Lack of meaning in life and vital energy: what to do if there is no motivation?

Apathy and indifference arise for various reasons: after serious life troubles and stress, during depression, when life is satiated, or vice versa, if it is boring and routine.

It is important to remember here that our soul, brain and psyche need rest, so it is completely normal if you have lost interest in life for some time. And if your soul is still alive, then it’s enough to plunge again into the abyss of vivid impressions and gain new experiences - and it will come back. But how can you regain interest in life if your suspended animation lasts for several years?

Apathy. What kind of illness

How to deal with apathy and what is meant by this concept? There is an opinion among doctors that apathy is the body’s way of protecting itself from overload. It may be associated with unstable functioning of the human nervous system, a negative emotional background, which is accompanied by general fatigue.

A person closes off from external stimuli. Thus, it allows the body to restore strength and improve the functioning of body systems.

In a state of apathy, a person does not experience any emotions about one thing or another. He is absolutely indifferent to everything that happens. Nothing makes him happy, but nothing makes him sad either. A person doesn’t want to think about anything. He cannot pull himself together and tune in to a positive mood. How to deal with apathy? He doesn't know the answer to this question for sure.

When a person is in a cheerful mood, he plans for tomorrow, waits for good news, and thinks about what to wear. And in a state of apathy, he does not want to make plans for the future. For example, he does not think about the upcoming vacation or about any other pleasant events and pastimes. What made a person happy a certain time ago does not bring pleasant emotions in a state of apathy. They are also not interested in activities that brought them pleasure in the past. Films that evoked emotion cease to be of interest.

I don’t want to listen to my favorite songs, attend educational institutions and engage in work. In the case when close relatives begin to tell a person in a state of apathy that he needs to get out of this state, the reaction can be aggressive and inadequate.

Remember your life purpose

How to restore joy and interest in life? To do this, a person needs to remember his innermost dreams, because everyone has had them. It is as if you need to go back to the past and find what made you happy at that time, the meaning that gave you energy and the desire to live. Then it’s good to think at what exact moment the turning point in life occurred and what exactly happened, why the desire to live disappeared. Then you need to mentally return to the place and time when this happened and rewrite the past. After such a rethinking of everything that is happening, you should begin to live in complete harmony with your soul and check everything with it. Medicine that can help overcome psychological difficulties is in everyone’s soul.

The problem of men. How does negligence manifest itself in representatives of the stronger sex? What to do?

It is believed that apathy occurs less frequently in men than in women. Actually this is not true. Women are more emotional than men. As for experiences, here men are also susceptible to depression and apathy. They have plenty of reasons to be in a bad mood. Firstly, if a man is married, then he is responsible for supporting his family. Secondly, failures at work or in business can seriously affect men's health. Relationships with the opposite sex cause very serious emotional experiences. Men are very vulnerable, not all of them are self-confident, etc. In addition, they almost always keep their emotions under control. That is why they cannot afford to relax and cry. In this regard, emotional experiences accumulate, and this may not end very well for the guy. It is worth saying that the life expectancy of men is shorter than that of women. It often happens that guys do not share their experiences with others, but keep everything to themselves. This situation is harmful to their health.

Men, especially in our country, are not used to sharing their problems with anyone. It’s easier for them to put on a mask of well-being and behave as if nothing had happened. In this regard, it is easier for women. They can share their experiences with a friend, even cry. Also, a woman can afford emotional release at home. She can simply blame her partner for all her misfortunes, cry, and she will feel better. And a man who is not used to sharing his problems hoards everything within himself. This state of affairs can lead to deep depression, which will lead to apathy and despondency.

You can recognize male depression in his aggressive behavior, consumption of drinks that contain alcohol, and drugs. In addition, a guy in this state has no mood at all, complete apathy sets in. When a man is intoxicated, he can allow himself to disconnect from problems for a while. In this situation, the main thing is to remember that alcohol or other drugs will not solve anything, and may only worsen the problems.

Men should know that depression can be cured like any other disease. You shouldn’t be ashamed of this, because you need to use available means to get out of this state.

Death of relatives, loved ones and friends

Dealing with the death of loved ones is never easy. For sensitive individuals, this may require the help of a psychotherapist or consultation with a psychologist. Death is a natural outcome for each of us.

How to bring yourself back to life after the death of your husband? The first rule is to try to distract yourself and accept the loss as something inevitable. Under no circumstances should you blame yourself for what happened. Whatever the loss, it is no one’s fault. It is advisable to look through photos of them together less often (although this is what saves some), try to put away in the closet or take to the dacha those household items that remind you of the departed.

After the death of parents and close relatives, rehabilitation can take a long time, sometimes years. The sooner a person accepts the inevitability of what happened and emerges from the ocean of his sadness, the better it will be for him. Almost every person, in one way or another, faces the death of loved ones and is forced to move on.

How to deal with apathy on your own

It is easier to get rid of apathy when there is awareness of this need. And it is this awareness that most often is a sign of the ability to cope with the problem on your own.

The problem of apathy is one of those that can be eliminated by artificially aggravating it. If apathy has already set in, you can plunge into it headlong, do nothing and want nothing as much as possible, lie on the couch and feel sad, complain about life and feel sorry for yourself. In healthy people, such doing nothing will sooner or later cause a feeling of the absurdity of the situation, the fear of “missing out” on life and a burning desire to actively act.

Sometimes such a stay “at the bottom” is the only free time for introspection. A person who works as usual, thanks to apathy, gets the opportunity to become a philosopher and think about his life, understand himself, decide on desires and plans for the future. This is also the time to express accumulated negative emotions: cry to your heart’s content, scream, hit a safe object, and so on.

But most importantly, plunging into apathy is an opportunity to find its cause, because finding and eliminating the cause of the problem is the best tactic to get rid of it.

Since a person spends most of the daylight hours at work and it is working in the “without sleep and rest” mode that is the main cause of apathy, you will need:

  • normalize the work schedule;
  • abandon the “Stakhanovite” operating mode;
  • have a full rest after work;
  • take quality rest breaks while working (read a book, do a warm-up, take a walk in the fresh air);
  • start the working day with the most difficult tasks;
  • do not do several things at once;
  • give up perfectionism at work;
  • resolve existing conflicts and disagreements;
  • communicate with positive colleagues and like-minded people;
  • create coziness and comfort directly in the workplace;
  • seek and create sources of positive emotions at work;
  • quit your job if you hate it, having previously found another one you like.

To effectively combat apathy, you need to make a number of important life changes:

  • change your social circle if it consists of pessimists, those who like to complain about fate, shift responsibility, spread panic, and others;
  • surround yourself with people who will support, believe, love and are generally optimistic;
  • add novelty and extreme sports to your life (from going to a museum to skydiving), they will excite you and stimulate the production of adrenaline and happiness hormones;
  • even if there is not the slightest desire to set goals and achieve them, this needs to be done; it is better to choose one of those not too significant goals that you could not achieve earlier (for example, learn to roller skate);
  • pamper yourself with something you have long dreamed of (shopping, traveling, meeting with friends);
  • carry out a general cleaning of the house, throw away everything old, unnecessary, associated with something negative, make the space around you bright and clean;
  • make all the necessary fundamental changes in your personal life.

How to bring joy back into your life

First you need to find out what reasons provoked the appearance of anhedonia. Treatment will depend on this.

If the lack of positive emotions is caused by fatigue, then the best solution would be to reconsider the number of your responsibilities. Some household chores can be entrusted to household members. The daily routine should include mandatory time for rest. At least 20-30 minutes dedicated only to yourself.

How to find joy in life if you are used to remembering only the negative? You should start carefully monitoring your words and thoughts, stop complaining

Train yourself to look for the positives in any event and focus on them.

It is easier to survive a difficult life situation by communicating with other people. Don't isolate yourself. Go visit friends or make an appointment with a psychologist, psychotherapist or group gestalt therapy session.

Finding Joy in Life: General Recommendations

A happiness bank is a great way to remember joyful moments. Get a special box (jar, casket). As soon as something good happens, write it down on a piece of paper and put it in your piggy bank. The next time the blues set in, re-read the notes (or at least look at the number of them).

Eat more foods that improve your mood: dark chocolate, nuts or fatty fish, bananas, hot peppers. And it is better to avoid alcohol, coffee and sweets, because they give the opposite result.

Try positive affirmations and meditations for happiness. Start and end your day with a smile to yourself. At first it will seem stupid, but the result will not be long in coming.

Create artificial stress. Sign up for a rock climbing or parkour class, or go on your entire vacation away from civilization (for example, to a remote village or yoga camp). Any extreme and unusual activity for you is suitable.

Play sports. It’s not for nothing that they say: “A healthy mind in a healthy body!” This will help improve your physical well-being, raise your self-esteem, and break up your established routine.

What to do if you can't manage your symptoms at home? It is better to consult a doctor immediately.

Main signs of apathy

The most important thing is not to confuse whether you have apathy, banal fatigue or “critical days”. (By the way, men also have them, but not physiologically, like women, but rather of a moral nature). But also once a month. Watch yourself - there are bursts of irritation or uncontrollable aggression, everything is nervous, the children scream, the wife talks a lot, and the domestic kitten stomps like an elephant? These are your “critical days”. After a few days, this mood usually goes away, and life gets better. This is not apathy.

But if you feel:

  • Boredom;
  • Indifference;
  • Indifference to everything;
  • You do everything “automatically”;
  • Laziness;
  • Sadness;
  • The desire to always be alone;
  • Decreased appetite;
  • Decline in energy.

And this is all over the course of more than one week, then we can already say that you have been visited by sadness and melancholy Apathy.

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Many of us make a list of our skills and then wonder how to use them correctly. Try a different approach. Consider all your talents as a whole. Try combining them. You will have a unique set of skills and interests.

Find out what makes you stand out from the rest and will help you succeed in your desired field. Then make an action plan. You will understand how great it is to be yourself.

Psychological techniques for overcoming apathy

The apathetic state has many nuances. There is no one recipe for overcoming everyone. To find out how to overcome apathy, you should choose a method for yourself. What may help one will not help another. The general methodology includes the steps below.

Eliminating the cause of indifference and sadness

It is recommended to change either the situation itself, which caused sadness and indifference, or change the attitude towards this problem. The reasons may be overwork at work, a conflict situation in the family, lethargy due to a busy daily routine without rest.

Short or long rest

Most often, the fight against apathy should consist of the correct ability to rest. Rebooting allows you to avoid fatigue. Walking, music, drawing, and reading are suitable for relaxation.

Choose yourself

How to cope with apathy if rest does not help, and positive techniques only irritate? It's worth trying to learn to live for yourself. Choose time in the day to live your own life. This will help cope with the feeling of duty and living for others. It is the loss of oneself that is often the cause of apathy.

Eating disorders and dissatisfaction with one's appearance

Dissatisfaction with one's own appearance often becomes the cause of blues and depression. If anorexia, drankorexia or bulimia occurs, you should definitely contact a private psychiatrist or psychotherapist.

In private institutions they will not register you, but they will write you a prescription for drugs that will help you overcome eating disorders. Working with a psychotherapist will help you love your own appearance, accept yourself at any weight and find a common language with the people around you.

Eating disorders are most often diagnosed in young men and women. Their self-esteem has not yet been formed, they are ready to starve themselves and conduct various experiments on their body in order to earn the imaginary approval of others or friends on social networks. This is the path of self-destruction. Refusing food, strict diets and switching to increased alcohol consumption will not help you love yourself and get through a difficult period in life.

How to stop blocking feelings

There are 2 options for advice from psychologists on how to regain interest in life and stop blocking feelings.

First: you need to try to look inside yourself, to understand what emotions you want to hide from others and yourself. Next, you need to accept them completely, feel them, experience them and simply let them go.

This is best done in childhood. A child can freely, without hesitation, cry if someone has offended him, and immediately forget about everything and start playing, doing his favorite thing. This way children easily let go of negative emotions.

It is much more difficult for an adult. He needs to find a place where no one will see him. Calm down and understand what emotions bother him most. When he has dealt with this, he needs to accept them, feel them completely, and in this way he can reset the negative emotions. Negative feelings will no longer be blocked, and it will become much easier.

The second option: a person needs to seek help from a psychotherapist.

Reasons why life becomes boring

In fact, it’s easy to understand why you lose interest in life. People begin to close themselves off from the world around them, they do not want to see and hear everything that is happening. In a similar way, a person exhibits a defensive reaction, which helps to hide from the pain encountered on his life's path.

Everyone can remember how often he utters such phrases: I don’t want to see this, I don’t want to hear this, I have no desire to experience this again. When pronouncing such phrases, people trigger certain mechanisms:

  • Destruction program.
  • Completely block out any feelings.
  • The real world in all its manifestations is no longer perceived.

Regardless of whether a person understands that with such thoughts he is giving an order to launch a program of destruction, he acts. A person has several channels of perception on which the understanding of the surrounding reality depends. How to regain interest in life? You need to learn to correctly perceive the world around you.

What actions should you take?

First of all, you just need to start doing the previously planned things and not think that everything is bad. At the initial stage, you can do them mechanically. It’s okay, over time the right mood will come and it won’t seem like everything is bad. You can write down on a piece of paper all the things that need to be solved or implemented, and do them one after another.

It’s better not to think too much about how you will do it, or about possible difficulties, etc. It will be good if a large number of tasks can be accommodated in a small time period. This way, you will not have the opportunity to be depressed about anything. Active activity will bring a person out of such a depressive state, he will forget what apathy towards life is, learn to appreciate every moment and enjoy it. The main thing is to force yourself to start.

You have no control over your physiology

Take a moment to imagine what a person with a lack of motivation physically looks like. How is he worth? How does he sit? What is his posture like? Are your shoulders pulled back or forward? Is your back straight or hunched? Introduced?! Now imagine what a fully motivated person looks like, how he speaks, how he looks, how he moves... And what do you look like?

What to do?

Movement leads to motivation. If you want to get motivated, learn to control your physiological state. Identify what movements you do naturally when you feel motivated. Do them and your mind will begin to follow your body.

Rely only on yourself

In general, ideally, it’s good to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who will be a kind of “trigger”, a “spring” that forces you to always do something and change your life picture. But, unfortunately, in our lives, friends disappear at the first sign of failure, and only sincerely loving people can bother with the “eternal whiner”. Therefore, you should not rely heavily on those whom we consider our friends - they have their own lives, and you will have to save yours yourself. Like Munchausen, who pulled himself out of the swamp by his hair, you will pull yourself out of the gloomy swamp, centimeter by centimeter. Don’t count on the fact that this can be done in just 5-7 days. Those who promise to save you from this scourge within such a period of time are simply charlatans. There is a time for everything - it may take several months to completely banish apathy from your mind. It is also possible, and don’t let this scare you, that there are breakdowns, when day after day you try, take actions, try to become interested in something - but there seems to be no result. And you lie down on the sofa again, mindlessly looking at the ceiling, and you are too lazy to get up to drink water or “don’t care” about everything that happens outside your apartment.

This is a normal, natural process. Mope around for a couple of days, and then grab yourself by the hair again and continue to pull your body and mind out of the quagmire.

There are two options for how others treat you: pity and envy. If you want everyone to feel sorry for you, you don’t have to read any further, continue to feel sorry for yourself, the unfortunate one. Everyone else - let's start the battle.

How to relearn how to enjoy life

Even realizing the presence of anhedonia, not every person has the opportunity or desire to seek professional help from a specialist. In this case, you can try to improve your condition on your own, and to do this you should take the following 3 steps.

Step 1. Decide to help yourself

This is the most important, and for many, the most difficult point of the program. Firstly, any action begins with a decision. Secondly, in cases of so-called self-psychotherapy, it can be difficult for a person to first admit that he has a problem, and then to believe that he is able to help himself.

Step 2. Find a source of pleasure

If the old sources of pleasure no longer work, then it is necessary to find new ones. What is important is that “search work” should extend to all spheres of life. It is necessary to include smell, vision, touch, taste, hearing, and body movements. Moreover, each of these groups must be studied very carefully, for example, within 2 days.

Take the sense of smell, for example. The coming Monday and Tuesday can be devoted to studying smells. These could be aromas in a perfume store, the smell of plants, fruits, herbs, vegetables, spices, essential oils. You should study aromas slowly, writing down those that you like at least a little.

Wednesday and Thursday can be spent studying the sense of touch. The goal of this exercise is to find surfaces that bring tactile pleasure. This exercise is best done with your eyes closed. Over the course of two days, a person will have to deliberately touch a variety of objects. These can be stones, leather, fur, paper, bulk and creamy substances, glass, cotton wool. Among them there will definitely be something that seems pleasant to the touch.

The next two days can be devoted to studying your taste sensations. It is better to start “research” with simple products, for example, familiar fruits, vegetables, chocolate or baked goods. Then gradually add new spices and unusual combinations of products. During the exercise, you should carefully concentrate on your own feelings, determine what you ate tasted the most pleasant.

The seventh and eighth days are the time to study sounds. It’s best to start with the sounds of nature. For example, listen to the sound of rain, wind, sounds of water, voices of different birds and animals. Then you can move on to music. But don’t force yourself to listen to the tunes you liked before. The purpose of the exercise is to find new sounds that would be pleasant to the ear.

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After this exercise, you can turn your attention to visual images. You can consider anything: from color combinations to a variety of items. Among this multitude, there is sure to be at least something that will sincerely interest you. But it is important to consider objects thoughtfully, slowly, listening to your feelings.

Well, it is useful to devote the last two days of this stage of self-therapy to the search for kinesthetic pleasures, that is, the pleasures of movement. During this period, you can try everything: from dancing, swimming and yoga to martial arts. The main thing is to find those movements that you enjoy doing.

Of course, this does not mean that the practice should end after these 12 days. The listed exercises can be repeated exactly as long as a person needs to find new sources of pleasure for himself. But here you need to be extremely careful so that the source of joy does not become a source of new problems (with health, law, etc.).

What needs to be done to regain the desire to live

How to regain interest in life? The advice of psychologists boils down to the fact that you need to learn to accept the world around you as it is, and treat yourself in the same way, perceive yourself as real in this world and begin to respect. Be grateful for all the events that happen in your life.

When a person has lost interest in life, what to do? Everything is very simple, in fact, life responds to what a person does in it, and all events do not happen by chance. To start living and enjoying what is happening, you just need to be a person with a capital H, believe in yourself and not commit immoral acts.

In order for the desire to live to appear, a person must be completely satisfied with himself and everything that he does. Of course, it is difficult to imagine a person who will be satisfied with everything that happens, but who is not successful. But many people believe that success is money. Everything is much simpler, a successful person is one who realizes himself and loves his type of activity. There are people who do not have much wealth, but consider themselves successful and enjoy life.

Success does not mean having an expensive house, car, yacht. All these are just little things in life compared to when a person was able to realize himself. A successful person always returns home with great joy and is glad to meet people close to him. Such people know what their meaning in life is, they have clearly defined goals that they strive for.

If you have lost interest in life, what is the simplest thing you can do? Even some of the world's leading psychologists advise not to lose your sense of humor in any, even the most difficult situation. And sometimes you can laugh at yourself.

How to help yourself: advice from psychologists

There are moments that help get rid of depression.

It is necessary, as strange as it may sound, to balance your diet. Stop making all sorts of snacks that don’t lead to anything good. It is necessary to balance your diet so correctly that you do not have to resort to additional consumption of any vitamin complexes. It is beneficial to eat a small amount of dark chocolate, it helps release endorphins.

It helps to cope with problems very well by keeping a diary, in which you need to write down any little things that happen in life, both successes and defeats. Sometimes there are cases that help to get out of depression - this is a state of shock. These are moments when a person urgently needs to act in a given situation. In this state, he forgets about all the problems that prevent him from living normally. It is important that such actions are under the supervision of a specialist, otherwise the negative consequences can be very dangerous.

Lost interest in life? You need to pay attention to such simple things as your daily and night routine. Analyze whether the sleep and rest schedule is correct. First of all, you need to normalize your sleep and be sure to find some favorite activity that will become a hobby. Thanks to this, you can completely escape from pressing problems.

If it seems that everything in life is bad, then how to find interest in life? You need to reconsider your views on it and understand that it is rich in many positive events. You need to become more optimistic. Believe that life can change in a positive way, and begin to make every effort to achieve this.

Most people tend to exaggerate events in their lives. You need to look back and analyze what is happening, and then everything will begin to fall into place. Perhaps some problems were too exaggerated or completely far-fetched. It is best in cases when depression has overcome you to look around and see how colorful the world around you is. Start enjoying life and everything will start to get better.

Causes of apathy


– a symptom that may indicate diseases of a somatic, neurological, mental level. Before starting treatment for an abnormal condition, the following causes should be excluded:

  • schizophrenia;
  • depressive disorders;
  • diseases of the central nervous system of organic etiology;
  • dementia of various origins;
  • AIDS;
  • oncological lesions of the brain;
  • alcoholism and drug addiction;
  • endocrine dysfunction.

Quite often, the causes of apathy are the use of certain medications, including: benzodiazepine tranquilizers, sleeping pills, tricyclic antidepressants, antibiotics, oral contraceptives. Therefore, if you experience fatigue, drowsiness, weakness and indifference while taking any medications, you should consult a doctor to change medications.

Among the psychological causes of apathy, the palm is held by the psychoanalytic concept, according to which apathy is a protective mechanism of the psyche, designed to neutralize intense personal experiences. According to adherents of this teaching, apathy helps to temporarily reduce the importance of the desires and needs of the individual, which allows you to change your worldview, thereby eliminating internal conflict.

Another group of psychologists believes that the cause of apathy is a consequence of excessive personal experiences, and its task is to reduce the intensity of manifestations of the emotional sphere. Since the process of experiencing emotions is associated with a significant expenditure of mental energy, there comes a moment for any person when the body’s resources are simply not enough for emotional reactions. Apathy is a kind of “switch” of the sphere of feelings to work in energy-saving mode.

Another opinion is that apathy is a way to prevent a nervous breakdown, restraining responsible and purposeful people from excessive labor feats. Often, sudden insensitivity occurs in initiative and enterprising subjects who dare in the professional field 24 hours a day. Due to the development of indifference to what is happening, the workaholic’s body receives the necessary rest.

In some cases, it is quite difficult to establish the causes of apathy, since the culprits of a person’s vital lethargy are hidden in the deep parts of the psyche - in the subconscious. By immersing the person in a hypnotic trance, it is possible to establish that the reasons for the current cooling to life are mental traumas of the past. That is, in the personal history there was some kind of psychotraumatic situation that caused the individual severe suffering. By creating apathy, the subconscious tries to protect the individual from new mental anguish.


03/06/2019 at 16:35

More people should read this article. The writing is a bit complicated in places, but it's worth it. This one, and this one won’t hurt either. And then those who only think that they have apathy, and then it magically disappears, then they blow the minds of those who really suffer from it...

There are people who inadequately evaluate their appearance and do not recognize the characteristics of their individuality. They are extremely sensitive to even minor flaws in appearance and invent the existence of imaginary defects. Excessive concern with appearance occupies all the thoughts of such a person and takes up a lot of energy and time for a stupid struggle to achieve fictitious ideals of beauty

Excessive intrusive attention to external

Often many people are faced with indifference to any matters. This is the norm until apathy sets in towards everything. This condition is considered pathological and requires treatment from a psychologist. In these cases, it is necessary to find out: why the apathy occurred, what to do if you don’t want anything, how to deal with the problem? Only a specialist can answer these questions. After all, apathy is a psychological syndrome. If left untreated, complications may develop. The most common of these is depression. And it is a serious illness that requires hospital treatment.


As soon as it becomes even a little easier, find something to do. Try engraving a small picture, putting together a puzzle, doing cross stitch, planting a papaya tree, getting a rabbit. What would you do if you had the opportunity and extra time? You got it. Start collecting your herbarium.

To avoid getting bored alone, register on a website dedicated to your hobby. Here you will find like-minded people, get a lot of advice and learn a lot of new things. The benefits of passion: cyclical thoughts are broken, new relationships appear, the usual view of things changes.

Where to begin

With movement. Force yourself to move by any means and strength. It’s the same as jumping around in a room to music, doing general cleaning every day, or walking the streets. The main thing is to move. Fresh air is preferable, of course, but if you don’t feel firm in your condition yet, move inside the house. There is a plus from this: clean space – clean thoughts. In a couple of days there will be nothing to do in the apartment, and you will still have to go outside.

But there is no need to walk mindlessly. Count the number of trees on the right side of the alley. Then on the left. Determine by ear how many birds are singing in the trees. Write a story about the first person you meet, trying to determine by his appearance what he does, how he lives, character traits, etc. This exercise also has its advantages - it switches thoughts from your state, develops observation skills and develops logic.

Psychologist's comment:

The question of how to get rid of apathy is not as simple as it might seem. Often such a phenomenon as apathy is treated as something ordinary and natural: well, a person doesn’t want anything, what’s wrong with that? Meanwhile, such a feeling is not inherent in a healthy person: he always wants something, unless, of course, he took a break to think about what is happening to him in order to enter some new stage of life.

Apathy is a condition in which there is a significant decrease in motivation for productive activities, a decrease in the ability to work, neglect of one’s appearance and other signs. This condition may be a sign of a serious illness, such as depression. And depression is a very insidious disease that can significantly reduce a person’s quality of life, and sometimes even leads to suicide.

Oksana wrote about the need to see a doctor at the very end of her story; I would like to remind you of the importance of contacting a specialist at the very beginning - even before dealing with apathy. How do you know when it's time to go to the doctor? There are two points by which this can be determined

The first point is time. If “apathy” lasts a couple of days, and then gradually fades away, then there may be no need to do anything special about it. If this condition continues for more than 2 weeks, then this is a serious cause for concern.

How do you know when it's time to go to the doctor? There are two points by which this can be determined. The first point is time. If “apathy” lasts a couple of days, and then gradually fades away, then there may be no need to do anything special about it. If this condition continues for more than 2 weeks, then this is a serious cause for concern.

The second point is the severity of apathy: if it manifests itself mildly, the person’s usual lifestyle does not suffer particularly, then, apparently, everything is not so bad. But if the apathetic manifestations are very strong, then it’s time to sound the alarm. Very strong - this is when a person cannot bring himself to wake up and get up in the morning, cannot go to work, has practically stopped eating and drinking, taking a shower, etc. In these cases, you cannot wait for weeks and you need to urgently consult a doctor.

What should be done in such a case? Seek help from a psychotherapist or (if you don’t have one) a psychiatrist. Find on the Internet the neuropsychiatric dispensary that serves your place of residence, call them and make an appointment. This doctor will prescribe medications that will help the body regain lost vitality and joy of life, and the question of how to get rid of apathy will be resolved automatically almost certainly.

Does a psychologist work with apathy?

But what should we do for those whose apathy is very mildly expressed, but has existed for a long time and pretty much poisons life? In these cases, it may be helpful to use some of the tips listed above. But sometimes it is much more useful and productive - even before fighting apathy - to try to understand why it arose and what reasons are behind its appearance.

Having figured this out, it will be much easier and simpler to understand how to deal with apathy. Nothing happens in the body for nothing, and if a person suddenly develops indifference to everything, then it is likely that this happens not only for “medical” reasons, but also for psychological ones - as a defensive reaction to something.

For what, for example? One of the reasons that can cause a feeling of indifference is a serious disagreement with or with a loved one.

Similar feelings can arise when you are seriously dissatisfied with your job or, in general, with the way of life you lead, when it may be missing something very important to you, and this can provoke the psyche into the appearance of total indifference. In this case, it is all the more important to understand what your body wants to tell you through this signal, and then, perhaps, it will become clear what needs to be changed in yourself so that feelings and desires return again

It means “dispassion, indifference”, originally meant freedom from passions, a detached worldview. In the modern understanding, apathy is an unnatural state of a person, which can become a serious psychological problem, and sometimes indicate mental illness - depression, . A person detaches himself from reality, becomes indifferent, ceases to react emotionally to surrounding events, to take part in life, willpower is absent or very weakly expressed.

What life events can lead to depression and self-disappointment?

What events can unsettle or break the psyche for a long time, provoking manifestations of psychiatric abnormalities? This:

  • Divorce from a spouse and division of property.
  • Pregnancy, childbirth.
  • Illnesses of your own children.
  • Diseases (incurable or those that lead to disability).
  • Death and suffering of loved ones.
  • Dismissal.
  • Violent actions.
  • Loss of property for one reason or another.
  • Survived a natural disaster.
  • Loneliness.
  • Dissatisfaction with life, appearance, one's status or financial situation.
  • Betrayal of a loved one.

The list goes on, as many things can happen in life that lead to depression.

What to do if laziness wins

Laziness is not a serious disorder that requires immediate intervention from specialists. You can cope with it only with a great desire to defeat yourself. It is this inability to fight with oneself that turns a simply lazy person into a pathological lazy person. Therefore, the fight against laziness requires a very special approach:

  • Divide any complex task into several parts, this does not give you the opportunity to be afraid of difficulties and refuse to complete the task.
  • Use a system of rewards and punishments for your actions. If you complete difficult tasks, go shopping and buy yourself something you have long wanted, but are out of reach. If you are lazy, then the punishment should also be tangible for you.
  • Do not think about the planned task for a long time. The more a lazy person thinks about a task, the lower the likelihood that he will start doing it.
  • Make it a habit to learn something new every day. According to the Chinese method, to overcome laziness, you need to do something new for only five minutes a day. As a result, you will achieve results without unnecessary stress and will be happy with your acquired skills.

Alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling and other addictive behavior

Very often, both men and women find solace in taking drugs, alcohol, and start playing gambling or computer games. These are very dangerous conditions. In psychology they are called addictive behavior. If a person is still able to emerge on his own from such addictions, then he should try to do so.

However, most often the help of a psychologist, narcologist or psychotherapist is required to work with addictive behavior. Sometimes a few sessions are enough for a person to find himself in other hobbies that are safe for health and wallet.

Under no circumstances should you try to “drown” problems with alcohol. Such pastime will very quickly become a habit, resulting in the development of alcoholism. If a person begins to track some even minor problems of a psycho-emotional nature, then it is better to completely stop taking any doses of alcohol. Ethyl alcohol is a strong depressant that will further aggravate problems with the psyche and nervous system.

How to awaken interest in life

Available means

To escape from routine, it is quite possible to make do with “improvised means”. Try to devote more time to your favorite hobby, sign up for classes at a fitness club, start taking foreign language courses, a diving club, and so on. Try something new. It is best to give preference to group classes. A new atmosphere and social circle will help you shake yourself up and get rid of the blues. In addition, you can slightly change your home environment. Paint the walls a different color, complement the interior with bright accessories, replace the old gray bedspread with a new one in bright colors. Some women find it helpful to change their wardrobe, image, and clothing style. Just try to add small changes to your life. Don't let a gloomy mood bring you down. Music therapy will be an excellent help in regaining interest in life. Make a new playlist. Include only catchy, dynamic melodies, which, upon hearing, immediately make you want to start dancing

Avoid melancholic and sad tracks. It is important to try to receive a certain dose of positive emotions every day. Dedicate at least 15-20 minutes a day to reading jokes, anecdotes, laugh heartily

This will not only create a charge of positivity, but also relieve you of apathy and help you look at the world with different eyes.

Get rid of the haters

By allowing a bunch of haters into your life, you're expending a lot of energy trying to keep your cool. It is pointless.

Just don't give in to provocations. Don't pay attention to haters, even if it's someone close to you. Stick to your position. Then no one can break your faith in yourself.

Surround yourself with people who won't drag you down. Those who will support your goals and aspirations. So you realize that many doubts were just an echo of what you heard about yourself.

Vision is a visual channel of perception.

Thanks to vision, people have the ability to see, distinguish a large number of shades, and notice everything that happens around them. As people age, their vision deteriorates, but not because they lose the ability to see. Scientists conducted many experiments and were able to prove that it can be 100% even in old age.

Visual perception of the surrounding reality depends on how ready a person is to notice and accept everything that surrounds him. Any offense, manifestation of anger and irritation “closes people’s eyes.” Diseases associated with vision loss or deterioration occur because people do not like everything they see in their lives. In children, such diseases arise because they do not want to see what is happening in their families.

How does this condition affect life?

How to get rid of bad thoughts in your head and what to do if they constantly creep in

Few people know what to do if a person is tired of life, although this condition is dangerous to health. When a person is under stress, the amount of gray matter in the brain decreases, and the risk of developing neuroses increases.

Nervous man

Emotional burnout interferes with work; a person cannot advance in his career for a long time, which causes even greater frustration. Fatigue occurs due to stress, which also provokes the development of ischemic diseases, increasing the risk of stroke and heart attack, which can be fatal.

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