How to stop being vulnerable and overly sensitive

What is impressionability

Impressionability is part of emotionality, a direct and vivid perception of what is happening, a bright and sharp reaction to situations.
The most impressionable are children and women. First of all, it is necessary to note that there are two types of impressionability: congenital and acquired.

– Innate impressionability is considered as an immediate character trait - you are susceptible to it from childhood. If you have always been easy to bring to tears or, conversely, to make you laugh, then this quality is a character trait. In this case, it will be extremely difficult to fight your impressionability, and often not at all possible. You should think about how you can benefit from this character trait. Try to ensure that your impressionability is exposed only to the influence of positive emotions: you need to learn to abandon the negative or not perceive it at all. Learn to calm yourself down, find explanations and positive aspects in any situation.

– Acquired impressionability can be a consequence of stress, experienced emotions or frequent troubles in life

Previously, you were cold-blooded, but now any little thing can set you off: a sidelong glance on the street or a careless word. In this case, you have to work hard on yourself or consult a psychologist

Due to excessive impressionability, depression and the occurrence of neuroses are possible. A specialist can help you solve existing problems and prevent new ones from arising.

There is only one answer - patiently work on yourself. Let's give some tips to combat this quality.

Don't make mountains out of molehills and take everything personally. Try to react calmly to words and events that happen to you. Any situation can be viewed from two sides. Think positively.
Don't keep things that upset you to yourself. Share your emotions and experiences with loved ones: mother, friend, husband. Don’t wait for the cup of emotions to overflow - it’s better to gradually get rid of accumulated emotions in a peaceful manner. Sometimes, in order to realize the stupidity of an insult, you just need to say out loud what hurt you.
Let one of your life credos be the phrase “I don’t have to please everyone.”
Control yourself. Don't let your emotions get the better of you. You control your behavior, not your mood. First of all, sit down and think: is this situation worth your nerves? In most cases the answer will be no.
If you can’t cope with your emotions, leave the room. Or, more simply put, “go crazy.” Take a breath of fresh air, cry, tear up unnecessary paper, but do not take out your anger and emotions on a loved one. Once you've calmed down, come back and calmly talk about what made you angry.
In case of a quarrel, do not pretend that nothing happened. It is best to clarify the situation as soon as possible. If your tantrum occurred in public, the first thing you need to do is apologize to everyone for your behavior. In the event of a quarrel in private, it is also necessary to apologize for the disruption and offer to calmly discuss this problem.

Excessive sensitivity and emotionality do not always help in life, but here you can find bright sides. With the help of hard work on yourself, any negative can be turned into a positive.

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From surviving to thriving

If you recognize yourself in this description, congratulate yourself: you survived and adapted without knowing anything about your sensitivity! Now is the time to move from surviving to thriving and learning to truly use your gift. I offer six simple strategies on how to do this.

1. First of all, understand and accept that everything is fine with you.

There are 1.4 billion people like you around the world. Nature does not hold anything superfluous, and if sensitivity continues to be passed on from generation to generation in people and animals, then it is needed. Give yourself permission to be hypersensitive, the world needs your gift.

2. Realize that most people perceive the world differently than you do.

80% of humanity sincerely does not understand why the smell of food in the workplace, loud music or air conditioning bothers you, and may not even notice what affects your well-being and productivity. Colleagues may enjoy light stimulation in the form of constant music, without which their nervous system goes into hibernation. Explaining what sensitivity is to someone who does not have it is like trying to explain to a blind person what color is.

So learn to speak their language.

If you need time to recover after a meeting, don't say that you're tired from the abundance of information - say that you'll go away to write down your thoughts from the meeting. Or joke that you need to warm up with a cup of tea after a chilly conversation with a client. People are afraid of the unknown, so use humor more often and don't focus on sensitivity: no one has to treat you differently just because you're a sensitive person.

3. Avoid negative people and companies.

Sensitive people are very influenced by the mood of others, and they tend to take on other people's problems. If you constantly deal with negatively charged people, such interaction will drain you much more than the average person . If at your work someone is constantly criticized, accused, offended, such a team is contraindicated for you. Look for a more professional company - there are many of them.

4. Give yourself time to reflect and relax.

Accept the fact that you need more time to make decisions (after all, your brain processes more information) and rest than others so that your nervous system has time to recover. Don't schedule multiple meetings in a row. It is ideal to alternate between socializing and working alone. Organize your schedule so that you can be without external stimulation several times a day - sit in a quiet room, or better yet, take a walk in the park. Ideally, you should set your own schedule and make it your work priority. Many highly sensitive people choose to start their own business precisely so they can have control over their daily routine.

5. Be sure to regularly visit nature

Think about when you felt full of energy, joyful, with the desire to do something necessary? I'm willing to bet it had something to do with being in nature. As in Avatar, sensitive people draw strength from nature. Try to make weekly trips out of town part of your routine. Have a variety of plants in your office and home.

6. Nourish your soul.

Highly sensitive people are not interested in just making money; they are interested in being part of something bigger. If your job is routine and just pays the bills, start a hobby that helps you make a difference in the world. You can go somewhere as a volunteer. Many sensitive people are interested in art and literature or work in creative fields. It is important to stop repeating the beliefs of others that “it’s all stupid if it doesn’t bring you money,” and find time for activities that feed your soul.

Phlegmatic characteristics: pros and cons

A phlegmatic person is a balanced person who carefully thinks through his every step. Usually such people have an analytical mind and look at life around them soberly.

Phlegmatic people are quite lazy, often prefer not to be active and go with the flow. They are always calm and unperturbed. Even if they have experienced stress or an unpleasant life situation, they do not always show their temper.

It is difficult to anger a phlegmatic person; his nervous system is like a scale keeping balance. If it is difficult to bring him to simple emotions, then making him show activity or joy is even more difficult.

In other words, the phlegmatic type of human temperament is recognized as the most balanced and emotionally stable.

Phlegmatic people do not immediately make contact with people; they need time to assess the situation. A sudden change in the environment is like a tragedy for them and it is very difficult to bear. These people do not like active entertainment, they like a cozy home environment, and often prefer to spend time alone with themselves.

Phlegmatic people are painstaking and diligent in their work, they have a good memory and can remember large amounts of information.

Phlegmatic people are rather closed and hidden; they are reluctant to show sympathy for another person. But if a phlegmatic person likes a representative of the opposite sex, then he will do everything to achieve his favor.

It is quite difficult to find friends with a phlegmatic person; he does not make contact well. But if a person with this type of temperament finds a friend, then this friendship can last a lifetime. For phlegmatic people, family is a kind of fortress in which they feel comfortable. Such people get married late and may spend a long time searching for a partner.

Recommendations for combating suspiciousness

Whether you get rid of suspiciousness or want to tame it doesn’t matter. The techniques presented below are effective in every case.

Changing our view of the world

As you, dear comrades, may have already understood, suspiciousness is a pessimistic view of the world. We need to change it, but not just learn to think positively, but be focused on success. To change your attitudes, I recommend reading the article “Habits of Rich People: How to Become Strong and Successful.”

Get rid of bad habits. About this in the article “How to get rid of a habit - advice from a psychologist.” By the way, suspiciousness itself is not a habit for you? You can approach getting rid of it with the same recommendations.
Don't be afraid of opportunities and your own opinions. Learn to assess the situation with your common sense, and not with someone else's eyes or feelings.
Emotions are your weakness. Find a hobby, an outlet, a safe place that fills you with vitality.
Get out of your comfort zone. Day by day, step by step. Getting rid of fears requires consciously going through fears, establishing contacts with people - active communication. There is no other way to overcome suspiciousness. You just need to act.

In the modern world, every person has his own mountain of problems. Believe me, strangers simply have no time to watch what you look like, what you do, how you do it. Stop thinking that everyone is just waiting for you to fail. No, these people are busy with their own lives.

We forgive and trust

If the reason for suspiciousness lies in childhood or betrayal in adulthood, then you have only one way out - to forgive. Forgive and learn to trust.

You are no longer a child and can look at everything with different eyes. Were you to blame for what your parents pinned on you? Were you to blame for someone's death? Is it your fault that your friend and love left you? No.
But you are guilty of shifting responsibility for your failure onto these factors. It is important to realize that you build your own life. More about this in the previous paragraph.

When it comes to trust, it is important not to overdo it or become naive. Nobody owes you anything. You will achieve everything yourself.

A written analysis of each situation will help develop an adequate attitude towards people. Believe me, when you structure the material in written form, your thoughts develop completely differently. Describe:

essence of the question;
your emotions;
your vision of the situation;
real words and actions of the opponent.

Think about whether you perceived the situation correctly, whether it was in vain that you were offended and angry. Maybe the person had his own problems and could not help at that very moment, but would be happy to do it tomorrow?

Let's communicate

Support is important in any matter. Break the vicious circle of social phobia, loneliness and suspiciousness - start communicating. Contact those who can contribute to your development and teach you something useful.

I recommend that you read about communication in the articles “How to learn to communicate with people - advice from a psychologist” and “How to get rid of loneliness - advice from a psychologist.”

Killing fears and anxieties

Visualize your fear, or better yet, make comics out of it (them). Draw fear and yourself in the form of an enemy and a knight. Or draw only the fear and add some comedy to it (a funny hat and a ridiculous tool in your hands).

Keep a worry diary. Every day, write down everything that scared you that day. This will help you see the scale of the problem, and secondly, it will allow you to evaluate how much of what you imagined actually came true. Look at your list of worries and fears at the end of each week. I wouldn’t be surprised if nothing written comes true. Keep a diary like this until you realize the pointlessness of worrying about the future.

It's normal to feel anxious from time to time, but you shouldn't let it take over your life. Read more about anxiety and ways to combat it in the article “How to get rid of anxiety - advice from a psychologist.” About fears and getting rid of them in the article “How to get rid of fear - advice from a psychologist.”

Finding purpose and meaning in life

Be in constant motion. Find purpose and meaning in life. They should be so strong that you have no time or desire to pay attention to imaginary difficulties. Read more about this in the article “Is it possible to see the meaning of life in work” and “How to find the meaning of life if you don’t want anything.”

We believe in ourselves

Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Negative experience is also experience. He gives us knowledge. You can read more about ways to restore faith in your own strengths in the article “How to become self-confident - advice from a psychologist.” Despite the appeal to women, it also contains information for men.

Try to rationalize any situation. You need to understand that fear and uncertainty are born from the outside and are completely inconsistent with the circumstances. Calm yourself down with the help of self-regulation and sensibly weigh the reason for the situation, the essence. Consider whether there are real threats.

Getting rid of excessive emotionality

Excessive empathy is closely linked to low self-esteem, insecurity and guilt. Living life for everyone, including the whole country, you try to compensate for uncertainty, achieve significance, involvement, and make amends. You may not realize it yourself, but the role of victim and sufferer is occupied by people who need love, attention, and acceptance. To solve the problem you need to accept yourself and get rid of loneliness. Then getting rid of painful emotions will happen by itself.

Realize that there are factors that you cannot influence, even if you want to. For example, you cannot stop the rain. But is it really necessary to worry about this? You need to put on comfortable shoes, take an umbrella and go to conquer the peaks.
Stop watching TV, especially the news. Have you noticed that there is much more negativity shown? For what? To keep the population at bay. This is beneficial to the state, the economy, and consumerism. Free your mind, choose what you want to know (news from the Internet).
Create your own world and protect it, concentrate on yourself and your immediate environment.

We love ourselves and increase our self-esteem

Stop talking about yourself in a negative way, even as a joke. But learn to laugh at your fears.

Start using your suggestibility to your advantage. You probably know the “forced smile” trick. Consciously apply this mask daily (preferably in front of a mirror).
Auto technicians are the second way to help. It is human nature to behave as they say. The worse you say about yourself, the more you fit the image of a loser. Try, on the contrary, saying “I am strong”, “I can handle it”. Record your strengths on the sheet. And don't say that they don't exist. Right now, write down 10 positive qualities (professional, business, personal – it doesn’t matter). If you can’t formulate it yourself, then ask your friends (by the way, this is your first challenge in establishing contacts and trust). If you have not always been suspicious, then write down your former self and successes from your past life. Now look carefully at the list. Yes, it's you. And why did you drive this worthy man into a trap of suspiciousness, which is akin to isolation? Why do you forbid yourself to be happy? Why are you punishing yourself?

Love yourself, attract love into your life. For information on how to do this, read the article “How to attract love into your life - advice from a psychologist.”

Learning to resist manipulation

The obvious problem of suspicious people is suggestibility. Learn to recognize manipulation and resist it. This skill is a new stage in personal development. Having mastered this art, you will see for yourself how much dubious information is swirling around you. And then you will be surprised how you could not notice this garbage and voluntarily accept it. Advertising is a platform for honing your skills in identifying and resisting manipulation.

Thus, it is necessary to recognize the problem of suspiciousness and determine its specific components and causes. Decide what exactly you need to get rid of:

jealousy;
fears;
anxiety;
emotions;
excessive gullibility;
bad habits and so on.

Next, either contact a specialist to solve the problems, or try to deal with them yourself.

Auto-training to get rid of suspiciousness

It is better to conduct this self-hypnosis training before bedtime at the moment of altered consciousness. Take a comfortable position, inhale and exhale 10 times, close your eyes, say the following text (think about each word, live it, imagine, feel).

“I like to have a clear mind that can focus on solutions. I accept this situation as it is. Challenges open doors to opportunity. I am the powerful creator of my life experiences. I feel calm, relaxed, loving. I can choose positive, empowering thoughts. I can handle anything that comes my way. I can overcome anything. I can handle everything. The feeling of well-being increases with every deep breath. Every day I become more and more peaceful. Any failure is temporary and relative, any difficulty can be solved. I intend to be calm and happy. When I am calm, solutions come to me. Now I feel calm. I like the feeling of being relaxed and feeling good. I can choose what I want to think about. I do everything that depends on me. I am responsible for my thoughts and my life. My challenges help me grow. Today my possibilities are limitless. I am strong, I am resourceful, I am successful and I am smart. Every moment gives me a choice. I choose positive thinking and active actions. I have plenty of skills, abilities and opportunities” (author unknown).

You can shorten this monologue or change it to create your own. But it is important to repeat it daily and believe in what you say. Your suggestibility in this case will only benefit.

Sanguine person characteristics: pros and cons of sanguine person

Sanguine people are cheerful and incorrigible optimists. These people cannot sit still, they need constant movement.

Sanguine people are very active, and this activity manifests itself in literally all areas of a sanguine person’s life. They love to be the center of attention, but unlike choleric people, they do not have the habits of dictators.

The peculiarity of the psychological behavior of sanguine people is characterized by a high degree of excitability.

Sanguine people know how to get along with people and find a compromise in any difficult life situations. They are resourceful and enterprising. A sanguine person can literally lead a crowd, because these people are excellent speakers who know how to convince others that they are right.

Hyperactivity does not give a sanguine person the right to sit still. He tries to make his life brighter and more interesting. Such people love to travel, discovering more and more new facets of the world around them. Many artists, musicians, and actors are sanguine.

"It does not hurt"

Don't use this argument when persuading an impressionable friend to try hair removal wax or get a tiny tattoo. For such people, even a regular vaccination turns into real torture. As studies show: Ways to Deal with Serious Pain beyond Medication. , impressionable people have a lower pain threshold than everyone else.

How to fix it

Many people still want to become less impressionable

If this feature prevents them from living, then why not try to re-educate themselves? To begin with, every very impressionable person should pay attention to the following recommendations:

You can't dwell on past events. Self-examination, accompanied by thoughts “What if then, I would have acted differently...”, etc. Of course, this will cause sadness and depression! The experience of past mistakes is important, but one should not allow one to live in the past.
You always have to think first. And only then show emotions, say something or take actions. Let's say someone said something and it offended the person. There is no need to scream or cry right away. It’s better to talk to the offender and ask him clarifying questions. Perhaps he didn't mean it at all.
We need to become simpler. Our world is incredibly dynamic. Tens of thousands of events occur in it every second. If you don’t all react, you won’t have enough nerves. One should only take to heart what a person can really change. Empty experiences will lead to nothing.

And, of course, you need to control what is possible. Let's say a person worries a lot because he has a small salary, while a friend is a millionaire. So it’s time to start acting - build a career, work, work.

Because impressions come from circumstances. And if they can be changed for the better, even just a little bit, we should do it.

In progress

When talking about the characteristics of an impressionable person, this topic also needs to be touched upon with attention. His characteristic feature, which he often focuses on when choosing a job, is increased attentiveness. Not a single detail can escape such a person.

Also, almost all impressionable people are deep thinkers. That is why they are the most valuable employees and team members. The main thing is that such a person is not given a role that requires making final decisions.

But in general, impressionable people prefer to work alone. They rarely like to work in a team, since there is a feeling that everyone is constantly monitoring the actions of the other.

Love of silence and animals

This is another feature that is characteristic of both a sensitive and impressionable person. This means that he urgently needs to be alone with himself.

Such people, by the way, begin to live independently early. They are not just irritated by extraneous sounds. They oppress such people. Moreover, an impressionable person will be able to hear what is happening where even through a closed door and several rooms. That's why he needs calm neighbors.

What can you say about loving animals? Everything is simple here. Pets are much more open, friendly and trusting, unlike people. Therefore, a sensitive person, having made a little friend, quickly becomes attached to him on an emotional level. He loves his pet very much for the positivity that he selflessly gives him.

By the way, often impressionable people get birds. They are bright, colorful, cheerful, melodious and chatty - a real source of joy at home.

In society

As a rule, an impressionable person is a person who can spot a liar in the blink of an eye. And not only thanks to intuition. He is also excellent at picking up nonverbal gestures that give away liars.

It should be noted that not all impressionable people are introverts, although many people think so. Allegedly, they protect themselves from communicating with other people, so as not to injure themselves once again.

But that's not true. An impressionable person is one who feels very comfortable and confident in the company of close people and reliable, trusted friends. At such moments, he realizes that he is valued and loved, and the feelings and character traits he experiences are not considered strange.

By the way, such people are excellent friends. They are the ones who treat others the way they would like to be treated. They are distinguished by tact, conscientiousness, correctness, and also the ability to choose words correctly.

What is accentuation

When individual character traits are overly enhanced, this is called character accentuation. From a psychological point of view, this condition is an extreme variant of the norm, and not a mental illness. However, at the same time, some character traits are sharpened and expressed so strongly that they lead to personality disharmony.

This feature leaves an imprint on a person’s behavior and actions, which is reflected in all areas of relationships: to oneself, to other people, to work, to things. Character accentuation is most common among adolescents. Thus, among the surveyed young people, 95% were found to have accentuation of varying degrees of severity. But among the older generation, the proportion of people with accents dropped to 60%. Because with age it is possible to smooth out undesirable character traits.

Melancholic characteristics: pros and cons of melancholic

Melancholic people are prone to attacks of despair and depression. The temperament of such people is sluggish and pessimistic. Any event, even a minor one, makes a melancholic person worry. He does not know how to enjoy life, and sees it exclusively in a negative tone. Sadness and melancholy can cover such a person for no reason; melancholic people often experience a feeling of self-pity.

People with this type of temperament have to resort to secrecy and suppression of emotions. They experience everything within themselves, which is why depressive mental states appear. Psychologists note that a huge number of people who commit suicide are melancholic.

A melancholic person reacts slowly to external stimuli, does not remember information well, and often suffers from a lot of complexes and an excessively low level of personal self-esteem. Motor activity is sluggish and inexpressive.

Melancholic people cannot work intensively and monotonously, as they necessarily need rest or short breaks to stabilize their psychological state. In a social environment, such people are lethargic, uncommunicative, and it is difficult for them to find a soul mate or a close friend. It is difficult for them to be active and cheerful. They choose sanguine or choleric people as people, since this choice is explained by the melancholic’s subconscious desire to be taken care of.

It can be difficult for melancholic people to arrange their personal life. Often a big role in the fiasco of love relationships is played by their indecision and cowardice. They choose a strong person as their life partner. There are also advantages to this type of temperament.

Melancholic people are kind, vulnerable, and will always share the last thing they have. They subconsciously want to help a person in need.

Letting go of the past

Due to the fact that a person who has succumbed to the power of feelings and emotions has an increased level of irritability and activity , it is quite simple to provoke him into an explosion.

And in the case when the “process has started,” the person completely forgets about control and emergency ways to calm down , such as breathing, exercise, etc. As a result, emotions take over, bringing the point of no return closer.

Therefore, all techniques should be carried out in a state when the person is as calm as possible and not provoked by stimuli.

To make your life easier , you need to work through and let go of the atmosphere you have already experienced. Often, a person blames himself for past mistakes and experiences negative “bites of a poisonous self-flagellation” inside, running in circles.

I will suggest that you write down your emotions on a piece of paper regarding situations in which you felt a loss of control over yourself or, perhaps, managed to “break the woods.”

For example: “I felt irritable in a conversation with a friend because he brought up a topic that I was not able to talk about. It was painful and unpleasant for me.” Understanding the reason for your feelings , it is much easier to fight, because you know the enemy by sight.

High tendency to depression

Unfortunately, it is typical for an overly impressionable person. When receiving negative experiences, he often gives up and loses confidence. This has a bad effect on the nervous system. If he does not find himself in a favorable social environment, he will not find a way to protect himself from all this.

In such situations, it is very important for close people and friends of a sensitive person to show maximum support. He needs it

Don’t say the phrase: “You’re too sensitive!” or “You seem to take everything to heart!” - He’s already heard enough of this throughout his life.

Yes, maybe the reason that drove him into deep depression will seem to someone like nonsense that can be resolved in 1-2 days, but for him it is a tragedy. Close people must understand how he feels and how bad he feels, forgetting about moralizing.

About feelings and emotions

It's normal to be an impressionable person. It's not clear why some people think the opposite. The ability to feel and experience emotions is a true gift. And you need to accept it.

Of course, it is not always easy for such people. They experience everything on a particularly deep level. They have excellent intuition, they also delve into everything that is happening, literally studying the situation - of course, the perception will be much more subtle and acute.

Also, due to their great emotional reactivity, such people take a lot to heart. Especially your failures and defeats. Having made the wrong decision, they reproach themselves for a long time.

Due to their high sensitivity, especially impressionable people are completely unable to perceive criticism. Again, their deep, thoughtful thinking also comes into play here. Even for a minor reason, such a person is capable of “working himself up” into depression. At least his close people need to remember this so that they do not criticize him in any way. After all, this can really destroy it.

Impressionability: good or bad

Impressionability is closely related to vulnerability, excitability, and emotionality. Some expressions of impressionability look cute, for example, when a girl cries over a movie or when she squeals with delight at a surprise from a young man. Some people are even attracted to it; they call it spontaneity, unpredictability, surprise.

But there are situations (they occur more often) when impressionability plays a cruel joke on its owner and his environment. Conflicts, hysteria, public “speaking” are a small part of what impressionability can turn into. The husband was late at work for half an hour or did not answer the call, and the wife is already in tears and writing an application for divorce. Or the child accidentally broke a vase, and the mother, not understanding the essence of the matter, became emotional, and beat the child.

So is impressionability good or bad? As always, the truth is in the middle: good in moderation. It is pleasant and interesting to communicate with emotional, lively people, but as long as it does not go to extremes. Due to excessive sensitivity, the person himself suffers. He is angry at his reactions, at his inability to control himself. His loved ones suffer because every time they communicate with an impressionable type, it’s like they’re walking through a minefield.

Why suspiciousness is dangerous and why you need to fight it

Suspiciousness drives a person into a corner, depriving him of social contacts, family, and work. Communication is the first thing that comes under attack, but what remains in life without it? Nothing. Suspiciousness makes a person:

timid,
aggressive,
passive,
jealous,
alarming,
uninteresting.

It binds you hand and foot, transforms life into existence.

Psychosomatic diseases are another consequence of suspiciousness:

Firstly, a person inspires diseases into himself, and they actually appear.
Secondly, due to the constant stress that a person creates with his own thoughts, the body is depleted and the immune system weakens.

Sometimes a person realizes his suspiciousness and then you can hear from him “I screwed myself up”, “I made a mountain out of a molehill”, “I worried in vain”, “I made up my mind”, “I won’t Google anymore, otherwise I’ll come up with something again” . But more often the person is not aware of his own problem. One way or another, suspiciousness ruins the life of the person himself and those around him.

What is impressionability?

Impressionability in psychology is a personality trait, part of emotionality, in which an individual reacts vividly, sharply, sharply to any events. Most often, impressionability is observed in children and women; men are less likely to have this feature. However, this also occurs among representatives of the stronger sex, because impressionability can be either acquired or innate.

Innate impressionability

The reason is an unbalanced type of nervous system, a weak type of psyche. By temperament they are melancholic (weak type) and choleric (strong but unbalanced).

In this case, emotionality is noticeable from early childhood. From the first days, the child is distinguished by spontaneity and vividness of reactions. He can easily scream, cry, laugh, be surprised, or get scared. Moreover, states can change in a matter of seconds. The older the child, the more noticeable this feature is. He worries for a long time, remembers an event, and actively discusses it with adults or peers. Emotions become even brighter, more varied, reactions become even more unpredictable.

It is impossible to get rid of innate impressionability, but you can learn to live with it, control it, and direct it in a positive direction. By getting to know your temperament and studying its characteristics, you can understand how to compensate for undesirable qualities.

Acquired impressionability

Occurs against a background of stress, neuroses, and exhaustion. If a person has lived in tension for a long time, frequent unpleasant changes and shocks have happened to him, then there is a high probability that his mental stability and resistance to stress leaves much to be desired. This leads to the development of excessive impressionability. A tired psyche reacts very sharply to any irritant.

This type of impressionability can and should be fought. Otherwise, even greater exhaustion will occur, and this is fraught with new neuroses and mental disorders, for example, depression.

Rescue by nature and burst of energy

Nature is the best healer in terms of replenishing energy reserves, as well as getting rid of negativity . I advise you on a free day to go to the forest or to the sea for a cleansing procedure.

Before you stock up on new, fresh energy, you need to get rid of the load of old energy . To do this, I will suggest you to work through the “Pillow Fighting” exercise. This is a very useful exercise for those who suffer from attacks of anger or resentment .

Physical impact on a soft object , as well as reciting the aspects that provoked such a feeling, you help yourself get out of a state of stress .

Chanting in the forest, loud screams, playing with leaves or running are also not bad. Everything that you are limited to in an apartment should be implemented in nature.

How to Communicate with an HSP

Orchid people (or with the phenomenon of hypersensitivity) have their own characteristics in communication. And you must take them into account in order to remain on good terms with them:

Try to be sensitive and tactful. Dark humor, sarcasm and irony are not for hypersensitive people

Be careful and think before you speak. Your interlocutor expects your understanding

Listen to his problems too. If possible, avoid raising your voice to HSPs. If you are making an appointment with a hypersensitive person, avoid crowded places. Do not demand a quick answer and decision from the person. Give him some serious thought. Don't take your highly sensitive friend to see horror movies. Use only constructive criticism towards the hypersensitive person.

Understand that hypersensitivity is biologically programmed. Therefore, you must definitely remember all the rules of communication with orchid people if you count on strong connections with them.

What does an impressionable person mean?

An impressionable person is one who takes everything to heart. He reacts very violently to any little thing, especially to troubles. He perceives everything that surrounds him very keenly. He retains it in his memory for a long time, scrolls through it, and adds details. He will be shocked by any image; everything makes an indelible impression on him.

Signs that you are an impressionable person:

the desire to cry, scream, hide under the covers at the slightest shock;
worries, anxiety, crying when watching a TV show or movie;
painful experience of someone else's grief;
behavior depends on mood, and it depends on external stimuli;
numerous fears, phobias that appear immediately after a minor fright, stunning news, etc.;
fixation on some situation, constantly replaying it in the head;
violent reaction to criticism, one’s mistakes, defeats;
feeling of guilt, self-hatred for being overly impressionable.

There are two types of impressionable personalities: those who splash out everything on themselves, and those whose impressionability spills out on others. In both cases they are very susceptible to external stimuli.

Let's look at an example: an individual felt that someone was looking at him askance. An impressionable person of the first type will experience sadness, withdraw into himself, and begin to look for the reason within himself. A representative of the second type will feel anger towards the one who looked. If we are talking about innate impressionability, then the first type of reaction is typical for a melancholic person, and the second for a choleric person.

Physical health

Exhaustion of the body occurs slowly but surely. When you are attacked by mood swings, tearfulness, hyper-joy, etc., your body experiences stress.

This leads to problems with well-being , brittle nails, hair loss and problems with the digestive system.

A nutritious diet , in the form of raw vegetables, or steamed fruits, avoidance of harmful foods and control of water balance , can improve immunity, as well as compensate for the lack of necessary, healthy vitamins .

They take longer to make decisions

Highly sensitive people are more knowledgeable and detailed in their decision-making, says Aron. Even if it is not a “right” or “wrong” decision—for example, it is impossible to choose the “wrong” flavor of ice cream—highly sensitive people will tend to take longer to choose because they are weighing every possible outcome.” Aron advises: “Think as long as the situation allows, and ask for more time if you need it,” she writes in a recent issue of the Comfort Zone newsletter. “During this time, try to claim a minute, an hour, a day, or even a week that will help you get on the right path. How does it feel? Often, on the other side of the decision, things look different, and this gives you a chance to more vividly imagine that you are already there.” One exception: One day a very sensitive person comes to the conclusion that in this situation the right decision would be this, and in another situation it would be that, and in the future he or she will quickly make these decisions.

Know your worth and don't give anyone the right to influence you

To begin with, you must definitely accept yourself as you are at the moment. It is from acceptance that you can understand what’s going on and start working on yourself.

Once you finally start your journey, you will learn new things and achieve success, and this will definitely increase your self-confidence! This way, no one can manipulate you anymore!

You will think for yourself, analyze the situation yourself, make decisions yourself! Taking responsibility and managing your own life is the most wonderful right in the world that we all have!

Disadvantages of hypersensitivity

Agree, having a hypersensitive nature is incredibly difficult. In order not to be unfounded, let's figure out together how such people live:

Many people avoid those who are hypersensitive because they do not understand their behavior in certain situations.
Hypersensitivities depend on the mood of the interlocutor. They can go into a meeting with a great attitude. But as soon as they see that something has happened to a friend, the mood will immediately deteriorate, and for a long time.
Highly sensitive people are afraid to disturb a person once again and disturb them, because they think that it is inconvenient.
Orchid people adapt to the world around them. They pretend to be strong, but this is just a mask under which hides a subtle, impressionable and sensitive nature.
They take refusals and criticism personally, taking everything to heart. If your boss points out mistakes in your work, this does not mean that he hates you. He just wants you to realize the mistake and not make it again. This is learning, not expressing negativity.

Kinds

Congenital

If since childhood it was easy to make you laugh, upset, or touch you, then impressionability is, as it were, built into the structure of your personality, being a character trait.

This means that you know how to empathize, be delighted by any little thing and be upset by any trifle.

Acquired

Usually appears after any traumatic events, severe stress, or serious illness. For example, a person survived a car accident, now, fearing for his life, he may be anxious in a crowded place so as not to catch a cold.

He will minimize communication, reconsider his diet and even his attitude towards religion. Any unpleasant word addressed to him can hurt so much that he will lose his peace of mind for a long time.

Pros of hypersensitivity

Let's move on from difficulties to advantages in analyzing the advantages and disadvantages of hypersensitive people. Why it's good to be highly sensitive:

Hypersensitive people are able to notice details. This is an important skill. It will also help you master creative professions.

Highly sensitive people make decisions carefully and more carefully. They rarely make mistakes, because they calculate everything down to the smallest detail.

They notice lies better and have good intuition. Highly sensitive people make excellent detectives. You will be a great addition to any group or company of people. HSPs will bring their own creative ideas and surprise everyone with their ideas. Typically, hypersensitive people get along well with animals. They love pets very much and usually build good strong relationships with them. Capable of building strong, long-term and serious relationships with a partner.

How is temperament related to a person’s character?

A person’s character is a combination of his personal qualities, which can change and depend on the social environment in which the individual lives and develops. Temperament is an innate reaction to external stimuli. It does not change and remains constant throughout a person’s life.

Knowing the type of temperament, you can better understand the character of a person. However, a pronounced temperament is extremely rare. Most often, people have a mixed temperament, in which there will definitely be a dominant one.

It is customary to distinguish the following 4 types of temperament; on our website there are detailed articles devoted to each of them.

Choleric. It is characterized by sudden changes in mood, emotional outbursts, impetuosity, passion, and imbalance. The nervous system of choleric people is characterized by unstable functioning. When a choleric person gets very involved in something, he very quickly uses up his own energy and becomes exhausted.
Sanguine. This is the most sociable and lively of all temperament types. He needs new impressions, quickly reacts to events happening around him, and takes his own failures and other troubles lightly. When a sanguine person is interested in work, he works very productively and with great enthusiasm. In the opposite situation, he becomes frankly bored and is absolutely indifferent to the result.
Phlegmatic person. He is distinguished by his equanimity and slowness. A phlegmatic person shows feelings extremely sparingly. He is constant in his preferences and habits and does not tolerate any changes. A phlegmatic person prefers monotonous work, which he performs diligently and without rushing.
Melancholic. This is the most sensitive and vulnerable type of temperament. A melancholic person reacts sharply to various events and is prone to strong emotional experiences. With a favorable upbringing, melancholic people turn out to be outstanding figures in the arts and sciences.

If you can no longer change your temperament, then you can work on your character. First, you need to determine your character type and key traits.

Embracing your creative side

One of the key traits of highly sensitive and vulnerable people is creative talent. They gravitate towards various types of creative activities or love to enjoy the fruits of other people's creativity. You should not suppress this tendency in yourself and ignore it. You need to embrace your creative side and remember to pay attention to it. If you at least sometimes satisfy your need for beauty, you will feel much better.

Brief conclusions

Any character trait can be corrected if the person himself wants it. An impressionable person can be a sensitive interlocutor, an attentive worker, and an understanding spouse. You just need to pacify your impressionability and leave its best manifestations: the ability to notice little things, feel people, experience other people's anxieties as if they were your own. Get rid of such manifestations as suspiciousness, hysteria, anxiety, and irascibility.

If your sensitivity is caused by psychological instability, associated with trauma, complexes, stress, exhaustion, then consult a psychologist. In some cases, full-fledged psychotherapy is indicated, and sometimes taking sedatives.

Ask for forgiveness

It happens that we are eaten up from within by a feeling of guilt because sometimes we go too far in expressing what we feel. An inept relationship with emotions provokes situations in which people may suffer from your temper , directness and “incendiary mixture”.

In order to clear your mind, you need to ask for forgiveness for pain caused intentionally, and even more so when it happened by accident.

Be sure to sincerely apologize for your uncontrollable behavior, explaining the logic of your words and feelings.