It is a mistake to believe that representatives of the stronger sex do not need female affection. By nature, they are small children who require attention. The ideal wife, according to men, should be a good housewife, mother and lover in bed. If the art of cooking deliciously and raising children is taught everywhere, then how to caress a man and love him is not taught.
Daily expressions of care and tenderness along with sexual caresses are two components of a happy man. Each of them is unique and requires a special approach. One prefers passion in a relationship, the other prefers peace and stability. What kind of caresses men like can only be determined experimentally.
Male psychology for women: advice one
Life without mistakes is impossible. Representatives of the stronger sex for the most part do not admit flaws. The man will apologize if he is wrong in front of the lady, however, he will gladly shift all the blame for other, albeit minor, cases. It turns out that it is not only difficult to tell the truth, but also to admit it. Anyone becomes to blame - from neighbors to colleagues or casual acquaintances.
The main intention is to be a good guy, to live up to everyone's expectations, even if he is at fault. At such moments, you should not point out to a man his mistakes and shortcomings, otherwise he will live up to your worst expectations.
The psychology of men is built in such a way as not to admit that they are wrong. Therefore, a woman can insist on her own or assess the situation from his point of view. The second option will allow you to remain happy by accepting your partner’s truth, as a result of which he will strive to realize his hopes.
The male psyche: how feelings manifest themselves
It’s easy to understand that your chosen one really loves you. Observe his reaction in the following cases:
- Showdown. During a quarrel, the partner will not leave the conversation, but will remain to indicate the reasons. If he's interested in you.
- Getting to know his close circle – parents and friends. The guy values his friendships, so he won’t introduce everyone to the company, much less to his family.
- Everyday situations. If your gentleman helps with chores around the house, this indicates his plans for the future.
Among other things, joint shopping trips, purchases, gifts mean serious intentions.
Psychology of men in love
Mostly guys meet girls not for the sake of a serious relationship. At least they don't prioritize them initially. Men are quite happy with regular meetings without obligations. Additional confirmation of this is that one hears “I want to get married” much more often than “I want to get married.”
Active attempts to put a stamp in the passport about marriage are perceived by the majority of the stronger sex as aggression in terms of restricting personal freedom. For many men, individual space is considered sacred. Only after some time do they understand the depth of feelings and sensations, letting their beloved into their soul and heart.
Experts advise exploring male territory smoothly, slowly, like a cat on soft paws. Any strong statement or active demonstration of rights to territory acts as a stop signal. This applies not only to “casual female acquaintances,” but also to those to whom the guy is accustomed. To attract your chosen one, you should “spud” the selected object carefully, with caution. It will not be possible to take such a fortress by storm.
Nonverbal signs of love from men
Men are more restrained in expressing their feelings, as they consider this a sign of weakness. They carefully hide their inner experiences. If he hides his true feelings, he will avoid conversations, glances and other contacts with the woman he cares about. But at the same time, she will be in his head 24/7. Despite all his efforts, if a man is in love, his wife will still notice it based on non-verbal signs.
1. First sign: posture and gait change. He has a subconscious desire to demonstrate his strength. As a result, his physique seems to open up: his shoulders straighten, his legs spread wide, and his gestures become more active. During a conversation with the object of sympathy, he will turn his whole body towards her. Although this may be a sign of respect, subconsciously it is an attempt to look impressive.
2. A man violates the personal space of his chosen one.
If you feel that a man is invading your personal space, where you only allow close ones, this is a sign of his desire to get closer to you and move to a more serious level of relationship. Such intentions are expressed in the desire for tactile contact. He can put his hand on your waist, hug you, “accidentally” touch your arm, palm, and so on.
3. He is generally in a good mood.
Falling in love changes the habits of men. They become more cheerful, easier to rise to, more often take initiative and try to become the main objects of attention in your general environment. This state of mind is a sign that he is capable of taking even the most daring and unexpected actions that are atypical for him. If you notice that a man is trying to demonstrate his sense of humor or intelligence in your presence, be sure that he paid attention to you.
4. Unconscious gestures.
Nonverbal signs of a man in love are also expressed in gestures. For example, in the presence of that same woman, he unbuttons the outermost buttons of a shirt or a watch strap, loosens the knot of his tie, takes off his vest or jacket. In this way he is trying to attract attention to himself. He can “reveal” not only with the help of clothes, but also by smoothing his hair, brushing away non-existent specks of dust, and pulling down his shirt.
5. He takes certain poses.
You may have already heard that an interested guy always points his toe towards the object of his attention. This is true. Another sign of a man’s love or sympathy is an attempt to place his thumbs behind the belt of his trousers, close to the plaque.
This is a simple manifestation of instinct, indicating a clear superiority over rivals. And by putting his hands in his trouser pockets and leaving his thumbs up, the fan shows his tough character and determination. Similar signs include facial expressions. For example, no matter how hard a man tries, he will not be able to control the movement of his eyebrows flying up when he sees his beloved.
Release of "dust"
The psychology of guys in relationships with girls is often determined by boasting, but everyone does it in their own way. A beautiful wife, a new car, the number of books read, and the like become a source of pride. Ladies' admiration for men becomes a kind of incentive to perform actions. They feel special and wings grow behind their backs. A simple guy feels like a superhero, ready to cope with any problem.
Male psychology regarding admiration from the female sex is based on a subconscious level. That is, any representative of the stronger sex dreams of surprising a girl. This need manifests itself in the desire to “show off” and in competition with colleagues or friends. The “alpha male” loves to brag about his achievements and waits for approval from the representatives of the better half of humanity. In this, men are similar to children. Therefore, you should not “cut at the root” your fantasy and sense of greatness. No matter how unattainable a dream may seem, it can come true if you sincerely believe.
Sign language
The gesticulation of men says a lot about deep sympathy. In a conversation, they use much fewer movements, so it is easier for the weaker half to understand the guy’s psychology. It is not necessary to memorize them. The main thing is to perceive them comprehensively. The interlocutor often looks into the eyes of his chosen one, periodically glancing at her lips - this is a sign of his interest and affection.
When walking next to a woman, he places his hand on her shoulder or waist. This means that the partner values the beloved. If your partner allows you to use his adult “toys,” which he carefully protects: he allows you to drive a car or use an expensive computer, this means he has serious plans for you.
Quarrels are also a good sign. An uninterested person will not show emotions and feelings. He will swear only if he has a desire to connect his life with you. But if during a conversation he suddenly leaves, then a clear lack of interest is visible.
The transition from thoughts to action in everyday life indicates that the guy is thinking about creating your future. This applies even to small things: buying a vacuum cleaner or fixing a faucet.
Another important aspect is conducting daily affairs with your companion. Cleaning or cooking together is a serious step for the stronger sex. By signing up for my personal consultation, you learn to recognize these and other gestures. You will also understand how to interpret them correctly. Despite the fact that female and male psychology in relationships differ, a wise woman will take all the secrets she has learned into account in order to further win the heart of her chosen one and build a strong family.
Straightforwardness
Men's psychology in love and relationships differs from women's perception. Ladies get satisfaction from the communication process itself. For guys, this is a way to get some information. A man perceives what he hears as it is. Veiled phrases and complex hints are not the best option to reach the hearts of the stronger sex. The simpler and more straightforward the phrase is, the higher the likelihood of mutual understanding.
The chosen one expects from her gentleman that he will guess about her desires, almost reading her thoughts. However, confusing hints and florid phrases only complicate the situation; it is difficult for a man to understand what they really want from him? Such misunderstandings often lead to female disappointment. In male psychology, the response is manifested by irritation and temper. Guys feel dissatisfied, but don’t understand why they can’t directly express their desire?
The logical mindset of men is built in such a way as to speak clearly and concisely, and to receive specific answers to questions. Ladies who explain their own needs as clearly as possible simplify the task not only for the chosen one, but also for themselves.
Don't help a man unless he asks you to.
The man has difficulty accepting help at all, even from friends. And especially from a woman. For a man, unsolicited help from a woman is an indicator of his failure: “You couldn’t handle it on your own!”, but in everything it’s important to him: “I myself!”
If your man is carrying a suitcase on wheels, you don’t need to tell him where it’s more convenient and easier for him to bypass the steps: men perceive this not as help, but as petty care and distrust of him. It's easier for him to deal with everything on his own.
A husband and wife are on their way to visit, the husband is driving, and it seems they are lost. The husband is nervous, trying to figure it out on the map, time is passing... The wife is getting tired of this situation and she says: “Let me go out and ask passers-by?” Here the man may explode, and the wife will be offended in the best of feelings. With her care, she wanted to tell him: “You are close to me, you are dear to me, and I don’t want you to be upset!” I can’t be with you at all, you can’t take me to the guests!”
How to behave correctly? Relax and trust your husband. Shut up, don’t give advice that isn’t asked for. It’s normal to touch his hand and say softly: “Don’t worry, we’ll make it in time, there’s nothing wrong.” And after a few minutes, when he hears this and digests it, you can ask: “Can I help you somehow? Maybe I’ll ask passers-by?” Emphasize that the man can handle everything on his own, and without your help. Then he will allow and accept your help.
N. I. Kozlov
There is no need to argue with a man. Frankly contradict him. And he cannot stand women's reproaches.
There is no need to argue with a man. Frankly contradict him. Better ask why he thinks this way. Without any subtext, like how could such a thing come into his head.
A related feature: men do not like it when the woman next to him speaks out categorically. And doesn't ask him about his opinion. A wise woman will stop herself ten times a day during a conversation and turn to her husband: “What do you think?” - That’s it, the man will speak out and be happy.
Men are very vulnerable when it comes to the decisions they make incorrectly. And the most difficult situation for them was when it turned out that the woman was right. We can allow ourselves to make mistakes and not be angry with ourselves for a long time. Men are different, and in such a situation any reproach from a woman is tantamount to a blade striking him in the heart.
A reader writes: We decided to buy an apartment. We found a very good suitable option. And for the price it suited us. I insisted on buying, my husband said: “We’ll wait.” This apartment has been sold. Then for a very long time we could not find an option that suited us. As a result, we lived in cramped conditions for almost a year, and besides, when we finally found an option, we paid more money than for the first apartment we liked.
Yes, the man made a mistake, and this mistake cost the family dearly. Question: will you reproach your husband for this and remind him of this?
If you plan not to destroy a man ahead of time, forget the phrases: “But I warned you, I told you!” Recognize a man’s right to make mistakes and don’t nag him. Believe me, he's angry enough with himself.
It’s better to direct him to more energetic actions in the right direction. You should always believe in your man and be sure to tell him about it, especially in difficult situations when he has had a puncture. If you were fired from your job - it’s not a problem, it means you’ll find something better, if you lost your salary - well, it’s an interesting creative problem, we’ll definitely solve it.
Keep your man confident that he can cope with any problem. Tell him about it. It is this behavior of a woman that is an expression of her love for him.
In tense, stressful situations, a man wants to be alone, but a woman wants to talk it out, and she thinks that a man needs the same thing. Trying to get a man to talk by questioning him, a woman receives a reaction that is inadequate to her expectations: the man either gets angry or remains silent, which is regarded as withdrawal or closure. It's a shame! She wanted to help. In fact, the man here thinks that he is just busy and wants not to be distracted from this.
Sometimes a man “closes down.” This happens when he feels lousy at heart, when he is dissatisfied with himself or is angry, he wants to swear, he just “closes down”, withdraws and does not discuss anything until he gets out of his crisis.
Why? - women don’t understand. They really don’t understand: if a woman suddenly feels bad at heart, she has difficulties and problems, if she has a tingling sensation, is sick and has a personality crisis, she does not put a wall between herself and those around her, she wants to speak out and share, she it gets easier.
But men are different. A man, due to his upbringing, believes that emotional dusting is completely pointless. For men this is true. If a woman speaks out, she feels better. If a man utters his bad thoughts, he becomes charged with them even more...
What is an attentive and loving woman to do here? Just be there, be calm and attentive as always. And when he wants to talk, just listen to him. And it’s even better without comments, just sit next to him. “You will succeed! You always succeed!” - maybe this is the only thing worth telling him.
Emotional disguise
The psychology of men is built on restraining emotions. In a harsh world, a real hero must be able to “keep his mark” without spilling his feelings on others. A guy who has problems at work is an extremely moody and withdrawn creature. All he needs at this moment is peace and solitude. Well, he doesn’t want to reveal his soul to his household, including his beloved wife.
At such moments, ladies come up with all sorts of bad reasons for themselves. Having tuned in to the worst case scenario, the girls become offended and withdraw into themselves. As a result, the man has an additional problem. The second version of the development of events is interrogation with bias. The woman tries by any means to find out what caused the sadness and sadness of her chosen one.
In the psychology of men, there is a certain lever that is triggered by a reaction to insult, betrayal or other strong emotion, only after digesting and perceiving an unpleasant situation. In this case, the ladies just have to endure, and then receive a well-deserved reward in the form of a cheerful person, ready to communicate.
How a man chooses his beloved
Guys take their choice of life partner seriously. Popular signs are:
- attractiveness;
- well-groomed and radiant appearance;
- character averse to scandals;
- the ability to create home comfort and surround your beloved with care.
These are quite feminine traits that are appreciated by most gentlemen. Therefore, girls with the above characteristics will always enjoy the attention of others.
Herd instinct
The psychology of guys is formed on the basis of the herd instinct. The desire to unite in companies is quite normal. The main signs of the unification of representatives of the stronger sex into groups:
- Interests by age. People have something to share based on the cultural ties of the same time, including memories from childhood.
- Interests in a certain area (sports, cars, hobbies, fishing, hunting, etc.).
- Coalition against a common enemy. In such groups, there is an increased level of adrenaline and testosterone. Here an intolerant attitude towards life with a heightened sense of justice is manifested.
- "Hot Topics". Guys are especially sensitive to discussing sex, politics and sports.
If a woman is not satisfied with the long absence of her chosen one nearby, she can simply infiltrate his circle and become part of a group of interests. An alternative way out of the situation is a normal perception of the absences of a loved one, which makes it possible to calmly go about your business. To properly enter the company of a loved one, you should remember some settings:
- Recognize that your chosen one has an excellent team.
- To love the place where comrades gather.
- Find within yourself the opportunity and desire to get to know your loved one’s surroundings.
- Accept the fact that his friends are now yours.
How to avoid conflict with a man
They do not like obvious competition with women; they should not engage in direct confrontation, especially over trifles. It seems offensive when a girl publicly takes the position of an opponent in a dispute; in this case, it is better for her to avoid discussing the issue and withdraw from it.
It will be easier to achieve what you want with soft influence, discussions, and the presentation of reasonable, consistent arguments. You shouldn’t demand immediate execution of an action (drop everything now and screw up the shelf), or a change in decision. You need to throw in the grain, water it with logical arguments, wait for the shoots, and harvest the harvest. And praise, only sincerely, without flattery.
Dying Swan Syndrome
Sometimes one should be very sensitive to male psychology. As life experience shows, there is no creature more defenseless and requiring attention than a sick representative of the stronger sex. This comes from childhood, when a boy is taught that if he is sick, the planet revolves around him. Everyone looks after the person, allows a lot and babysits him.
Such moments are suitable for showing off your best side. Making chicken broth, tea with jam, or just a kind word can breathe maximum life and health into the “dying swan.” And if you spice up the situation with a piquant outfit or an interesting film, the payoff won’t take long to arrive. Men's psychology is different from women's, but everything is in the hands of the couple. If you make concessions and understand your partner, happiness will not take long to arrive.
Physical satisfaction of a man
Although men are considered the stronger sex, they also need feelings and love. The more courageous and stern in appearance, the more sentimental and vulnerable in the soul. Feminine care can relieve stress and relax after a hard day at work. However, don't overdo it. Don't turn into a "mother", there is a possibility that he will stop seeing you as a woman.
Create conditions so that he wants to return home as quickly as possible. This is not about celebrating the belly, but about showing affection and warmth. We often forget about simple human pleasures.
- Kiss your loved one when he leaves and comes home from work. Press your lips for 5 seconds longer or catch up at the threshold to smack again.
- Give her a big after-dinner hug or a snuggle on your shoulder. At the moment of hugging, the “joy hormone” oxytocin is released. At this moment, the mood rises and the warmth of a loved one is felt.
- Give your back or head a massage. Bodily touches will not leave anyone indifferent.
- Run a bubble bath and give your man time to relax.
- Such care will not go unnoticed. Moreover, if it is done daily, the relationship will change for the better.
How to understand a man?
Guys set a goal for themselves - to assert themselves at any cost. The psychological barrier depends on the tasks set and the level of relationships at the professional level. Problems at work or difficulties in career growth often detract from the clarification of personal or family relationships. A representative of the stronger sex tries by any means to achieve what he wants; the correct behavior of a woman motivates him more than any other factors. The support of a lady is like air, without which it is impossible to breathe and assert oneself in this life.
Advice for girls who want to understand male psychology:
- do not meddle in your boyfriend’s affairs unless he asks for it;
- do not make harsh statements criticizing his actions, any support will be assessed positively, as opposed to reproaches and “attacks”;
- support your partner in difficult situations;
- never show your superiority in front of your husband or boyfriend.
What kind of sex do men of different zodiac signs like?
Girls and boys are like two different universes. Few of the stronger sex can boast that they have fully learned to understand women, and vice versa. Women complain every now and then that it is impossible to understand the motivation of men’s actions. At the same time, people are all different, so it can be extremely difficult to establish intimate relationships and understand what kind of sex men like more. It is believed that the time of birth and the zodiac sign have their imprint on sexual desires. Let's try to analyze it.
- Aries.
What kind of sex does an Aries man like? This is, in a way, a rush. His motto is to get to the point, foreplay is not the main thing. As a rule, such a man is difficult to get, but if he is yours, he will remain faithful to you. Show sensual courage, always be different for him, respond to experiments in bed - and the Aries man will be only yours, forever.
- Calf.
A Taurus partner loves foreplay. These caresses are as important to him as the sexual act itself. They expect the same tenderness and clusters of kisses from their partner in bed. As an introduction to sex with a Taurus man, we can recommend a Thai massage session, which will smoothly lead to intercourse. Believe me, your partner will not remain in your debt.
- Twins.
They love to talk. Yes, about sex. Don't deny him this pleasure. Whisper in your ear what you came up with in your beautiful head on an erotic theme. Gemini partners want to hear compliments and praise about themselves and their dignity. In addition, these are exactly the men who love sex toys.
- Cancer.
These are professional seducers. They know everything a woman needs and use it well. Your partner will use all the levers of seduction, light candles, turn on the right music and fill the bedroom with exciting aromas. Cancer men love foreplay when it comes to sex. In particular massage. And if you had long and tender foreplay with him, then the intimacy itself will definitely be the same.
- A lion.
These are the partners who are able to repeat again and again. And if the first time everything happened too quickly, don’t worry. All the sharpest and voluptuous things are still ahead of you. Leos love foreplay, but this is not the main thing for them. In addition, they also do not have any exaggerated demands on women.
- Virgos.
What kind of sex do Virgo men like? The main thing is that he likes the girl - and he will do everything himself. Loves with his eyes. Therefore, you need to look good to please him. It’s also nice to be able to take everything off yourself beautifully. This will excite and turn on your partner. What else? In bed, they are a bit of pioneers and explorers, so they will not leave any erogenous zone on your body unnoticed.
- Scales.
Perhaps one of the most gallant and attentive signs to women. Very skilled in seduction. The Libra man loves to envelop his partner in pleasure during sex. Therefore, do not restrain yourself in affection and compliments addressed to him. In addition, the Libra partner loves everything to be beautiful, the linen, the scents, and everything that concerns the bed. Remember this, and nights of sensual ecstasy are guaranteed.
- Scorpion.
The Scorpio man loves sex like an explorer. A woman for him is an unsolved mystery. And he will do everything to open her up and conquer her. He loves to explore his partner’s body, find new sensual places, and put into practice objects from a sex shop. Their special passion is oral sex.
- Sagittarius.
These are very passionate lovers. Agree to everything they offer - you won't regret it. A Sagittarius lover will fulfill everything you dreamed of in bed, but were afraid to say out loud. It is worth noting that most often a Sagittarius man in sex chooses his own partner. Don’t relax even after you have already become his mistress. Keep the flame of passion alive, write notes of erotic content, flirt, inflame him so that his attraction does not fade away.
- Capricorn.
Capricorn men are quite conservative in sex. However, some coldness or reserve in bed means that he does not fully trust you. If your Capricorn partner feels your sincere attraction and care, his feelings will be fully revealed. He will definitely reciprocate the feelings of a girl who is tender and attentive to him.
- Aquarius.
Great inventors in everything related to bed. And if you ask what kind of sex Aquarius men like, then we will boldly answer you - any! They enjoy watching erotic movies, using erotic accessories, and inventing new poses. They are not shy if passion strikes them in an unusual place. In general, you won’t get bored with them.
- Fish.
Pisces men are professional seducers in sex. In addition, they are also masters of literature. Such a person will not reach into his pocket for a compliment, tenderness just pours from the lips of these ladies' men. Most likely, it will be your partner who will be the first to suggest you dress up in a suit from a sex shop - don’t be scared, accept this game, and you won’t be disappointed.
Thank you for reading this article to the end.
Hello, my name is Yaroslav Samoilov. I am an expert in the psychology of relationships and over the years of practice I have helped more than 10,000 girls meet worthy soul mates, build harmonious relationships and return love and understanding to families that were on the verge of divorce.
More than anything, I am inspired by the happy eyes of students who meet the people of their dreams and enjoy a truly vibrant life.
My goal is to show women a way to develop relationships that will help them create a synergy of success and happiness!
Advice from a psychologist in relationships with a man
Several recommendations enable ladies to establish relationships with their chosen ones. Observe the following rules:
- Smile more often and listen to the man carefully.
- Laugh at jokes and let your partner talk about himself.
- You share the guy’s interests, don’t be afraid of him, give him gifts.
- Be mysterious, do not forget to praise your chosen one.
- What do men love in women? Psychology shows that unobtrusiveness, control over emotions, and gratitude are the main criteria for success.
- Don't impose, be different.
- You shouldn’t test your patience by waiting, or drag your loved one to the shops.
- Be positive, use not only business style in your clothes.
- Swear less, work on your makeup, love yourself.
- Take the first step.
- Work on your gait.
- Be helpful and let him respond in kind.
- Don’t often think about the past, don’t focus on the guy’s mistakes.
- Get involved in intellectual processes, do not put yourself above him.
- Show sincerity combined with some intrigue.
Love or sex?
The psychology of men in relationships with girls is determined by the dominance of intimate relationships. Love is also important for guys, but it does not come first, especially after a short-term acquaintance. This behavior is due to the fact that instincts take over, polygamy exceeds the most intimate and positive intentions, even among intelligent and modest representatives of the stronger sex. The problem is expressed in the desire for spontaneous sex or dominance of a woman. At the same time, the spiritual part and the sexual call are not always connected into one whole.
Male psychology in love: how to understand it? Firstly, guys in relationships need the opportunity to take care of their crush and receive a similar response from her. Secondly, a man values devotion, mutual affection, physical and moral understanding.
For women, the language of love is kissing. For men - sex
Love and sex are inseparable concepts for a man. He is driven by passion and desire. And the visual image of the beloved is of enormous importance. This sexual image is primary. If a woman is not attractive to a man in appearance, he will not even try to discern and unravel her soul. This is male physics.
While a man is young, passion plays the first fiddle in a relationship. And a woman needs to do everything possible so that this passion does not fade away. There are exceptions. But, as you understand, they confirm the rules
How to maintain passion? There are many ways. And many of them are based on the fact that a man is a hunter by nature. He is not interested in catching prey easily. He's also curious. Play. Intrigue. Make it up. Change it. And try to always be in shape when a man wants sex.
Age crises
A person experiences several age-related stressful situations (crises) during his life. The psychology of guys adapts to such a transformation “with the flow”, putting up with what is happening, or begins a new round, developing personal qualities. A lady must understand the changeable nature of a man. Life is not a smooth “silk” road; it often “gets you in the teeth” and on your nerves. Nevertheless, all peak changes in the partner’s behavior are predictable and understandable.
Male psychology for women is not as scary as it seems. The representative of the stronger sex is full of contradictions and difficulties. He is more resilient and stronger than the girl, however, his energy is exhausted faster. Guys are also more susceptible to diseases and have a harder time surviving them. All these factors, coupled with bad habits and stress, shorten life. According to statistics, representatives of the stronger sex live 10–15 years less than women.
Features of the psychology of a man who is in love:
- he will not offend the lady, do something to spite her;
- the partner looks for exclusively positive moments in the chosen one and her environment;
- the most frequent communication with your loved one in person or through calls and messages is practiced;
- intimate relationships are not just instinctive in nature, but are imbued with love, respect, understanding;
- they pick up their beloved girl from work, kiss her in the morning, bring her coffee in bed, and show other signs of attention;
- lovers require increased attention to their own person.
He needs to be praised, not suppressed
As you know, men have quite sensitive egos. Every man needs reassurance of his importance, the importance of his profession, his attractiveness and skill in bed.
Don't push, criticize, or manipulate to get what you want.
If you want to reinforce positive behavior, use the feminine way of influencing by approving rather than coercing.
Men crave recognition for their actions and preferably in front of everyone. Talk about what you like about him.
What features of his appearance attract you most? Tell him what you liked about what he said or what he did well. What you pay attention to will multiply.
What should women do?
A male psychologist will tell any girl (regardless of her age) that a partner requires appropriate treatment, even if he does not always deserve it. Not all representatives of the stronger sex are only interested in sex. Many of them are more vulnerable than their other halves and react painfully to betrayal and deception. However, this is not a reason to humiliate your lover. Guys want to feel exclusive, becoming an object of adoration or admiration for their crush. Often they value not the strong qualities of the chosen one, but the manifestation of maternal care and affection.
A woman’s behavior largely depends on the cultural, emotional and physical perception of her beloved. Each person requires a personal approach, and a loving young lady can find it easily. Respect, affection, expression of feelings, odes and poems conquer not only women’s hearts, but also the souls of men. It is not necessary to pay attention to the standards accepted in society. Sometimes a sweet smile, sexy lingerie or shared memories can do the impossible.
What kind of caresses do men like?2
Sexual caresses are necessary for both men and women. They establish a connection between them and prepare them for subsequent actions. Don’t think that your partner only values the moment of sexual intercourse.
To please and excite your lover, you need to know the erogenous zones and secret points. Typically in men the following are distinguished:
- face: tongue, lips, area near and earlobe;
- back of the head and neck;
- back;
- abdominal area, navel;
- groin area;
- penis;
- anus.
Impact on these areas leads to sexual arousal. How to properly caress a man, the options for influence can be different: touching, kissing, oral caresses and sexual contact, try and look for what your partner will like.
- Touching. It is not necessary to touch the man’s body with your hands; these can be various auxiliary accessories: a silk scarf, the tip of the nose, a chest, a banana, whatever your imagination can do.
- Kisses. A common method of arousal. Touching erogenous zones with your lips will bring a range of different sensations. Kisses can be light, gentle, passionate, calm, energetic. Experiment.
- Oral sex. Caressing the penis with your lips and tongue. It is this method of influence that men love. It's called fellatio. If a woman masters this technique correctly, she can deliver the highest pleasure. There is nothing shameful in such caresses if you practice it with your loved one. In addition, in return, your loved one will try to thank you properly.
How to proceed?
A male psychologist does not always inspire confidence among the fairer sex. As experts note, guys understand more clearly and adequately what they want from a relationship with their chosen one. And ladies don’t always define their desires. At the same time, they often suspect their partner of intrigue or betrayal.
To get rid of obsessive thoughts that interfere with building harmonious relationships, we recommend contacting a specialist, for example, psychologist-hypnologist Nikita Valerievich Baturin, who deals with various psychological problems.
Security plays an important role in a man's needs. He worries not so much about himself as about his wife, children, and loved ones. Realizing the function of a savior and protector is one of the main ones in the harsh male world.
Another piece of advice for ladies:
- don’t be too picky and sarcastic;
- find common points of contact with your chosen one;
- make him feel like a hero;
- listen and understand him;
- do not show your leadership clearly;
- listen to each other.
A significant role in psychology for men is played by the possibility of maintaining not only personal self-esteem, but also the respect of others. Once you lose your favorite job, family or other motivating factor, the strongest “macho” sometimes becomes a lost and weak-willed creature. A blow to pride or sexual potential is one of the most common reasons that takes men out of their usual “rut” of comfort and success.
What should the fair sex do?
Don't be selfish. Every person needs attention and care. And the partner, in turn, wants to be the best for his companion. Therefore, you should not suppress these aspirations, reproach and criticize your spouse. Support, a kind word or pleasant memories can often accomplish the impossible.
What's the result?
If ladies tend to love and care for their neighbors, men need to conquer certain horizons without internally being deprived of freedom. Scandals and quarrels between couples cannot be ruled out. The main thing is to understand each other and know what to do in a given situation. Many psychotherapists note that temperament, the nature of the relationship between a woman and a man depends on upbringing. This is especially true for incomprehensible situations between mother and son. Most grievances and misunderstandings develop in childhood and also during puberty.
Adviсe
There is an opinion that a man treats a woman as she allows him to do so. But when examining the details, it turns out that this is wrong. You can't change guys radically, but the little things are worth a try. This should be done in the initial stages, when the chosen one is at the stage of falling in love and is ready to please his companion in every possible way.
If the girl comes to her senses later, she will have to come to terms with her shortcomings and accept her lover as he is. However, in most cases, the actions of partners depend on upbringing and character. For example, if a wife asks her husband to take out the trash, he may answer that in his family the father did not do this.