Women live by emotions and when love arises in their heart, it is clear to everyone around, including the object of their adoration. Caring, the desire to always be there, increased attention, shining eyes, a smile that never leaves the face - these are signs of a woman’s love. However, the manifestations of love characteristic of different genders are different.
To understand what happens to a man when he falls in love, first of all you need to understand that between attraction and sincere serious feelings they go a long way in several steps. A man's love for his chosen one must be conscious and mature, so it takes a lot of time for such emotions to appear.
Many ladies would like to read the thoughts of their chosen one, to understand what he really feels and why he acts so slowly. For some, this becomes a “bone of discord”, as a result of the different worldviews of different sexes. Therefore, it is worth taking a closer look at what happens to men when they fall in love.
Psychological characteristics
It is difficult to say unequivocally how a man falls in love, since each person will have his own characteristics. Several common features can be identified. Men are also susceptible to physiological reactions, albeit to a lesser extent.
What can cause feelings of love?
To establish contact, visualization is needed. It is enough for a guy to see a beautiful girl, this will arouse his interest. However, everyone determines for themselves what exactly is attractive to them. Some people want to see a mysterious smile, others want blue eyes.
When a man is single, he unconsciously scans the crowd to identify the very lady who will charm him. He pays attention to the woman's gait. It should be light and springy - this indirectly indicates health.
The stages of falling in love in men occur in several stages. After the visual assessment, the person begins to find out the girl’s personal characteristics. To do this, he gets to know her and starts a conversation.
If a man begins to see a woman as a sexual object, then this already indicates the emergence of interest. How much time passes between stages depends on the individual’s personal characteristics. For some, one glance is enough, for others it will take months.
Can it pass quickly
Poets, artists, and philosophers argued about the lifespan of love. Some said that only a few months would pass and the feelings would fade away, others assured that love would last for many decades.
Quick interest disappears when between people there was only sexual interest and a complete discrepancy in character. In this case, it will not be possible to build strong relationships.
Strong feelings can exist for years, but for this, people need to do everything to strengthen the union: spend time together, surprise each other, provide support, etc.
Preserving passion allows you to prolong the existence of the union
It is impossible to say for sure whether love is quick. Some people need time to understand: this woman is not suitable for him. Others spend years maintaining feelings that vaguely resemble love.
Important! Each man has his own life, so measuring it with general criteria is not always correct.
Sometimes a person goes a long way through short-term romances to find that very woman.
How men fall in love. A look from the inside
I choose the one with whom I want to fall in love, for whom I will leave an island in my heart. I need to see her, feel her, feel her look, smell, her energy.
I make an appointment with her.
But I don’t just go to meet her as if nothing had happened. I stress myself out, I start to deliberately worry and worry. I'M GETTING READY!
Think, think - what will I look like, what will I say, scroll through this meeting several times in my brain, imagine the scenario of this greatest event - a meeting with the one I want to fall in love with. To loosen the mechanics of the heart, increase the power of heartbeats and connect them with this person.
And I meet her.
A tense excitement plays in your temples, and your heavy gaze begins to look down, trying to avoid direct gaze into your eyes. Only an idiot in love does this, he always lowers his eyes. He secretly looks at his lips, quickly hiding his eyes...
And here is the object in front of you, your goal, your little world, which you will make your own. Here she looks into my eyes, talks to me, listens to me, I listen to her.
Turn all sensors on full blast.
My eyes lock onto her lips. If you look at the lips, the desire increases; a glance at the lips always indicates that the guy is not indifferent to the girl...
I imperceptibly touch every feature of her face with my gaze, penetrating the color of her hair.
The gaze scans her figure, eagerly tears off her clothes and imagines, imagines, imagines!
My ears absorb every sound of her voice, every phrase, every subtext of her message.
My animal-level sense of smell remembers her smell, I just feel her smell and tell myself - remember it! I absorb it so that it settles for several days or even weeks, so that the residue of this smell tickles my soul with memories.
The receptors of my fingertips trace over her face. A man who doesn’t give a damn about a girl first of all touches not her ass, not her chest, not her shoulders, not her waist, but her face.
My energy opens and accepts her energy, we exchange states, we turn into a single energy.
I don't just look at her. I say to myself: “I love you, how beautiful you are, how beautiful you are, I want to be with you, I want you to give birth to my child, I want you to be my wife, I will do everything for you, for the sake of I’m ready for anything, absolutely anything!”
I don't just listen to her. I want to hear compliments, I'm waiting for them, I want to hear the changes in her voice when she looks at me, I'm waiting for them.
I don't just smell it. At some cellular level, I make this smell part of myself...
I'm not just touching her. I don't just touch her. I merge with her with these touches...
You need to be imbued with these feelings, dive into them headlong.
So she says something... no matter what. I answer something... no matter what.
And I myself think about how much I love this person, how dear he is to me, how bad I will feel after a period of time when our backs begin to move away in opposite directions...
Changes in thinking
When you become imbued with these feelings, your behavior and thoughts begin to change. The state changes, certain parts of the brain wake up and are activated. You begin to behave carefully, weigh every word before saying something, and be very sensitive to her words.
You begin to be deliberately afraid of ruining everything, and you create an image of a good person. Whenever we get hooked, we always start behaving idiotically well. If you want to get hooked, behave idiotically well with the person, be afraid of appearing bad.
And then...
And then you wake up and BANG! This man sits in his head and doesn’t want to shake himself out of there, no matter how much you shake his head - it’s useless! You start thinking about something else, something abstract. But thoughts with a wild rattle turn towards the vision of this man.
His smell, his touch, his voice, his words, phrases, glance, hair - all this turns into a small sharp neuron in the brain, which, with lightning speed, rushes through hot veins to the heart, and with a powerful push it returns thoughts about this person and gives out warmth and pain for this person.
And you understand.
All!
I fell in love…
And all this energy, from all the receptors and sensors in the head, includes only one vital question. How to make her fall in love with you?
This is how you can fall in love with a person if you set yourself a goal and clearly and with feeling play this role to the end.
Now let's move on to the most delicious part.
Seven stages of falling in love
Psychologists have been able to identify the stages of development of feelings. They help to better understand what representatives of the stronger sex experience when they develop an attachment to a girl. The stages of a man falling in love are divided into 7 segments. They happen gradually; you cannot jump over them.
Attractiveness rating
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It all starts with visual contact with a woman's body. You don’t have to be a long-legged, slender woman to arouse interest. It is enough to look cheerful and healthy.
Important! Every man has his own ideas about beauty.
In order to attract attention, you can look bright and unusual. This way you have more chances to attract the attention of the male half. But this is just the beginning.
Identifying reciprocal interest
Few people want to meet someone and be immediately rejected. A man and a woman in love behave differently, so they may not be aware of each other’s feelings.
In order to understand a lady’s interest, you need to pay attention to the following manifestations:
- her gaze;
- a flirting smile;
- desire to shorten the distance.
If these signs are there, then the girl is definitely starting to feel interested, so you can move on to a new stage.
Getting attention in return
Next, the man needs to start a conversation and find out the personal characteristics of the chosen one. You can ask about her interests, character, hobbies, work and other topics.
The guy also presents himself by showing his strengths, otherwise he will not arouse a woman's interest. In this case, she will refuse him a new meeting.
Making a good impression
In order to attract a girl on the first date, you need to look perfect. To do this, choose stylish, clean clothes, use high-quality perfume, and do a fashionable hairstyle.
Important! The first impressions of a meeting are also based on behavior.
The guy needs to prove himself to be an intelligent and gallant person. Good manners, politeness, and a broad outlook will add points of attractiveness to him.
Winning a lady's heart
In order to make women fall in love with you, appearance alone is not enough. You need to give them gifts, take an interest in their well-being, invite them to different places, and solve problems. You can maintain constant contact through correspondence.
A man goes missing
The next stage is called decision making. After long walks in pairs, the young man disappears. He doesn’t write, doesn’t call, and doesn’t show himself in any way. This is a normal process.
A short separation allows you to collect your thoughts
This condition may last several weeks or a month. It all depends on the psyche of a particular man. After a break, he can finally understand whether he was able to love a woman.
A feeling is born in a man
This is the climactic moment that indicates the creation of a relationship. After a break, the young man begins dating his chosen one again. He strives to spend all his free time with her. He wants to hug, kiss her, carry her in his arms.
Various bad and good events may happen, but they will not darken love. Some guys make original gifts: a dress, underwear, etc.
Stages of male falling in love
As mentioned earlier, a man’s desire to live with this particular woman for many years arises gradually and goes through several stages. Psychologists identify seven:
- Appearance assessment.
- Interest that generates continued to get to know your chosen one better.
- Mutual attraction is one of the most important points. At this stage, it is very important for a woman to give the right reaction, to show interest in return, so that the man will be interested in developing the relationship further.
- The desire to show your best qualities in order to win the heart of a lady.
- Confirmation of the correct choice of an ally. Now she often “sits” in his thoughts.
- Making plans for the future, weighing all the advantages and disadvantages of the relationship.
- Interest in your girlfriend's reciprocal feelings.
Having gone through all the steps from interest to serious feelings, the man now realizes that he is in love with his partner.
Behavior and feelings during the period of falling in love
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Poets and philosophers have described attraction in different ways. Some imagined it as a storm of passions, others as a gradual development of feelings. If a man falls in love, then he behaves strangely and a little childishly. Even married people are subject to this feeling, but they only hold secret meetings.
In order to understand how men fall in love, psychology has studied in detail the relationships of different couples. This allowed her to identify 7 stages that are characteristic of all representatives of the stronger sex.
There is an opinion that a man chooses a companion subconsciously. He evaluates how well she is suitable for having children. Why is it important? Because representatives of the stronger sex always want to procreate.
It is not always easy to find out how a man understands that he has fallen in love with a woman. This feeling manifests itself differently for everyone, especially with regard to the degree of expression.
How to get hooked on a person? How to fall in love?
Many people asked me about this, but I rarely answered anyone, but now I will reveal a little secret.
To fall in love with another person, you need to play the idiot in love. Pretend and pretend to fall in love.
It’s difficult to feel this feeling for a person you’ve known for a long time, and especially for someone you’ve been tired of for a long time. You can't get hooked on a homeless person, no matter how hard you try. You need a person who will, at a minimum, attract others.
To get hooked on a person, I repeat, you need a game!
You need to taste this feeling. Remember all the companions of falling in love, take them with you and use them skillfully. Juggling love companions, making them work for your ass.
OK! Now, let’s imagine that now I want to get hooked on a girl. My goal is to fall in love. Just take it and fall in love.
How to do it? What will be the actions? What exactly will I do?
Sign four: inaccessibility
The character and temperament of a woman greatly influence the signs of her behavior when falling in love.
. Some ladies, on the contrary, tend to keep a greater distance and show their disdain for a handsome man in every possible way. This may be due to the fear of revealing your feelings. Therefore, a man should take a special look at the intentional coldness towards him coming from a girl, if she behaves quite friendly with everyone else.
