The desire to improve their lives has always been characteristic of people. This is a completely natural desire for every healthy person that needs to be realized. At the same time, a person has enough opportunities to realize his own aspirations. However, despite the enormous potential and craving for a better life, only a few actually manage to change their existence.
This is due to the innate laziness of people, lack of confidence, lack of will, and fear of novelty. Also, people simply do not know how to improve their lives. Many strive for ephemeral values in the form of a new car, fashionable clothes or a modern gadget, believing that only material well-being is the key to a better life.
House
1. Create your own “Calendar for clearing the House of unnecessary things”, distributing the cleaning of various areas of the home over the days.
Day 1: We sort through magazines.
Day 2: We disassemble the DVD.
Day 3. We sort out the books.
2. Live by the mantra: “There is a place for everything and put everything in its place.” Try to follow the following 4 rules for all 10 days:
1. If you take something, put it back later.
2. If you open something, close it.
3. If you drop something, pick it up.
4. If you take something down, hang it back.
3. Walk through your home and find 100 things that need fixing or a little touching up. For example, change a light bulb, seal a hole in the wallpaper, screw in a new socket, etc.
Signs that it's time to change your life
A persistent vague premonition that everything that is happening is going wrong, irritability, poor sleep, a desire to quit everything. Often people themselves do not fully realize what is being done to them. Psychologists call this condition dissatisfaction with life. They are convinced that the above symptoms are the main sign that the time has come to change something in their own existence.
Often indicators of the need for change are anxiety of unknown etiology, irritability, and bad mood. If similar or other signs listed below began to steadily accompany the existence of an individual, then one should begin to analyze one’s own existence.
Below are signs indicating that it is time to change and improve your life if a person:
– stopped feeling emotions, both joyful and negative (here we are not talking about reserved individuals who are not accustomed to expressing their own feelings), becomes indifferent, reacts equally to good news and negative news, this often leads to a prolonged state of stress, the consequence of which is depression;
– life has stopped playing with colorful colors, nothing makes you happy,
existence becomes a continuous “Groundhog Day”; such a state, lasting for months, is a serious reason to think about how to improve yourself and your life;
– does not live in the present, but constantly dwells either in his own dreams or memories: experiences negative moments of the past, remembers joyful moments of bygone times, exists only in dreams of the future;
– stopped worrying about his appearance, his own health, forgot when he visited the hairdresser, had a routine medical examination, and often he justifies such behavior by the need to work a lot or take care of the family;
– began to notice incomprehensible things about himself, for example, he rereads what he wrote three times in order to catch the meaning, forgets why he opened the refrigerator, when this happens only occasionally, this can only be a consequence of banal fatigue, but if this behavior is sustainable, then the moment of necessity has come rethinking one's own existence;
– is constantly in a state of causeless anxiety;
– stopped growing as a person, there are no aspirations, a person exists aimlessly, lives as if out of habit;
– envies everything, envy is a serious symptom that screams that the individual is not satisfied with his own existence;
– is not interested in his own home, does not maintain order: there is a whole mountain of unwashed dishes in the sink, things are scattered everywhere in the rooms;
– constantly puts off important matters for later, which accumulate in proportion to the decrease in the desire to solve them;
– irritates close people, communication with them, can unbalance any trifle.
Happiness
4. Finally, follow the advice that psychologists from all countries and completely different views repeat - write on a piece of paper from 5 to 10 things for which you are grateful in your life every day.
5. Create a list of 20 small things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one of those things a day for the next 100 days. For example, eat your lunch on a bench in the park, walk in the park with the dog in the evening, 1 hour of watercolor painting, etc.
6. Keep a diary of your mental chatter—that is, write down your thoughts and feelings that arise throughout the day. For example, how many times a day have you accused yourself of something, how critical are you of others, how many times a day have positive thoughts come to your mind, etc.
7. For the next 100 days, try to have a good laugh at least once a day.
Tip #8: Don't criticize other people
By criticizing other people and discussing their shortcomings, a person gradually begins to forget about his own problems, which prevents him from developing, improving and improving his life for the better. Thus, focusing exclusively on the problems of other people, a person begins to forget about himself and what he needs to strive for. Therefore, if you want to improve your life, then stop criticizing other people and start working hard on yourself.
Study or self-development
8. Choose a difficult book that you still haven’t decided to read, but wanted to. Read it in 100 days from cover to cover.
9. Learn something new every day. For example, the name of a flower, the capital of a distant country, the name of your favorite dog breed, etc. And in the evening you can go over in your head all the new things you learned over the past day, take out a dictionary and learn a new word.
10. Stop complaining for the next 100 days. Negative thoughts lead to negative results. Every time you feel like complaining, try to stop yourself.
11. Set your alarm a minute earlier every day for 100 days. Try to get up immediately after the alarm clock rings, open the windows, and do some light exercise. After 100 days, you will wake up 1.5 hours earlier without much effort.
12. For the next 100 days, keep “Morning Pages” - a simple stream of consciousness in the morning, which you will write down in a special notebook. This should be the first thing you do after you wake up.
13. Over the next 100 days, try to focus your attention on the thoughts, words and images of who you want to become and what you want to achieve.
Tip No. 13. Create the right environment for you
Nothing better helps you maintain a positive attitude, collect your thoughts in a timely and quick manner, share your experience and knowledge, and make positive changes in your life than the right environment. The effectiveness of changing your life for the better depends on the right environment.
Finance
14. Create a budget. Write down every penny you spend in 100 days.
15. Look for good financial advice on the Internet and choose 10 of them. Try to follow them for the next 100 days. For example, going to the store with a limited amount of cash and without a credit card, doing several things in one trip to save on gas, etc.
16. Pay in stores only with paper money and put the remaining change after shopping in your piggy bank. After 100 days, calculate how much you can save.
17. For 100 days, do not buy anything that you do not really need (this means fairly large purchases). Use this money to pay off a loan (if you have one) or put it in a deposit account for six months.
18. For 100 days, dedicate at least 1 hour a day to finding or creating a source of additional income.
Tip #3: Write down your new ideas.
Write down any new ideas you have and make a list. Remember, every new idea you have can be transformed into a goal, the achievement of which will have a positive impact on your entire life. Remember that sometimes even an idea that is insignificant at first glance can eventually turn into a global and large-scale project. Also, the new ideas that you write down will help you develop and develop determination, which will have a positive impact not only on changes in life, but will allow you to achieve certain successes.
Time management
19. For the next 100 days, carry a notebook with you everywhere. Write down all the ideas and thoughts that come to your mind, make your to-do list, add new appointments literally on the go right after your calls.
20. Monitor how you use your time for 5 days. Use the information you've gathered to create your "time budget": the percentage of your total time spent on the things you do each day. For example, house cleaning, time to travel to work, rest, etc. Make sure you stay within your budget for the next 95 days.
21. Identify a low-priority task that you can’t do for 100 days, and replace it with something that’s really important.
22. Identify 5 ways your time is wasted and limit that time for the next 100 days. For example, do not watch TV for more than 1.5 hours, do not spend more than 1.5 hours a day on social networks, etc.
23. For the next 100 days, stop multitasking and do only one important thing a day.
24. For the next 100 days, plan your day in the evening.
25. For the next 100 days, do the most important things on your to-do list first, and then everything else.
26. Over the next 14 weeks, review each week. During your weekly survey, answer the following questions:
What have you achieved?
What went wrong?
What did you do right?
27. For the next 100 days, at the end of each day, tidy up your desk and sort out your papers and office supplies. So that every morning you will have order on your desktop.
28. Make a list of all the promises and commitments you've made over the next 100 days, then take a red pen and cross off everything that won't bring you joy or move you closer to your goals.
29. Over the next 100 days, before you switch from one task to another during the day, ask yourself whether this is the best use of your time and resources.
Psychological aspect: the desire to improve your life from a psychological point of view
Psychology claims that life improvement occurs in stages - according to the order of satisfaction of needs. Abraham Maslow created the well-known pyramid of needs, in which he revealed the order of improving the life of each person. This pyramid consists of the following steps:
- Physical needs. Food, water, a roof over your head - everything that ensures the normal functioning of the human body.
- Safety. This stage includes the same notorious stability and social guarantees, the receipt of which seemed to be the highest happiness to our grandparents and partly to our parents. The new generation has moved on, moving on to the next steps.
- Love and a sense of belonging. This is the desire to feel human warmth, friendship, love and family affection. Have you noticed that in modern culture a whole cult of love has been created? We all strive to get it in order to feel happier. This also includes a huge variety of subcultures and social movements - people by nature tend to relate themselves to a certain image of “we”.
- Confession. These are career and creative ambitions, the desire to be famous and popular - so that your abilities are appreciated. The desire to take a leadership position is also included in the list of basic human needs.
- Self-actualization is also self-realization. Provided that all previous stages are satisfied, a person fully focuses on maximizing his own creative and intellectual potential.
The last stage is very rare. There is no point in striving for it on purpose - if you satisfy the previous ones, everything will work out by itself. Let’s move away from theoretical delights and talk about how to make sure that a feeling of happiness and harmony with yourself always accompanies you, and you never have to ask the question “How to improve your life.”
Health
30. Losing about a pound of weight requires burning 3,500 calories. If you reduce your calorie intake by 175 each day, you will lose approximately 2.5 kg after 100 days.
31. For the next 100 days, eat vegetables 5 times a day.
32. For the next 100 days, eat fruit 3 times a day.
33. Pick one food that consistently disrupts your attempts to eat healthy—whether it's cheesecake from the local bakery, pizza, or your favorite potato chips—and stop eating it for the next 100 days.
34. Over the next 100 days, eat from smaller plates to control the amount of food you eat.
35. For the next 100 days, consume 100% juice instead of high-sugar substitutes.
36. For the next 100 days, drink only water instead of soda.
37. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy breakfasts.
38. Make a list of 20 easy and healthy dishes that you can eat for lunch and dinner.
39. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy snacks.
40. Use your healthy meal lists to plan your meals for the week ahead. Eat this way for the next 14 weeks.
41. For the next 100 days, keep a food journal to see if you are deviating from your menu plan.
42. For the next 100 days, spend at least 20 minutes exercising every day.
43. For the next 100 days, always carry a pedometer with you and try to walk 10,000 steps a day.
44. Set up your scale and hang a chart with your bathroom. At the end of each of the 14 weeks, weigh yourself and record data on weight loss (gain), changes in waist size, etc.
45. For the next 100 days, set a reminder on your watch or computer to repeat every hour to drink water.
46. For the next 100 days, meditate, breathe, visualize—make it your daily ritual to calm your mind.
Tip No. 14. Always be calm and confident
To change your life for the better, you need to be a calm and confident person. You should not let your feelings and emotions get out of control, since it is precisely such actions that have an extremely negative impact on the entire process of changing your life. Remember that a calm and confident person always makes important decisions carefully and thoughtfully, does not allow conflicts, clearly sets goals and quickly achieves them.
Relationship
47. For the next 100 days, find something positive about your partner every day and write it down.
48. Over the next 100 days, keep an album of your joint activities and start scrapbooking. At the end of your experiment, give your partner the resulting album and a list of all the positive things you observed during those 100 days.
49. Determine 3 actions that you will take every day for the next 100 days to strengthen your relationship. It could be saying “I love you” or a hug every morning.
Tip No. 9. Play sports
Playing sports always has a positive effect on changing your daily life. Sport perfectly strengthens your character, strengthens your health, gives you self-confidence, charges you with positivity and helps you cope with stress. Sport also helps develop determination, which, in turn, has a positive effect on shaping a future life path.
Social life
50. Chat with someone new every day for the next 100 days. This could be your neighbor with whom you have never communicated before, your comment on a blog where you have never written anything before, a new acquaintance on social networks, etc.
51. Over the next 100 days, focus on connecting with people you admire and respect.
52. Over the next 100 days, if someone has hurt or upset you, think for a minute before you respond.
53. For the next 100 days, don't even think about making a final verdict until you've heard both sides.
54. For the next 100 days, try to do at least one good deed a day, no matter how small.
55. For the next 100 days, praise everyone who deserves it.
56. For the next 100 days, practice active listening. When the interlocutor speaks, listen to him, and do not rehearse your answer in your head, ask again to make sure that you heard everything correctly, etc.
57. Practice compassion for the next 100 days. Before you judge someone, try to look at the matter from their point of view. Be curious, find out more about the other person (his interests, beliefs, etc.)
58. For the next 100 days, live your life and don't compare yourself to anyone.
59. Over the next 100 days, look for good intentions in the actions of others.
60. Over the next 100 days, constantly remind yourself that everyone is doing the best they can.
Tip No. 6. Leave all your grievances in the past.
It is very important not to dwell on grievances and leave them only in the past. Try not to think about them and concentrate exclusively on the positive aspects of your life and the future. Remember, leaving your grievances in the past will help you feel much better about the present. Thus, you can change your life exclusively for the better.
Subjectivity of perception
For example, a mother wants to send her child to additional courses in mathematics. She is looking for a prestigious university and pays a lot of money for classes. With great difficulty, the child is still enrolled in these courses, but later it turns out that the child has difficulty coping with both the main program and additional classes. He completely loses his desire to study. Is then such a “good” as taking courses at a prestigious university an improvement in the quality of life, or, on the contrary, does it worsen the living conditions? Everyone must answer this question themselves.
Often those events that seem to us to be a source of joy can only bring disappointment. As often happens, a girl who has dreamed of getting married all her life is later disappointed in this idea. Having achieved her desired goal, having celebrated a magnificent wedding, she is faced with the realities of everyday life, not feeling happy at all. “It would be better for me to live with my parents,” she concludes sadly. What was supposed to improve the quality of life turns out to be just another source of difficulty.
Successful women of Russia: stories
photo of successful actress Elizaveta Boyarskaya
The Russian land is rich in talented and real women, whose life and work can be defined as successful.
Gulzhan Moldazhanova
photo Gulzhan Moldazhanova
General Director of Basic Element. She went from a simple secretary to the CEO's chair. In addition to the economics university, Gulzhan received an MBA. Among her employees she became known as the “Iron Lady.”
Natalia Samkova
Bank employees at the summit
Entered success ratings as the manager of the International Industrial Bank. She received this position after 9 years of hard work in the bank.
Having a non-core education for the banking sector, she still connected her life with this sector of the economy.
She was hired as an economist, and a year later she headed the department in which she worked.
Elena Shmatova
photo of a successful female financial director
Financial director of Vympel. The organization's financial policy has been well-structured. Even the founders' lawsuit against her was canceled because the accusations of concealing income turned out to be groundless.
Tatiana Golikova
photo by Tatyana Golikova
Deputy Minister of Finance of the Russian Federation. She is perhaps the only person who is well versed in the intricacies of drawing up the country's budget and remembers the numbers from this book.
After working at a research institute, she decides to change her field of work and enters the civil service during the existence of the Soviet Union.
Maria Maltseva
18th century girl in a drawing
In the 18th century. created a factory for the production of glass products in the village. Dyatkovo. Subsequently, a huge enterprise grew on this site.
Alexandra Fedorovna
Tsarina Alexandra Feodorovna surrounded by her daughters.
The wife of the last Russian Tsar.
A German woman who converted to Christianity, a new name and homeland.
In addition to women's destiny as a wife and mother of many children, she fulfilled the role of a queen with dignity.
She steadfastly overcame all the hardships, provocations, and deprivations of the last years of the life of her husband and children.
Thanks to her good upbringing and German roots, her family was strong in spirit, they honored traditions and respect for all people.
She was involved in charity work and opened hospitals, where she and her daughters worked along with other nurses.
Tip #18: Find your hobby
Also, to change your life for the better, you can find your own hobby to which you can devote part of your free time. Hobbies usually have a positive effect on a person, helping them to concentrate and focus, as well as relax and forget. For some people, hobbies eventually turn into their own business, which has a positive effect on changes in their lives.
Books on developing motivation
It is impossible to fully reveal such a broad and mysterious concept as motivation in one article. If you want to study this phenomenon more deeply and learn how to manage it, I advise you to read the following books.
- “Motivation and Personality” Abraham Maslow.
- “Psychology of motivation and emotions” Julia Gippenreiter.
- “The Science of Motivation” Brian Tracy.
- “Motivation is what it is. How Coca-Cola, Ernst&Young, MARS, METRO Cash&Carry inspire employees” Tatyana Kozhevnikova.
- “Manifesto of Motivations. Nine Declarations” Brendon Burchard.
- “Motivation is everything” John Maxwell.
- “Punishment with reward” Con Alfi.
The role of education
Another condition for a quality life is a good education. Without it, it is simply impossible to build a career in many areas. Even if a person somehow manages to gain experience in a particular field without having a diploma, and works better than his colleagues, most employers will require an education diploma to get hired. And even those who have already graduated from university still must constantly improve their skills and improve their knowledge in the professional field. After all, without this, you can work your whole life in the same position. And without a promotion, it becomes impossible to increase income.
Beautiful successful women
beautiful successful woman leaning on the piano
There is an opinion that the Higher Powers awarded beautiful women with even more talents. Yes, there are many connoisseurs of female beauty and for every lady there will be someone who recognizes her attractiveness.
But based on public opinion about beauty, we present a list of the most beautiful and successful women who, without hesitation, fears or limitations in their heads, founded various businesses that brought them fame, wealth and constant orders from clients.
So, among them:
Jessica Alba and her Honest
photo by Jessica Alba
Online store of eco-products for children, cosmetics for water treatments. In the first stages of the store’s operation, the actress independently performed the work of a telephone consultant, packer, loader and product tester.
Kim Kardashian and ShoeDuzzle
photo by Kim Kardashian
An Internet site where a user can get professional advice on choosing shoes for a reasonable price and buy them. Kim has been reselling shoes since she was a teenager and has gained experience in consulting and selecting for each client’s request. Now she is a personal stylist for Hollywood stars and often walks the red carpet herself.
Venus Williams and V Starr Interiors
Venus Williams on the tennis court training
Design company, known among professional tennis players, organizers of the Olympic Games and television shows.
The multiple world tennis champion is aware of the inability to remain in the sport for life. Therefore, I took additional courses and university economic education.
She takes a responsible and scrupulous approach to performing design work, looking up to famous people who at one time achieved success in both sports and business.
Michelle Monet and Ultimo
photo of model Michelle Monet
Line of elite women's underwear. In the past, model Michelle herself has posed in her creations in front of the camera for product catalogs.
Michelle's lingerie is in constant and high demand, especially after the release of the film Erin Brockovich starring Julia Roberts. The latter wore lingerie from Michelle Monet and all its copies from that collection instantly flew away
Jill Donenfeld and The Culinistas
a professional chef in the kitchen works by ordering
an Internet service for choosing dishes and ordering a cook at home, who will prepare them for dinner for a whole week.
While still a student, Jill thought about starting her own business, which she soon realized.
She started with very modest capital, which she was able to collect during her studies.
At the moment, even celebrities use the services of her company. The asking price is $300 and you are guaranteed a delicious dinner prepared by a neat, attentive chef.
Tip No. 20. Plan your life and set realistic goals.
Always make plans for your future and constantly set realistic goals for yourself. It is planning that makes certain adjustments to your daily life, and setting realistic goals for yourself gives an excellent desire to change your life only for the better.
In conclusion, it is worth adding that if you want to improve your life, then you must constantly work on yourself, develop and improve, and you also need to overcome various difficulties or obstacles that arise along the way.
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