What is sadness?
Wikipedia gives this definition:
“ Sadness is a negatively colored emotion. Occurs when a person is significantly dissatisfied with some aspect of his life.”
We are sad for a reason. If sadness creeps up on us on tiptoe, it means that our life is not turning out the way we would like it to. This is a sign that it is time to change something to eliminate the cause of sadness. It acts as an incentive that forces a person to actively act in order to correct an unsatisfactory situation.
What to do with sadness?
Few of us think about the nature of our sadness and try to listen to our inner voice. What to do with it: fight it somehow or leave everything as it is?
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Let's say that you decide to come to terms with your sadness. For this, reasonable, from your point of view, explanations were found: “It happened, I was unlucky this time, we need to get through this situation, there is no need to rush things. I’d rather wait it out.” Instead of acting, you aggravate your state of sadness and melancholy, which over time can develop into depression.
By and large, you don’t want to figure out what exactly caused your sad mood. When you’re sad, everything around you is bad: you had a fight with your boss, you got shortchanged at the store, for some reason your personal life isn’t working out, etc. Is this a familiar situation?
Depression
If a sad state does not leave you for a long time, then most likely it is depression.
The reason for all this may be chemical equilibrium. Or sudden difficulties, heartbreak, loss. There is no specific reason for a person to become depressed. This is individual for each person.
Sadness that continues and intensifies with greater emptiness than before is a sign of depression. Depression hits when you're down. It's like a heaviness in my soul. Sometimes sadness makes you crazy. You make hasty decisions. You act in ways that seem absurd. You prefer to give up rather than open up the world. And therein lies the problem. You forget that you can ask other people for help.
When depression becomes dull, various emotions emerge and are suppressed by the brain to help you cope. In this state, it is time to lend a helping hand. Even if you don't know the reason, you must act.
Depression can be described as hopelessness, lack of interest in activities, or even suicidal thoughts.
It is also suggested that you create a safety plan. This means you gather a support group of people you trust to help, perhaps take you to hospital if symptoms persist.
Please note that they provide assistance to everyone. They may offer you various treatments such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). Maybe even medicine. Meditation never hurts. But it's up to you to be honest about how you feel if something isn't working for you, if the consultant isn't helping.
Be prepared for this process to take a long time. There is no quick fix to help you in this situation. And when sadness turns to depression, you know you need to take it seriously. Perhaps someday there will be a cure, but for now, you can only heal your sadness and depression by identifying the causes and coming up with a plan of action.
Sadness is a source of creative inspiration
When sadness strikes, try to express your feelings by writing, for example, a poem. If you are not comfortable with poetry, then write about your experiences in prose. You write only for yourself. Without your knowledge, no one will read these lines written when you were feeling bad. When life turns its sunny side towards you, re-read what was written in moments of sadness.
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You may be pleasantly surprised how well you managed to convey your emotional mood, what precise and apt words and expressions you found for this. The explanation for this is very simple - any experience, shock or even a little sadness is a source of creativity.
Maybe in a moment of sadness you will want to compose a melody that will be in tune with your mood. Quickly sit down at the instrument. Music in which you tell about yourself can paint amazing pictures in your imagination and make you rethink your life.
Or maybe you are friendly with the easel. Then it's time to grab your paints and brushes and start creating. And it doesn’t matter at all what will be depicted in your future painting, the main thing is that it reflects your state: in the color scheme, in the special direction of the lines and in some mysterious plot.
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Ultimately, when you feel sad, start doing what you love. It is worth transferring your experiences from the emotional to the physical, that is, creating something that can be seen, heard or touched. Thus, you become the master of your experiences: they do not own you, but you begin to manage them.
Why is there a constant bad mood for no apparent reason?
There are a huge number of reasons for the accumulation of negative emotions, and all of them, in combination or separately, create an overall picture of the mood. It is impossible to single out just one factor influencing the emotional state; usually there are always several of them. The reason for depression may be unexpected both for the patient himself and for those around him - a traffic jam, an argument in line, being late. Next, I will describe the most common symptoms, causes of detachment and bad mood.
I don't want anything
Almost everyone knows the feeling when you realize that you have no strength to do anything, you feel empty, you don’t want to get out of bed. People who are not well versed in psychological subtleties consider this state of mind and body to be banal laziness. However, there is no such thing as laziness, but there are signs that relate to it. The latter have a direct connection with mental health.
Feelings of apathy can manifest themselves for many reasons:
- diseases of a somatic nature (pathologies of the endocrine system, consequences of injuries and operations, hormonal changes);
- a sharp emotional outburst (death of relatives, divorce, betrayal, episode of violence, loss of ability to work);
- the presence of mental disorders (chronic depression, anxiety disorder, neuroses, schizophrenia);
- exposure to chemicals from outside (drugs, side effects of medications, alcohol, cigarettes).
In people prone to mental illness, an apathetic mood usually occurs upon the onset of or after a period of constant stress (stress at work, family troubles, session).
I always want to cry
This condition is usually observed in people who have experienced unpleasant and difficult events in life (death, divorce, problems at work or school). After a certain period of time, your health should return to normal on its own. However, tearfulness and sadness can be symptoms of neurosis and chronic depression. If crying occurs for more than two weeks in a row, then you should seek help from a specialist. The first thing you need to do is visit a therapist, and he, having determined the degree and cause of the disorder, will give recommendations or refer you to a psychotherapist.
After drinking alcohol
Contrary to popular opinion, alcoholic drinks are depressants. They cause short-term pleasure, after which a period of depression and sadness sets in. Such an inner feeling pushes you to take a dose again, which will bring relief. Alcoholic drinks have a detrimental effect on the metabolic process of neurotransmitters, and therefore cause a depressed state. A special name has been coined for this disease – alcoholic depression.
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If a person does not have such an addiction and simply had too much at the holiday, then the mood of depression will soon pass. However, if your mental well-being is very bad, then you need to seek help from a medical institution.
On your birthday
Why is there a complete absence of good emotions on such a joyful holiday? In childhood, it is a celebration of gifts, delicious treats and loved ones. But with every year of growing up, a person’s perception of this day changes in a negative direction. The reason for this is usually the following:
- The holiday is associated with aging and reminds us that the days count and we are all mortal.
- This event is a vivid reminder that a person has grown older, but has not achieved his life goals. This is very noticeable during a midlife crisis.
- The celebration does not go according to the birthday boy’s script, and he may be very upset.
Experiences of an existential nature often plague one’s birthday and this is quite normal. If the sadness goes beyond the limits and has dragged on for too long, then I recommend contacting a specialist.
My husband is always in a bad mood
If your significant other is in a terrible mood all the time, he looks depressed, sad, crying, then this is a clear sign of some kind of mental problems. Perhaps the spouse has chronic depression or neurosis. But before you go to see a psychotherapist, you need to be examined in a regular clinic for somatic pathologies, which can also adversely affect your mood.
Everyday problems
Changes in emotional nature are often associated with the time of year. These symptoms are especially pronounced in the autumn-winter period. To get away from the seasonal blues, it’s enough to drink the vitamins your body needs, change your attitude to the weather, take a cool shower in the morning, and change your outfit to a brighter one. The same applies to everyday troubles - you just need to switch your attention to doing what you love, communicating with pleasant people. If you can’t get rid of the feeling of anxiety on your own, sign up for my consultation, I will help you get out of a difficult life situation.
It's all because of menstruation
As the menstrual cycle approaches, the female body reacts with increased irritability and sometimes aggression. This is explained by the fact that during menstruation, in the body of the fair half of humanity, there is a lack of progesterone, which lowers sugar and increases the production of adrenaline. Women feel fear and nervous tension. B vitamins will help minimize emotional instability.
Pregnancy
Expectant mothers experience sudden mood swings quite often - increased absent-mindedness, nervousness, anxiety, sentimentality, uncertainty, tearfulness, etc. All these symptoms are the body’s response to hormonal changes. In order to avoid consequences, a woman is recommended to do what she loves, which brings moral satisfaction and joy.
Male depression
What to do when a man is in a very bad mood - this question can often be heard from loving wives and mothers. The stronger half is also susceptible to emotional disorders. To fight this condition, a person needs to make it clear that he is not alone and has a reliable rear and support in the form of his beloved woman. A sincere conversation, a look at the problem from a different angle and a delicious dinner will quickly bring your man back into action.
Look at the family album
If you're sad, it's time to take out an album with old photos and feel nostalgic. Here are your grandparents - graduates of Moscow State University - photographed on Vorobyovy Gory. They are so young, they laugh, they have their whole lives ahead of them!
A photo of your parents, they met on a hike in the Carpathians. They sit by the fire and sing something to the guitar. And who is this little one with a big bow and in a school uniform? It's very funny to look at yourself as a child.
Your sadness gradually fades away, giving way to pleasant memories...
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The influence of mood on health
Prolonged stress directly affects well-being in the form of cardiovascular ailments. The human body puts all its efforts into restoring emotional balance. With persistent disorders, the patient's cortisol concentration increases noticeably, which can cause increased fatigue and decreased work activity. There is a suppression of immune forces, causing problems in the gastrointestinal tract.
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Love yourself
When you don’t want to see anyone, it’s time to take care of yourself.
Pamper your body. Light candles in the bathroom, turn on relaxing music, add aromatic oil to warm water, relax and enjoy.
Change your image. Change your hair color, get a new hairstyle, choose new makeup for yourself, get a manicure.
Check out your wardrobe. Give preference to clothes in bright colors. Know that orange and red colors inspire optimism, yellow gives confidence, purple and blue colors calm. Hide clothes in gray, black and brown tones away. You are unlikely to need it in the near future.
Enjoy your solitude. In a busy life, we don’t often get the chance to be alone with ourselves. If this happens, a useful tip would be to disconnect from everything that annoyed you so much: it’s time to restore order in your soul and hear the voice of your heart.
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You've done a good job in the self-help field. The clouds of sadness have already left your horizon, and your soul has freed itself from the melancholy that torments it.
Questions that require your answer
Do you remember that sadness settles in our hearts when we experience some kind of dissatisfaction in life. This feeling accumulates in consciousness gradually. When “the cup is overflowing with dissatisfaction,” it overflows, filling our thoughts with negativity and changing our perception of the world. Thus, we receive a signal: it’s time to change something in our lives.
Each person has their own problem. To understand it, you need to answer two questions.
- What specifically doesn't satisfy you?
- What can you do to turn the situation around?
If you can answer, it will become clear to you in which direction you need to take your first steps. If the direction is chosen correctly, then you will be surprised how dramatically your worldview has changed: everything around you will become blue and green. And peace and tranquility will enter your heart!
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Personality deprivation
Our personality is wrapped in the shell in which we want to appear before other people. Instead of maintaining an image of sadness, tell other people what worries and worries you. When you put on a mask, you cannot be sincere. And when you are not sincere, you do not satisfy your desires. You are not building the right foundation for success, you cannot be happy, you cannot know what other people want, you cannot know a solid answer to the reasons for vulnerability. Instead, you become insensitive to other people, ignore other people's suffering, and isolate yourself in your own.
It is best to be sincere and remove all masks, otherwise sadness will consume you alone.
The ability to hide one's feelings is used to distract others from one's problems, but this can only be done for a short time. Eventually, you won't last. If you don't change your behavior, you will hide your feelings constantly. You will have to pretend and you will lose sight of your dreams and goals. Instead of allowing this to happen, take off your mask.
The freedom that comes with being yourself is worth it. Sadness will go away when you find out who you really are.
