simply write down various intentions without trying to analyze them from the point of view of objective reality. Write everything that comes to mind. You can think about the acceptability of each individual option a little later.
2. Portrait of the desired partner. It is impossible to meet the right person if you do not imagine what he should be like, what character qualities he should have. You need to have this portrait in your head even before meeting your other half. Then you won’t have to regret missed opportunities and wasted time. Every minute is priceless, so you need to hurry up to love and make informed decisions.
3. Vivid impressions. You need to depict moments of happiness with your loved one as if you were in the present moment. You need to put on the map those fragments of communication that give joy and inspire new achievements: traveling together, the moment of marriage, the birth of children. It is important to collect happy smiles and pay attention to pleasant surprises.

Prayers

Prayer to the Lord:

“I bow to the ground to you, Lord, I resort to your help, I trust in you. Forgive me my sins and vices. Give pure, mutual love. I'm confused in a huge world, I can't find my betrothed among people. I hope in you, Lord, I ask for your help and assistance. Do not ignore my request. Amen".

Prayers of Xenia of St. Petersburg:

“Oh, all-blessed mother Ksenia! Having endured hunger and cold, thirst and heat. Living under the protection of the Lord, she is led and strengthened by the Mother of God. Forgive all my sins that I committed, voluntarily or unwittingly. Help, Saint Xenia, heal the sick, send down family happiness. I ask you, fill my heart with earthly love. Send a life partner who can illuminate our path with light. Bless, Mother Ksenia, our relationship, as predicted by heaven. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen".

A prayer to Nicholas the Wonderworker will lead to a meeting with your soul mate.

“Oh, Saint Nicholas, saint of the Lord, our intercessor in troubles and sorrow. Before your face, I ask you to grant forgiveness of my sins. Help me, the accursed one, ask our Lord to save me from ordeal and despondency. I ask you to grant your spouse a long life, to be treated with love and joy, and to take care of the children. Pray for us, Saint Nicholas, our Lord, to grant us a peaceful life and the salvation of our souls. Amen".

Prayer to Matrona of Moscow:

“Mother Matronushka, look into my heart. Help me find my betrothed, who is looking for me and toiling without love. Help me find someone I love and who will love me. I ask you, who have suffered, to humbly fall at the feet of our Lord, Jesus Christ. Ask him to grant me a family life. May the grace of God not leave us in our long-suffering vale. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit, now and ever, unto ages of ages. Amen".

Prayer to Peter and Fevronia - patrons of family and marriage.

“Oh, faithful Prince Peter and Princess Fevronia! I pray with hope and resort to your help. Offer prayers to our Lord and ask for goodness for me. For your intercession, I ask that our heavenly King grant prosperity in good deeds, unshakable piety, good hope, unfeigned love, and right faith. Amen".

Prayer to Paraskeva Friday will help you find a long-awaited couple and bring peace and love to the family:

“Mother Paraskeva, cover me as soon as possible!” “Holy bride of Christ, Great Martyr Paraskeva! You loved the Heavenly King with all your soul and heart, you were disheartened by our Savior, having distributed your property to the poor. Your chastity and piety shine like a ray of sunshine among the infidels; you fearlessly brought them the word of the Lord. I look at your icon with tenderness, I greet you, long-suffering Paraskeva. Pray to the Savior, the Lover of Humanity, that He may grant salvation and good mercy, patience and complacency in troubles. May you, through your intercession and intercession, grant prosperity and peaceful life, health and affirmation in the faith, and speed up your help in finding your betrothed and loved one. May He cleanse us sinners from filth. And, having secured salvation, through your prayers, intercession and representation, bride of Christ Paraskeva, let us glorify the most pure and wondrous name in the saints of the true God the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit, always, now and ever, and unto the ages of ages. Amen".

Is there a second half?

It is completely wrong for some people to think that there is only one suitable person in the world. The story of the only “other half” is simply a myth created by the ancient philosopher Plato.

In fact, there are many people with whom you can build a happy relationship.

Throughout life, almost everyone constantly falls in love, starts families, gets divorced and rushes to look for new love. Every time it seems to them that the other half is already nearby. But everyone makes mistakes that ruin relationships.

As a result, people leave each other. But then a new person appears, even better, more suitable and closer.